didi Posted August 20, 2011 Report Share Posted August 20, 2011 Helo everyone, I have been hunting for a local gay forum where i sincerely hope I can meet and gain new friends who are.... like me!!. Ive tried trevvy forums, just didnt work outttt...well maybe im not used to the format theý're using but anyways!!!Im 25 years old, and I do feel loserish sometimes not having a boyfriend...and at this age but oh well! haha. I know I must be the xxth number of newbie here in this forum. I just feel that I need to properly introduce myself rather than just jump in on a thread where nobody can see me haha. Ive browsed through some threads, not all, so it would be a matter of time before I start commenting and posting here and there I come from a conservative family background. I must admit that I dont know many gay guys in person (okay loser-ish factor number 2). I do have a best friend (we were working together a few years back) who is gay through and through but he is the only gay guy I know who is close to me in my life. I yearn to hang out with people like me. It is just not the same hanging out with lesbians and butches. True we are from the TGBL community and true we love the same gender and true we are all out for gay rights but we love different .....things......if you know what I mean. We just cant bring ourselves to squeal over a vagoo hot girl and for them to squeal over a penis hot guy. So this is where our difference lie. hahaI am also very discreet....okay not so discreetlah, I couldnt hide my excitement sometimes even when I am with my straight friends whom I was not out to. I suspect they know Im.....different although they're courteous enough not to mention or probe about it. Sometimes I do seriously think that, to be out in school can be really really risky. Especially at a younger age when most straight ones have this distorted perception about gays. Unless you are really a very confident person which I know Im not. oh wellssss.But sometimes it is hard being gay in society when you exhibit certain characteristics that the general public tend to wrongfully associate as being gay. My best friend is a very feminine guy whose dressing can be a bit too attention seeking. He doesnt cross dress but his mannerisms, people tend to turn around whenver he starts to speak. Sometimes he is oblivious to the stares he's getting everywhere he went. At first, I wasnt too comfortable with the stares but over time, I got used to it..And so one night we were at this 24 hours macdonald just chilling out and yakking away when suddenly this middle age Indian uncle came over and sat to the table next to us and started chatting with us. I was lilke okayyyy...and he went on talking about how important education is nowadays and stuff like dat. And then he started asking whether we are together or not. I gave a vehement no. I was getting annoyed already, and thats when he dropped the bomb. He wanted some sexual favors from both of us. I remembered telling him off that we're not that kind of people before we left the place. I mean seriously.Oh well. Im not saying all Indian uncles are bad though. But this one is definitely a bad egg. Im not saying that my life had always been like this but sometimes when it happened, you know you just feel like....you suck. It gets me down a bit.Okay I think I wrote too much haha I hope to get some replies and maybe some sharing of experiences too Quote I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted August 20, 2011 Report Share Posted August 20, 2011 i agreed to some of your sharing...but i was aghast by that uncle's behaviour!! goodness Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
icy_ter Posted August 20, 2011 Report Share Posted August 20, 2011 On 8/20/2011 at 2:13 PM, lovehandle said: i agreed to some of your sharing...but i was aghast by that uncle's behaviour!! goodnessMaybe when we turn older, we may become like them.life will change and character will change too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happy.99 Posted August 21, 2011 Report Share Posted August 21, 2011 when you are old and desperate, will do anything. when you are young, slim and fit, you think you conquered the world? you can afford to be choosy... but when you hit a certain age, things becomes different... people choose you, not you choose others.... u youngster may not thing of much is said here. but it is the truth... by the time you understand this... it is usually too late... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snowball Posted August 21, 2011 Report Share Posted August 21, 2011 to me, is the thinking that within not the age that counts, else no matter after 10 or 20 years, you still same, maturity still don't grow with age. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happy.99 Posted August 21, 2011 Report Share Posted August 21, 2011 we will always be constantly changing in our behavior. just like our parents, i have seen them for so many years and they have changed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
didi Posted August 21, 2011 Author Report Share Posted August 21, 2011 It is not about being young and choosy, in defence I feel. It is about the approach. I find it a bit off putting. You dont come grinning from ear to ear, in a public setting and saying something I remember "you know what I want" and winking. I think there must be some mutual respect there. So what am I supposed to say? Like wad, " Okay i noe ure old and horny, nevermindlah i help you" i dont thinkkk so.Another instance I remember is this old ah pek (who is my neighbour), who approached me for blowjob and offered to pay me 50 bucks. I felt a bit whorish like dat. To me I was thinking like, are we gays so easy to bait with money like that? True I am aware that some youngsters go around and you noe had some fun..well the double standard is there but Im sure the circumstances are different. In the case of this old ah pek,again, what am i supposed to do? Take the money and just give him a blowjob? Just because he is old and will do anything for sexual pleasure? Would you?I know this might not be a popular opinion but I just find that sex for pay is different from sex between lovers. Quote I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happy.99 Posted August 21, 2011 Report Share Posted August 21, 2011 actually i am not asking you to give him sex. i am just trying to explain to you things from another perspective. and i am not saying you are choosy either. i only feel that dun judge. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted August 21, 2011 Report Share Posted August 21, 2011 Yes i agreed with u but just wondering how come so many people approaching u like a magnet? On 8/21/2011 at 2:19 PM, didi said: It is not about being young and choosy, in defence I feel. It is about the approach. I find it a bit off putting. You dont come grinning from ear to ear, in a public setting and saying something I remember "you know what I want" and winking. I think there must be some mutual respect there. So what am I supposed to say? Like wad, " Okay i noe ure old and horny, nevermindlah i help you" i dont thinkkk so.Another instance I remember is this old ah pek (who is my neighbour), who approached me for blowjob and offered to pay me 50 bucks. I felt a bit whorish like dat. To me I was thinking like, are we gays so easy to bait with money like that? True I am aware that some youngsters go around and you noe had some fun..well the double standard is there but Im sure the circumstances are different. In the case of this old ah pek,again, what am i supposed to do? Take the money and just give him a blowjob? Just because he is old and will do anything for sexual pleasure? Would you? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
didi Posted August 21, 2011 Author Report Share Posted August 21, 2011 im nott sure myself though 0.0 Quote I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted August 21, 2011 Report Share Posted August 21, 2011 you must be quite "prominent" lah..Spore is a pathetic place, in Japan, there are cinemas where there are happening events ongoing......so those ah peks u mentioned dont hve to be so approachable towards you then... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
didi Posted August 21, 2011 Author Report Share Posted August 21, 2011 Haha i like the term 'prominent' but... Im very quiet outside and I dress normally. Maybe to people I act differently I guess? Quote I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bi_Gym Posted August 21, 2011 Report Share Posted August 21, 2011 from your pic can easily tell that you are very " special " & " prominent " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
didi Posted August 21, 2011 Author Report Share Posted August 21, 2011 sigh. should i kill myself now? Quote I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 dont have to kill yourself, kill those who approached u for favours.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
didi Posted August 22, 2011 Author Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 okay so the next question is....if let's say I am 'prominent' as you would say it...is that good or bad? Quote I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BoyInBoxers Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 On 8/21/2011 at 1:25 PM, happy.99 said: when you are old and desperate, will do anything. when you are young, slim and fit, you think you conquered the world? you can afford to be choosy... but when you hit a certain age, things becomes different... people choose you, not you choose others.... u youngster may not thing of much is said here. but it is the truth... by the time you understand this... it is usually too late... you already had your chance when you were young. I guess u didnt live yours to the fullest? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
waterballoon Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 On 8/22/2011 at 12:17 PM, BoyInBoxers said: you already had your chance when you were young. I guess u didnt live yours to the fullest?can/t really say that... some people even when young, barely have a choice. confused, discreet, ugly, fat, ugly and fat... not every young gay man is an adorable twink ready to mingle, flirt and know guys.. life as it is, has had people in its most unfortunate situations as well.even now, i don't dare to "choose people"... always think, it's good that someone is interested in me, i should be thankful for that... but of course i'm stupid and stubborn so i don't go for things that my heart doesn't want/like Quote "The two of us are living in the same era, believing in the same future Yesterday’s tears and today’s smiles will stay true We’ve experienced the same pain, we’ve gathered the same kindness And we’ll turn them into the strength to live on tomorrow" progress - ayumi hamasaki Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BoyInBoxers Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 On 8/22/2011 at 12:31 PM, waterballoon said: can/t really say that... some people even when young, barely have a choice. confused, discreet, ugly, fat, ugly and fat... not every young gay man is an adorable twink ready to mingle, flirt and know guys.. life as it is, has had people in its most unfortunate situations as well.even now, i don't dare to "choose people"... always think, it's good that someone is interested in me, i should be thankful for that... but of course i'm stupid and stubborn so i don't go for things that my heart doesn't want/likeI think everyone has different pref. So to some u may look ugly, to some u may look hot. I dunno la. Anyway my previous comment was specifically for happy.99 sorry if i offended u :/. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
waterballoon Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 On 8/22/2011 at 12:56 PM, BoyInBoxers said: I think everyone has different pref. So to some u may look ugly, to some u may look hot. I dunno la. Anyway my previous comment was specifically for happy.99 sorry if i offended u :/.it's fine... thinking from us the younger people, and people who are older will always have conflicts. i doubt we understand what they really want to mean, and i doubt they understand where we're coming from, so... oh well Quote "The two of us are living in the same era, believing in the same future Yesterday’s tears and today’s smiles will stay true We’ve experienced the same pain, we’ve gathered the same kindness And we’ll turn them into the strength to live on tomorrow" progress - ayumi hamasaki Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BoyInBoxers Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 On 8/22/2011 at 1:02 PM, waterballoon said: it's fine... thinking from us the younger people, and people who are older will always have conflicts. i doubt we understand what they really want to mean, and i doubt they understand where we're coming from, so... oh wellI just get annoyed when i see them rage over st Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BoyInBoxers Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 stuff like these* fk annoying. Oh shit why cant i edit post :l bw mobile smth wrong Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
waterballoon Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 maybe we will know when we're older.. perhaps, perhaps, perhaps Quote "The two of us are living in the same era, believing in the same future Yesterday’s tears and today’s smiles will stay true We’ve experienced the same pain, we’ve gathered the same kindness And we’ll turn them into the strength to live on tomorrow" progress - ayumi hamasaki Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BoyInBoxers Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 Im sure if we dress properly, stay presentable then you will be ok. not dress like some ahpek. Looking at happy.99 profile pic i sure know why u cant get anyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
waterballoon Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 On 8/22/2011 at 1:19 PM, BoyInBoxers said: Im sure if we dress properly, stay presentable then you will be ok. not dress like some ahpek. Looking at happy.99 profile pic i sure know why u cant get anyone.ouch... that was so mean of u! lol i think he was overseas in and in a cold environment la xD Quote "The two of us are living in the same era, believing in the same future Yesterday’s tears and today’s smiles will stay true We’ve experienced the same pain, we’ve gathered the same kindness And we’ll turn them into the strength to live on tomorrow" progress - ayumi hamasaki Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BoyInBoxers Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 hahaha fk :s ok maybe i was a little mean :S ! Aiya! But its true ok! :x! Lol! Maybe now winter wear is the in thing with uncles? Hahahah Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
waterballoon Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 On 8/22/2011 at 1:30 PM, BoyInBoxers said: hahaha fk :s ok maybe i was a little mean :S ! Aiya! But its true ok! :x! Lol! Maybe now winter wear is the in thing with uncles? HahahahLOL aren't u gonna wear winter wear when ur in a country that's having winter!? i'm gonna wear some this winter... hope that doesn't make me an uncle :S happy.99 1 Quote "The two of us are living in the same era, believing in the same future Yesterday’s tears and today’s smiles will stay true We’ve experienced the same pain, we’ve gathered the same kindness And we’ll turn them into the strength to live on tomorrow" progress - ayumi hamasaki Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BoyInBoxers Posted August 22, 2011 Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 On 8/22/2011 at 1:35 PM, waterballoon said: LOL aren't u gonna wear winter wear when ur in a country that's having winter!? i'm gonna wear some this winter... hope that doesn't make me an uncle :Shahaha ok! Maybe im just bitching too much! Lol! Winter wear is hooot on young people and a NOT on uncles :S Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
didi Posted August 22, 2011 Author Report Share Posted August 22, 2011 On 8/22/2011 at 1:19 PM, BoyInBoxers said: Im sure if we dress properly, stay presentable then you will be ok. not dress like some ahpek. Looking at happy.99 profile pic i sure know why u cant get anyone.boyinboxers happy.99 is sooo not going to be pleasedddd haha. All in all, Im sure he had some good time back then. As for me, oh well, I agree with waterballoon. How to choose when there's nobody to choose niaaa. Life Quote I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happy.99 Posted August 23, 2011 Report Share Posted August 23, 2011 (edited) On 8/22/2011 at 1:41 PM, BoyInBoxers said: hahaha ok! Maybe im just bitching too much! Lol! Winter wear is hooot on young people and a NOT on uncles :Swhen it is cold, have to wear mah. dun tell me even it is cold like 10 degree you still wear normal? then all the japanese are uncles or aunties isit?so may i point out another problem with teengers now? they think they are damn educated and comment on something when they do not really know the situation.i am most willing to debate this topic with all the youngster but there is no need to get personal by pointing out what i wear is uncle. what is wear got nothing to do with this topic. but the truths hurts isn't it? (abt me called uncle and what i wrote about youngsters) that is why everyone is reacting this way? Edited August 23, 2011 by happy.99 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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happy.99 Posted August 23, 2011 Report Share Posted August 23, 2011 On 8/22/2011 at 1:23 PM, waterballoon said: ouch... that was so mean of u! lol i think he was overseas in and in a cold environment la xDthank u waterballon for rescuing me! and boyinboxers don't mean okay! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BoyInBoxers Posted August 23, 2011 Report Share Posted August 23, 2011 On 8/23/2011 at 5:08 AM, happy.99 said: thank u waterballon for rescuing me! and boyinboxers don't mean okay!Sorry then, i was just pissed because i keep seeing the same thing over and over again. Like i said. If u stay presentable ad have a good personality. U can get someone. Sorry again happy. :/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted August 23, 2011 Report Share Posted August 23, 2011 On 8/23/2011 at 5:08 AM, happy.99 said: thank u waterballon for rescuing me! and boyinboxers don't mean okay!What you wear would be quite convenient and suitable in fall or spring in Paris, whatever your age! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happy.99 Posted August 23, 2011 Report Share Posted August 23, 2011 Dun worry. I will 'sort' it out with boyinboxers. I shall cut up all his boxers in revenge. Hahahaha. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
didi Posted August 23, 2011 Author Report Share Posted August 23, 2011 On 8/23/2011 at 7:59 AM, happy.99 said: Dun worry. I will 'sort' it out with boyinboxers. I shall cut up all his boxers in revenge. Hahahaha.I just hope he got spare briefs when all his boxers are gone haha Quote I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BoyInBoxers Posted August 23, 2011 Report Share Posted August 23, 2011 err huh? Lol wtf. Lmao. Go ahead. Its all yours to cut. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kage Posted August 23, 2011 Report Share Posted August 23, 2011 Haha cheer up and try to put more confidence into yourself man (: , confidence is the most attractive thing. If you have it, half the battle is won.Okay, I have something to confess. I think I am someone who is overly conscious about myself and I really have low self esteem but yeah...I act confident even though I'm not LOL. You might wanna try it xD! No harm trying and who knows! Your life might change ! , seriously the emoticons here are adorable LOL!Err, I think right, there's different clothes, colors, styles, patterns to suit different people who has different skin tone, height, body structure (: I'm not targetting anyone or anything but yeah xD just saying that you might wanna try to look for help on clothes that best brings out your pros and hide your cons. Why do I say this mm...because most of the people buy clothes and 'follow fashion' by wearing what they think looks nice. Okay like for example there are two hot models. Different body structure and skin tone, we can have a piece of hot pink shirt on one which makes him look really good and the same piece of shirt which can makes the other model look horrible.... (;゚Д゚) Quote You can complain that roses have thorns, or you can also rejoice that thorns have roses Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BoyInBoxers Posted August 23, 2011 Report Share Posted August 23, 2011 On 8/23/2011 at 8:36 AM, kaze said: Haha cheer up and try to put more confidence into yourself man (: , confidence is the most attractive thing. If you have it, half the battle is won.Okay, I have something to confess. I think I am someone who is overly conscious about myself and I really have low self esteem but yeah...I act confident even though I'm not LOL. You might wanna try it xD! No harm trying and who knows! Your life might change ! , seriously the emoticons here are adorable LOL!Err, I think right, there's different clothes, colors, styles, patterns to suit different people who has different skin tone, height, body structure (: I'm not targetting anyone or anything but yeah xD just saying that you might wanna try to look for help on clothes that best brings out your pros and hide your cons. Why do I say this mm...because most of the people buy clothes and 'follow fashion' by wearing what they think looks nice. Okay like for example there are two hot models. Different body structure and skin tone, we can have a piece of hot pink shirt on one which makes him look really good and the same piece of shirt which can makes the other model look horrible.... (;゚Д゚)omg kaze! Why are u so fking cute? Seriously! Hahahaha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
didi Posted August 23, 2011 Author Report Share Posted August 23, 2011 ah i have to agree with you kaze...some clothes look good on certain body types. u have to exercise some discretion i suppose. Like for example, if ure not-so-tall, like myself, then avoid horizontal striped shirts.Im sure there is a way to make yourself look good Quote I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kage Posted August 23, 2011 Report Share Posted August 23, 2011 On 8/23/2011 at 8:42 AM, BoyInBoxers said: omg kaze! Why are u so fking cute? Seriously! Hahahahalol hahaha!!! Don't make me blush can! On 8/23/2011 at 8:48 AM, didi said: ah i have to agree with you kaze...some clothes look good on certain body types. u have to exercise some discretion i suppose. Like for example, if ure not-so-tall, like myself, then avoid horizontal striped shirts. Im sure there is a way to make yourself look good Yeahhhh!! orz...haiz, haven't been exercising that much recently, put on a bit of weight gosh oh no! But oh well, for now just gotta keep wearing black, small and long vertical lines LOL!P.s. life's short smile a little more! Sorry LOL, couldn't resist trying this! Quote You can complain that roses have thorns, or you can also rejoice that thorns have roses Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happy.99 Posted August 23, 2011 Report Share Posted August 23, 2011 Can I say that we have to dress our age? Have you seen an uncle in young flashy clothes? Looks terriblly gay right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
didi Posted August 23, 2011 Author Report Share Posted August 23, 2011 No lahh.. Being fashionable does not equate to wearing flashy clothes. You can wear simple but still be fashionably chic. yaahhOH!! i have to disagree that age slowly takes away your looks over the years. There was this malay uncle I saw with his head all white and can tell he is probably in mid 30s or 40s with faint lines at the corner of his eyes and all. And he still looks handsome u noe!!! and can tell he still got it if you know what i mean. Being younger, Im like...ashamed. haha.So it depends. Not all older men are ugly and not all young ones are good looking either Quote I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth I whip my hair back and forth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happy.99 Posted August 23, 2011 Report Share Posted August 23, 2011 Very important to maintain oneself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kage Posted August 23, 2011 Report Share Posted August 23, 2011 Ikr, don't really need to wear until like those hip hop and what not , just some really classic and simple kind. Quote You can complain that roses have thorns, or you can also rejoice that thorns have roses Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happy.99 Posted August 23, 2011 Report Share Posted August 23, 2011 (edited) I think must Change my pic. If not gena branded as uncle. Edited August 23, 2011 by happy.99 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BoyInBoxers Posted August 23, 2011 Report Share Posted August 23, 2011 lol. Can we just stop the uncle and youth thing. I fking take bad what i said just now. Ummm uncles are yummy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happy.99 Posted August 23, 2011 Report Share Posted August 23, 2011 (edited) I was not digging at you boyinboxer. If someone can say that means that there is some truth in it. So I have to change the way I dress Loh. Lol. Edited August 23, 2011 by happy.99 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adriel Posted August 23, 2011 Report Share Posted August 23, 2011 HARLOWS :smokin: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blacque Posted August 23, 2011 Report Share Posted August 23, 2011 Lol queer conversation going on in this thread... Quote Instagram: vodkabaker Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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