Are you an Introvert ?

[Guest Blank]

Yes I'm introvert. Just that some people say I'm not very introvert  but I like to stay in my room alone leh

[TangyCoolBlue]

Had a good read and definitely can relate being an introvert myself. From time to time as situation requires, i have to bring out the pseudo extrovert part of myself and feel drained at the end of it. Rest is very much needed after that too.

[Steve5380]

  On 9/8/2018 at 11:37 PM, Guest Misunderstood said:

 

Haha, I like the term "time territorial". It describes me very appropriately.

 

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Me too.  That's why I hate waiting in line, at long traffic lights, on train crossings.

But when I'm traveling overseas, waiting for my flight at airports for HOURS,  the territorial does not apply because I have chosen this waiting.

In any case, I try to avoid getting frustrated for "invasions" into my time territory.

[Cairos]

Introverted as fuck. I don't feel comfortable in the presence of strangers, which is an irony as I need to communicate with people a lot at work.

[heliumduck]

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[charvo87]

  On 8/16/2018 at 2:19 AM, Guest The Queen said:

Introvert people loves the finest thing in life and believes in quality rather than quantity.  They seldom talk nor exposed themselves too much to the ordinary.  They are mostly health conscious and a good thinker.  They listend more than they talk and are fearful of gossipers and they often recluse themselves within their palace to stay clean. Thus they are seen very family-focussed and disciplined.

 

Extrovert people are the loudest and most rubbish attention seeker.  Namely the reporters and politicians.  They mingled and pretended to be sociable in order to gather news.  They can't stay put in one place and often run about finding people to talk to, before  putting words into other people mouth with their own version to make themselves look good.  It is hard to find them relaxing and they are trying hard to be very competitive among their own kind,  always noisy and busy.  Thus they are not very family centric and tend to have many "friends".  

 

If you wanted to choose a partner.  Which of the above will you select?

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[yakin]

  On 8/16/2018 at 2:19 AM, Guest The Queen said:

Introvert people loves the finest thing in life and believes in quality rather than quantity.  They seldom talk nor exposed themselves too much to the ordinary.  They are mostly health conscious and a good thinker.  They listend more than they talk and are fearful of gossipers and they often recluse themselves within their palace to stay clean. Thus they are seen very family-focussed and disciplined.

 

Extrovert people are the loudest and most rubbish attention seeker.  Namely the reporters and politicians.  They mingled and pretended to be sociable in order to gather news.  They can't stay put in one place and often run about finding people to talk to, before  putting words into other people mouth with their own version to make themselves look good.  It is hard to find them relaxing and they are trying hard to be very competitive among their own kind,  always noisy and busy.  Thus they are not very family centric and tend to have many "friends".  

 

If you wanted to choose a partner.  Which of the above will you select?

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I'll have to disagree with some of this as an introvert myself. Introversion and extroversion exist on a spectrum - I have met self-professed extroverts who love a good read and have the biggest hearts, and introverts who love to socialise or are poor listeners.

 

I don't think there's any point compartmentalising people, yourself even, into introverts or extroverts. As long as you're comfortable in your skin, acting genuinely, no one will care which side you tend to be at, and people will gradually love you for doing you.

[Doorbell]

I think people generally assume introverts are people who are more reserved and shy and extroverts are more outgoing

 

i differentitate them by the source they derive their energy from. Like introverts are people who derive more energy from self-sustainable activities such as reading fishing where you don't need anyone else's presence and extroverts are the opposite where they get their energy from performing or let's say partying where there's is some attention from others

 

an extrovert can be shy but still hopeful to constantly engage in such activities and a bubbly person might actually find it exhausting to constantly engage people and prefer to be left alone most of the time. But probably the usual norm is a shy person always prefers doing sth more static etc and people just equalise them to introverts?

 

just sharing my thoughts

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[heliumduck]

a friend once said

 

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wat u need now is u looking at urself and asking urself how u can make an impact in ur prospective other in the future
u cannot control the external circumstances, but u can always control how u want to look at things. Always remind urself that u r at times overlooking wat goodness u have
always harping on the negativity won't make u any more positive

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[derryfawne]

When I take psychological tests, my result fluctuates between INTJ and ENTJ.

 

I think I am naturally an introvert when I was younger, but as I grew up the distinction began to blur.

 

I enjoy being in familiar social settings, but quite reserved and shy in new social settings. I'm quite opinionated and share my thoughts during office meetings, but would work to earn my stripes first if I'm a newbie. And I still need my downtime of at least 1-2 hours' personal time at the end of the day.

 

I've learned over the years that when mingling with extroverts, simply ask them questions about their thoughts and they would go on. With introverts it's slightly easier and we can go deep if we share common passions.

 

And I've learned that extroversion helped people gain visibility and opportunities at workplace, so I play up that facet of mine a lot; but retreat into my analytical introvert self when I am back at my desk.

[heliumduck]

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[heliumduck]

  On 10/2/2018 at 1:43 AM, derryfawne said:

When I take psychological tests, my result fluctuates between INTJ and ENTJ.

 

I think I am naturally an introvert when I was younger, but as I grew up the distinction began to blur.

 

I enjoy being in familiar social settings, but quite reserved and shy in new social settings. I'm quite opinionated and share my thoughts during office meetings, but would work to earn my stripes first if I'm a newbie. And I still need my downtime of at least 1-2 hours' personal time at the end of the day.

 

I've learned over the years that when mingling with extroverts, simply ask them questions about their thoughts and they would go on. With introverts it's slightly easier and we can go deep if we share common passions.

 

And I've learned that extroversion helped people gain visibility and opportunities at workplace, so I play up that facet of mine a lot; but retreat into my analytical introvert self when I am back at my desk.

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ahhh life...

[heliumduck]

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https://introvertdear.com/news/ways-that-introverts-socialize-differently-than-extroverts/

 

RelatableJuly 26, 2018

Introverts Aren’t Antisocial, They’re Selectively Social

by Jenn Granneman

 

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Sometimes it’s easy to tell when someone is an introvert. In large groups, we “quiet ones” can usually be found just listening and observing. We shun small talk and try to speak only when we feel we have something of real value to say. We’re probably not the friend or partner who’ll go to every party with you — but when you need someone to listen and really care, we’ll be there. We spend lots of time alone, get lost in big thoughts, and need a few extra beats to think before verbally responding.

Other times it’s harder to tell when someone is an introvert. Many introverts come across as extroverts when they’re around people they feel comfortable with. And just because you’re an introvert doesn’t mean you can’t have excellent social skills.

Nevertheless, there are substantial differences between introverts and extroverts. The biggest one? The way these two temperaments socialize. Here are seven ways us quiet ones socialize differently than extroverts — and why introverts aren’t antisocial but selectively social.

How Introverts and Extroverts Socialize Differently

1. Intimate settings vs. large groups

There’s a good reason introverts may “have other plans” or “can’t make it” when they’re invited to a party. Although extroverts thrive on stimulation and excitement, that’s not the case for introverts. Due to the way our brains are wired, we don’t get “high” off socializing like extroverts do. In fact, all that noise and stimulation can easily exhaust us. It’s far less overstimulating for us to interact with just one or two people at a time in an intimate setting. This allows us to focus our attention deeply — which is something many introverts excel at doing.

2. Big ideas vs. small talk

Does anyone actually enjoy talking about the weather? Probably not, but introverts especially loathe it. For us, small talk doesn’t come naturally. It feels inauthentic and forced — and it wastes our time and limited social energy. Sure, we’ll do it if we have to, but we’ll be looking for an escape ASAP. Extroverts, on the other hand, seem to have an easier time tolerating (and making) small talk on the fly. Words flow more easily for them, because, as some research suggests, extroverts may rely more on active memory than long-term memory when speaking — which essentially puts words on the tip of their tongue. Introverts do the opposite, which explains why they may pause frequently during conversation and need extra time to think before responding.

To engage introverts, talk about ideas. The bigger, the better. “What’s something new you’ve learned lately?” “How are you really feeling about your new job?” We’re most interested in sharing our inner world — not just what we did today or who we saw. And we want to glimpse your inner world, too.

Dr. Laurie Helgoe, author of Introvert Power, perfectly sums up the introvert’s need for deep talk: “When an introvert cares about someone, she also wants contact, not so much to keep up with the events of the other person’s life, but to keep up with what’s inside: the evolution of ideas, values, thoughts, and feelings.”

3. A few close friends vs. many casual acquaintances

Introverts don’t chase popularity. We don’t need everybody to know our name. What we dowant are a few solid connections — people who really know us, inside and out. They know our quirks and they hang out with us anyway. We feel safe venting to them, even our innermost thoughts. And they’re okay with the occasional awkward silence. Extroverts, in contrast, generally have many casual friends and acquaintances, because social status is more important to them. Whereas extroverts go wide, introverts go deep.

4. Online friends vs. IRL friends

Both introverts and extroverts have online friends, but according to Susan Cain, author of Quiet, introverts are the ones who are more socially active and transparent online. “Using the Internet to connect with others appeals to us introverts for a lot of reasons,” she writes. “We can carry on a conversation from the quiet privacy of our own homes; we can join groups and sites that cater to our niche interests; we can write our thoughts instead of speaking them (introverts typically express themselves better in writing); and we can turn off our device when we’ve had enough.” And, interestingly, studies have shown that introverts are more likely than extroverts to reveal intimate details about themselves online — information their family and friends would be surprised to learn. In other words, introverts welcome the opportunity to socialize digitally.

5. Calm vs. high energy

Compared to extroverts, introverts are generally calmer and more reserved when socializing (although there will be plenty of exceptions on both sides of the fence!). Introverts may speak slower and chose their words carefully, sharing less about themselves personally. They’re less emotionally reactive than extroverts, keeping many of their opinions and feelings to themselves — even when they feel them deeply. Extroverts, on the other hand, may speak quicker, louder, and with more enthusiasm. They might share their emotions dramatically and have no problem talking about themselves, even revealing intimate details to people they’ve just met.

6. Quality time vs. frequent contact

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to talk to someone every day or hang out regularly. And that’s exactly what extroverts tend to do. They crave frequent contact with the ones they love, even if it’s just a quick check-in text or a phone call to blow off steam. And they have no problem seeing someone two days in a row. A weekend full of social plans — how exciting!

Introverts, on the other hand, need less contact with friends and family. They’ll likely text less and rarely call. And they certainly don’t feel the need to make plans with someone two days in a row — once a week is probably plenty! For introverts, it’s not about frequent contact but rather quality contact.

7. Downtime vs. more “fun”

Everyone is drained by socializing, both introverts and extroverts. But introverts are the ones who are especially susceptible to massive energy crashes, as well as social burnout and fatigue. Even when socializing is enjoyable, introverts still get worn out. Again, this is due to the way our brains are wired; compared to extroverts, we just aren’t as motivated and energized by social rewards. Don’t take it personally when an introvert leaves your party early or skips out on it altogether. We’re simply responding to our body’s needs. You’d do the same if you felt the exhaustion we feel.

Extroverts, on the other hand, have a longer social battery. When introverts are ready to call it a night, extroverts are just getting started.

Introverts are often accused of being “reclusive” or “antisocial.” But for many of us, that’s far from reality. Just like extroverts, we need close relationships to thrive. We simply go about socializing differently — and just because something’s different doesn’t mean it’s wrong or inferior. The world needs the introvert’s way, too.

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[bigdanbeam]

  On 10/3/2018 at 2:22 PM, heliumduck said:

Introverts Aren’t Antisocial, They’re Selectively Social

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So agree

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[kimlo777]

paid for a myers-brigg test and my results are INFJ.  So I am an introvert.

[harryjames]

I am impressive at the same article thank you for sharing.   brother mfc 7820n driver

 

[LeanMature]

I feel dizzy when too many people start talking in a crowd.  I feel more relaxed in the company of just 2 or 3 persons. Not sure if I m considered introvert.

[gstringuy26]

Introvert usually not so easy to get promoted as they don't like to socialized and they hate crowds! 

[Guest intro]

  On 6/10/2019 at 9:42 AM, gstringuy26 said:

Introvert usually not so easy to get promoted as they don't like to socialized and they hate crowds! 

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I dunno how to socialize and dun like to socialize. is very exhausting even during company gathering. I hate crowds. peer pressure. feel like many eyes on me eventhough might not be true. Dunno what to say and bring out to say. bad at making small talk.if can choose I rather stay at home. 

 

[gstringuy26]

Is it genetic? I don't know. Some say it can be train, like the more you socialized the more you will become extrovert? Sounds like introvert is a bad thing! 

Or it's the bringing up environment that will mold you either to become introvert or extrovert?

[LeanMature]

  On 6/10/2019 at 9:42 AM, gstringuy26 said:

Introvert usually not so easy to get promoted as they don't like to socialized and they hate crowds! 

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Hate it but quite true, if they don't socialize with people of power and authority.  One can be very hardworking but it is within the confine of his work cubicle.  

[Guest Sinceyoung]

  On 6/11/2019 at 1:29 AM, gstringuy26 said:

Is it genetic? I don't know. Some say it can be train, like the more you socialized the more you will become extrovert? Sounds like introvert is a bad thing! 

Or it's the bringing up environment that will mold you either to become introvert or extrovert?

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Since young I dun like socialising. During cny when a lot of relatives gathered together i will hide at the back. When visitor visitsed my house I will hide in the kitchen. 

[gstringuy26]

  On 6/11/2019 at 2:42 AM, LeanMature said:

 

Hate it but quite true, if they don't socialize with people of power and authority.  One can be very hardworking but it is within the confine of his work cubicle.  

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Yup! Bosses loves those who "lick their booths"! 

[Steve5380]

  On 6/10/2019 at 10:47 AM, Guest intro said:

I dunno how to socialize and dun like to socialize. is very exhausting even during company gathering. I hate crowds. peer pressure. feel like many eyes on me eventhough might not be true. Dunno what to say and bring out to say. bad at making small talk.if can choose I rather stay at home. 

 

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It makes sense, and it has the nature of a vicious circle: you don't know how to do it, therefore you hate it, therefore you don't do it, therefore you don't know how to do it. 

This should give you much hope that, by breaking the vicious circle, you can become good at it.  All it needs is that break.  One way is to stop worrying about being good or bad at it but just socialize, and this break can be the realization that we are not different from others, no worse, no better, and our ideas are as good as theirs and this gives us the right to open our mouths.  Once you get good at it, it can be enjoyable. And practice makes perfect.

 

It took me a while to realize that the feelings of being put down as unsociable did not come from others putting me down but from my inability to be extroverted. Then I became aware that my (our) difference with extroverted is in having a higher threshold.  For good or bad, we don't let words come out of our mouths until they have a certain level of relevance, of importance in our opinion.  We are not willing to talk about trivial things, talk bullshit.  And our threshold is much higher than that of the extroverted.

 

Something else I notice is that, amazingly, while my threshold of "importance" in conversations is high,  it is not so with writing.  I find myself an extroverted WRITER.  As you can see in bw, I throw around my opinions in so many threads that deal with trivialities and even stupidities,  and I argue about these without any shame. On the contrary, I ENJOY exchanging trivial messages and make a conversation out of nothing.  Why am I so introverted in person-to-person socializing and not in person-to-person writing?  Is it still some hidden fear or dumb shyness?  I don't know.  But I want to find out why, so that maybe I can be more extroverted and free in social situations, and enjoy them more.

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[Guest Tyler]

I think I am. I'm not comfortable talking with other people