Zenotonedark Posted February 4, 2012 Report Share Posted February 4, 2012 Just asking around to see that if anyone ever,given a thought of becoming straight, by looking for a GF, or to engage sexual activities with a girl, as sometimes its hard to keep up with an AJ R/S and BFs are usually short term R/S for me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justme3212 Posted February 4, 2012 Report Share Posted February 4, 2012 I thot of. But finally accepted who i am... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mango_juice Posted February 4, 2012 Report Share Posted February 4, 2012 all those activities does not turn u straight... it only masks ur orientation Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allegro Posted February 4, 2012 Report Share Posted February 4, 2012 (edited) You're asking gays to be intimate with a girl? I think they'll rather shave head and be a monk I guess you are bi, because gays will never think of being intimate with girls.If you're still sexually aroused by girls, then ok. If not, not adviceable as you'll end up hurting yourself and your partner. Edited February 4, 2012 by Allegro Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zenotonedark Posted February 4, 2012 Author Report Share Posted February 4, 2012 all those activities does not turn u straight... it only masks ur orientationI meant it in a way that at some point you just need to get married and start a family with kids . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zenotonedark Posted February 4, 2012 Author Report Share Posted February 4, 2012 (edited) You're asking gays to be intimate with a girl? I think they'll rather shave head and be a monk Unless you are bi, which means girls still attract you sexually, do not take that path. You'll end up hurting yourself and your partner.Don't you get tired of begin gay sometimes? Like you see your friends engaging themselve in a convers and talk about their GF, while on the other hand you have a BF, if you get what i mean -- Edited February 4, 2012 by Zenotonedark Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allegro Posted February 4, 2012 Report Share Posted February 4, 2012 (edited) Don't you get tired of begin gay sometimes? Like you see your friends engaging themselve in a convers and talk about their GF, while on the other hand you have a BF, if you get what i meanMaybe that's why most of my BFF are girls I feel that we have a more common topic XD Edited February 4, 2012 by Allegro Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EasleyLim Posted February 4, 2012 Report Share Posted February 4, 2012 Just asking around to see that if anyone ever,given a thought of becoming straight, by looking for a GF, or to engage sexual activities with a girl, as sometimes its hard to keep up with an AJ R/S and BFs are usually short term R/S for me.I've thought of trying that actually, to see if I'm REALLY gay or bi. My motto for life is always don't knock it till you've tried it. Unless it's obviously harmful lah. Quote   Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoolBelow Posted February 4, 2012 Report Share Posted February 4, 2012 I'm bi but I'm constantly trying to pull myself away from the gay side and gain more interest in girls instead.. Zenotonedark 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zenotonedark Posted February 4, 2012 Author Report Share Posted February 4, 2012 I'm bi but I'm constantly trying to pull myself away from the gay side and gain more interest in girls instead..Why? Just asking, cause i am kinda doing the same thing here my reason is that i want something concrete not short term or ONS. Either gender works for me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zenotonedark Posted February 4, 2012 Author Report Share Posted February 4, 2012 Maybe that's why most of my BFF are girls I feel that we have a more common topic XDI feel the same why too, sometimes its rather confusing for me as if i get too close to a F i will so call depend on her n she'll depend on me, so i am like thinking why not make use of this closure? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
charlie Posted February 4, 2012 Report Share Posted February 4, 2012 Why? Just asking, cause i am kinda doing the same thing here my reason is that i want something concrete not short term or ONS. Either gender works for me sigh i get what you feel! I liked a girl during jc but i just didnt tell her that and eventually it faded to nothing. she got a bf, but recently broke up. thats the closest i ever got to 'turning straight'. after tt i got slightly confused but i think what matters more is a partner whom you can trust and live your life with. there are guys out there with long and strong relationships w their bfs and i'm happy yet envious of them loneslones22 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keyboard Posted February 4, 2012 Report Share Posted February 4, 2012 Having a relationship is tough as hell. The good part is just part of the package, it comes with a lot of patience, compromise and understanding. You need to know what you want and can give in a relationship and the rest will follow. Either guy or girl. Good Luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoolBelow Posted February 4, 2012 Report Share Posted February 4, 2012 Why? Just asking, cause i am kinda doing the same thing here my reason is that i want something concrete not short term or ONS. Either gender works for me I want to be perceived as normal by people. I don't want to be different. I want to do what usual married men do. I want to have my own kids. I want to fill the role as a husband in a family. To be frank I am tired of being oriented towards homosexuality and how people negatively perceive homosexuals even though they were born that way. Few people would understand that homosexuality and bisexuality is not something that people choose to have or not to have.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomentoMori Posted February 4, 2012 Report Share Posted February 4, 2012 Why? Just asking, cause i am kinda doing the same thing here my reason is that i want something concrete not short term or ONS. Either gender works for me Dear Zenotonedark,When you say "...i am kinda doing the same thing here my reason is that i want some concrete not short term or ONS...", the 'same thing' you're referring to is to veer away from your homosexual tendencies and try to be more inclined towards a heterosexual orientation. Then you follow that up with "Either gender works for me".Perhaps you're unaware of the contradiction but it would appear to me that you are confused.What is it that you want? A relationship or a heterosexual relationship? Your initial post indicated that you were looking for a relationship that would last. Somehow, as the thread progressed, there seems to be an implication that you wanted to be in a heterosexual relationship. I'm not saying that there's no relation between the two concepts but they are distinct concepts. A heterosexual relationship has the potential to be longer lasting than a homosexual relationship due to a variety of factors, with social acceptance being the most prominent. Yet if you ask any of your straight friends or make your own observations from the news, there are many cases of infidelity in heterosexual relationships and heterosexual relationships are not as stable as you presumed them to be.In that case if you want to venture onto the straight path for a steady relationship, it's not going to be much better than a homosexual relationship. I meant it in a way that at some point you just need to get married and start a family with kids . The aforementioned statement is what I'm concerned about. The fact that you said that getting married and starting a family is a need. That, coupled with the earlier statement that you are trying to pull away from your homosexual tendencies, strongly suggests that the issue is not about having a steady relationship but rather, whether it is better to be straight.My question to you then is this: how comfortable are you with your orientation? Like what keyboard said Having a relationship is tough as hell. The good part is just part of the package, it comes with a lot of patience, compromise and understanding. You need to know what you want and can give in a relationship and the rest will follow. Either guy or girl. Good Luck. If you are unwilling to embrace your orientation, you are always going to have relationship issues; it doesn't matter whether it's homosexual or heterosexual. What you need to do is to accept yourself for who you are. Cliched as it may be but if you can't accept yourself, how do you expect others to accept you? Quote Everyone has opinions but whether they are justifiable is another issue. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
darkflame Posted February 5, 2012 Report Share Posted February 5, 2012 What does make an interesting point of study for me is, guys who always thought they were gay and after a freak sex encounter with girls, realised they prefer girls to guys. Quote I'm always running after you. You are my ideal. You are me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Magicerife Posted February 5, 2012 Report Share Posted February 5, 2012 only through understanding can there be acceptance. only with acceptance can there be recovery. dilemma and internal conflict no more. Quote ---Dignity is a facade we wear to hide our ignorance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
loveseeker Posted February 5, 2012 Report Share Posted February 5, 2012 I too wish to have my own family and kids. I know I can force myself to marry a girl and perhaps will have kids with her. But for sure I know I will never love her as deep as loving my bf Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
confused_indie Posted February 6, 2012 Report Share Posted February 6, 2012 Well said Keyboard!Having a relationship is tough as hell. The good part is just part of the package, it comes with a lot of patience, compromise and understanding. You need to know what you want and can give in a relationship and the rest will follow. Either guy or girl. Good Luck. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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