Closet gay: would you tell your love ones when you are at your prime of your life?

[Jake.Roxas]

To closet gays, whether you are single or married, would you out yourself to your love ones when you are already at the prime of your lives?

[sman.sg]

I still would not. Sometimes, you are just pass declaring it and if they find out, they find out.

Let the family be happy in their own perception.

 

[keyboard]

TS, you do sound like you have serious issue with being in the closet (recalling the multiple threads with similar topics). Like govt like to say, case by case basis, base on case merits. If you are willing to share your concerns, I'm sure the multiple Guests will be able to give you some insights. If you don't want flaming... better post in Member's Lounge.

[Guest Gas]

Well, it depend on whether you need to tell them or not and do you feel confident and at ease when you are going to tell them.

 

Do you think that they didn't know if you are gay or not? sometimes it is best to keep silence to prevent any embarrassment.

 

So If can don't tell then just leave it that way. This is my opinion.

[Steve5380]

I take the side of the closeted guys because I could be seen as one too.

When I was young I was definitely closeted,  i would negate my orientation and not confess it even to my mother.

Fortunately, no one then did ask the question.

As I grew older I became increasingly accepting of my orientation, and less concerned of what others may think about.

It was also helpful that homosexuality has become decriminalized and tolerated by whoever matters. 

Today, I could be "closeted" because I don't place a big sign on the front of my house telling that I am gay.

This is the same as with most straights, who also are also "closeted" because they don't advertise that they are straight.

I cannot be blackmailed.  If you want to expose me as gay just go ahead.  Who should care?

Similarly,  I stopped worrying about some who knows me seeing me in the gay scene. 

[Guest -ignored-]

On 8/29/2018 at 3:56 AM, Steve5380 said:

I take the side of the closeted guys because I could be seen as one too.

When I was young I was definitely closeted,  i would negate my orientation and not confess it even to my mother.

Fortunately, no one then did ask the question.

As I grew older I became increasingly accepting of my orientation, and less concerned of what others may think about.

It was also helpful that homosexuality has become decriminalized and tolerated by whoever matters. 

Today, I could be "closeted" because I don't place a big sign on the front of my house telling that I am gay.

This is the same as with most straights, who also are also "closeted" because they don't advertise that they are straight.

I cannot be blackmailed.  If you want to expose me as gay just go ahead.  Who should care?

Similarly,  I stopped worrying about some who knows me seeing me in the gay scene. 

 

As always, you are so right! Why need to tell if it is already implied. If they haven’t cared for so long then no point on telling then. Die with it.

[QQHappy]

No. Never will... 

[mate69]

Yes of course. 

[Guest Optimus Prime]

Define prime....

[Steve5380]

4 hours ago, Guest Optimus Prime said:

Define prime....

 

Astute observation!  At what age we are at our prime is very personal.  For most, it is when they are young.  For some fortunate, it is when we are older... or even old.

[Guest Neh Neh]

61 is a prime

[Steve5380]

12 hours ago, Guest Neh Neh said:

61 is a prime

 

True.  61 is a prime.

And so are 67,  71,  73,  79...  even 101 !

[Guest Blank]

Prime is in your early 20s when you can have sex 5times a day and still do it 5times the next day. More importantly, you look the best with your tight muscles and youthful radiant complexion to hook most guys in the bar. That's prime!

[Steve5380]

2 hours ago, Guest Blank said:

Prime is in your early 20s when you can have sex 5times a day and still do it 5times the next day. More importantly, you look the best with your tight muscles and youthful radiant complexion to hook most guys in the bar. That's prime!

 

Your definition is very limited, maybe adequate for sex workers.  

Over a lifetime, we have different "primes" for different purposes,  and even the "primes" for relationships are not purely sexual.  This varies with the individual.

 

The important "prime" for us is the period when WE feel in OUR prime.   It makes sense that this is the time when we are the happiest.

 

[Guest Blank]

7 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

Your definition is very limited, maybe adequate for sex workers.  

Over a lifetime, we have different "primes" for different purposes,  and even the "primes" for relationships are not purely sexual.  This varies with the individual.

 

The important "prime" for us is the period when WE feel in OUR prime.   It makes sense that this is the time when we are the happiest.

 

Once a man loses his youth and vitality, he's no longer a prized sky vegetable anymore. Gays don't really want a rich and fat ugly man because they themselves have no liability. Most gays want a handsome cute bf and that's why the prime age is when one is young, hot and sexy. He could melt you with his angelic face and command you to undress or suck or lick him all over like a spell binding effect

[Steve5380]

6 hours ago, Guest Blank said:

Once a man loses his youth and vitality, he's no longer a prized sky vegetable anymore. Gays don't really want a rich and fat ugly man because they themselves have no liability. Most gays want a handsome cute bf and that's why the prime age is when one is young, hot and sexy. He could melt you with his angelic face and command you to undress or suck or lick him all over like a spell binding effect

 

You are right that in the evaluation of sexuality the prime time is the one of youth and vitality.  But even here there are no absolutes.

If for you and me this prime age is in the 20s,  for a pedophile those who are adults are too old already,  and the prime age is maybe 10 y.o. 

And sexuality is only one of the criteria for prime.  It happens often that seniors marry each other!

[Guest Blank]

1 hour ago, Steve5380 said:

 

You are right that in the evaluation of sexuality the prime time is the one of youth and vitality.  But even here there are no absolutes.

If for you and me this prime age is in the 20s,  for a pedophile those who are adults are too old already,  and the prime age is maybe 10 y.o. 

And sexuality is only one of the criteria for prime.  It happens often that seniors marry each other!

In general, most will look at hot fit sexy guys in their 20s with the most powerful hard thrusts. Maybe 80%?

 

The rest of the 20% are probably:

Pedophiles (I feel disgusted by them), chub lovers, skinny or senior matured which all fall under minority case.

 

So we're definitely referring to the most popular choices. 

[Steve5380]

1 hour ago, Guest Blank said:

In general, most will look at hot fit sexy guys in their 20s with the most powerful hard thrusts. Maybe 80%?

 

The rest of the 20% are probably:

Pedophiles (I feel disgusted by them), chub lovers, skinny or senior matured which all fall under minority case.

 

So we're definitely referring to the most popular choices. 

 

18 hours ago, Guest Blank said:

Prime is in your early 20s when you can have sex 5times a day and still do it 5times the next day. More importantly, you look the best with your tight muscles and youthful radiant complexion to hook most guys in the bar. That's prime!

 

Wouldn't it be SAD if out of 80 years of life we had only 5 years of "prime"?  Again, this may be true for sex workers and Victoria Secret models.

And yes, we may be the most sexually attractive in these 5 years.  But for the majority of normal people this is not the most important thing in life.

[Guest Blank]

4 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

 

Wouldn't it be SAD if out of 80 years of life we had only 5 years of "prime"?  Again, this may be true for sex workers and Victoria Secret models.

And yes, we may be the most sexually attractive in these 5 years.  But for the majority of normal people this is not the most important thing in life.

It's not sad, it's life. Everyone has been through 20s once in their lifetime and slowly wither to old age. But some lucky men can maintain through their 30s without much issues. I've been attracted to these men before, still look very good in both their looks and body department. Once they hit 40s, it is very difficult to still remain youthful anymore, especially in a hectic city here

[Guest Howard59]

On 8/29/2018 at 3:56 AM, Steve5380 said:

I take the side of the closeted guys because I could be seen as one too.

When I was young I was definitely closeted,  i would negate my orientation and not confess it even to my mother.

Fortunately, no one then did ask the question.

As I grew older I became increasingly accepting of my orientation, and less concerned of what others may think about.

It was also helpful that homosexuality has become decriminalized and tolerated by whoever matters. 

Today, I could be "closeted" because I don't place a big sign on the front of my house telling that I am gay.

This is the same as with most straights, who also are also "closeted" because they don't advertise that they are straight.

I cannot be blackmailed.  If you want to expose me as gay just go ahead.  Who should care?

Similarly,  I stopped worrying about some who knows me seeing me in the gay scene. 

Nicely said. Actually for me, i don't really care to say anymore. I would like be an open secret. I would never confirm nor deny.

[practease]

On 9/2/2018 at 3:41 PM, Guest Optimus Prime said:

Define prime....

 

Amazon...Prime...