The world in Dating apps, how many have similar encounter

[Guest 1st time using dating apps]

Ok, don't laugh at me, I know I am slow. I just started using dating apps.

 

Believe that most brothers here had downloaded and used a few of those gays dating apps. Be it for finding friends, partner or even master and slave for hookups. 

 

Recently I downloaded a few and setup my profile nicely in there. Sincerely seeking for some like-minded, be it to make love or just make friends. Hahaha. But feeling quite disappointed with the result I got from the people in there. Not sure did anyone has similar encounter as mine. 

 

1) trading face pic. 

Of cos, everyone are concern about own privacy and would want to protect it as much as we could. Usually profile pic in those apps would be those showing just their breast, crotch or any parts of their body, and seldom their face. Those showing face... Also don't know is real or not.... 😛

 

Same for me. I won't just put my face pic up there, for privacy reason. But I did mention in my profile that I would trade, if the other party willing to do so. Sound fair right. but encounter a few whereby after I ask them to trade, just the face pic arh, not cock or ass pic. I will always receive a reply saying: after u. Okie, after me, then I show lah. To show my sincere mah, to make friend. I take the first step. But after viewing mine, some will simply disappear and left the chat. And there is one,, at least courtesy enough tell me that I am not his type, but his pic not exchange. Yahla, I know, not his type so no point exchange pic liao. but the most amusing thing is that, he wrote in his profile that he will trade when others do it.

 

So I felt been deceived lo lol. Me still so naive at this age.

 

2nd type of incident:

Still at trading pic, but this time the other party after viewing, told me he is looking for muscular and gym fit. Which I'm not. Ok, this happened many many times. But Why is everyone looking for gym fit arh? How about those slim or maybe just average size... Cannot perform meh????

So for smaller people, have to start pump up our body if not no sex for this lifetime. Lol

 

I know I know, everyone has their own taste, has their right to chose. I am also choosing too. But while we choose other, we ownself also have to look at the mirror ourself. Those who told me these, themself are not gym fit either. Should be just their dream man lah, but usually in reality, dream man are hard to get. 

 

3) lastly, this one worst. After trading pic, yes I get to see his face, he get to see mine. Sound okie hor. But but but...... At his next reply, he told me that I am just another plain looking person. Don't expect him to get free sex from him to satisfy my sexually needs. 

OMG!!!! yes I know I am not a hunk, but I can boldly say that I'm not bad looking either. In fact I'm more better looking then him. really can swear on that. Just becos I'm not his type, doesn't give him the right to say those harsh words. Honestly, when I first saw his pic, he is not my type either. I trying to find a nice way to reject him. But I didn't input those harsh words to him, no time for me to reply, his finger are faster. Suay suay, I received those dagger words.

 

sharing all these here, is not to complain. Just curious to know, did anyone have worst exprience then mine? hahaha.

And also becos I still don't feel like resting. Killing my time to type all these here. 

 

I still in those apps, not deleting them, maybe if I can't outbeat these people, then I should join them one day, and become a papaya inside those dating apps, hahaha and bring down or play around as much people as I can. Hahaha haha joking.... Won't waste my time on that, got better things to do lol. 😛

[Mature 40]

Aiya, these people either thinks too highly of themself, Over confident already, or feeling inferiority, after seeing your looks, compare to themself. Just ignore them. It happens all the times.

[begleitung]

Dont worry, i dont even use those apps

 

 

exactly 4 the reasons u mentioned above. 
 

i suppose i m missing out. 
 

some asked y still cruise in public when thrte r apps. I suppose those apps havebgeo-tagging advantages. But stil

[begleitung]

The face swap thing. It happened 2 me 2, on telegram. 

[Guest 1st time using dating app]

Hahaha I just receive another one. This person is amusing. totally got no pic in his profile. I think he thought that everyone is desperate like him to hook.

 

Whereby at least I got a pic, but of cos not showing my face la. So I purposely send him a msg to test water. And he replies. Asking me when I can have fun. I told him, wouldn't it be better if we trade face pic first, at least both got to know who we are planning to meet up. And at least if either party don't like it, can just reject in the apps and not till meeting time then feel uncomfortable. 

 

But of cos I know, whether he will really turn up or not is another issue. 😛

 

Need not guess, the next reply he gave me is: U share first!

 

Hahha. What a joker. Someone who is pictureless, got the cheek to want someone, whom at least got shown something, on the profile page, to share face pic first.  

 

Looks like this kind of behaviour has really become a culture in those apps. 

 

OK la, enough fun with those people. Time to delete all these apps and never ever hope that, via social media, could get someone sincere for hookup.

 

Yes, I know everyone are afraid to show face. Same for me. I too am scare. But if really want to make friends, by showing a face pic won't do any harm. No one can use a decent face pic to tell the whole world that he is gay, he is bi, or whatever. Unless that face pic comes with a nude body in it. Then I got nothing to say.

 

And if both parties were stuck at the stage, by aguring on this famous phrase: [U show first]. Then better not waste each other time playing mind game. 

If really desperate to release, get our own hands to help. They are more sincere and reliable. Hahahaha. 

 

Better go back to real life and see if lucky enough to met someone real and breathing for some kopi chat or more. 

[caindukker]

It's how these apps works. If anyone says 'you go first' I'll go first. Send the pics, if they don't like what they see and dissappear, I'll just move on. Many fish in the sea. I've never put much thought into it. Rejection is a big part of finding that perfect someone. I've got lots of rejections though the years, but that's also where I found the love of my life. Just gotta keep trying. Gambateh! 

[Ben S]

You have experienced exactly the closeted gay culture app in Singapore ...

I was only a visitor and I've observed/experienced all of above

 

I'm not giving up on apps though, I believe there are small % of guys who are genuine and honest.

Be the better person and act what you preach.

Ignore the negative and move on ... it's hard to enjoy life if becoming such a bitter person

or use it to motivate you ... if you're thinking of making a change

 

The truth is ... gays will definitely flock on hot guys , not denying look matters.

 

 

[30yochinese]

The world in Dating apps, how many have similar encounter
Recently I had a bad encounter.

 

I have a gay-dating-app. I used my face pic with the name "DATES ONLY" & yet a guy messaged me for fun & I was like, "WTF?!?"
                                              
Why are guys doing this?!?... arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh.

[begleitung]

How 2 overcome the u firstt matter?  Dont bother with those?

[PassingGuess]

4 hours ago, Guest 1st time using dating app said:

Hahaha I just receive another one. This person is amusing. totally got no pic in his profile. I think he thought that everyone is desperate like him to hook.

 

Whereby at least I got a pic, but of cos not showing my face la. So I purposely send him a msg to test water. And he replies. Asking me when I can have fun. I told him, wouldn't it be better if we trade face pic first, at least both got to know who we are planning to meet up. And at least if either party don't like it, can just reject in the apps and not till meeting time then feel uncomfortable. 

 

But of cos I know, whether he will really turn up or not is another issue. 😛

 

Need not guess, the next reply he gave me is: U share first!

 

Hahha. What a joker. Someone who is pictureless, got the cheek to want someone, whom at least got shown something, on the profile page, to share face pic first.  

 

Looks like this kind of behaviour has really become a culture in those apps. 

 

OK la, enough fun with those people. Time to delete all these apps and never ever hope that, via social media, could get someone sincere for hookup.

 

Yes, I know everyone are afraid to show face. Same for me. I too am scare. But if really want to make friends, by showing a face pic won't do any harm. No one can use a decent face pic to tell the whole world that he is gay, he is bi, or whatever. Unless that face pic comes with a nude body in it. Then I got nothing to say.

 

And if both parties were stuck at the stage, by aguring on this famous phrase: [U show first]. Then better not waste each other time playing mind game. 

If really desperate to release, get our own hands to help. They are more sincere and reliable. Hahahaha. 

 

Better go back to real life and see if lucky enough to met someone real and breathing for some kopi chat or more. 

Well said and I cannot agree more with what you have accurately written here. Kudos. I concur. I have been there. Done it. I deleted all the apps. 

[And then]

This "trading pics" concept is tiresome.

Almost certainly, I will not bother with any profile which mentions "trading pics".

 

I do put my face pic on my profile, and there does not seem to be any shortage of profiles with face pics.

Even those profiles without face pic usually will provide when requested.

 

So I guess this is one way of not playing the "after you" game.

Obviously too bad if you are discreet!

 

In terms of not responding after receiving a face pic/ body pic, as some people say, no response is a response.

Do you really have to have it spelt out? Isn't it kinder to just pretend the connection got lost?

[mate69]

Those who alr hv bf or partner also on these apps hence they ghost on u abt facepic. Scared exposed mah

 

[jiriki]

Since there’s such a high demand for trading pic, the apps should include a function for trading pic. It’s like both upload their pictures for trade and release only mutually. Not difficult to program, and probably will have good reception by users lol.

[sum1outhere_03]

One advice for those using these "dating" apps -

 

1) less expectation, less disappointment. No expectation, no disappointment.

2) Have a clear objective of why you're using the apps - e.g. by now you should know, you'll at most know if you're using apps like Grindr, chances are 99% you'd definitely find people looking for friends. If you're looking for friends, very likely you'll be disappointed, although not impossible.

 

3) If you're looking for friends - at least possible for a "meet" - best is to try on those dating agencies if you have budget. You can also try LGBT friendly community like ogachaga and sorts (not sure if they are still having such activities). Alternatively, look for clubs that you can do activities you like.

 

Hope it helps.

 

PS: I do not work for any of the mentioned. I am not sponsored  

 

[Guest Nitro]

20 hours ago, Guest 1st time using dating apps said:

Ok, don't laugh at me, I know I am slow. I just started using dating apps.

 

Believe that most brothers here had downloaded and used a few of those gays dating apps. Be it for finding friends, partner or even master and slave for hookups. 

 

Recently I downloaded a few and setup my profile nicely in there. Sincerely seeking for some like-minded, be it to make love or just make friends. Hahaha. But feeling quite disappointed with the result I got from the people in there. Not sure did anyone has similar encounter as mine. 

 

1) trading face pic. 

Of cos, everyone are concern about own privacy and would want to protect it as much as we could. Usually profile pic in those apps would be those showing just their breast, crotch or any parts of their body, and seldom their face. Those showing face... Also don't know is real or not.... 😛

 

Same for me. I won't just put my face pic up there, for privacy reason. But I did mention in my profile that I would trade, if the other party willing to do so. Sound fair right. but encounter a few whereby after I ask them to trade, just the face pic arh, not cock or ass pic. I will always receive a reply saying: after u. Okie, after me, then I show lah. To show my sincere mah, to make friend. I take the first step. But after viewing mine, some will simply disappear and left the chat. And there is one,, at least courtesy enough tell me that I am not his type, but his pic not exchange. Yahla, I know, not his type so no point exchange pic liao. but the most amusing thing is that, he wrote in his profile that he will trade when others do it.

 

So I felt been deceived lo lol. Me still so naive at this age.

 

2nd type of incident:

Still at trading pic, but this time the other party after viewing, told me he is looking for muscular and gym fit. Which I'm not. Ok, this happened many many times. But Why is everyone looking for gym fit arh? How about those slim or maybe just average size... Cannot perform meh????

So for smaller people, have to start pump up our body if not no sex for this lifetime. Lol

 

I know I know, everyone has their own taste, has their right to chose. I am also choosing too. But while we choose other, we ownself also have to look at the mirror ourself. Those who told me these, themself are not gym fit either. Should be just their dream man lah, but usually in reality, dream man are hard to get. 

 

3) lastly, this one worst. After trading pic, yes I get to see his face, he get to see mine. Sound okie hor. But but but...... At his next reply, he told me that I am just another plain looking person. Don't expect him to get free sex from him to satisfy my sexually needs. 

OMG!!!! yes I know I am not a hunk, but I can boldly say that I'm not bad looking either. In fact I'm more better looking then him. really can swear on that. Just becos I'm not his type, doesn't give him the right to say those harsh words. Honestly, when I first saw his pic, he is not my type either. I trying to find a nice way to reject him. But I didn't input those harsh words to him, no time for me to reply, his finger are faster. Suay suay, I received those dagger words.

 

sharing all these here, is not to complain. Just curious to know, did anyone have worst exprience then mine? hahaha.

And also becos I still don't feel like resting. Killing my time to type all these here. 

 

I still in those apps, not deleting them, maybe if I can't outbeat these people, then I should join them one day, and become a papaya inside those dating apps, hahaha and bring down or play around as much people as I can. Hahaha haha joking.... Won't waste my time on that, got better things to do lol. 😛

Serves u right for not putting a pic. You deserve it for wasting your own time and others' time 

[begleitung]

4 hours ago, jiriki said:

Since there’s such a high demand for trading pic, the apps should include a function for trading pic. It’s like both upload their pictures for trade and release only mutually. Not difficult to program, and probably will have good reception by users lol.

Dats a gd idea. Like airbnb reviews whr both parties, host and customers wld get 2 c each others‘ reviews whn both shared them. 

[TamPenis]

I came across one whom suffers from Short Term Memory Loss. 

 

Rejected me, a few weeks ago, then send me a message again. 

 

I didn't even change my profile pic. 

 

[yoyo74]

I got no time to play trading pic game as there is enormous amount of people to talk to in the app. When i go in the app to talk with a lot of people i want do things fast to quickly get the result of accepting or rejecting. I am open and not discreet and put my face and topless body pic as profile there. If they dont show me their face/body pic which i ask for i will reject them unless they have similar interest with me etc.

I normally go in the app just to look for cuddle buddies which i will choose base on looks and also looks for friends with similar interest like jogging which will not base on looks.

 

To TS: There are still many who are attracted to small size or slim guy so dont worry and keep on trying. I myself had successfully made some nice friend from those dating app.

[begleitung]

Bravoo to yoyo74!!

[begleitung]

Whts de next best thing 2 abs?  Opps i mean apps.  Forum like this? Speed dating?