Curb Your Ageism, Older Dudes Make Way Better Lovers

[iamziz]

Curb Your Ageism,

Older Dudes Make Way Better Lovers

 

 

A male sex worker from Chicago is setting the record straight when it comes to fooling around with older men.

“As a sex worker, most people assume that the majority of my clients are unattractive,” Clark Rogers writes in an article for Unicorn Booty. “This is untrue: most of my clients are rather handsome actually, they just seek sexual services based on convenience, not desperation. People also assume that most of my clients older men — and yes, they are.”

But Rogers doesn’t mind. He says older gents “have a better understanding of their desires and are able to articulate them clearly.” And, yes, they also tend to be more financially stable, too.

“It’s no surprise that our sexual culture completely excludes older gay men,” he continues, recalling a recent ageism workshop he attended at a national conference on LGBTQ equality. “One of the men in my group mentioned how gay media often presents young guys as affluent as a way to further glamorize youth. Another noted that images of beauty idols haven’t changed since he was a young man.”

“While the consumers have aged, the models have remained the young,” he writes. “Thus, our very concept of beauty has stagnated, pushing older generations out of the sexual imagination.”

Rogers then points to a 2013 survey that found 63 percent of gay men over 60 were living alone with no partner.

“When we refuse to talk to our elders or allow them into sexualized spaces,” Rogers says, “it only increases their isolation, and our own.”

This, Rogers feels, need to change.

“It is up to us to set aside our highly sexualized culture and create a bridge to our older counterparts,” he writes. “They need us and, if nothing else, communing with them will help lay a framework for when we too become seniors.”

“If we could find a way for senior gay men to share their experiences with our community–histories that are not being shared in a sex-focused culture–we won’t lose the most valuable thing we can get from each other: a stronger sense of our own identity, one that will last for generations.”

 

Source: http://www.queerty.com/curb-your-ageism-older-dudes-make-way-better-lovers-20160125

 

 

[Guest]

Don't wait til you're 60 or 70, get a partner while you can. Don't be so choosy, just find someone to love with all your heart.

Loneliness in old age is scary. Very very scary.

[Guest]

Yeah I agree. Like my hubby, he always tells me how lucky he is to have found me and worries for me. We have a 19 yr gap. He is hitting his middle age.

[Ironrod]

3 hours ago, Guest said:

Yeah I agree. Like my hubby, he always tells me how lucky he is to have found me and worries for me. We have a 19 yr gap. He is hitting his middle age.

 

 Why he worries for u? Make sure he wills all his money to you b4 he dies then no worries loh

[lonelyglobe]

worries came not only in terms of financial needs but also the emotional aspects....in our 20s, the need to get attached is not that strong as we are still marketable and aging is the last thing on our mind, then slowly we cross into 30s, we have play all we want, have a successful career, start thinking about settling down and try to find the one but before we find it, we have hit the big 40....the moment someone find out you are 40, 99% of the time you don't hear from them anymore, then slowly we move into 50 and the light to find the one is even dimmer if not flickering.......not even to mention 60 or 70...painful.... but that is life....

[darkflame]

From personal experience, older men are really better at love making.

It's a holistic experience, stimulating both physically and mentally the senses.

Rather than a fuck-and-go thing.

[Guest]

On 1/29/2016 at 8:57 PM, lonelyglobe said:

worries came not only in terms of financial needs but also the emotional aspects....in our 20s, the need to get attached is not that strong as we are still marketable and aging is the last thing on our mind, then slowly we cross into 30s, we have play all we want, have a successful career, start thinking about settling down and try to find the one but before we find it, we have hit the big 40....the moment someone find out you are 40, 99% of the time you don't hear from them anymore, then slowly we move into 50 and the light to find the one is even dimmer if not flickering.......not even to mention 60 or 70...painful.... but that is life....

 

Not true actually. The older ones can find other older ones, not to mention those younger ones who prefer older, more mature guys in their 50s or 60s. 

[Guest]

This topic lends itself to generaliations - but there are exceptions. Best to take things on a case by case basis, and not prejudge people based on things like age and race. 

[Guest Guest]

On 28/01/2016 at 8:22 PM, iamziz said:

Curb Your Ageism,

Older Dudes Make Way Better Lovers

 

 

A male sex worker from Chicago is setting the record straight when it comes to fooling around with older men.

“As a sex worker, most people assume that the majority of my clients are unattractive,” Clark Rogers writes in an article for Unicorn Booty. “This is untrue: most of my clients are rather handsome actually, they just seek sexual services based on convenience, not desperation. People also assume that most of my clients older men — and yes, they are.”

But Rogers doesn’t mind. He says older gents “have a better understanding of their desires and are able to articulate them clearly.” And, yes, they also tend to be more financially stable, too.

“It’s no surprise that our sexual culture completely excludes older gay men,” he continues, recalling a recent ageism workshop he attended at a national conference on LGBTQ equality. “One of the men in my group mentioned how gay media often presents young guys as affluent as a way to further glamorize youth. Another noted that images of beauty idols haven’t changed since he was a young man.”

“While the consumers have aged, the models have remained the young,” he writes. “Thus, our very concept of beauty has stagnated, pushing older generations out of the sexual imagination.”

Rogers then points to a 2013 survey that found 63 percent of gay men over 60 were living alone with no partner.

“When we refuse to talk to our elders or allow them into sexualized spaces,” Rogers says, “it only increases their isolation, and our own.”

This, Rogers feels, need to change.

“It is up to us to set aside our highly sexualized culture and create a bridge to our older counterparts,” he writes. “They need us and, if nothing else, communing with them will help lay a framework for when we too become seniors.”

“If we could find a way for senior gay men to share their experiences with our community–histories that are not being shared in a sex-focused culture–we won’t lose the most valuable thing we can get from each other: a stronger sense of our own identity, one that will last for generations.”

 

Source: http://www.queerty.com/curb-your-ageism-older-dudes-make-way-better-lovers-20160125

 

 

 

That is why I love older men