I never had a boyfriend because it was my choice. I told myself that I have to come-out to my parents and brothers first before I really have a long-term relationship with another guy. I think its the most noble thing to do, some say I'm stupid with all the nice "quality" guys I just let go. I was thinking its unfair to say yes to a long term relationship because i'm not out yet to the people I really love. Hence, if I really love the guy I want to be proud of him and I want him to be known to my family. I'm already hiding, I do not want to hide another thing, a possible long term relationship with a guy. For me, it's like cheating on him if I continue with the relationship , hiding from everyone. I also do not want to be blamed that I wasted their time on me so its better to cut any ties as early as possible. I'm not asking what to do next coz I already know what to do, to come-out first, thats my plan but I've been planning since 6 years ago and I'm now in my 30's. I just can't do the coming out part. My father already died not knowing his son is gay. Anyhow, that's another topic already. But hey who says being single is "uncool", I'm happy with my straight friends here in Sg and my im doing well career-wise, so no complaints here.