Would You Get Into A Serious Relationship With A Bi Who You Know Will Start A Family One Day?

[Guest NoworFuture?]

as above

Would you get into a serious relationship with a bi who you know will start a family one day?

being bi means one's capable of loving both a male and a female

living in Asia, in Singapore rather where the conventional societal norms is to start a family (be it family pressure, retirement plan, joy to have children, want to buy a HDB etc.), it is always more attractive , enticing , correct and easy to marry a girl and start a conventional family

would you put in effort to develop a serious relationship with someone bi knowing that this relationship have no distant future??

or would you focus on now and just play by ear???

would any bi here give up conventional marriage all for a lover who's gay??

[Guest stbrianud]

Excuse me. But being bi doesn't mean you are capable of loving a man or a woman. It means you are attracted to both of sex be it sexually or romantically or physically.

Anyways, it's a chance... A risk. You have to decide if you wanna take that leap of faith... No one but you can decide that. Q

[Guest Ironrod]

Base on my life experience so far I have seen 3 cases where the "Bi" guy (usually the TOP) after a while dump the "BTM" and get married.

Each relationship average from 5-8 years.

Well, it's good to have faith but I do believe this "fxxk me badly once, shame on you. fxxk me badly twice, shame on me."

[TTS]

Why risk getting putting in all the emotions and affections, only subjecting yourself to hurt eventually? On the other hand, if you genuinely care about him, let him go.

[Guest wudon]

Dun worry. In my case, I told me that on the night we get to know each other. Fast forward to today 9 years later, he still attached with me. hahahahaha

PS: I believe some guys used that excuse as an "emergency exit" as he is still unsure of the relationship. So that if he wants a breakoff in future, he can say "don't say I never warn you". bad boy, bad boy.

[Guest wudon]

correction: .... he told me that .....

[Guest stbrianud]

correction: .... he told me that .....

Firstly, there's an edit button. Hahahaha

Base on my life experience so far I have seen 3 cases where the "Bi" guy (usually the TOP) after a while dump the "BTM" and get married.

Each relationship average from 5-8 years.

Well, it's good to have faith but I do believe this "fxxk me badly once, shame on you. fxxk me badly twice, shame on me."

Secondly, Third time?? Haha...

Edited September 24, 2012 by stbrianud

[merlinkun]

Gives you an excuse to sing 'Womanizer' when he break up with you. lol just kidding.

Normally I don't go for bisexual guys though (sorry), it's one thing to see your crush flirting with another guy but another to see your crush flirting with a girl.

But hey, we have famous fictional bisexual/pansexual characters on TV:

[avatars]

Would you get into a serious relationship with a bi who you know will start a family one day?

Ans: NO...

would you put in effort to develop a serious relationship with someone bi knowing that this relationship have no distant future??

Ans: You could try.....Thats what i did hoping he would change his 'idealogy' for me.....but I gave up waiting for so long cause some ppl are just determined to follow the norms.....but my advice is still no.............dont bother putting in too much effort.

would any bi here give up conventional marriage all for a lover who's gay??

Ans: Not that I know any, I would be happy to know one lol. Hopefully a bi here will see you thread and give his views?

[doncoin]

I think we all deserve to be happy and not settle for anything less. It just complicates things unless all parties involved agree to a polyarmorous triad arrangement.

[mamemo]

No for me, Had experience with them and yeah, heartbreaker for sure. never lives up to my expectation and only full of disappointment.

it din work for me, might work for you.

just saying its never for me.

[Guest Uncle]

No, unless he's starting the family with me

[Crimson87]

Never. I don't want to invest time, money and love on someone who will eventually leave me for a female and start a family with her.

[snowball]

感情有时不是你可以控制的, 太多的" 意外 "常发生,

也许是日渐深情或许是空虚造成的。

一开始, 很多人只是逢场做戏, 但后来事与愿违。

会发生的, 避不了, 不会发生的, 你将不会碰到,

人生不就是这样?

重点不是你爱上了, 而是你会如何取舍如何做?

[Guest maryjane]

感情有时不是你可以控制的, 太多的" 意外 "常发生,

也许是日渐深情或许是空虚造成的。

一开始, 很多人只是逢场做戏, 但后来事与愿违。

会发生的, 避不了, 不会发生的, 你将不会碰到,

人生不就是这样?

重点不是你爱上了, 而是你会如何取舍如何做?

谢谢师太指点迷津, 阿弥陀佛 ...

[123ZZZ]

can you share how you accept if your bf is getting married without getting jealous...

and how do you maintain the relationship after bf gets married