Why Someone Stops Trying? [Title Changed From "why?"]

[Guest initiald05]

You meet someone.

You two get close.

It's all great for a while.

Then someone stops trying.

Talk less.

The drifting.

Memories starts to fade.

Then that person you know becomes that person you knew.

[oralb]

Err...can dont start one word topic? Its hard to classify when viewing the forum topic list.

I will change the topic

[Sepias]

Lose interest I guess?? So far experienced alot of those. Some wld bother replying me when I asked them, some, I had to fish it out from our mutual friends. In all, just plainly lose interest. No use harping on it.

[Guest Guest]

lose interest should be the main reason. or he might have met someone better along the way.

very often when we are interested in a person, we expect him to be who we want him to be, so when he 'slip out' of our expectations, we get irritated and blame him. however, we should see and examine ourselves first - people react to how we carry ourselves. also rmb that no one is perfect and it is up to you to accept his shortcomings.

[jtsc]

Quite common when both sides are like testing water to find out if each other is the right one for them. During this period both will talk or do anything together and everything looks fine. But after a while when one side feels tired and don't feel promising in the relationship, he will slowly slip out from the other person. Another possibility is when one is looking for LTR but other just want to make friends. When objective of both persons are different, it is likely one will disappear slowly. Just that this is one easy way to avoid situation where one party refuses to give up.

[swimmdude]

I understand... It's like the other party can just forget everything both of you went through as if it never happened before... And expecting you to move on as if you don't have feelings. Sad but true. But no use to keep thinking about it, it won't change right?

[Guest initiald05]

my friend posted tt on her fb status... ithink I know how toconsole her alr

[iamziz]

I have always believed (not sure if I mentioned this somewhere b4 in BW), if you want to try to be in a relationship with someone - don't get into each other's pants on the 1st - possibly till a meet 1 month later. Communication is the key. U learn about each other. When you guys finally decide to see each other in your birthday suits, the flaws if any are nothing as passion built. U need to talk to each other from day one not just smile and agree to everything the person says. Some people feel by asking or disagreeing, it might not create a comfort zone. It is how you do it without intruding, You want to know about the person you want to spend a long time with and he needs to know about you, too. If communication is absent, the interest will slowly fade. Whatever it is, if you put in an effort and it fails, don't blame yourself. Least you try. Blame yourself for regretting later for not trying. Hope your friend feels better now. Cheers

[swimmdude]

Sorry but the grammatical error in the thread title really bothers me lol

Communication. Hmm. Sometimes the other person doesn't even want to communicate. So point is, just fcuk off from each other's lives

Edited July 3, 2012 by swimmdude

[fab]

U have met a player.

Just be careful the next time.

[ntu_bw]

if there's a chance why would the person want to be a player? hmmm .

[kee_hsiao]

I totally can relate to this....

[Guest Guest]

Usually the younger ones are like that

[MinWoo]

experiencing this too =(

[AyeMHappi]

Sorta experience this recently, but not in the context of a r/s..

[angel_dust]

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Edited July 7, 2012 by adx

[ntu_bw]

haha don't stop trying. maybe u started off with a bang and the flames just seem less impressive . however as long as they are still glowing, dont give up the chance at fanning the flames lightly to keep hopes alive...

Edited July 3, 2012 by ntu_bw

[darkflame]

I had similar experiences myself. I still remember vividly to this day a guy who completely lost interest the moment he saw my Facebook. I turned into a emotional wreck but I got better. Lots of guys don't know what they want anyway so just take it with a pinch of salt and expect little. If you are meant to be together, you will be.

[SeannyShortcake]

"Now you're just somebody I used to know."

Oh I've been through just SO MANY of these.

Life sucks that way. With teeth.

[luke84]

well for me, I experienced that dozens of times.

but somehow i felt that as i've quite a few cliques to meet, tuition and work commitment to fulfil.. i didn't manage to meet them up, and hence they started losing interest in me.

sometimes we exchanged msg like crazy, was so engross into the topic.. but as long as you did not meet up, frequently enough, it is very easy to lose interest.