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[sotongball]

Pilot: The one with the most crap

Hi all!

Not sure whether I am posting at the correct section of the forum or not... But basically i wanna revisit what I have written in the past, some of you guys might find things I'm gonna post familiar because some of these "thoughts" or blogs some call them, were previously from another forum and had disappear into the thin air for whatever reason.

My objective here is to basically to jot down my perspectives on certain aspect of life, and ya certain level of interactivity is fine here I supposed because that's what foruming's about. But I hope readers do respond productively to my postings and not JUDGE, nor thinking I'm targetting anyone in particular here. Peace V

Alright... let's start the ball rolling.

[sotongball]

The One about Mr Right

Well I guess sometimes when we like someone, the distance between both of us becomes the slightest of the matter, no matter how late and how tired you might be at the very end of the day (/night), you'd seize the chance just to be together for an hour even when it's like 3am!

Hmm something I've learnt is that though the only thing you care about is to meet him, spend time with him, you must also plan ahead of time, e.g. will you miss an important work appointment? any other commitment you have? etc etc. Yaloh, Economics concept of opportunity cost applies here.

Also, always saddened by the fact that pairing of complementary couples does not always exist, what this means is that sometimes we got so tired of looking and searching for Mr. Right and often just settle for whoever that came into our lives, simple test here: how many of your bf come close to what you would have ideally hope for?

There are cases where couples learn to deal with each other and love each other and perhaps change for the better, but what happens when one fateful day one of you found his Mr. Right?

i)Do you decide that "ya I love my that-one very much", forgo Mr. Right, live on with your bf and have your desire for Mr. Right unfulfilled?

ii)Or are you ready to say "***k off" to your poor bf(remember, to him you might be "Mr. Right") and live happily ever after with Mr. Right?

iii)Ultimately, you can do a double, triple, quadraple cross when more and more bits and pieces of Mr. Right comes along!

That explains why some couples decide to go for OPEN relationship, while others can't even last for months or weeks. Not in any right to say that open relationship or rushed relationship is acceptable or not, just hope that we think twice, if not three times, of our ability to handle the consequences, the avoidable troubles, stress + blah blah blah if we decide to go into aforementioned relationships. Afterall, no harm being single, free and easy

Waiting for Mr. Right to be available... :whistle:

[Asura]

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[oralb]

Hi SotongBall:

welcome to keep your balls rolling

yes that's what forum is for, to keep a place for you to write out your feelings.

now the Mr Right concept. i would say it is pretty hard (not impossible though) coz you need to have the right man, right place at the right time.

there are many schools of thinking, for example

shouldnt look for the mr right but to love a person the right way.

you have to judge for yourself coz it is your life.

lastly while u are waiting for Mr right, are you prepared to be the Mr right he is seeking as well?

[Triple8]

now the Mr Right concept. i would say it is pretty hard (not impossible though) coz you need to have the right man, right place at the right time.

there are many schools of thinking, for example

shouldnt look for the mr right but to love a person the right way.

I totally agree wiht OB. It really depends on the right time and right place. there seems to be some Mr Right at various points of our lives. So who is more right??

As OB also mentioned it is not to look for a MR RIGHT but to love him the right way. It should be when either party makes things RIGHT when things go WRONG! This is when both of u found the right MR RIGHT !!

[sotongball]

wah so many more replies than i've expected.

Didn't expect some personal attacks here... thanks OM

I just find it amusing that even preachers don't practice what they preach - biggest irony of life. But perhaps the experienced will have more things to comment about, while I'm just here to share some of my personal thoughts.

*plug into my iPod and listen to U2's Love and Peace*

[sotongball]

The One with Playing Hard To Get

Well, admit it or not, that always happen when people who are not exactly our type (still got room for possibility though) like us so damn much. We keep them in suspense, not wanting to tell them "no" directly and even appear lukewarm to them despite their burning hot pursuits for us.

Been very very guilty of that for quite a fair lot of times myself

Of course fate who tries to be fair would turn the table on us, well sometimes we encounter some hard to get people too

Not to forget those kuku ones who like each other so much and yet both play hard to get.

I don't deny this is basic human nature - selfishness. Well we always keep a lookout for the best that we can get don't we? But at the same time I've learnt to be more honest with each other, whether they can handle the truth or not it's none of anyone else's business

Say it in a nice way though, don't just ask them to fcuk off straight away lah. Take time to explain to them, go have a cup of coffee... Not even God knows you might even be interested in knowing him more after a chat!

When it happens to ourselves? Well take it easy lah, two very real possibilities: either he has someone better in mind or you've gotta try harder next time loh. hint: look at the mirror, take action, work for it.

Oh ya, one more thing, sometimes it's not that they don't want you, just that they can't have you YET, hopefully.

Hey things that come easy go even easier k.

[Asura]

Me apologise to SotongBall. I mean it a joke.

[sotongball]

The One on Socialising

Wow... It's been close to a month since my last entry here. Been neglecting this thread for good... Guess I wasn't inspired to write just about anything, or is it that I simply don't have the initiative to type down some thoughts that came across my mind and just let it go like any cuties I bump into but don't dare to approach them. Sorry I digressed...

In any case, I'm typing this entry in the bus, yeah on the way back to KL now. Think it's only when I'm cut off from the outside world and the internet that I find time in attempting to write another entry. Ok ok -in short- I've been spending too much time "living the moment" and totally forgotten to sit back and recuperate, and do some reflections on my own.

I find myself going more often than ever nowadays, dinner with friends after work is the norm and I see spending time at home over the weekend a waste of time. Heck, I can't even fork out time for my passion, sex--- oops, I mean gaming. (Slip of tongue... )

Never occurred to me one year ago I can be such a social animal, I was that anti-social geek who keep to himself in class day dreaming away, playing video games by himself whenever he got a chance to, going to the gym everyday without a gym buddy, spending the rest of the time straining his vocal chords in the group that he doesn't even like to hang out with. My oh my, what has time done to me?

Not that I wish to revert back to the way life way for me, in fact I pretty much like to just leave it all behind. It's just that sometimes I wish to just be alone without the social obligations to spend so much time with my friends. No no, don't get me wrong, you guys are great company man. Nay about the "social obligations" its probably just an excuse because yeah to be honest I really do not wish to spend single day keeping to myself if possible. You start talking to yourself when you do not have anyone to talk to! :swear:

Nobody wants to be lonely, well yeah that's why we all are constantly looking for that love of our lives, thinking that the emptiness in our hearts will be filled just with the love our lovers give us. Can this work out? Personally I don't think so. Yeah I know of some gay couples who went totally out of the scene once they got attached, and their relationships lasted for decades. Definitely this kind "two persons' world" concept can work, only if both parties believe in this kinda concept. (more on "exclusiveness" in relationship)

But for the majority of us especially those out in the scene, we belong to a larger community and of course being in a larger community would mean more rumours spread, backstabbing -it's human nature. On the flip side, with the right kind of people, what we can get are support, help and listening ears, pretty essential for relationship of any couples out there to last.

On the other hand, of course the remedy to our loneliness for the more enlighted is not limited to LTR (read: sex). Some of us enjoy doing activities in a larger group (no pun intended), a good movie together or chit chat over a meal or coffee is definitely a great way to pass time in boring Singapore. (more on how to kill time in Singapore)

I find mixing around with people a very big part of my life now, for sure I do not want to keep quiet to myself during the outings, nor would I be interested in irritating the hell out of my friends -ya being in the same frequency is very important- though teasing and joking is fine, quite an acquired skill to strike a balance tho.

Well, definitely more interested in meeting new people now, for a whole new different reason.

[sotongball]

The One On the Malaysia Trip (delayed posting)

After my driving theory lecture, I took a train to the interchange, walked along a stretch of market which sells pretty good imitated stuffs, past some mamak shops, and voila, Sentral Massage & Sauna. So I went to the third floor, fee quoted was honestly abit shocking at first - RM20! Paid nonetheless, went in, strip. Just when I was about to leave the locker room, saw some damn familiar figure coming into the locker room... Gee, didn't expect to bump into a fellow BWer so soon! Greeted abit, hi hi. Then cabut to start my hunt.

I must say before this I was already sort of familiar with the layout of the place, so didn't take my own sweet time to around fast fast, the Sauna, the aircon room near the computer, and not forgetting the two toilets right at the back, lastly will of course be the dark steam room. Just when I was passing by the TV area, I've already seen my target - a tall, cute specky guy - ok KIV, just in case there's better ones hidden somewhere inside. After surveying the toilet at the end, yep not alot of choice that day, which is not a bad thing after all. Just when I was going back to the computer area, I saw this same specky guy in the corner of the passage, seemed like he's waiting for me too. Okay, I'm his type too! That should make things so much easier.

Without further ado. I went straight into the dark room, just to confirm if he's really interested in me. Yep, he followed and so I led him into a deeper area of the dark room. Started licking his nipples which made him moan in a manly voice, shit I'm a sucker for that, you know which part of my body is most sensitive... Then worked my way up to the neck, instantly getting more noise out of him. As I was enjoying myself so much an irritating part of the dark room happened, some hands just appeared out of nowhere and started touching my ass and dick as well. Not exactly a fan of dealing with someone whom you haven't seen in the light before, I put his and my towels back on and led him out of the dark room into on of the shower cubicles. (Can't believe I walked from dark room to the cubicle with a full hard-on...)

We started chatted abit, found out that he's from Hong Kong, just got posted to Malaysia for work. And he looked at least 10 years younger than his real age. Sweet... we carried on our conversation in Cantonese while kissing each other in the mouth non-stop. More like I couldn't stop myself to, until he got down and gave me a blowjob. And my goodness, he was so good that immediately, I got so close to cumming. Being not ready to shoot yet, I paused him and turned him around to return him a rimming favour, again more noise produced and damn it was arousing. I started rubbing my didi through his ass crack, and damn it was so warm and nice.

Even though I have a restriction of not fxxking in a sauna, I was so horny that I went out to the counter, hoping to ask the staff for a condom. To my disappointment, how dare they don't provide condoms there?? No AFA in KL? Gee, so I went back in, and just had to continue with what we could do.

After the whole session, I went for a few rounds of heating up and steaming, ooh shiok! The only thing missing was an ice cold coffee that I can gulp down once I'm done with everything.

On my way back, I went to 7-11 to get something which I presume none of the saunas in KL will provide, to my surprise again, there isn't any lubricant on sale in the convenience stores, only rubbers. After asking my friend he actually explained that the government does not allow any convenience store to sell lubricant, only available in the pharmacy. What is this? sex is safer without any lubrication in KL? or the government trying to increase the population size?

2 weeks have passed since... When will I get to have this feeling again?

[reflection]

now the Mr Right concept. i would say it is pretty hard (not impossible though) coz you need to have the right man, right place at the right time.

there are many schools of thinking, for example

shouldnt look for the mr right but to love a person the right way.

I totally agree wiht OB. It really depends on the right time and right place. there seems to be some Mr Right at various points of our lives. So who is more right??

As OB also mentioned it is not to look for a MR RIGHT but to love him the right way. It should be when either party makes things RIGHT when things go WRONG! This is when both of u found the right MR RIGHT !!

888,

Very chim on your right and wrong ! I thought I got it right initially but then I realized I was wrong!

[Sweetie Pie]

now the Mr Right concept. i would say it is pretty hard (not impossible though) coz you need to have the right man, right place at the right time.

there are many schools of thinking, for example

shouldnt look for the mr right but to love a person the right way.

I totally agree wiht OB. It really depends on the right time and right place. there seems to be some Mr Right at various points of our lives. So who is more right??

As OB also mentioned it is not to look for a MR RIGHT but to love him the right way. It should be when either party makes things RIGHT when things go WRONG! This is when both of u found the right MR RIGHT !!

888,

Very chim on your right and wrong ! I thought I got it right initially but then I realized I was wrong!

I think Sotong is trying to say that being loved (by Mr Wrong) is more fortunate than to love someone (Mr Right) and later got "exploited" by your own dream mate. It is true that you can made Mr Wrong to be your right man than to choose Mr Right who is likely to be your wrong man eventually. However, in most gay circle one is most willing to be deceived by our own sight, taste and lust plus a little influence from the white prince fairy tales we constantly read from books and movies in our dreamy younger years thus tend to skew towards fiction than fact when choosing our lifetime partner. Yes, an old match stick cannot compare to a good gas lighter but it can still spark the love in us that last (lust) forever...

The moral of sweetie pie story: if you are the beggar, don't fall for the emperor who is usually the one and only but chased by many. So you wouldn't want him to be shared by his many concubines and speculating who will be the next to be dumped in cold palace

[Sweetie Pie]

[oralb]

.... Just when I was passing by the TV area, I've already seen my target - a tall, cute specky guy....

ahem...

Tall, okay checked

Cute, err... subjective, but i am really good at acting cute

specky, that can be arranged, will sunglasses counts?

:whistle:

[sotongball]

The moral of sweetie pie story: if you are the beggar, don't fall for the emperor who is usually the one and only but chased by many. So you wouldn't want him to be shared by his many concubines and speculating who will be the next to be dumped in cold palace 

Hmmm thought my post is pretty self-explanatory... Hi5 Sweetie_Pie! what an excellent way to paraphrase what I wanted to say, very good analogy.

To some people we can be the emperor, while to others we can be the beggar too, sometimes we can also be the concubines.

Important point is to know what to do depending on which situation you are in, rule of the thumb: nobody's gonna take care of you till you know how to take care of yourself!

[Buaya]

Gosh! Me cannot imagine STB having sex... My... I see STB in a different light now...

[Sweetie Pie]

Important point is to know what to do depending on which situation you are in, rule of the thumb: nobody's gonna take care of you till you know how to take care of yourself!

Your last note triggered the memory of my Japanese boss who once told me the same thing. When i resigned and having an exit interview by him. He whsipered that he knew i was gay and ask if i have problem working with my colleagues. My colleagues were good but my boss advices and care touched my heart. He did told me that i was a good worker and should take care of myself wherever i venture forth so that i can live without fear in harsh environment. At that moment, i was really reluctant to leave him and hoped he could hold my hand and proposed his love to me, or at least have ONS with him to repay his gratitude... OK OK..in case you guys thought i missed the opportunity of having affair with an emporar in my previous company, i have to say that he is a married man.. That alone is consoling since all well that end well. :thumb:

[Baloo]

Those are good 'blogs' you have posted. I'm impressed. Do keep them coming.

Cheers

Baloo

[sotongball]

The One on the State of Mind

Was struck by what Hermione said in the movie yesterday, something like Ron having an emotional range of a teaspoon. Was it directly quoted from the book? In any case, I believe it is perfectly fine to have the slightest spectrum of emotions. You're either that heartless or that cold that's all.

Emotion, as known to all is the state of mind, a natural instinctive state of mind deriving from one's circumstances, mood or relationships with others to be more precise. We feel love , happy , sad , depressed , anger and so on from time to time, we cannot deny these feelings because it's installed into our genetic codes and I think this is what makes us unique being. I'm sure even animals have these traits too but it is somewhat a blessing or a curse -depending on how you look at it- that we humans are able to express our emotions clearly.

It is this ability of us expressing our emotions that makes people around us to react in different ways to us. With the assumption of positive emotions (happy, joy, love) being desirable, and negative emotions (sad, anger, depressed) being undesirable, displaying positive feelings will make us more approachable while having negative emotions may drive others off most likely.

Gee am I writing a philosophical thesis for my university? sorry sorry I'm just trying to put my point across.

I'm not saying "so now we should all be pretentious and be happy and gay so that we will be more wanted". But don't you find that always being that emo all the time will just bore and even irritate the hell out of others?

No man is an island, being in a community, group or family provides the necessary emotional support and guidance to one who needs them. Sometimes it really takes one of your friends' particular version of phrasing of the same idea for the advice to sink into your brain, even though you always tell yourself the same thing over and over again you don't have to feel this way.

However, despite many literation of the same advice given by many friends, one can still come back again and again to bore them with the same old crap, as if the gallons of saliva used on talking some sense could have gone for better lubricating use. This is when sometimes even the best of friends will lose control of their cool and either choose to be nasty, or totally ignore you. While a minority of the angels will still be patient with you, only to curse you consciously or sub-consciously at the back of their mind :swear: . Trust me when this happen, you're just gonna lose more friends and feel even more lonely and shitty bout yourself if you do not know how to suppress your emotions.

I think I'm more of the "happy go lucky" type when it comes to my public appearance, surely my closests of friends would know that I'm more than that lah. Maybe because I don't feel the need to be gloomy and sour faced during periods of stress when I'm hanging out with my friends, like that will just piss everyone off or start making them worried for you (but i'm sure some of us like the attention we get from making them worried for you at times rite?). :twisted:

Adding to that, I'm amazed at how some people can be so "normal" when they are in front of their friends and colleagues, but in front of their boyfriends they are like so vulnerable and base their happiness on not themselves, but their boyfriends. "I'm happy as long as you're happy" or "my feelings not as important as yours". Sounds familiar? All these concepts are really bullshits, and utter nonsense. Trust me near the end of relationship this kinda people will get back to you by saying "you have the unique ability of making me feel like shit", as if they haven't been discouraging us from needing to take care of their feelings to start with.

I'm not preaching against the responsibilities that we have towards our spouses, it's just that I think as much as we are emotionally attached to our the other half, one third, one quarter or whatever for that matter, sometimes we can be less of an emotional burden if we know how to take care of our own insecurities and jealousy and fear.

Oh one more thing, do not ever use guilt to make your bf submit back to you. It's totally unskillful and such a big put off. :yuk:

I understand now why my past relationships failed to work, it is mainly because of the lack of ability to control certain emotions. But that comes with age and experience. There's no single one solution fits all kinda model, but in this world we make things work through trial and error, and not making anything constant in that sense.

What makes us living being is the fact that we have emotions, but what sets us apart from the rest of the animals should be the ability to control our emotions. It is hard, afterall isn't happiness the ultimate goal for all of us here?

[Baloo]

just one point...

happyness is not a goal.

happyness is a mode of travel... you chose it and you live it... it's not an end product...

ok... enough preaching... back to sex...

[thunderer]

This type of posting is a good as it is a much better way in understanding different people perception and thinking for different type of situation...

Do hope to see more thoughts and comments..

[IkuTube]

Continuation ...

Comment: sotongball

Posted: March 02, 2008 05:32 pm

The One on The Past 6 Months

Wow, just a blink of an eye and half a year gone without any updates, well at least in cyber sense. The truth is, alot of things has happened since my last post on this thread.

First thing first, I'm already reaching the last quarter of my freshmen year! School's been a roller coaster ride, working with overly-ambitious and competitive classmates certainly has made me realised, why must I be one of the rats in the race? More on fighting for class participation next...

Moving on, I have gained like 10kg since my last post here (and still counting!). And not like any other twinks in the circle - I'm loving it! Yeah it gets kinda irritating to have people (especially those who haven't met you for long) asking you things like "you gained weight hor?", "你發福啦?" and etc. Worse still was that some of the chasers were actually asking for my number!

Nevertheless, amidst all these bizarre comments and stares. I think I like the way I look right now. Not only I'm retaining the interest of my old flings, people I thought would never take a second look on me actually started to show signs that they are staring at certain part of my body waaaaaay too long!

I think the more significant milestone was that I called it quit to my 1 year and 4 months old long distance relationship (more on that later). Did I even mention I had a BF previously? Well, not that important, isn't it? Anyway, it was a decision based on our personality differences and inability to cater to each other's wants and needs. Now I'm back to the market again, single and available.

Yeap, other than that, been hitting the saunas way too often, not so proud bout that. Maybe I might just throw in some details of some mentionable encounter in future postings.

That's all for now. Hope your past six months had been good

[sotongball]

The One on Long Distance Relationship

I remembered it was extremely near my A Levels preliminary exams, just about 3 weeks away. I was doing what I do best - not mugging like the rest of my classmates - but chatting on IRC in the school library.

All I expected to get out of the net in that evening was the same as any other evenings - get laid and move on. Well things alawys when you least anticipate them, good or bad, at least these "things" matter to you most.

To cut the story short: I met him for coffee, coffee turned into ONS, ONS turned into MNS , MNS lifted off into something-more-serious, before we knew 3 weeks passed and it was already end of his summer break here and time for him to go back to the US where he came from.

I was faced with a dilemma here:

The Rational, seen-it-all, jaded side of me thought it would be a complete waste of time to carry on with him, knowing that if the 10000 miles apart alone is not good enough a reason , my inability to maintain a monogamous relationship should be a strong signal for me to call it quit.

However, the romantic and idealistic part of me that I thought I had lost touch with for so long prompted me that this might be worth trying. Afterall he was different from the rest that I've met before, and he liked me more than I liked him (more on who's in control next...), and it would be the first time I try to date a student...

The relationship lasted slightly longer than a year, all those time zone difference, web-camming, IDD calls and letters all became things of the past. As we soon realised it is just impossible to carry on further.

Long distance relationships simply do not exist within Singapore unless you consider Punggol very far from Boon Lay. I'm telling you there are some people who got put off by the need to travel far just for a quickie on IRC if you haven't realised.

Of all the "tragedy" that can happen between two compatible persons, long-distance is one of the hardest, if not THE hardest barrier to overcome, we gay men definitely need the physical touch as the majority part of a functioning relationship! We have seen couples who are both btms/tops , couples with age difference of 30 years or more, couples who do not seem to have common topics between each other...

I think my point is, sex is undoubtedly the Uhu glue that can just bring any two seemingly different person together. So how can a relationship between 2 last when they cannot meat each other whenever they want?

Of course there are success stories of LDR around the world, in general they are:

1) Open

"You can fxxk anyone you want, just play safe and try not to fall in love"

Please don't torture your the other half by just forcing him to cam sex with you the whole year, never ask stupid questions like "you got sleep with anyone this week or not?" if you can't take it

2) Stable

No drama and full of understanding, usually built upon a firm foundation through sufficient amount of time spent together in the same place, I would recommend spending at least a year physically together so that all the freshness in sex is gone :thumb: and the relationship is less about sex and more about feelings for each other.

3) Spontaneous

"if you do find someone better, remember to let me know"

This applies for any long or short distance relationship, nobody likes a BF who can't let go. Remember this: if you love him, set him free. If he comes back, he's forever yours. If he doesn't, he's never yours.

4) Regular visits

May as well be just "best pen pals" if you can't make a commitment to visit each other. One suggestion is that you can accumulate and clear 1-2 weeks leave to stay at his place while he goes about his daily work. This allows you to experience his kind of lifestyle and vice versa.

5) Secured

Never ever pick up small fights which short-distance couples are privileged to do so. Trust me you won't want to resolve issues over IDD or Skype. They cannot really be resolved in the first place...

So, if you're not up for the challenge, DON'T torture yourself. Don't fall in love with the guy you hooked up with in overseas saunas, just keep in touch and it's easier to have FB's rather than a BF overseas. :whistle:

[sotongball]

The One on the First Year

Its been exactly a year and 2 days (and still counting perhaps) since I registered my nick in the forum. Initially it was just intended to PM Cougar to join the chalet, never knew I stayed on for so long and got to know so many friends that I hang out with almost every week. So for those of you guys who are still closeted, just get out of that hole (no pun intended) and join our dinners and outings. You have my words that we try to be discreet, try not to make a scene of ourselves, and definitely try not to chew you up alive, we'll slowly approach you from behind... :twisted:

Well, the self-obsessed part of me thought of a little tribute to myself, sort of a highlights of Sotongball's one year in BW Gay Forum, it may not be as exciting as the EPL Highlights, but then again which self-respecting gay men proclaim themselves soccer fans?

If there's anything you can remember Sotongball by, I hope this will be it:

1) Hardcoregamer

That was the initial nickname he registered as, now he thinks he's more hardcore on bed than he is on gaming, yea people just outgrow themselves... Nonetheless, if you need any advices on any gaming consoles: PS3, XBOX360, Wii, PSP, NDS, you-name-it... feel free to post in the IT Restroom and he'll answer your questions which he normally does.

2) HUGE Apple Fan

Always seen carrying at least an Apple Product during the outings, be it the iPod, or his trusty MacBook, Sotongball is a proud member of the AA (read: Apple-holic Anonymous). Sotongball has shown that two fingers (that are index + middle fingers) when used together, are not only good for fingering :thumb: , but they can be used for innovative scrolling on the Macbook touchpad)

3) Terribly low in his post counts

65 posts thus far? Either he's a lazy contributor to the forum or he only contribute things when he has things to contribute. You decide.

4) Outings-Whore

Organised a few movie outings, KTV outings and potluck dinner at his place, Sotongball has devoted quite a fair share of his life to the forum which cannot be sadly translated to the Community Service Hours in his CV nor Extra-Curricular Activities record... I guess he did it for the love of the group. :oops:

5) Not single

The biggest surprise was that Sotongball revealed to the group and answered the months-old question of "Is STB attached?" in one of the potluck dinners, his long distance BF for over a year. Sotongball hoped he didn't upset anyone that night cos he thought nobody would be interested in him anyway. The rest of his long distance relationship were history.

6) Googleable

Google "Sotongball" and you can find a plate of crispy and crunchy balls garnished with orange peels and rose shaped carrot, as well as recipes of his siblings Fishball and Meatball. Yeah next time when you run out of idea to win in the God of Vegetarian Cookery Competition you can always use these secret recipes of the Balls to scare and taunt your opponent. BUT, Beware of feeding meat to the vegetarian judge though (read: Karma)

Ok I promise the self-obsession will stop right here, period. (no need to declare 10th April Sotongball Day) Think of it as a form of voyeurism: Over-doing it just show how cheap you are; doing it little shows how fake and pretentious you are.

Looking forward to more of Sotongball's coming years in this cold space in the fridge, will he finally be taken out and cooked? cos expiry date approaching soon.

[sotongball]

The One on the New Fridge

Somehow the fridge got faulty: it became too cold and yet stuffed with too much junk food.

Sotongball has to move its writings to a larger, two-door style fridge where it can be savoured by more foodies.

Snippets of his entries will still be posted in this column, for the freshest of sotongball, please visit:

http://rawsotongball.blogspot.com

[sotongball]

The One on Saunas

"Some people like to call it Spa, sounds more high class and atas. Others might call it cruising place, church, temple, bathhouses, you-name-it...."

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[sotongball]

The One on Saunas (part 2)

Going to sauna is just like going to your neighborhood food court:

sometimes you eat one dish, sometimes you eat a few dishes;

sometimes you eat alone, sometimes you eat with your friends;

sometimes you need to eat with strangers, sometimes you da bao;

sometimes you straight-away buy from the first stall that you fancy, sometimes you walk around for long time and yet can't make up your mind;

sometimes you eat already, then on the way home you see another stall that makes you regret not looking around longer

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The One on Will & Grace

I'm surprised quite a number of queer folks do not know about this comedy series. Set in modern day New York City, Will & Grace features the lives of 2 gay men and 2 fag hags, namely Will, Jack, Grace and Karen.

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The One on the First Week

Wow, didn't know this blog actually lasted a week, most of my dates doesn't even last that long Well hope everyone has been gaining some insights on Sotongball's dull and boring life.

First things first, since I'll try to update my blog on a daily basis. It might be quite boring if I just post about sex all the time... or list down my wish list of gadgets from Monday to Sunday. So, Sotongball decided to roll out a new feature in his blog: starting this week, Sotongball's Crispy and Crunchy blog will have themed days. Yeah just like the saunas baby!

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The One on Buaya

If you're still wondering how will Menday turn out, you can now think less and read more. The first Menday issue cover man is none other than the ever sex crazed animal in the blogosphere, who happens to be my dear friend and hangs out with me more frequent than ever nowadays. Over a Sunday late lunch, Sotongball got a chance to catch up with Buaya.

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The One on PlayStation2

Many of you guys who are in the know surely would ask why did I kick start my Techie Tuesday with the Sony PlayStation2 (PS2). After all it is already considered the last generation of gaming console and everyone should be talking about the PS3 now. Well, if you're truly a gamer, you would know that the PS2 is far from being extinct or casted into the museum of great gaming consoles, PS2 hardware sales is still going strong.

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The One on Mr Rebound

For those of us who have gone through a few relationships, this should be familiar to you. For those of us who haven't, it's best that you know about it now first

Embrace it or hate it: it is totally unwise to go for someone who has just gone out of a long term relationship. More often than not, Sotongball has seen so many friends of his who dated post break-uppers, just to see them being ditched after just a few weeks of dating. These unfortunate friends of STB had just been labelled as Mr Rebound.

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The One on Sex and the City

What better way to start Tube Thursday with the movie STB watched for 3 times in the cinema? Once with BWers, once with my fellow hairstylist and once with Mr Not-So-Big (body size-wise), I can almost replay every single scene in my head.

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The One on Half-Boiled Eggs

We shall start Foodie Friday with Sotongball's favorite breakfast staple, the humble and yet satisfying half-boiled egg, dare I to say "just like fried sotongballs"?

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The One on "Who Can I Love"

I probably spend the least time to prepare for Singing Saturdays. The first song that I would introduce to you guys is of course Sotongball's all-time KTV favourite: Andy Hui's Who Can I Love.

Why is it STB's favorite song? Well mainly it's because STB can hit every single note in the song comfortably, without straining his throat like how a chicken is strangled. And with this song you can be very drama with your voice and yet to just sit poise on the chair. Also the song talks about one in his post-breakup state, lost and hopeless in finding ways to move on. Well, all I can say is, once you learn to let go, you will make room for the next one.

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The One on Hosting

Having invited the BWers to his place for potluck and dinner a couple of times, plus going to others' place for gatherings. Sotongball realised the importance of being hospitable to the guests that you invited to your place for any kind of events. It ensures that everyone is having a good time, and more importantly new guests will feel welcomed.

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The One on Nintendo Wii

If you do not know what is the Nintendo Wii (pronounced as "Weeee", not "why"), you must have probably been living under big gigantic rock for the past 2 years or so. Even old folks around the world are hooked onto the Wii (I'm dead serious!) Sotongball is so proud of his mum who has zero IT knowledge and interest when she finished her first game of Wii Bowling.

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The One on Rating

On the scale of 0 to 10, 0 being a total put off and 10 being an object of worship, how would you rate Sotongball in terms of him in bed?

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The One on Rent (the movie)

For any modern musical fans, you should have heard of Jonathan Larson's Rent. Sotongball is not those atas and civilized type who attend all these productions in the Esplanade, (though he had the privillege to perform in the concert hall numerous times) but he does enjoy a couple of good cinematized encores of musical productions.

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The One on Chat's Birthday

Yes he does not want me to interview him for whatever reason, but Sotongball thinks this good friend of his deserves to be mentioned in STB's Blog during his birthday.

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The One on Old Place

After a whole busy week of of packing and unpacking (which accounts for the absences of so many posts over the past few days), Sotongball has successfully shifted to his new fridge. And he want to give thanks to the Old Fridge that has housed him for one and a half years.

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The One on Mr KK (Part 1)

When anyone asks me about my first gay encounter, I would have told them about the one during my secondary school days with my classmate. Well the truth is that there was someone else...

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The One on Heroes

Yes, yes. There is no gay couple shown in the TV series so far, and no prominent sashaying sluts either. But Heroes deserves to be mentioned simply because of the craze over it since the end of 2007, Sotongball thinks it should be due to the eye candies in the show.

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The One on Buckaroo

If you're wondering: who goes all the way to Sembawang for fine dining kind of Western Food? Yes, you're not alone. Sotongball shared the same sentiment when he sat in NFB's car, driving past Punggol, Yishun, Mandai and so on... and finally arriving at our destination, Buckaroo. No no, it's not a Japanese vulgar language. Sotongball is testing today whether does a picture really say a thousand words:

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The One on Redemption (Part 1)

The bright lights in the operating room were blinding Sylvester and he had flashbacks of his moments from the past.

Sylvester was four when his parents divorced, he was entrusted to his granny as both parents felt that his presence would be a burden to their social life.

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The One on Gay Fathers

They are among us. Some of us like them because they are exotic and usually provide no string attached fun filled with pure lust; rest of us avoid them because the morality in us thinks that we are helping them to commit literal adultery. But, what is it like to be a father and husband, yet having preference for the taste of cocks? Sotongball sets out to find out more from the perspective of a married man.

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The One on Blog Creation

After reading Sotongball - whatever and whatever for almost a month, I'm sure some of you are inspired to start up a new blog too. But you might be afraid to take the first step, or worse still don't even know how to begin with. Fret not, STB has put up a simple guide of how to set up your spanking new blog.

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The One on Mr KK (Part 2)

The night prior to the thanksgiving ceremony, KK invited me to stay over at his place as both of us were trying to add the final touch-up to the photos and video. KK stayed with a housemate, who was not in town so we were sleeping in the living room.

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The One on Gourmet Coffee

The day/night you see Sotongball not functioning normally, he probably hasn't consumed his first cup of coffee, or simply because he might be too sexed up. Jokes aside, if you know STB well enough, you would know that his favourite drink is no doubt iced coffee, as long as there's coffee, sugar and milk in the mixture. Slit STB's throat and he can literally bleed coffee.

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The One on "Season of Loneliness"

Today's song, is from David Tao's Ultrasound album in 2004. The album consists of David Tao's popular hits over the earlier years of his career. And Season of Loneliness is one of the new songs that are more appealing to Sotongball's ears.

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