Buaya Posted March 5, 2007 Report Share Posted March 5, 2007 I was with my family during 元宵 for dinner at a restaurant near 17... And we saw a big PLU gathering. I dun even know it is a PLU gathering until I noticed my siblngs started to talk about themselves while pointing to the group. Then I saw the guys kissing one another... Needless to say, my siblings were disgusted and they were talking bad about the group throughout the dinner... Even pointing to the guys when they were leaving in groups to go toilet (though I tell you, most of them are gorgeous, and I saw my JC friend amongst them...)This topic might generate some bad remarks, thus I post here... What are your views on PLU gatherings in public places? Some of us had a gathering earlier also... We did end up talking about men and sex... And I wonder how many of us are actually a little uncomfortable talking about such topics in public, for all to hear. And also, public display of affection, like holding hands and kissing etc...One one hand, I would love to do that... But one another, I feel very conscious and worry about what others will think and say about me... Just like what my siblings were saying about the group of young men... Quote Visit me @ http://ibuaya.blogspot.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oralb Posted March 5, 2007 Report Share Posted March 5, 2007 personally gathering is fine, why should we be embarrass?however PDA (public display of affections) should be kept to the min, that applies to hetro couples gathering as well. Quote When I Think It, I Do It, I Win It! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest artemov Posted March 5, 2007 Report Share Posted March 5, 2007 I thought our group was pretty decent, during both gatherings in fact.Ok maybe a few of us had slightly loud voices, and liked to talk about sex too much Much as I want to, I didn't even dare to touch people leh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GachiMuchi Posted March 5, 2007 Report Share Posted March 5, 2007 Frankly, I wouldn't be bothered what others think. We have as much rights to be there as the other customers. We pay for our drinks and we were not obstructing or disturbing others, why should we feel awkward in public places.But I do agree that PDA is best kept minimum as a form or courtesy and respect for others around us. Then again, I will tell people like "N" and "C" (Initial used to protect the innocent) to get a room if I see them sticking together like glue and showing too much affection in public, which one would not be aware when they are so 'closed". Still if they are comfortable with their orientation, I don't see why can't they hold hands, etc. Quote http://gachimuchi2008.blogspot.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nicefatboy Posted March 7, 2007 Report Share Posted March 7, 2007 This is a general statement and refers to noone in particular. Yes everyone should be themselves but do be considerate as your being yourself with PDAs may "OUT" the whole group. Not everyone is as open or as comfortable with their sexuality. I guess just be mindful of others' feelings. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tic-toc Posted March 9, 2007 Report Share Posted March 9, 2007 I think straight people in Singapore are quite tolerant towards AJ groups. I would also like to think that Buaya's relatives /siblings would not mind or be bothered if the AJ group besides them behaved in a more acceptable manner. Let's face it, even if a heterosexual couple opening kissing each other, constantly hugging in a restaurant, talking loudly also draws some remarks and attracts disapproval from others. Quote If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Buaya Posted March 9, 2007 Author Report Share Posted March 9, 2007 They were saying words like 'disgusting', 'Eee...', "they are gay', 'all gay men like that one', etc... I just pretend I was too busy to engage in their pin pointing and fault finding...I think most hetero people are tolerant, but when we talk about men too loudly or kiss/hold hands/hug tightly etc too often, it invites them to talk bad about us... Unfortunate, but... Quote Visit me @ http://ibuaya.blogspot.com Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dragonboater Posted March 9, 2007 Report Share Posted March 9, 2007 My view is that we should just be ourselves and not be too worried about what others say. If we are sisterly, then so be it. If we are manly, then so be it. If I want to kiss my boyfriend (and he's cool with it), then I should just be able to go ahead with it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skylancer Posted March 9, 2007 Report Share Posted March 9, 2007 dragonboater said: My view is that we should just be ourselves and not be too worried about what others say. If we are sisterly, then so be it. If we are manly, then so be it. If I want to kiss my boyfriend (and he's cool with it), then I should just be able to go ahead with it. I agree.As long as we just be normal of ourselves, they got their eyes and mouth to talk about anything they like. Wat can we say? Words come from their mouth. Just be normal. just like today, i just carelessly knock a 50+ old guy while i walk along a crowded bus stop. I tot of saying sorry to him, but in the end he just scold " shit you" Which turns me off, and i just walk off.. (why care ppl talking? wat a waste of time..that is wat i think on that time) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest artemov Posted March 9, 2007 Report Share Posted March 9, 2007 skylancer said: just like today, i just carelessly knock a 50+ old guy while i walk along a crowded bus stop. I tot of saying sorry to him, but in the end he just scold " shit you" Which turns me off, and i just walk off.. (why care ppl talking? wat a waste of time..that is wat i think on that time) Yes. I think Singaporeans are getting ruder and more touchy these days.Can't imagine when the population reaches 6.5 millions with the PRCs and the Indians thrown in for a good mix. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
akated Posted March 9, 2007 Report Share Posted March 9, 2007 kindness begets kindness, and evil begets evil.i wish one day, singapore will reach the level of graciousness of most european countries, including gay-acceptance. seems like a lost cause, though Quote jingle-bitch screwed me overgo to hell jingle-whorego to hellgo to hellgo to he-l-l Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skylancer Posted March 18, 2007 Report Share Posted March 18, 2007 akated said: kindness begets kindness, and evil begets evil.i wish one day, singapore will reach the level of graciousness of most european countries, including gay-acceptance. seems like a lost cause, though I also looking forward for that too...Let's pray...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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