Do you mind going out with older guy?

[tyan]

Is strange. When I went out with someone older, I feel at ease and enjoy very much. But I feel weird when I am going out with someone much younger than me. 

[SuBee]

I like to feel like I'm the younger one so that's why I like guys my age (57) and older, up in their 60s even. 

But even when I was in my 20s I just didn't get turned on by attitude prone twinks which, just by reading posts, I can tell there are lots here.

In the last several years I've been with guys younger than me, in their 40s, and enjoyed them and physically I'm in the same or better shape than they were, except for my grey hair which give out that I'm not in my 40s.

Yet, aging takes a toll on meeting guys because so much emphasis in the gay world is on youth, looks and performance.   I'm ok with that and look forward to the next unexpected encounter!

[Guest strange]

On 2/18/2021 at 4:55 PM, SuBee said:

Looking for sensual massage from time to time during the day.  White male  53, 179, 83.  Bukit Timah or close by.  Please pm, thanks.

 

3 hours ago, SuBee said:

I like to feel like I'm the younger one so that's why I like guys my age (57) and older, up in their 60s even. 

But even when I was in my 20s I just didn't get turned on by attitude prone twinks which, just by reading posts, I can tell there are lots here.

In the last several years I've been with guys younger than me, in their 40s, and enjoyed them and physically I'm in the same or better shape than they were, except for my grey hair which give out that I'm not in my 40s.

Yet, aging takes a toll on meeting guys because so much emphasis in the gay world is on youth, looks and performance.   I'm ok with that and look forward to the next unexpected encounter!

 

 

Strangely, your age changes with every post at BW. You seem to age very fast... Makes you very trustworthy here.... 😒

[curiusman0211]

On 2/23/2021 at 3:41 PM, xiandarkthorne said:

I an 62 years old this year. And no, I don't have a boyfriend. I stopped looking for a boyfriend when I was 40 years old because I decided that I didn't want to waste time catering to other people's whims and wishes. I am happy living by myself and looking for sex only when I want it. 

You look hot in pic. Can I ask you to have a date with me? 

[Steve5380]

21 hours ago, SuBee said:

I like to feel like I'm the younger one so that's why I like guys my age (57) and older, up in their 60s even. 

But even when I was in my 20s I just didn't get turned on by attitude prone twinks which, just by reading posts, I can tell there are lots here.

In the last several years I've been with guys younger than me, in their 40s, and enjoyed them and physically I'm in the same or better shape than they were, except for my grey hair which give out that I'm not in my 40s.

Yet, aging takes a toll on meeting guys because so much emphasis in the gay world is on youth, looks and performance.   I'm ok with that and look forward to the next unexpected encounter!

 

At 57 you are too young to let some gray or white hair give away your age.  Have you not realized how easy it is to put some color on your hair?  This is NOT a dishonor.  

[Guest Tio Bo?]

The issue is not about going out with older guy, but whether the older guy is good looking advertisement material. Do you guys agree?

[austslim]

If the guy is pleasant and nice and decently takes care of himself well, I don't see what's the issue.

 

Personally I have hung out with older men and I have had some great experiences. Sometimes, age is just a number. 

[Koyima]

Older guys are hot lmao

[Why?]

I am trying very hard to convince myself that wrinkled skin is very sexy.  Please advice.

[Guest Lunckle]

1 hour ago, Why? said:

I am trying very hard to convince myself that wrinkled skin is very sexy.  Please advice.

It's not very sexy. But good enough for some.

I don't have wrinkles and I'm very uncomfortable to be lumped together with them.

But at my age, I don't want to be like those tikopek.

 

6 hours ago, Guest Tio Bo? said:

The issue is not about going out with older guy, but whether the older guy is good looking advertisement material. Do you guys agree?

Those who like old men are spoilt for choices, so many at Shogun and Tenmen waiting in line to choose from. Being chosen by them only mean I'm just another lao ah pek only.

Actually when another lao ah pek choose me over the younger guys, I'm more flattered.

 

[SuBee]

On 2/26/2021 at 11:55 AM, Steve5380 said:

 

At 57 you are too young to let some gray or white hair give away your age.  Have you not realized how easy it is to put some color on your hair?  This is NOT a dishonor.  

Lol... I don't care about my gray hair or balding head at all!  Because I had a kid later in life, the school parents we meet are 10 to 20 years younger than me and when the question comes about age, no one can believe I'm 57 (frankly don't know how I got 53 before...).  Yes, it's sad that I no longer have these unexpected and super hot encounters like I did in my 20s and 30s, but that's life!  

[30yochinese]

On 1/30/2020 at 7:03 PM, Maelstorm said:

Like you are young adult going out with 35-40 old person? 

I met a guy on Grindr recently, 10 years my senior. He has 4C:

                          

Car,

Condo,

C-Club-Membership & Credit cards & he liked me for my youth but i told him it will be difficult if we were a couple coz he has alot of life experiences & i have less... & he has ALOT OF MONEY(in the bank)& i have less... But we remain as friends

Edited February 27, 2021 by 30yochinese
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[Guest Honesty is Best Medicine]

On 2/26/2021 at 11:55 AM, Steve5380 said:

 

At 57 you are too young to let some gray or white hair give away your age.  Have you not realized how easy it is to put some color on your hair?  This is NOT a dishonor.  

That is called Cheating.  The last thing we want to cheat on another gay guy.

[SuBee]

9 minutes ago, SuBee said:

Lol... I don't care about my gray hair or balding head at all!  Because I had a kid later in life, the school parents we meet are 10 to 20 years younger than me and when the question comes about age, no one can believe I'm 57 (frankly don't know how I got 53 before...).  Yes, it's sad that I no longer have these unexpected and super hot encounters like I did in my 20s and 30s, but that's life!  

Actually, to follow up on my last post, I'm finding that after so many years being a bottom, I'm starting to get excited at the idea of being a top. I've always been really turned on by women's full, rounded asses and paradise was sex with a woman who had a nice ass and loved to have their ass played with.  With men, I like to be the female role and always been turned on by men who like butts because I have a nice ass (because I've been told so many times) and like to have it played with.  

From time to time I've seen guys with really nice butts (porn or saunas) and thought that it could be fun to play with.  My worry is not to be able to stay excited if suddenly I realize it's not my thing...

[Steve5380]

1 hour ago, Guest Honesty is Best Medicine said:

That is called Cheating.  The last thing we want to cheat on another gay guy.

 

You cannot imagine how nice it is to be able to successfully cheat like that!   

 

Because the success with putting color on your head comes with having the appearance to match it.  

If a person who looks very old is showing a radiant solid brown hair,  he is not cheating but making himself look ridiculous.

 

 

[Guest Papaya]

Just be yrself, If u dont like to go out with older people, dont go.

We r so happen to meet in this era. When the next era come, be young or old,, we all considered " dead " 

[Guest A Display Name — 1972]

Math Problem:

If George is 73 years old and his boyfriend is 22, how much money does George have? 
 

Pix

[shenalone]

Don't think I would mind haha like going with a older man as more mature thinking, and then won't get judge that much as people thought is your father hehe

[Steve5380]

I am running out of older men to go out with....  

[fab]

On 9/6/2021 at 8:20 AM, Steve5380 said:

I am running out of older men to go out with....  

 

U can start going out with those in theirin 80s and 90s.

 

😁

[Zealouslogue]

On 9/6/2021 at 1:32 PM, fab said:

 

U can start going out with those in theirin 80s and 90s.

 

😁

HAHAHAHAHA

[Guest depends]

Its still ok so long not looking like your grandpa/kakek ya.

[Steve5380]

On 9/6/2021 at 12:32 AM, fab said:

 

U can start going out with those in theirin 80s and 90s.

 

😁

 

Yes but,  will they want to go out at all?   What if instead of older guy it is older gal?

 

Hopefully I will soon start going out with my older sister, who is in her beginning 80s.   

[Guest Mr Hee]

On 9/6/2021 at 8:20 AM, Steve5380 said:

I am running out of older men to go out with....  

America has no old folks home? You need to get out of your house more frequently to find them, instead of spending your time in this forum dreaming about young Asian boys....hehehehehe

[Steve5380]

On 9/6/2021 at 7:39 AM, Guest Mr Hee said:

America has no old folks home? You need to get out of your house more frequently to find them, instead of spending your time in this forum dreaming about young Asian boys....hehehehehe

 

It has crossed my mind to go to retirement homes to chat with them and entertain them playing music.  This can be a goal for me when I reach 80 y.o.

 

This should not interfere with me spending some time also with young Asian boys...  hehehehehe

[Guest Ivonka]

On 9/6/2021 at 8:49 PM, Steve5380 said:

 

It has crossed my mind to go to retirement homes to chat with them and entertain them playing music.  This can be a goal for me when I reach 80 y.o.

 

This should not interfere with me spending some time also with young Asian boys...  hehehehehe

You are staying in Old folks home next year? That is going to be pretty soon. 

[Steve5380]

On 9/6/2021 at 8:05 AM, Guest Ivonka said:

You are staying in Old folks home next year? That is going to be pretty soon. 

 

No. I am planning to visit them to entertain the old folks when I am closer to their ages.  

 

Instead of old folks home I could plan to move to some retirement community later on, which is independent living but in a community.  This is how some old folks who can afford it like to end up.  This is so superior to the fate of old folks in SG sitting around alone on benches in Chinatown unable to find something better to do!

 

I plan to end my days in the same home I have been living for 44 years.  Soon my older sister will come to live with me for some time,  and then it could be defined as an older-folks home...  

[DylanF]

While I think age is a number, but then having a big gap in thinking and ideals due to age difference can be quite tough. 

 

ultimately it is about who you are comfortable with. My theory is that age gap will converge as time goes by. 
(example: 10yo and 20yo cannot click at all, but 40yo and 50yo don’t seem like a big deal)

[shenalone]

On 9/6/2021 at 9:34 PM, DylanF said:

While I think age is a number, but then having a big gap in thinking and ideals due to age difference can be quite tough. 

 

ultimately it is about who you are comfortable with. My theory is that age gap will converge as time goes by. 
(example: 10yo and 20yo cannot click at all, but 40yo and 50yo don’t seem like a big deal)

But some younger guys like mature thinking as they somehow like more caring? As you age you will become more caring or so? I think I'm wrong but my thinking

[shenalone]

On 9/6/2021 at 9:20 PM, Steve5380 said:

 

No. I am planning to visit them to entertain the old folks when I am closer to their ages.  

 

Instead of old folks home I could plan to move to some retirement community later on, which is independent living but in a community.  This is how some old folks who can afford it like to end up.  This is so superior to the fate of old folks in SG sitting around alone on benches in Chinatown unable to find something better to do!

 

I plan to end my days in the same home I have been living for 44 years.  Soon my older sister will come to live with me for some time,  and then it could be defined as an older-folks home...  

There is one hawker center I go to every week this old grandpa everyday take a spoon and chop stick play music on the first row then after that go to the 3rd row and play music again. Occasionally he will seat on the chair and sleep 

[Steve5380]

On 9/6/2021 at 8:46 AM, shenalone said:

But some younger guys like mature thinking as they somehow like more caring? As you age you will become more caring or so? I think I'm wrong but my thinking

 

One thing is a young gay who seeks a sugar daddy who will care for him,  another is a person who learns to care for other individual/s in need.   One does not have to be old to be a care giver, but it is something that is learned by opportunity and habit. 

 

I became a caregiver through many years of caring for my handicapped bf.   Now with my older sister coming to live with me, I might become a caregiver again,  or,  nature forbids,  one day I may become the recipient of care.

[Guest Guest]

When I was much younger , I preferred much  older guys 

[Luvuncles]

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[Guest Guest]

On 9/6/2021 at 10:27 PM, Guest Guest said:

When I was much younger , I preferred much  older guys 

…. and now that you are older (I assume), do u still prefer older guys, younger guys or guys who are around your age? 🤔

[NSA chinese]

I don’t because age is just a number. What’s more important is chemistry. As long as there are common topics and interests, and the personalities don’t clash, I will go out with older guys, especially if they are more caring. 

[lohwpr]

On 1/30/2020 at 7:41 PM, Guest Stanley said:

No way. If I bump into my friends, I'll die of embarrassment. 

"embarrassment"?

 

哇，你讲话这么狠。等到有一天你老去，你年輕的伴侣說跟你出去很沒有面子，是一種恥辱。我看你的感覺怎麼樣。

[Guest Chilling Reaction]

On 9/6/2021 at 9:20 PM, Steve5380 said:

 

I could plan to move to some retirement community later on, which is independent living but in a community.  Soon my older sister will come to live with me for some time,  and then it could be defined as an older-folks home...  

Simply, that marks the end of your Sex Tour, Sex Life and Gay sex.  It send a chill down many people spine to see your situation.

[Steve5380]

On 9/6/2021 at 8:18 PM, Guest Chilling Reaction said:

Simply, that marks the end of your Sex Tour, Sex Life and Gay sex.  It send a chill down many people spine to see your situation.

 

In your hot Singapore,  it must be pleasant to get a "Chilling Reaction".

 

So enjoy chilling down, and realize that nowhere I wrote that I will take my older sister with me in my future sex tourism   

[Guest Decision Decision]

On 9/7/2021 at 9:39 AM, Steve5380 said:

 

nowhere I wrote that I will take my older sister with me in my future sex tourism   

You have the responsibility to look after your elderly family members 24 hours 7 days a week.  It is impossible for you to leave your house except to buy groceries.  I suggest you look for another gay man your age, in your area, and live the remaining gay life journey together, while looking after your sis, thus hitting a bird with two stones?  Don't you think that is a good idea?

[Steve5380]

On 9/6/2021 at 9:09 PM, Guest Decision Decision said:

You have the responsibility to look after your elderly family members 24 hours 7 days a week.  It is impossible for you to leave your house except to buy groceries.  I suggest you look for another gay man your age, in your area, and live the remaining gay life journey together, while looking after your sis, thus hitting a bird with two stones?  Don't you think that is a good idea?

 

If my sister would read that you think she needs 24 hours 7 days a week care,  she would pull your eyes out!   I have to be very tactful to not to make her feel cared for. 

 

With a sister or another gay man in my life, I will keep some priority to take care of my little birdy down there!  

 

You don't try to hit to birds with one stone,  instead of one bird with two stones?  😄

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Edited September 7, 2021 by Steve5380

[singalion]

On 9/6/2021 at 8:34 PM, Steve5380 said:

 

Yes but,  will they want to go out at all?   What if instead of older guy it is older gal?

 

Hopefully I will soon start going out with my older sister, who is in her beginning 80s.   

 

Sounds really like you are lonely out there on your Ranch in Texas...

 

I can already imagine all the nice talks with your sister.

 

Isn't there any gay club or association you can go. In Europe they have a lot of coffee meet ups, workshops, salsa dancing, sports events and activity and who knows what to entertain older gays. The retired gays above 70 are quite active. Some even volunteer on various projects.

 

You just need to get your ass rolling...

 

[singalion]

On 9/6/2021 at 9:20 PM, Steve5380 said:

No. I am planning to visit them to entertain the old folks when I am closer to their ages.  

 

Sounds great:

 

Hola hup dances in a pink dress. I guess they will love it.

 

But maybe some will ask for you to be replaced with  the Japanese retirement home robot...

[singalion]

If the age gap is too big, there is a danger, that the younger guy sacrifices his best years, eventually wastes them.

 

I think everything within 10 - 15 years is still fine, but if the age gap is bigger than you should think about it.

 

Nevertheless there are some young guys who prefer an older man with a 30 years age gap to be their bf. Often, there is nothing that changes their mind.

 

Everyone must know what is good for himself.

 

The only advice I can give: Enjoy, but don't regret later. If you start regretting it is mostly too late, it will only affect your psychological well being.

 

Younger guys: Have some good thoughts about being or starting a relationship with an older guy who is very much older than you are. You might end up lonely, when you are in your 30s or when it is much more difficult to find someone else.

 

I personally think a little age gap is fine (maybe 3 - 8 years).

 

 

 

[Steve5380]

On 9/7/2021 at 12:22 AM, singalion said:

 

Sounds really like you are lonely out there on your Ranch in Texas...

 

I can already imagine all the nice talks with your sister.

 

Isn't there any gay club or association you can go. In Europe they have a lot of coffee meet ups, workshops, salsa dancing, sports events and activity and who knows what to entertain older gays. The retired gays above 70 are quite active. Some even volunteer on various projects.

 

You just need to get your ass rolling...

 

 

I live solitary, since my bf passed away.  But I am not lonely at all.

 

And due to the pandemic I don't go out at all, except to the gym and the grocery store.  I used to go to my classes of Aikido, very social,  but they are now on hold due to covid.

 

I chose not to have my ass rolling.  I use it only to sit on.  But it is still nicely round thanks to exercises in the gym.

[Steve5380]

On 9/7/2021 at 12:25 AM, singalion said:

 

Sounds great:

 

Hola hup dances in a pink dress. I guess they will love it.

 

But maybe some will ask for you to be replaced with  the Japanese retirement home robot...

 

My plan is to entertain the old folks with classical music I play on the piano.  And chat with them,  I have always enjoyed conversations with older people.

[Steve5380]

On 9/7/2021 at 12:43 AM, singalion said:

If the age gap is too big, there is a danger, that the younger guy sacrifices his best years, eventually wastes them.

 

I think everything within 10 - 15 years is still fine, but if the age gap is bigger than you should think about it.

 

Nevertheless there are some young guys who prefer an older man with a 30 years age gap to be their bf. Often, there is nothing that changes their mind.

 

Everyone must know what is good for himself.

 

The only advice I can give: Enjoy, but don't regret later. If you start regretting it is mostly too late, it will only affect your psychological well being.

 

Younger guys: Have some good thoughts about being or starting a relationship with an older guy who is very much older than you are. You might end up lonely, when you are in your 30s or when it is much more difficult to find someone else.

 

I personally think a little age gap is fine (maybe 3 - 8 years).

 

 

Your thoughts reflect your inexperience.  My preferred age gap is typically 20 years.  And my partners have never "sacrificed themselves". 

 

There is no sacrifice nor waste if the relationship with wider age gap is somewhat open.  This takes out any sacrifice or waste time in the area of sex.  And for love...  age difference is no barrier for true love, either with much older or much younger.

 

There should be a lot of thought even if the age gap is zero.  To regret the past is part of life, but it can be toned down.

 

 

 

 

[BudakFit]

I think for sex young is good as they wild with raging hormones damn good to breed them...such good sub cruise boys....

 

For dating or love is older as they reserved...horny discreetly meaning home. Prefer indoor then outdoor. They love cuddle so much which is not bad good actually after sex or naked watch porn jerk off sleep cuddle. 

 

Older have much experiences...some prefer you intiate...not so wild...have to remind them or lead them to fun sex if not they dont bother....compare to young they don't care indoor outdoor they just want more all sorts kind of fetish kinky groups etc....

 

And I feel more mature is btm even if they say top verst or btm verst or verst. If you are top or bi mature you are good to settle down with doesn't matter when comes to sex you be btm. 

 

Overall, meet up more often before settled down. See all the flaws if both can accept and work it out. Nothing is perfect in this world.