Discussion on Gays & Daddy issues (compiled)

[Guest Vijay]

At any point in your life for sure you have daddy issue. Mine was so strict during my teenage years as he wanted me to focus first in my studies. I can’t go out for fun. I also need to help in the house. I can’t have my own decision while living with my parents. So I left our house after I graduated the university and have a job. 

[Ben Ben Ben]

11 hours ago, -Ignored- said:

i think it is NOT so much of what is over, but what are u goin to create into the future: isn't it?

 

Past is over, stop spending time worrying 

Gays are  supposed to be more sensitive and caring, not into flaming and hatred (although we can see them prevalent here, on the contrary)
Look at this dad and son (males hardly chat and talk but they r concerned for one another)
the dad even wishes his son a happy fathers' day instead!
Some  carried forms of misunderstandings and hatred for years and decades refusing to put them down until today (forcing u to be focus is nothing bad)

 

Straight guys are charming in their own way 

[Guest MoFu]

Really Motherf**ker’s Day

[Steve5380]

Daddy issues?  I never had daddy issues.

 

My father died when I was a baby, so I never had a daddy.  For many years I blamed my inexperience with girls to the lack of a paternal figure. Then long ago I was having some mental problems and was recommended to join a "men's group",  with a psychiatrist leading a group of men with diverse problems. There I learned of the mistake in my thinking.  All of the guys in the group had issues with their fathers that damaged them, and some cases were horrible. Then I realized that it's better to have no father than a bad father. When I became a father myself, somehow me and my wife we educated our son well.  Now that he is a dad himself,  I am amazed by how well he cares for his children.  So, after a bad start, I can report success 

 

And what about my early loss?  I have changed my childhood.  In my mind (the only place where it matters)  I had a perfect daddy. He was a German WWII general and became an influential leader.  He spent much time with me, and he believed that I probably was the reincarnation of his favorite lieutenant who died in action before I was born.  My daddy was proud of me and taught me everything a man needs to know.  And this is how, in my imagination, I was able to become a good daddy for my son  

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Edited June 16, 2019 by Steve5380

[Guest curious]

6 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

Daddy issues?  I never had daddy issues.

 

My father died when I was a baby, so I never had a daddy.  For many years I blamed my inexperience with girls to the lack of a paternal figure. Then long ago I was having some mental problems and was recommended to join a "men's group",  with a psychiatrist leading a group of men with diverse problems. There I learned of the mistake in my thinking.  All of the guys in the group had issues with their fathers that damaged them, and some cases were horrible. Then I realized that it's better to have no father than a bad father. When I became a father myself, somehow me and my wife we educated our son well.  Now that he is a dad himself,  I am amazed by how well he cares for his children.  So, after a bad start, I can report success 

 

And what about my early loss?  I have changed my childhood.  In my mind (the only place where it matters)  I had a perfect daddy. He was a German WWII general and became an influential leader.  He spent much time with me, and he believed that I probably was the reincarnation of his favorite lieutenant who died in action before I was born.  My daddy was proud of me and taught me everything a man needs to know.  And this is how, in my imagination, I was able to become a good daddy for my son  

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how does your children feel about you becoming gay now?

[Steve5380]

9 hours ago, Guest curious said:

 

how does your children feel about you becoming gay now?

 

After this friend I had cared for many years passed away,  I confirmed to my son that he was gay.

He asked me if I ever had sex with a man,  and I told him that yes,  I "also" had experienced sex with a man.

He showed no surprise.  I am lucky to have a family without homophobic or religious members, 

and as a teenager my son had a girlfriend whose parents were two lesbians. He has nothing against LGBTQs. 

[Guest Boyaa]

On 6/17/2019 at 10:10 PM, Steve5380 said:

 

After this friend I had cared for many years passed away,  I confirmed to my son that he was gay.

He asked me if I ever had sex with a man,  and I told him that yes,  I "also" had experienced sex with a man.

He showed no surprise.  I am lucky to have a family without homophobic or religious members, 

and as a teenager my son had a girlfriend whose parents were two lesbians. He has nothing against LGBTQs. 

 

Who is your daddy @Steve5380?

[Guest Cheated Cheetah]

On 6/17/2019 at 5:49 AM, Steve5380 said:

Daddy issues?  I never had daddy issues.

 

My father died when I was a baby, so I never had a daddy.  For many years I blamed my inexperience with girls to the lack of a paternal figure. e I learned of the mistake in my thinking.  . When I became a father myself, somehow me and my wife we educated our son well.  Now that he is a dad himself,  I am amazed by how well he cares for his children.  So, after a bad start, I can report success 

 

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So you are not gay???

[Steve5380]

17 hours ago, Guest Boyaa said:

 

Who is your daddy @Steve5380?

 

My daddy was a great man, an officer in the navy of my country, who died in an accident saving many others. 

 

2 hours ago, Guest Cheated Cheetah said:

So you are not gay???

 

Of course I am gay!  What makes you think otherwise?

The fact that I have a child allows me to qualify as "bisexual",  ha ha ha,  but I know very well that my nature is GAY 

 

[Zackling]

 

 

I know who really has Daddy issue.

[Guest Guest]

3 hours ago, Zackling said:

 

 

I know who really has Daddy issue.

 

... Yawnz.. Next post please. 

[Guest Curious]

Thoughts on this? I’ve seen quite a lot of people here are more inclined towards daddies (older than them by 20-30 years).

[Zealouslogue]

Cause most of us grew up without a father's love hence why we like older men. Its not always about sex. 

[Guest Curious]

46 minutes ago, Zealouslogue said:

Cause most of us grew up without a father's love hence why we like older men. Its not always about sex. 

Right..I mean I’m in the same boat..but I’m glad that people share the same experiences as me

[Zealouslogue]

27 minutes ago, Guest Curious said:

Right..I mean I’m in the same boat..but I’m glad that people share the same experiences as me

Yes, most of us guys deal with the same issue so yeah... 

[playhard]

When I was younger, I preferred matured man.  Cos when I had crossed road issues, I can asked for inputs, usually a different perspective, which complemented my perspective.  When mentioned ‘always have issues with daddies’ mmmm needs further clarification.

 

But now I am mature person, I prefer younger guys, and so I can also tap on on their inputs.  My two cent view.

[Guest Butt_btm]

Missing a fatherly figure, had no older brother, even on the maternal side was missing.

[Zealouslogue]

2 minutes ago, Butt_btm said:

Missing a fatherly figure, had no older brother, even on the maternal side was missing.

Well, never had a father's love, no older brothers, even on the maternal side, surviving on my own, lol 

[Guest Omnis]

Daddies are manly. I like them 

[Zealouslogue]

6 minutes ago, Guest Omnis said:

Daddies are manly. I like them 

Mature too

[repressednerd]

I can't imagine the thought of dating an older man to 'replace' the fatherly love. But older men look more manly and handsome. There are some men whom I met before and I could never date them if they were their younger selves.

[Guest Horny Baby]

4 hours ago, repressednerd said:

I can't imagine the thought of dating an older man to 'replace' the fatherly love. But older men look more manly and handsome. There are some men whom I met before and I could never date them if they were their younger selves.

cj 😍

[SebastianXu]

I love Daddies as they tend to be way more kinky and domineering. I love power play and how i surrender my body for them to play with and in return, they offer me with the kind of pleasure i seek. In some sense, its also a form of mini humilitation for me since i love degrading sex

[Guest sgman]

If this is true,it is a good thing!

Since we are all getting older, to think that hot young things will be chasing after us.

Dream on.... lol

 

 

 

[Guest Daddies only]

It's not a gay thing la. It's a trendy thing. 

 

In gaming, social media, straight people, gay people, young boys, old boys all jokes about daddies. 

 

Being a daddy. Or teasing about someone as daddy 

 

It's really just a trend. 

 

They even made a game to capture this trend market. Something gay daddies. 

[Guest scam]

36 minutes ago, Guest sgman said:

If this is true,it is a good thing!

Since we are all getting older, to think that hot young things will be chasing after us.

Dream on.... lol

Agreed.

Many scammers from China like to flatter me.

They think old men easy to trick.

 

I send them pics of public figures from sg n they didn't even know.

The app show their distance within sg.

Must be using vpn.

 

Slowly they'll ask for video chat or naked pics.

Then ask me invest something use bitcoin.

Or help them sell poppers, health supplements

or sex potions like 0cream enhance anal sex

even send me videos of how 爷们东北大叔 became his slut.

I only reply 是吗until they give up.

 

[Guest Horny Baby]

I wan cj to be my daddy

[hitex]

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Edited May 28, 2021 by hitex

[Steve5380]

7 hours ago, lookseelooksee said:

I desperately lacked fatherly love growing up. It's one of the reasons I'm gay. My dad used to beat and cane me viciously as a kid, sometimes for no good reason. I even ran away from home once.

 

But unlike many gays with daddy issues, I don't like mature men. I've always preferred young or younger than me (nicer body mah) but preferably not too immature.

 

I empathize with your situation.  As a teen and young man I was convinced that the lack of a father was the reason for me being gay.  I grew up living with three women: my grandmother, my mother and my sister.    But as I got older and more experienced,  I realized that  one can be gay WITH a father, and straight WITHOUT a father.   Being gay has something to do with the way we are born,  more than the environment.   And now, I am happy to have NOT had a father instead of having a bad father,  something that happens to so many guys.

 

A fatherly figure is a matter of character.  There are women who have more "fatherly character" than men.   There are men who are horrible fathers.

 

As you grow older, you hopefully realize that YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR CHILDHOOD and make it the way that is best for you. This is best after your father, parents have passed away.  In your mind, you remember a GOOD father.  And you are a MANLY son.   You can even become a good father,  like it happened to me.  Now as an older man, all the traumas of my youth have been overcome, replaced by a great childhood. 

 

Like you,  I have never been attracted to older men.  I have always been sexually attracted to younger guys.

 

[Guest Can't turn gay la]

3 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

I empathize with your situation.  As a teen and young man I was convinced that the lack of a father was the reason for me being gay.  I grew up living with three women: my grandmother, my mother and my sister.    But as I got older and more experienced,  I realized that  one can be gay WITH a father, and straight WITHOUT a father.   Being gay has something to do with the way we are born,  more than the environment.   And now, I am happy to have NOT had a father instead of having a bad father,  something that happens to so many guys.

 

A fatherly figure is a matter of character.  There are women who have more "fatherly character" than men.   There are men who are horrible fathers.

 

As you grow older, you hopefully realize that YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR CHILDHOOD and make it the way that is best for you. This is best after your father, parents have passed away.  In your mind, you remember a GOOD father.  And you are a MANLY son.   You can even become a good father,  like it happened to me.  Now as an older man, all the traumas of my youth have been overcome, replaced by a great childhood. 

 

Like you,  I have never been attracted to older men.  I have always been sexually attracted to younger guys.

 

 

No such thing la. 

If it's so easy to be turned into gay. Why I try so hard to turn some straight cuties and it doesn't work le.. 

 

I grew up in a heterosexual environment when gay content doesn't exist on TV, no Internet, no gay porn yet. Only stories about gay as pervert. Some gay literature. That's about it. 

 

I was taught by straight teachers, go to straight school, watch straight movies, read straight books. 

 

Yet I am still gay. 

 

 

 

[Steve5380]

1 hour ago, Guest Can't turn gay la said:

 

No such thing la. 

If it's so easy to be turned into gay. Why I try so hard to turn some straight cuties and it doesn't work le.. 

 

I grew up in a heterosexual environment when gay content doesn't exist on TV, no Internet, no gay porn yet. Only stories about gay as pervert. Some gay literature. That's about it. 

 

I was taught by straight teachers, go to straight school, watch straight movies, read straight books. 

 

Yet I am still gay. 

 

 

If you read my post correctly,  I never said that you should change from being gay.   What you should change is your memory of your childhood and the pain of not having received fatherly love.  Instead, think that you had this fatherly love, which you identify as manly love, and you accepted it as a manly child.  Manly is not equivalent to straight, but is a mental attitude of being a man,  gay or straight.  Why should straights be different from gays simply because they are attracted to a pussy instead of a cock?

[Guest Not at all]

I have no daddy issues.  Not all men are the same. Some more attractive than others. As long as the guy is good looking and has a good heart and with bonus of a good dick size, I  will love him with all my heart and all my soul and don't really care if he is a dad or a son.

[Geo]

Tend to into older guys, not because of lack of father love. My father was easier than my mom to accept the fact that I am gay. I did have great times with my father, spent time together fishing at the beach, catch fish at the stream, climb tree, drawing, etc. So I am into older has nothing to do with lack of fatherly love but due to options available.

 

I am 35yo. Fun wise, I don't mind younger or older. Older doesn't always mean more skilful on the bed. Have verified with many xD

 

But when come to a relationship, tend to prefer older guys. Clarification - based on my experiences with younger and older guys - there are a lot younger guys mature and sensible in handling their life but when come to emotion and personal space or handling interaction with others, they stressed me out. Demanding for my attention, times and energy. I am an introvert that struggles to be a career success in industries that my degree didn't cover, so my learning curve is steep and have a stressful work life. Prolong human interaction does drain me badly, that applies to my families and close friends.

 

Somehow older guys around me tend to understand my needs for space and lack of energy or libido for fun better than the youngers. Maybe there are understanding younger guys out there, but for sure I haven't met one that can convince me away from older guys.

 

Another thing would be dramas. I do appreciate the complexity of various interests like languages, arts, sports, cooking or how one systematically process a matter, but definitely not the complexity in creating immature behavioural dramas. This is especially even more obvious for younger guys who never or only had one relationship before. Wish social media can stop teaching the younger gen abt gay relationship can be happy ever after. Should let them know our gay relationship is harder to maintain than their parent's marriage. So that they can stop wishy-washy that bf would this and that for me, me and me. Without expectation, only then appreciate everything from another. And to find guys who have multiple failed relationships around, they tend to be older.

 

The last thing, when dating older guys, I don't see them as father replacement or whatsoever but at a peer level. 

 

Hope that explain if you see a younger with an older guy, that doesn't always mean the younger guy lack fatherly love nor do the older guy looking for a son to love.

Edited May 29, 2021 by Geo

[PlayersGroup]

Nope. No daddy issues. I have loving parents. It has nothing to do with me just so happens being gay. 

 

It probably happens to only some gay people, but I wouldn't say most gay people. Gay people comes in a great variety.

 

But I would say many people who believe in gay conversion believe in this theory. It is at best a convenient stereotype.

[Guest Prosk]

For me, it’s due to the lack of father love 

[Guest What?]

1 hour ago, Guest Prosk said:

For me, it’s due to the lack of father love 

What happen if gay lack of mother love?

[Steve5380]

7 minutes ago, Guest What? said:

What happen if gay lack of mother love?

 

Could it be that girls who lack motherly love become lesbians?  

[xcuez86]

For me, I have always been inclined to mature guys.. started out around 18 and have always been hanging out with guys more than 10 years my age.. most of them are caring and understanding. Of coz, there are some with ill intentions as well. It takes both hands to clap. :) as we age, I still find mature guys as my preference.. I am not into young guys or guys around my age.. I see them as a threat or a competition. Haha.. 

[Steve5380]

12 minutes ago, xcuez86 said:

 

 I am not into young guys or guys around my age.. I see them as a threat or a competition. Haha.. 

 

 

Let the competition get the best out of you!  

[Guest Young old sexless ageless]

1 hour ago, xcuez86 said:

For me, I have always been inclined to mature guys.. started out around 18 and have always been hanging out with guys more than 10 years my age.. most of them are caring and understanding. Of coz, there are some with ill intentions as well. It takes both hands to clap. as we age, I still find mature guys as my preference.. I am not into young guys or guys around my age.. I see them as a threat or a competition. Haha.. 

 

When you reached say 40 years and older guys like 50 are dry in sex, retired, useless. 

 

You will start to crave for younger guys 30s, 20s to care for them... 

 

Remember this when that happens. Cause it will happen. Guaranteed 

[Guest Now it Make sense]

2 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

 

Could it be that girls who lack motherly love become lesbians?  

You lacked biological parental loves and became "BI-Sexual"?

[Guest jjlin]

Generalisation

For guys in their 20s, probably over 50% are "edible"

For guys in their 30s, probably one third

Guys in 40s, maybe a quarter

Guys in 50s, maybe 1 in ten

Guys in 60s, maybe 1 in a hundred

[Guest Jason]

My dad just came here in town and he has been causing us running like headless chicken. My two brothers one of which is my twin were surprised as well. Our dad arrived when we were fighting then suddenly he asked us for a dinner. He has always been cryptic, saying only few words but we feel his authrlority. What we only wanted to know if he loves us but he didn't answer it directly.

[Guest Accept your sexuality]

9 hours ago, Guest What? said:

What happen if gay lack of mother love?

 

What happen ah? The gay grow up without knowing love from a female lo. 

 

So he won't yearn for a female love since he never experienced it before. 

 

So still end up gay lo. 

Lol. 

 

Can't escape what you are. 

[lightsmith32]

Daddy is here for twinks

[Guest Wilblin]

My dad always tell me to clean my room. I'm 34 already

[Guest Wtf]

On 6/16/2019 at 9:53 AM, Guest Vijay said:

At any point in your life for sure you have daddy issue. Mine was so strict during my teenage years as he wanted me to focus first in my studies. I can’t go out for fun. I also need to help in the house. I can’t have my own decision while living with my parents. So I left our house after I graduated the university and have a job. 

 

6 hours ago, Guest Wilblin said:

My dad always tell me to clean my room. I'm 34 already

these are not really daddy issues tbh. Daddy issues is more normally thought of as people who are looking for partners for sex or relationships who are like their father, or can take the place of their father or who they want to get attention from to make up for attention they lacked from their father etc. ‘Daddy issues’ is more about how the relationship with the father impacts on your romantic or sexual relationships in adult life. 
 

your father making you clean your room or study is just them being a parent. Btw, why, at 34, do you need to be told to clean your room anyway? 

[Guest Gayboy]

My friend suggested that daddy issue the reason to wanting a guy in our lives?

 

Hmmmm. What do you think?