Leanmeat Posted March 20, 2022 Share Posted March 20, 2022 I always thought I'm very good in controlling my emotions, as in not to fall into the emotional attachment w guys (As I dont trust LTR). But lately had fun w a guy in spa and I keep thinking abt the guy. I was really surprised that I can still miss someone like that. I had wanted to ask to keep in touch but knowing most guys go spa probably want to meet diff guys, I convinced myself not to ask. How do you guys get over such feelings? I miss him not that I want to go into ltr or what..just thought will be good to meet once a while as fun buddy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Good Posted March 20, 2022 Share Posted March 20, 2022 Miss someone? That means you are still alive. You still feeling that kind of emotion once in a while means your heart is still open for new experience. That's normal and healthy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest huh??????????????????????? Posted March 20, 2022 Share Posted March 20, 2022 On 3/20/2022 at 9:47 AM, Leanmeat said: . But lately had fun w a guy in spa and I keep thinking abt the guy. I was really surprised that I can still miss someone like that. I had wanted to ask to keep in touch The best time to ask someone for number, a request to be friend or simply to meet again is, IMMEDIATELY AFTER SEX while both of you are still confined in the room. Once the other party opened the door and about leave, that is your miss opporunity. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
itsmemisterx Posted March 20, 2022 Share Posted March 20, 2022 On 3/20/2022 at 9:47 AM, Leanmeat said: I always thought I'm very good in controlling my emotions, as in not to fall into the emotional attachment w guys (As I dont trust LTR). But lately had fun w a guy in spa and I keep thinking abt the guy. I was really surprised that I can still miss someone like that. I had wanted to ask to keep in touch but knowing most guys go spa probably want to meet diff guys, I convinced myself not to ask. How do you guys get over such feelings? I miss him not that I want to go into ltr or what..just thought will be good to meet once a while as fun buddy. I understand that feeling. I had that feeling when I visited the spa recently. We clicked pretty well. We enjoyed with each other that night. But I regretted that I did not exchange contact to stay in touch. So not to repeat the same mistake, I would ask for their contact if I want to continue to meet them again and again. You can ask the person for his contact such as Telegram, WeChat or Line if you want to meet him once in a while as a fun buddy. No harm asking and making friends. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Regrets? Posted March 20, 2022 Share Posted March 20, 2022 Sigh I regretted many such experiences too. Not asking for their number. I don't even know what I was thinking after sex. Mind in a confused and vulnerable state. Terrible me just said thanks and bye. Very Terrible feeling. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leanmeat Posted March 20, 2022 Author Share Posted March 20, 2022 On 3/20/2022 at 1:47 PM, Guest Regrets? said: Sigh I regretted many such experiences too. Not asking for their number. I don't even know what I was thinking after sex. Mind in a confused and vulnerable state. Terrible me just said thanks and bye. Very Terrible feeling. Yah I know right. It's a confuse feeling.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted March 21, 2022 Share Posted March 21, 2022 On 3/19/2022 at 8:47 PM, Leanmeat said: I always thought I'm very good in controlling my emotions, as in not to fall into the emotional attachment w guys (As I dont trust LTR). But lately had fun w a guy in spa and I keep thinking abt the guy. I was really surprised that I can still miss someone like that. I had wanted to ask to keep in touch but knowing most guys go spa probably want to meet diff guys, I convinced myself not to ask. How do you guys get over such feelings? I miss him not that I want to go into ltr or what..just thought will be good to meet once a while as fun buddy. If you disqualify someone you meet in a spa because he wants to meet diff guys, then you should also disqualify YOURSELF, since you are in the same spa too. It is better to think of yourself as a very valuable person who is worth starting a relation with, and then when you see the other person you like, you can accept that he is also like you since you are frequenting the same establishment. I found my late boyfriend of 20+ years, the love of my life, in a sleazy bar where one could think that the people there are nothing but worthless losers. Don't think that you need to go to a church to meet people who are not "someone like that". Try to give everybody the benefit of the doubt. You won't have much to lose, since before an acquaintance becomes a LTR there are many, many opportunities to realize his character and what he is and stands for. auscent 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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