Guest TS Posted May 31, 2012 Report Share Posted May 31, 2012 being a gay versatile means u can either top or bottom; some equal, some top more, some bottom more.so how do versatiles look out for their partners? in most cases, bottoms are attracted to those more manly, more muscular ("superior") whereas its the opposite for tops. so what do versatiles look out for? what kind of guys will they look at in public?versatiles do not seem to have a clear 'stereotype'. they can find a top, bottom or another vers to be in a relationship. when two vers are in a relationship, how do they define their roles? what is the mindset of a versatile - dominant or submissive? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
derryfawne Posted May 31, 2012 Report Share Posted May 31, 2012 If you're referring to a relationship partner... I don't consciously filter out people just because they are a top, or a bot, or vers.If you meant sex partner.... that might be a different story. Quote “Do not take life too seriously. You’ll never get out of it alive.” — Elbert Hubbard Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EasleyLim Posted May 31, 2012 Report Share Posted May 31, 2012 Any person that tickles their fancy at that particular moment?If they're versatile, it probably means they like to be both bottom and top or whatever. It's like asking someone who likes to eat both chicken and beef, how do they determine what they want to eat, what kind of chicken/beef do they like to eat etc. It sounds so inane when people ask that kind of question, lol. And honestly, what is it with the fascination of who's the Man or the Woman in the r/s. Why squeeze yourself into a traditional marriage mold when we're obviously not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Silveriot Posted May 31, 2012 Report Share Posted May 31, 2012 not really. some times i feel that its very complicated. talking about relationship sense lah, since for flexes (?) sex is more or less anything goes.its like some days i want to eat chicken, some days i want to eat pork. i am fine with eating chicken but i cannot stand the idea of eating -only- chicken for the rest of my life, i need some pork on some days too. or vice versa.wtf am i talking about. ._.aiyah its more like some days i want to be the person in-charge, somedays i want someone to be in charge of me, somedays i want to pamper my bf but somedays i want to be pampered instead. so i guess when flexes get into r/s, they prefer another flex to take turns in exchanging roles.i guess it becomes more trickier with the top/flex and flex/bottom combo.but to answer TS's qn, i guess what i really want is another flex who behaves like me, somedays give somedays receive. switching active/passive roles as the mood fits.(much like paradigm shifts, anyone? TOP/BTM/FLX ) <- sure not many ppl can get this reference. =) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EasleyLim Posted May 31, 2012 Report Share Posted May 31, 2012 not really. some times i feel that its very complicated. talking about relationship sense lah, since for flexes (?) sex is more or less anything goes.its like some days i want to eat chicken, some days i want to eat pork. i am fine with eating chicken but i cannot stand the idea of eating -only- chicken for the rest of my life, i need some pork on some days too. or vice versa.wtf am i talking about. ._.aiyah its more like some days i want to be the person in-charge, somedays i want someone to be in charge of me, somedays i want to pamper my bf but somedays i want to be pampered instead. so i guess when flexes get into r/s, they prefer another flex to take turns in exchanging roles.i guess it becomes more trickier with the top/flex and flex/bottom combo.but to answer TS's qn, i guess what i really want is another flex who behaves like me, somedays give somedays receive. switching active/passive roles as the mood fits.(much like paradigm shifts, anyone? TOP/BTM/FLX ) <- sure not many ppl can get this reference. =)So the answer is simply "whatever I feel like being that day lor"Oh and Hope is definitely a BTM. His stats are more suited to being a BTM than TOP (That's Snow). Lightning is just BDS (Bad Ass). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Silveriot Posted May 31, 2012 Report Share Posted May 31, 2012 (edited) So the answer is simply "whatever I feel like being that day lor"Oh and Hope is definitely a BTM. His stats are more suited to being a BTM than TOP (That's Snow). Lightning is just BDS (Bad Ass).HAHA. yah but i want to find someone who also "whatever i feel like being that day" with me lor.FLX/FLX/FLX? defiitely a TRI-disaster.oh but at the end of the game, u can expand Hope to be a TOP and SNOW to be a BTM too with enough CP. =) Edited May 31, 2012 by Silveriot Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EasleyLim Posted May 31, 2012 Report Share Posted May 31, 2012 HAHA. yah but i want to find someone who also "whatever i feel like being that day" with me lor.FLX/FLX/FLX? defiitely a TRI-disaster.oh but at the end of the game, u can expand Hope to be a TOP and SNOW to be a BTM too with enough CP. =)Not in my head canon, lol. I think Sazh is FLX leh. FLX/TOP/BTM = WIN! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Silveriot Posted May 31, 2012 Report Share Posted May 31, 2012 sorry to TS for hijack. LOL. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted May 31, 2012 Report Share Posted May 31, 2012 If you're referring to a relationship partner... I don't consciously filter out people just because they are a top, or a bot, or vers.If you meant sex partner.... that might be a different story.but as a flex, even when it comes to sex partner, u dun filter people as well right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
warlock88 Posted May 31, 2012 Report Share Posted May 31, 2012 i'm versatile too but i'd prefer a top for relationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted June 1, 2012 Report Share Posted June 1, 2012 not really. some times i feel that its very complicated. talking about relationship sense lah, since for flexes (?) sex is more or less anything goes.its like some days i want to eat chicken, some days i want to eat pork. i am fine with eating chicken but i cannot stand the idea of eating -only- chicken for the rest of my life, i need some pork on some days too. or vice versa.wtf am i talking about. ._.aiyah its more like some days i want to be the person in-charge, somedays i want someone to be in charge of me, somedays i want to pamper my bf but somedays i want to be pampered instead. so i guess when flexes get into r/s, they prefer another flex to take turns in exchanging roles.i guess it becomes more trickier with the top/flex and flex/bottom combo.but to answer TS's qn, i guess what i really want is another flex who behaves like me, somedays give somedays receive. switching active/passive roles as the mood fits.(much like paradigm shifts, anyone? TOP/BTM/FLX ) <- sure not many ppl can get this reference. =)I can relate to u. I am sexually attracted to more manly muscular guys and would want them to top me.However i am also sexually attracted to cute boyish fit bottoms and get alot of satisfaction f*cking them.Relationship wise, i wouldnt want to be with a top because i wanna take charge and be dominant at times. However, i have no desire to be with a bottom long term because i also wanna feel pampered and be submissive at times. I think that is the situation of a versatile. Sometimes i do wish i am exclusively one role. Maybe the ideal partner for a versatile would be a fellow versatile who understand each other the best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pornoG Posted June 1, 2012 Report Share Posted June 1, 2012 flex. love flip flop. prefers a flex too. at time love to fxxk hot btm, at times, love to get pampered too n being dominated. haha. mm.. so i am really confused when some fellow on grindr or jack'd asked, i replied with flex and they still can ask more to top or btm... mmmmm.... it's just fxxk! -,-" Quote juz shoot! Make every frame counts! www.instagram.com/dphotogsg Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeannyShortcake Posted June 1, 2012 Report Share Posted June 1, 2012 Flip flop <3What's wrong with both?I have days when I act more manly,more soft,more generous,more strict,more bitchy,e.t.c.It's so much fun.Rather than sticking to the stereotypes of TOP MAN BTM WOMAN ya know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Silveriot Posted June 1, 2012 Report Share Posted June 1, 2012 I can relate to u. I am sexually attracted to more manly muscular guys and would want them to top me.However i am also sexually attracted to cute boyish fit bottoms and get alot of satisfaction f*cking them.Relationship wise, i wouldnt want to be with a top because i wanna take charge and be dominant at times. However, i have no desire to be with a bottom long term because i also wanna feel pampered and be submissive at times. I think that is the situation of a versatile. Sometimes i do wish i am exclusively one role. Maybe the ideal partner for a versatile would be a fellow versatile who understand each other the best.hahaha i feel exactly the same way as you!Maybe thats why its best to find a cute muscular boyish guy so that u feel both like fxxking him and being fxxked by him!You can have your cake and eat it too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blacque Posted June 2, 2012 Report Share Posted June 2, 2012 I can relate to u. I am sexually attracted to more manly muscular guys and would want them to top me.However i am also sexually attracted to cute boyish fit bottoms and get alot of satisfaction f*cking them.Relationship wise, i wouldnt want to be with a top because i wanna take charge and be dominant at times. However, i have no desire to be with a bottom long term because i also wanna feel pampered and be submissive at times. I think that is the situation of a versatile. Sometimes i do wish i am exclusively one role.Maybe the ideal partner for a versatile would be a fellow versatile who understand each other the best.Who says 'tops' cannot be pampered? Quote Instagram: vodkabaker Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Justin Posted April 9, 2022 Report Share Posted April 9, 2022 More often, i would like topping muscular and manly gays and also bottom to them. No to effem and emo gays. A big turn off. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
singalion Posted April 9, 2022 Report Share Posted April 9, 2022 15 years later.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
singalion Posted April 9, 2022 Report Share Posted April 9, 2022 (edited) What I learned some initial sexual roles shift with time. The pure top changes to a vers with time. I even met initial btms that changed to tops only. I think it goes through such gay/straight phases and you will end up at one side. With vers guys I have a problem if they don't know their preferred role. As a top you intend to meet someone who is ready to be bottom, but then the vers tells you he doesn't feel for anal or didn't do long. Can spoil your mood. Also frustrating can be at apps if you ask whether they tend more to be vers top or vers btm but no real answer is given. I prefer my sex partner to know his role. Edited April 9, 2022 by singalion Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
singalion Posted April 9, 2022 Report Share Posted April 9, 2022 (edited) On 4/9/2022 at 11:18 PM, Guest Justin said: More often, i would like topping muscular and manly gays and also bottom to them. No to effem and emo gays. A big turn off. In a gay forum we shouldn't harp on such stereotypes. Boy , we're in 2022! in my culture we say "There is a cover for every pot". Meaning: Everyone has his match. Don't use such deragatory words on other gays. Let everyone live the way he choses to live! Edited April 9, 2022 by singalion Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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