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22 hours ago, BlinkOnce said:

(And of course I would be happy to offer advice to anyone of any ages, provided you want to receive it)

 

You offer advice ..... ? You .... ? Errrrrrr ........

 

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For all your good intentions, please 卖嗨囊.

 

Advise comes in all forms and shapes. If people wants to censor and sugarcoat the advise from the "trolls" to the "confessant, then you can jolly well go seek nicey-dicey advise from the church and pay the professionals to listen only to the good stuff. This is real life advise given to the "confessants" from the public school of hard knocks. 

 

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If you don't even know that, then I wonder what type of "Advice" you can give. But in any case, I'm just here to troll for fun. So you can also take this as a "free" tough-cookie advice I am giving from a troll. Hahahaha

 

Byeeeeeeee ..... 

 

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By and large, putting things in perspective, the advices from members will have a high degree of bias. Judge and analyse for yourself when you receive them. Do bear in mind, our community of guys here are not a majority in our society, we are in fact a very small minority when taken in relativity. Therefore, do not conclude that the advices here represent the majority of “the school of hard knocks”, our voice just represent one of many voices. cheers

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1 hour ago, Guest Guest said:

 

You offer advice ..... ? You .... ? Errrrrrr ........

 

Side Eye Meme GIFs | Tenor

 

For all your good intentions, please 卖嗨囊.

 

Advise comes in all forms and shapes. If people wants to censor and sugarcoat the advise from the "trolls" to the "confessant, then you can jolly well go seek nicey-dicey advise from the church and pay the professionals to listen only to the good stuff. This is real life advise given to the "confessants" from the public school of hard knocks. 

 

良药苦口忠言逆耳利于行告诉我们_良药苦口利于病,忠言逆耳利于行告诉我们什么道理_三人行教育网_www.3rxing.org 

 

If you don't even know that, then I wonder what type of "Advice" you can give. But in any case, I'm just here to troll for fun. So you can also take this as a "free" tough-cookie advice I am giving from a troll. Hahahaha

 

Byeeeeeeee ..... 

 

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1) Troll comments can be harmful to the ones on the receiving end, especially if they are already in a vulnerable state of minds. You would think being a troll on the internet is cool and stuff, but you're just a toxic and miserable being. Attack my censorship all you want, I am not here to please you anyway.

2) Troll comments are not hard-knocks. Don't try to twist it to propagate your toxicity :)

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26 minutes ago, Guest Cheers said:

By and large, putting things in perspective, the advices from members will have a high degree of bias. Judge and analyse for yourself when you receive them. Do bear in mind, our community of guys here are not a majority in our society, we are in fact a very small minority when taken in relativity. Therefore, do not conclude that the advices here represent the majority of “the school of hard knocks”, our voice just represent one of many voices. cheers

To a certain extent, you're not wrong. Thank you for pointing this out. However, advice will always be biased, not just from the members here. And one should always judge and analyze the advice given to him, regardless of where the advice comes from.

I will try my best to make sure the pieces of advice are of good-will, how the confessants process them are their own decisions.

 

P.S. I don't believe that the opinions of the majority are necessarily always the helpful ones :)

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I still remember how a moderator wanted to start something like an "All Gays Come OUT" movement here on BW. He was also making some false claims about having some kind of a support network coming soon here on BW, and that was more than a year ago. Imagine if some in-the-closet gays followed his movement during that time and then gets thrown under the bus soon after that. They'd still be bleeding there today. 

 

That's cringeworthy. 

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7 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

I still remember how a moderator wanted to start something like an "All Gays Come OUT" movement here on BW. He was also making some false claims about having some kind of a support network coming soon here on BW, and that was more than a year ago. Imagine if some in-the-closet gays followed his movement during that time and then gets thrown under the bus soon after that. They'd still be bleeding there today. 

 

That's cringeworthy. 

Nice way of putting words in my mouth. Exactly what you do best :) Keep it up

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Hi! Idk if this movement has died, but I hope that people could have been less critical. It is nice of @BlinkOnce to attempt to do something for community-building, regardless of whether people consider the effort naive or ineffective.

 

@BlinkOnce idk you or if you have any preexisting reputation, but hope you keep up your efforts! :)

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4 minutes ago, gleamingsparks said:

Hi! Idk if this movement has died, but I hope that people could have been less critical. It is nice of @BlinkOnce to attempt to do something for community-building, regardless of whether people consider the effort naive or ineffective.

 

@BlinkOnce idk you or if you have any preexisting reputation, but hope you keep up your efforts! :)

Thanks for the kind words!

No, the "people" were not critical. They are just smelly trolls who get offended by any traces of positivity online and within the community. 

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Why aren't more members taking advantage of your service of therapeutic confessions?

 

I remember when I was young-er having so many issues that I would not share with God in any confessional, but could have gotten answered very well in an anonymous gay website.  The problem is that gay websites didn't exist when I was young  ( or I never knew about them? ), while now being old-er I have most of my issues resolved.  But if I ever have a secret issue now, I surely will confess it here in your confessions corner.

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On 4/21/2022 at 9:40 PM, Steve5380 said:

Why aren't more members taking advantage of your service of therapeutic confessions?

 

I remember when I was young-er having so many issues that I would not share with God in any confessional, but could have gotten answered very well in an anonymous gay website.  The problem is that gay websites didn't exist when I was young  ( or I never knew about them? ), while now being old-er I have most of my issues resolved.  But if I ever have a secret issue now, I surely will confess it here in your confessions corner.

I applaud @BlinkOnce for his service to the membership and to others who choose to post as guests. As far as @Steve5380 is concerned, he answered his own question. There were few if any ways of young gay guys finding answers to questions about sexuality and being or feeling gay when he was young. Now our world is filled with so many ways of obtaining advice. The problem is that it is not always clear who is giving the advice and if he/she has any agenda behind it. End result is that merely checking websites can be incredibly confusing. Even BW illustrates that there can be a variety of views on any single subject. And discussion can be heated when one poster is queried about questionable advice he may have posted.

 

The key to @BlinkOnce's post is that he seeks to assist younger gay/bi guys. The best advice for younger guys comes from those who are roughly the same age and have been through roughly the same experiences at roughly the same time. For example, advice given to gay guys in the early 1980s at the start of the AIDS crisis will be quite different now. Similarly advice given to guys in Singapore and Malaysia with Article 377 still on the statute books will be different to that given by those living in countries which have accepted gay relationships and gay sex.

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On 4/23/2022 at 12:55 AM, Guest Just Curious said:

 

The key to @BlinkOnce's post is that he seeks to assist younger gay/bi guys. The best advice for younger guys comes from those who are roughly the same age and have been through roughly the same experiences at roughly the same time. For example, advice given to gay guys in the early 1980s at the start of the AIDS crisis will be quite different now. Similarly advice given to guys in Singapore and Malaysia with Article 377 still on the statute books will be different to that given by those living in countries which have accepted gay relationships and gay sex.

 

 

In reality we are the result of millions of years of evolution, not some decades of technological improvements.  Our place of residence, our age, don't change much the fundamental circumstances of our lives as human beings.  Good advice can come from anyone, and the more experienced he is, the better.

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Naturally good advice can come from anyone. But that depends on the nature of the advice and the age of those requesting and those giving. A late teens or early 20s Singaporean boy seeking advice on home issues or on how to pursue a first relationship with a fellow Singaporean in 2022 has little to learn from older posters in their 70s who have spent all their lives in western countries with their totally different life styles and grew up in a completely different times and communities. Similarly, older posters living many thousands of kms from Asia probably have little to learn from younger Asians in that age group.

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