Would you associate with someone gay who has internalized homophobia?

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Someone who is active in gay forums & engage in fun with other gays, and but in real life is not out.

so he acts all macho and straight in public, but secretly he detests those who came out as feminine, queen and weak.

Would you still associate with that person or continue to have fun with him? 

[Eddie Adrika]

Honestly, I find it tricky to associate with someone who has internalized homophobia. On one hand, I get that not everyone is ready to be out publicly, and that’s their personal journey. But when it crosses into looking down on others, especially those who are more open or feminine… it feels toxic. I don’t want to spend my energy around someone who detests others for simply being themselves.

 

For me, respect is the baseline. If someone can’t respect the diversity within our community, then continuing to have fun with them feels hollow. I’d rather connect with people who embrace authenticity, even if they’re still figuring things out privately, than with someone who tears others down.

[Freakingelmo123]

I know someone  who are like that, but he actually respect people who came out and think they are brave.