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i have every reason to belief he is gay. he is my only child. this year he is 17 year old, study poly. i always suspect he is gay. sorry if my english no good, i m only got primary school, i m work as hawker. that day i saw him surf this website. actually i dunno a lot internet, but i m still learn. so now i m come here post. please belief me, i m not try to play fool. (to be able to navigate through an online forum required a specific know-how, so you must have gotten your friend to help you with this message.) becos he is always go gym with friend, everytime train until muscle big big. (muscle big big don't equal to gay, a lot of straight men have big big muscle. And a lot of gay men have no muscle) then always come back late. sometimes bring friend home do project, but only guy friend. also like him muscle big big one. (muscle big big also don't equal his friend to gay, see above) then he like to read men health magazine. (I do, my straight friends dp, my straight friends gf also do, all for different reasons) n he is always wear singlet go out. one time i look at his computer when he dont know, n click a bit, got many muscle guy photo come out. (the ah pek under my block also wear singlet go out cos it is hot. For muscle photos, see all above) now i m worry. so please help me. i got ask him before, how come no girl friend, how come only like boy, u gay is it? he said no lah no lah. but i dont belief. (I am worried because you sounded more exciting about the muscle big big than your son) so now how ah? i dont want gay son. now i old, i want grandchidren next time. (You still can have your grandchildren. He can adopt one. He can find a surrogate mother. There are plenty of ways to have a grandchild without your son getting married if he is gay. Even if he is straight, what makes you think you will get a grandchild. What would be your intention of having a grandchild?) now i reading everybody post gay thing here, i feel scared. i worry my son get gay backside sex n kenna aids. (there are more than one type of sex than backside sex, go ask your son what other types of sex he do. He might surprise or maybe scared you further. It is the same type of sex he can do with a girl too. People are very adventurous these days. And as long as your son use condoms and lubricants, he wont kenna AIDS (noted the capital words, it is not aids but AIDS (it is abbreviation for Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome.) And also it is HIV not AIDS, AIDS and HIV are different stuff. Beside even if he is having sex with a woman without condom, he will also get HIV if the woman is a carrier. HIV affects all sex orientations, gay, straight and bi. It is not who you sleep with that counts, it is what type of protection you use that makes the difference.) Now if you are reading this reply because you bookmarked the thread or you have set notification, which is another high level Internet function which you probably wont know, please differentiate sex behaviours and sexuality. Not all gay men do male-to-male sex, not all men who do male-to-male sex are gay. If you are genuinely concerned, do this: a. Ask your son and stop stereotyping. b. PM me and I will pass you the links to useful understanding of sexuality.1 point
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Help! I Suspect My Son Is Gay, What Should I Do? (Beware! Possible Troll Post)
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I understand how you are feeling. The worries that go on in the minds of very creative and imaginative loving parents. But even if your worries materialise, if he is not gay, why worry in the first place? and if he is gay, why waste time thinking so much when you can actually spend the same time to support him and help him to be open and sharing with you. It may seem unreasonable for me to answer you like this but take time to think about it. By not accepting and supporting him, he will continue to hide things from you. He will continuously bring back men who may potentially carry diseases behind your back and you cannot say anything. Gays who are not supported by the family have a high chance of building unhealthy relationships, assuming that they are the emotionally unstable types. At least if you are open with him, you still can consult him and advise him to truly invest lovingly in a healthy relationship and pick a son-in-law who is stable, caring and with the same good values you cherish. Suddenly, your fears of him being so 'underground' and getting AIDS potentially, disappear. and this is the domino effect. If you encourage your son to find a loving husband, who knows, they two might actually settle down and adopt kids. Voila! Grandchildren! But just to make a complex idea simple: If government ban gambling, we will have all the problems but no information to tackle it. It is very underground and secretive. got gangster clan somemore. If government approve gamlbing, we will still have the same problems but the government will have information to seek a mutual solution and everybody is happier off. Gangster also no more income and they disappear.1 point -
Help! I Suspect My Son Is Gay, What Should I Do? (Beware! Possible Troll Post)
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I understand that you really worry about your son, especially he's the only person who can give your family successors. It's very normal to worry. In fact, it's abnormal if you don't care about this issue. However, please do consider the followings. 1. Being gay is very natural. We are born this way. Some people mentioned that the gay nature is mainly shaped during the upbringing process and some said it has something to do with the person's genetic. The real truth is still elusive. Either way, it's not your son's choice to be gay. Even perhaps he has been struggling facing the truth that he's gay. In that case, it's in fact his parents' responsibility to support him mentally, at least by accepting him as he is. 2. Gays have the same opportunities to succeed in life as their straight peers. Gay is about sexual orientation, is not about mental illness or other kind of disorders. Gay persons are able to function normally to carry out their life. I myself have met a gay lecturer in the place where I'm studying now. He's an admirable person. He's good looking, rich, successful one. Such a role model for his students. It implies that everything depends on the basic core of the person, rather than his sexual orientation. 3. Gay does not equal to a person who like to f**k around. Gay simply means a person who sexually attracted to the same gender. Nothing else. And talking about sexually transmitted disease (STD), such as AIDS as what you mentioned, everyone (whether straight or gay) has the same probability to get infected if they do not practice safe sex guideline. 4. Until now the fact is still half-truth. You don't really know whether your son is really gay or not. Perhaps what you can do for now is by reading some articles about homosexuality, trying to really understand what it is and appreciate the "beauty" of human nature. May be you can also read some stories about families with gay sons and how well they live their life like other family. Or perhaps you need to share this with your wife. Ask her about her opinion of what to do. Even better if you have any friend whose son is also gay and ask inputs. And lastly, "pray" to "god" hoping that your son is a bisexual, at least he's able to give you grandchildrens. Basically don't worry. Worry only makes us confuse and do nothing. Try to gather more information before you make any decision. Hope everything good for you and your family =)1 point -
Please lah, their children will never become localized. They will use Singapore as a spring board to another country like US, Canada or Australia. Easy come easy go.-1 points
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