Meeting up nowadays is like opening blind box

[potato]

Understand due to many reason someone can be

1. discreet or

2. look different from profile photo

 a. Photo taken years back

 b. Low resolution

 c. Over photoshopped 

if you are up for heart to heart connection, perhaps look doesn’t matter much. 
 

However! If you are up for naughty time, isn't it better to know who you are meeting and how does he look like? 
 

Please comment below and let us know what’s your thought

Edited July 14 by potato

[Find the one]

I have never met anyone who was too different from their pictures. But my approach is to always assume the worst case, so if things happen to be slightly better, I am good. Sadly, even for a heart-to-heart connection, looks still matter. I dated a guy a few times. He is a great guy, and we never had sex. But one day, he sent me a shirtless pic after a date, and I genuinely felt turned off. I think I would have a problem even maintaining an erection if we were to have sex. I just told him the truth, and we stopped dating.

[juicyass]

2 hours ago, potato said:

Understand due to many reason someone can be

1. discreet or

2. look different from profile photo

 a. Photo taken years back

 b. Low resolution

 c. Over photoshopped 

if you are up for heart to heart connection, perhaps look doesn’t matter much. 
 

However! If you are up for naughty time, isn't it better to know who you are meeting and how does he look like? 
 

Please comment below and let us know what’s your thought

 

To avoid disappointment based on appearance, I would ask them to send dick pic instead - the real treasure behind the blind box. lol

I am not ashamed to say this , but when comes to meeting up for sex, I don't want to waste anymore time in chit chatting but get down to business.

If his dick suits my liking and he claims he is good in bed, I wouldn't mind the look or body shape and meet him. Suffice to say that my approach tend to hook up with a lot of skillful tops who aren't in their best shape nor good look but giving me probably some of the best sexes in life.

 

As a bottom myself, I know what I want from a man when comes to sex and I go for it. 

 

 

[Jo L]

It's the difference in expectations that dashes all the hopes you may have in a meet up.

[cbm]

It's interesting that you brought up this topic because there was recent news about a Singaporean woman who posted online to tell the whole world that she did not find her boyfriend attractive enough. She had also used the blind box example. 

 

Here is that article: https://www.asiaone.com/lifestyle/sharmaine-lee-boyfriend-not-her-type

 

So it seems that it's not just among gays. Heteros are feeling the same way too.

 

Why has it become like this? Maybe too much social media making people have high expectations. If you're looking for a mythical unicorn, of course you will be disappointed. 

[potato]

That’s an interest article. Of course it’s unrealistic to look for mythical unicorn. 
 

However, I believe it is fair enough to show a pic that looks valid instead of giving reason “I’m discreet, let’s meet up to see if you like me”. 
 

I total respect if both parties are ok with this. No doubt about it. But if someone reject it due to not wanting to waste time. Suck thumb lo

[juicyass]

Pictures can be very deceiving. In pic, he may have solid six packs or looks like very big and fit in person, when comes to meeting up, he actually looks way smaller in person as compared to his pic. I myself look bigger than him in person. It was kinda of awkward though. Although he is fit, his untrained chicken legs somewhat turn me off real bad.

I've also seen quite a number of ig "influencer" in real person in the gym, mannnnn they look smaller in person. YEs, they do have abs or signs of years of weight training, but it's just that. Nothing big. 

Therefore, don't believe everything you see in social media. 

[Balestier]

2 hours ago, juicyass said:

Pictures can be very deceiving. In pic, he may have solid six packs or looks like very big and fit in person, when comes to meeting up, he actually looks way smaller in person as compared to his pic. I myself look bigger than him in person. It was kinda of awkward though. Although he is fit, his untrained chicken legs somewhat turn me off real bad.

I've also seen quite a number of ig "influencer" in real person in the gym, mannnnn they look smaller in person. YEs, they do have abs or signs of years of weight training, but it's just that. Nothing big. 

Therefore, don't believe everything you see in social media. 

AI touched up

[Balestier]

2 hours ago, juicyass said:

Pictures can be very deceiving. In pic, he may have solid six packs or looks like very big and fit in person, when comes to meeting up, he actually looks way smaller in person as compared to his pic. I myself look bigger than him in person. It was kinda of awkward though. Although he is fit, his untrained chicken legs somewhat turn me off real bad.

I've also seen quite a number of ig "influencer" in real person in the gym, mannnnn they look smaller in person. YEs, they do have abs or signs of years of weight training, but it's just that. Nothing big. 

Therefore, don't believe everything you see in social media. 

Best is meeting up at social events.

[wanton_mee]

everyone is a surprise to the people they meet. 🫣

[funky beaver]

I do want to know, how does it feel to be the blind box after the opener is dissapointed and "discards" you?

 

Feel like this is a downwards spiral of more blind boxes.

[Slimfit90]

Open your hearts

[HC-B]

On 7/14/2026 at 11:04 AM, juicyass said:

 

To avoid disappointment based on appearance, I would ask them to send dick pic instead - the real treasure behind the blind box. lol

I am not ashamed to say this , but when comes to meeting up for sex, I don't want to waste anymore time in chit chatting but get down to business.

If his dick suits my liking and he claims he is good in bed, I wouldn't mind the look or body shape and meet him. Suffice to say that my approach tend to hook up with a lot of skillful tops who aren't in their best shape nor good look but giving me probably some of the best sexes in life.

 

As a bottom myself, I know what I want from a man when comes to sex and I go for it. 

 

 

Agree!
 

Among all my cruising activities, the best anal sex encounters that happened to me that I still remember and have fond feelings of and for are with those men who were not in the least bit well built or handsome or cute or well dressed or perfect as a whole package, but they had cocks that grew big and hard upon jerking and sucking (which I wouldn’t have known and discovered if I had prejudged and omitted them based on their lack of dressing sense or body shamed them) and, most importantly, knew how to use them and fuck the living daylights out of me so skillfully, body and soul penetrated and connected. 
 

So yes, cruising or meeting up for gay sex is blindboxing in a way, but you need to also play it with some good instincts, curiosity, foreknowledge, and awareness too.

[MasterFitMalaySG4U]

Simple as ABC

 

if u want me meet me first before anything if u don’t like it is okay I meet some else later. 
 

I dont care if u discreet or blah3 keen meet up anywhere public or not much people or place have seat. 
 

don’t tell someone what to do. U want meet if don’t want look for someone else haha don’t expect someone to meet u 2nd time when you already not interested in the first place don’t treat someone like a mf puppet or blah3

 

know your worth in mirror 🪞 and your real objective….

[auscent]

On 7/23/2026 at 5:34 AM, HC-B said:

Agree!
 

Among all my cruising activities, the best anal sex encounters that happened to me that I still remember and have fond feelings of and for are with those men who were not in the least bit well built or handsome or cute or well dressed or perfect as a whole package, but they had cocks that grew big and hard upon jerking and sucking (which I wouldn’t have known and discovered if I had prejudged and omitted them based on their lack of dressing sense or body shamed them) and, most importantly, knew how to use them and fuck the living daylights out of me so skillfully, body and soul penetrated and connected. 
 

So yes, cruising or meeting up for gay sex is blindboxing in a way, but you need to also play it with some good instincts, curiosity, foreknowledge, and awareness too.

Agree. Attitude is important.