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Looking at preparing and equipping yourself with skills, before embarking on the journey of seeking for companionship and easing into a gay relationship?

In light of its first successful run, and in conjunction with Valentine’s Day, Oogachaga presents to you – Many Single Men II. This two day workshop provides a safe space for single individuals to explore and learn from each other.

Workshop Details

Date: 12 & 13 Feb 2011

Time: 2.00pm – 5.30pm

Fee: $30 per pax (inclusive of both days)

Register before 1st February 2011 for an early birds special – Only $25 per pax!

Venue for the talk will released via email to registered participants.

Seats are limited and registration is compulsory. Sign up on www.oogachaga.com/manysinglemen2!

Topics

- understand how your strengths can give your date or relationship a spark.

- discuss where and how you could find that special someone.

- explore with facilitators and participants, when it comes to dating, what works and what doesn’t.

- arm yourself with knowledge on how to ensure your well being while enjoying the excitement in finding the right one.

Structure

This two day workshop consists of individual work, small group discussions as well as exciting indoor activities.

About the facilitators

Bryan Choong has been a volunteer with Oogachaga since 2005. He has facilitated with OC Men Support Group (OCM) and is a key volunteer involved in setting up OCMSM Hotline. Bryan is now the full time Centre Manager and counsellor of Oogachaga. Alphonsus Lee has been a volunteer counsellor with Oogachaga since 2009. Alphonsus is also an active member in many other LGBT organisations in Singapore..

Comments from previous participants

- I enjoyed myself and at the same time gained insight into the many single gay men out there regarding issues close to heart.

- The interactive, laid back and easy manner of how the instructors conduct the workshop puts me and I suppose others at ease in sharing anecdotes of our lives that give insight to the dating game in the PLU circle and what to do and not to do.

- Three thumbs up to the trainer and workshop.

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The focus is getting comfortable into dating and stuff and also getting to know people before Valentines Day itself.

So you can share what you are comfortable with. :)

This workshop sounds really good. I really want to attend but am also frightened to talk more about myself and my past relationships. It can be very threatening opening up ur heart to strangers...

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The focus is getting comfortable into dating and stuff and also getting to know people before Valentines Day itself.

So you can share what you are comfortable with. :)

OIC ! I tot its going to be like Alcoholic Anonymous sharing session ! Pardon my ignorance...

Serve my fellow bottom men well !

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Looking at preparing and equipping yourself with skills, before embarking on the journey of seeking for companionship and easing into a gay relationship?

In light of its first successful run, and in conjunction with Valentine’s Day, Oogachaga presents to you – Many Single Men II. This two day workshop provides a safe space for single individuals to explore and learn from each other.

Workshop Details

Date: 12 & 13 Feb 2011

Time: 2.00pm – 5.30pm

Fee: $30 per pax (inclusive of both days)

Register before 1st February 2011 for an early birds special – Only $25 per pax!

Venue for the talk will released via email to registered participants.

Seats are limited and registration is compulsory. Sign up on www.oogachaga.com/manysinglemen2!

Topics

- understand how your strengths can give your date or relationship a spark.

- discuss where and how you could find that special someone.

- explore with facilitators and participants, when it comes to dating, what works and what doesn’t.

- arm yourself with knowledge on how to ensure your well being while enjoying the excitement in finding the right one.

Structure

This two day workshop consists of individual work, small group discussions as well as exciting indoor activities.

About the facilitators

Bryan Choong has been a volunteer with Oogachaga since 2005. He has facilitated with OC Men Support Group (OCM) and is a key volunteer involved in setting up OCMSM Hotline. Bryan is now the full time Centre Manager and counsellor of Oogachaga. Alphonsus Lee has been a volunteer counsellor with Oogachaga since 2009. Alphonsus is also an active member in many other LGBT organisations in Singapore..

Comments from previous participants

- I enjoyed myself and at the same time gained insight into the many single gay men out there regarding issues close to heart.

- The interactive, laid back and easy manner of how the instructors conduct the workshop puts me and I suppose others at ease in sharing anecdotes of our lives that give insight to the dating game in the PLU circle and what to do and not to do.

- Three thumbs up to the trainer and workshop.

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Looking at preparing and equipping yourself with skills, before embarking on the journey of seeking for companionship and easing into a gay relationship?

In light of its first successful run, and in conjunction with Valentine’s Day, Oogachaga presents to you – Many Single Men II. This two day workshop provides a safe space for single individuals to explore and learn from each other.

Workshop Details

Date: 12 & 13 Feb 2011

Time: 2.00pm – 5.30pm

Fee: $30 per pax (inclusive of both days)

Register before 1st February 2011 for an early birds special – Only $25 per pax!

Venue for the talk will released via email to registered participants.

Seats are limited and registration is compulsory. Sign up on www.oogachaga.com/manysinglemen2!

Topics

- understand how your strengths can give your date or relationship a spark.

- discuss where and how you could find that special someone.

- explore with facilitators and participants, when it comes to dating, what works and what doesn’t.

- arm yourself with knowledge on how to ensure your well being while enjoying the excitement in finding the right one.

Structure

This two day workshop consists of individual work, small group discussions as well as exciting indoor activities.

About the facilitators

Bryan Choong has been a volunteer with Oogachaga since 2005. He has facilitated with OC Men Support Group (OCM) and is a key volunteer involved in setting up OCMSM Hotline. Bryan is now the full time Centre Manager and counsellor of Oogachaga. Alphonsus Lee has been a volunteer counsellor with Oogachaga since 2009. Alphonsus is also an active member in many other LGBT organisations in Singapore..

Comments from previous participants

- I enjoyed myself and at the same time gained insight into the many single gay men out there regarding issues close to heart.

- The interactive, laid back and easy manner of how the instructors conduct the workshop puts me and I suppose others at ease in sharing anecdotes of our lives that give insight to the dating game in the PLU circle and what to do and not to do.

- Three thumbs up to the trainer and workshop.

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I remember I attended one of those gay events and was like so left out among the group. It seems the people there or participants already knew each other and they tend to enclave and mingle among themselves. As for me, I have to "hide" quietly in one corner looking at my fingernails or pretending to read my sms or even stared at the money plants hanging in the porch area before the show started. You see, I am rather not good in socialising and not very proactive so to speak, and this kind of event might not be suitable for an extremely reserved chap like me, so how? If I don't attend, I might just miss something in my life, so how?

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I remember I attended one of those gay events and was like so left out among the group. It seems the people there or participants already knew each other and they tend to enclave and mingle among themselves. As for me, I have to "hide" quietly in one corner looking at my fingernails or pretending to read my sms or even stared at the money plants hanging in the porch area before the show started. You see, I am rather not good in socialising and not very proactive so to speak, and this kind of event might not be suitable for an extremely reserved chap like me, so how? If I don't attend, I might just miss something in my life, so how?

"Reserved Chap", I am not sure of the types of gay events you had attended. Normally,this kind of workshops, good facilitators will make sure you are not being left out. The more so if they are trained counsellors. If you think you r being reserved, i am sure there are others out there like yourself. So don't worry. If you are keen, you should sign up. I have heard quite good stuff of this organisation and Bryan is pretty creditable looking at his credentials. I am sure you are in good hands. But please do not go there will the hope of finding a potential partner there( that would be incorrect). You objective is to better equip yourself.

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Hey bryan.. i wanna go, but im broke.. by went do we have to pay? cause my pay come in on the 12th. =(

I also want to go. But I think after many considerations, I'll give it a miss. I think I too shy lah...although i really would like to meet someone suitable for a ltr...must be the rainy days lately...

Serve my fellow bottom men well !

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Looking at preparing and equipping yourself with skills, before embarking on the journey of seeking for companionship and easing into a gay relationship?

In light of its first successful run, and in conjunction with Valentine’s Day, Oogachaga presents to you – Many Single Men II. This two day workshop provides a safe space for single individuals to explore and learn from each other.

Workshop Details

Date: 12 & 13 Feb 2011

Time: 2.00pm – 5.30pm

Fee: $30 per pax (inclusive of both days)

Register before 1st February 2011 for an early birds special – Only $25 per pax!

Venue for the talk will released via email to registered participants.

Seats are limited and registration is compulsory. Sign up on www.oogachaga.com/manysinglemen2!

Topics

- understand how your strengths can give your date or relationship a spark.

- discuss where and how you could find that special someone.

- explore with facilitators and participants, when it comes to dating, what works and what doesn’t.

- arm yourself with knowledge on how to ensure your well being while enjoying the excitement in finding the right one.

Structure

This two day workshop consists of individual work, small group discussions as well as exciting indoor activities.

About the facilitators

Bryan Choong has been a volunteer with Oogachaga since 2005. He has facilitated with OC Men Support Group (OCM) and is a key volunteer involved in setting up OCMSM Hotline. Bryan is now the full time Centre Manager and counsellor of Oogachaga. Alphonsus Lee has been a volunteer counsellor with Oogachaga since 2009. Alphonsus is also an active member in many other LGBT organisations in Singapore..

Comments from previous participants

- I enjoyed myself and at the same time gained insight into the many single gay men out there regarding issues close to heart.

- The interactive, laid back and easy manner of how the instructors conduct the workshop puts me and I suppose others at ease in sharing anecdotes of our lives that give insight to the dating game in the PLU circle and what to do and not to do.

- Three thumbs up to the trainer and workshop.

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Looking at preparing and equipping yourself with skills, before embarking on the journey of seeking for companionship and easing into a gay relationship?

In light of its first successful run, and in conjunction with Valentine’s Day, Oogachaga presents to you – Many Single Men II. This two day workshop provides a safe space for single individuals to explore and learn from each other.

Workshop Details

Date: 12 & 13 Feb 2011

Time: 2.00pm – 5.30pm

Fee: $30 per pax (inclusive of both days)

Register before 1st February 2011 for an early birds special – Only $25 per pax!

Venue for the talk will released via email to registered participants.

Seats are limited and registration is compulsory. Sign up on www.oogachaga.com/manysinglemen2!

Topics

- understand how your strengths can give your date or relationship a spark.

- discuss where and how you could find that special someone.

- explore with facilitators and participants, when it comes to dating, what works and what doesn’t.

- arm yourself with knowledge on how to ensure your well being while enjoying the excitement in finding the right one.

Structure

This two day workshop consists of individual work, small group discussions as well as exciting indoor activities.

About the facilitators

Bryan Choong has been a volunteer with Oogachaga since 2005. He has facilitated with OC Men Support Group (OCM) and is a key volunteer involved in setting up OCMSM Hotline. Bryan is now the full time Centre Manager and counsellor of Oogachaga. Alphonsus Lee has been a volunteer counsellor with Oogachaga since 2009. Alphonsus is also an active member in many other LGBT organisations in Singapore..

Comments from previous participants

- I enjoyed myself and at the same time gained insight into the many single gay men out there regarding issues close to heart.

- The interactive, laid back and easy manner of how the instructors conduct the workshop puts me and I suppose others at ease in sharing anecdotes of our lives that give insight to the dating game in the PLU circle and what to do and not to do.

- Three thumbs up to the trainer and workshop.

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Sadly I miss the registration timing. I have met myself one of the facilitator, Alphonsus Lee. He's such a nice guy to talk with. Last time I had a counselling session with him and I felt like he really listen to my story and that's the first time I felt really accepted as being gay. Should come....

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Sadly I miss the registration timing. I have met myself one of the facilitator, Alphonsus Lee. He's such a nice guy to talk with. Last time I had a counselling session with him and I felt like he really listen to my story and that's the first time I felt really accepted as being gay. Should come....

Hi K, you are always join us at the next event. :)

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Hi K, you are always join us at the next event. :)

Hello Bryan, I really enjoyed the first day of the workshop today! It was very well-conducted, all the facilitators and the crowd were very friendly, and the topics discussed were very relevant to my situation. Really glad I signed up for this workshop!! :)

(Shy Boy shall remain anonymous...)

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Hello Bryan, I really enjoyed the first day of the workshop today! It was very well-conducted, all the facilitators and the crowd were very friendly, and the topics discussed were very relevant to my situation. Really glad I signed up for this workshop!! :)

(Shy Boy shall remain anonymous...)

hahaha... okie. I shall pass your msg to the facilitators tomorrow. I am glad you enjoyed yourself today. Rest well and we will see you tomorrow. :)

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hahaha... okie. I shall pass your msg to the facilitators tomorrow. I am glad you enjoyed yourself today. Rest well and we will see you tomorrow. :)

Hi Briax, are you one of the facilitators? Are you an oogachaga volunteer counselor as well?

Btw, the next event, "Aging Gracefully & Gaily", is it only for those above 40?

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Hi Briax, are you one of the facilitators? Are you an oogachaga volunteer counselor as well?

Btw, the next event, "Aging Gracefully & Gaily", is it only for those above 40?

Hi K, I am one of the facilitator today. :) The Aging Gracefully and Gaily is currently full. Do join our mailing list on http://www.oogachaga.com/events and we can keep you updated on our events in March.

cheers...Bryan

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I must really say that I've enjoyed this workshop a lot although I was pretty much reserved. :) The facilitators did a really great job in bringing out each and every of the items for the workshop. I wish there could be more of these! Thanks guys. :)

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Will you be my valentine's? :D

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Yup~~ totally agree that the workshop is good. Although we nvr really mentioned in the end but I believed all have brought something home at least from the workshop. Personally I have learned to really get to know a person b4 giving him a pass. Who knows I might miss out someone great in the end. End of day pretty fun workshop and hope to go for the next :)

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I really liked these parts of the workshop:

1. different configurations of gay relationships (monogamous, open, sex buddies, serodiscordant);

2. the various stages of getting to know someone and doing things;

3. how you can discern what the other person is really like (by getting to observe him with his family and other friends etc).

This workshop was very relevant to my circumstances, and I would highly recommend it to all gay men as a general course in picking up dating skills.

Too shy to put my pick-up lines into practice just now, even though there were a few guys who I'd really like to get to know better. *knocks myself*

Anyway, great job Bryan, Alphonsus, Sheni and all the people at Oogachaga!! Special mention goes to that coordinator (sorry, forgot your name) who you mentioned started volunteering 6 months ago - thanks for hearing me on question 4 ("when should you start having sex?") and being completely non-judgmental.

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Too shy to put my pick-up lines into practice just now, even though there were a few guys who I'd really like to get to know better. *knocks myself*

Totally understand this haha, well there's always a next one! :)

Will you be my valentine's? :D

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I really liked these parts of the workshop:

1. different configurations of gay relationships (monogamous, open, sex buddies, serodiscordant);

2. the various stages of getting to know someone and doing things;

3. how you can discern what the other person is really like (by getting to observe him with his family and other friends etc).

This workshop was very relevant to my circumstances, and I would highly recommend it to all gay men as a general course in picking up dating skills.

Too shy to put my pick-up lines into practice just now, even though there were a few guys who I'd really like to get to know better. *knocks myself*

Anyway, great job Bryan, Alphonsus, Sheni and all the people at Oogachaga!! Special mention goes to that coordinator (sorry, forgot your name) who you mentioned started volunteering 6 months ago - thanks for hearing me on question 4 ("when should you start having sex?") and being completely non-judgmental.

hmmmmm qn 4? U from grp 4? if so I think u mean Kelvin :)... haha ya I still need alot of practices in picking up lines....I ended up blabbering haha...sorry to the guys who listen to my blabbering :P

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hmmmmm qn 4? U from grp 4? if so I think u mean Kelvin :)... haha ya I still need alot of practices in picking up lines....I ended up blabbering haha...sorry to the guys who listen to my blabbering :P

Question 4: "When should you start having sex (in a relationship)" - or something to that effect...

Hmm I wasn't from group 4, I was from group 3.

But I did go to Kelvin (?) during the break to discuss about it with him... :)

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I wanted to ask a question regarding relationship to a facilitator at the end of the session. Too bad I was slow and they oledi shut the door of the room for their post-mortem discussion. :(

Anyway, I guessed the memorable part of the workshop for me was how knowledgeable we could be on gay stuff such as social groups, websites and saunas during Day 1's quiz. :lol:

But doesn't mean I tried all of them! :P

"You like who you like lah. Who cares if someone likes the other someone because of their race? It's when they hate them. That's the problem."

Orked (acted by Sharifah Amani) in SEPET (2004, directed by Yasmin Ahmad)

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I wanted to ask a question regarding relationship to a facilitator at the end of the session. Too bad I was slow and they oledi shut the door of the room for their post-mortem discussion. :(

Anyway, I guessed the memorable part of the workshop for me was how knowledgeable we could be on gay stuff such as social groups, websites and saunas during Day 1's quiz. :lol:

But doesn't mean I tried all of them! :P

Hi folks, thank you so much for your words of encouragement and I am glad you enjoyed the workshop too! It was fun meeting you guys. There were many things we wished we could cover because had to forgo as we need to keep the workshop to a reasonable duration. But I am happy to be able to hear different views. Personally, I liked the speed dating part alot, especially when we saw that many of the more shy ones getting more open.

We should be doing another similar workshop in the later part of the year. Meanwhile, do join us at our upcoming events. Tell a friend about Oogachaga too!

And HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!

cheers...Bryan

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i enjoyed the workshop too but i find that $30 a bit expensive, especially with no finger food for refreshments for both days. The quiz on the first day for gay places etc etc was fun and an eye opener but it was obvious that the winning group had an unfair advantage because I recognized that they had the boss of a very famous gay shop on the team who pretended to be one of the participants.

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i enjoyed the workshop too but i find that $30 a bit expensive, especially with no finger food for refreshments for both days. The quiz on the first day for gay places etc etc was fun and an eye opener but it was obvious that the winning group had an unfair advantage because I recognized that they had the boss of a very famous gay shop on the team who pretended to be one of the participants.

Well the price could probably have gone to the printing, renting the place etc. Misc fees. Should have bought more cakes next time cos I saw that the biscuits are kinda having lots of leftovers.

This workshop is really good, hope to have more of these :)

Happy valentine's day everyone, hope u guys had enjoyed this special day. :)

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Will you be my valentine's? :D

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Singapore only got 2 famous gay shops, one New Urban Male, the other Sportsmen Asia, both of them employ cute salesboys, so should have many opportunities to makan sweet young things, so should leave such opportunties to rest of us. Anyway, how many people attended and are there many cuties? Any field reports?

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i enjoyed the workshop too but i find that $30 a bit expensive, especially with no finger food for refreshments for both days.

Probably if you've registered earlier, then you might get a bit of discount off the original price. That's what I did.

The quiz on the first day for gay places etc etc was fun and an eye opener but it was obvious that the winning group had an unfair advantage because I recognized that they had the boss of a very famous gay shop on the team who pretended to be one of the participants.

I am from the winning group of that quiz and I'm a first-time participant myself.

Can you describe which particular guy you're talking about?

"You like who you like lah. Who cares if someone likes the other someone because of their race? It's when they hate them. That's the problem."

Orked (acted by Sharifah Amani) in SEPET (2004, directed by Yasmin Ahmad)

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Singapore only got 2 famous gay shops, one New Urban Male, the other Sportsmen Asia, both of them employ cute salesboys, so should have many opportunities to makan sweet young things, so should leave such opportunties to rest of us. Anyway, how many people attended and are there many cuties? Any field reports?

lol... if you have attended then you wont have to wait for field report le wor. :)

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Well the price could probably have gone to the printing, renting the place etc. Misc fees. Should have bought more cakes next time cos I saw that the biscuits are kinda having lots of leftovers.

This workshop is really good, hope to have more of these :)

Happy valentine's day everyone, hope u guys had enjoyed this special day. :)

Hiya, we will definitely look into making it more enjoyable in the next run. :) Happy Post Valentine's Day.

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i enjoyed the workshop too but i find that $30 a bit expensive, especially with no finger food for refreshments for both days. The quiz on the first day for gay places etc etc was fun and an eye opener but it was obvious that the winning group had an unfair advantage because I recognized that they had the boss of a very famous gay shop on the team who pretended to be one of the participants.

lol... actually I can tell you that having that gay business boss there did not add to the advantages to the group. The fact is, the team is made up by rather experienced men by chance. :)

And the gay business boss also need to socialise apart from his workplace mah, so he is not there to pretend to be a participant. I see gay men all the time at work but that does not mean I get to know all of them personally. :)

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lol... actually I can tell you that having that gay business boss there did not add to the advantages to the group. The fact is, the team is made up by rather experienced men by chance. :)

And the gay business boss also need to socialise apart from his workplace mah, so he is not there to pretend to be a participant. I see gay men all the time at work but that does not mean I get to know all of them personally. :)

Actually I was thinking whether the boss was probably out of a relationship and gotten single again, that's why he came to the workshop. :P:lol:

Define 'experienced', Briax. I was kinda nervy on the first day when I joined the workshop. I bet Alphonsus can bear witness to that. :B)

"You like who you like lah. Who cares if someone likes the other someone because of their race? It's when they hate them. That's the problem."

Orked (acted by Sharifah Amani) in SEPET (2004, directed by Yasmin Ahmad)

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Actually I was thinking whether the boss was probably out of a relationship and gotten single again, that's why he came to the workshop. :P:lol:

Define 'experienced', Briax. I was kinda nervy on the first day when I joined the workshop. I bet Alphonsus can bear witness to that. :B)

Aiyo... up to your definition lo. Actually when I was much younger, I was also very shy. I remember when I first stepped into Mox, I instantly faded into the background and become a stool or a lamp. I wish noone will EVER notice me holding my drink like it is a fish tank. Also many years ago when I went to Inner Circle, the moment I opened the door, I had tens of eyes staring. After a while, I realised Inner Circle has its regulars so a newcomer is immediately recognised.

lol... we all had our learning experiences.

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Aiyo... up to your definition lo. Actually when I was much younger, I was also very shy. I remember when I first stepped into Mox, I instantly faded into the background and become a stool or a lamp. I wish noone will EVER notice me holding my drink like it is a fish tank. Also many years ago when I went to Inner Circle, the moment I opened the door, I had tens of eyes staring. After a while, I realised Inner Circle has its regulars so a newcomer is immediately recognised.

lol... we all had our learning experiences.

What is Mox and Inner Circle? Yeah i am very shy too in these scenarios. I rather not be noticed and blend in like a charisima-free individual in a crowd . lol.

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What is Mox and Inner Circle? Yeah i am very shy too in these scenarios. I rather not be noticed and blend in like a charisima-free individual in a crowd . lol.

haha... I am sure you had the same "No, you didnt see me, you didn't see me" thoughts each time you walk into the pub. The fact is, no one really looking at you. And if they do, you will be able to spot it. :)

Mox is now DYMK. :) The same people are now behind DYMK.

Inner Circle, it has closed for years but not too sure if the management is running any other pubs.

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haha... I am sure you had the same "No, you didnt see me, you didn't see me" thoughts each time you walk into the pub. The fact is, no one really looking at you. And if they do, you will be able to spot it. :)

Mox is now DYMK. :) The same people are now behind DYMK.

Inner Circle, it has closed for years but not too sure if the management is running any other pubs.

Yes yes u r spot on. And if i spot it first i'll make sure to make a move sumwhere to BE more elusive. Cld be an avoidance personality disorder LOL. is dymk an art gallery?

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