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Anyone in this forum is a kindred spirit?

I am definitely horned up and ready for action, and totally enjoy being fucked. Been in very hot action, like being in a threesome, but .....

I just can't cum. 

I can when jerking off to porn. But even when the sex is really good, I can't get into the mental zone that leads up to orgasm. I can't even finish off with my own hand.

I really want to cum for my partner(s) - so frustrating to disappoint requests for facials and cum swallowing.

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It's a trained behavior la. 

 

When I'm young I can only cum in toilet. Total privacy. 

 

Now I can't cum in toilet cause feels dirty, can't lie down etc. 

 

Some years ago I can cum with windows open. Then one day felt like I was watched even though there is no direct view. 

 

Then only can only cum with window closed. 

 

Can't cum in public. 

 

Its like can't pee when someone is looking at you and waiting to use the urinal. 

 

Same concept. 

 

Can be treated using the same concept. You get used to peeing in public. Slowly expose. Behavior therapy. 

 

 

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On 7/21/2022 at 8:28 AM, Guest Nofap said:

Sounds like you need a reset. Try taking a break from porn and jerking off for a month and then see what happens during sex with others. 

Wah that is challenging...how does it help though?

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On 7/21/2022 at 8:22 PM, Guest Cantcum said:

Wah that is challenging...how does it help though?


Your challenge is both physical and psychological…

 

a) it would give you a physical break from porn and jerking off and time to reset

b) you will be bursting to cum at the month end and will definitely cum while having sex. Once you have done that once, you will have broken the psychological barrier

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Are you using a ‘death grip’ during masturbation? 
As discussed in this topic here

For the longest time, I could only get off when I do it by myself, and not with other people because of this ‘death grip’ thing . But I managed to ‘untrain’ myself after much effort and could let myself be released by others. And so can you. 😉

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On 7/21/2022 at 10:26 PM, stevechia said:

Are you using a ‘death grip’ during masturbation? 
As discussed in this topic here

For the longest time, I could only get off when I do it by myself, and not with other people because of this ‘death grip’ thing . But I managed to ‘untrain’ myself after much effort and could let myself be released by others. And so can you. 😉

Do share your process if its OK? Would be very helpful.  Like is it just no masturbation for a long time or?

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There is such a thing as porn-induced erectile dysfunction. It affects both gay men and straight men. You can google more about it.

 

Thankfully, it's not a permanent condition, and it's pretty easy to fix. As others have mentioned, just lay off the porn, and your brain and body will recondition itself after some time, and intimacy with a real human will turn you on again.

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On 7/23/2022 at 10:36 AM, Guest Try and see said:

There is such a thing as porn-induced erectile dysfunction. It affects both gay men and straight men. You can google more about it.

 

Thankfully, it's not a permanent condition, and it's pretty easy to fix. As others have mentioned, just lay off the porn, and your brain and body will recondition itself after some time, and intimacy with a real human will turn you on again.

Thanks! I have no trouble getting and staying erect though... sigh. Went to do a little googling and saw this thing called delayed or absent ejaculation. 

 

Its been 5 days of not jerking off and it's hard. Have to remind myself not to play with myself even though the cock is leaking precum..!

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  • 5 weeks later...
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Just back to thank those who advised staying off masturbation to porn:  theres some progress...!

Did masturbate in the past month but never to completion, and tried not to watch too much porn.

Few days ago, managed to hook up and, while being fucked, managed to jerk myself off to completion while his cock was in my ass.

But of course, this was after a 4 hour marathon and a short nap in between....

or maybe I finally had time to get comfortable with him to be able to relax and to let down my guard.

 

Whatever the case, it felt like a milestone. So yes, less porn, and more waiting. Good things come to those who wait. 

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