how to find regular FBuddy?

[Astroboy69]

Sigh - have been looking.... anyone knows how to find one? Hehhe

[gstringuy26]

It;s hard to find someone compatible! U need fate I guess! haha

[Kimochi]

Sauna start finding guys you like then play with them and ask if he's in for it 

[Luvuncles]

Very hard to find!!! 

[Guest Sport-coholic]

10 hours ago, gstringuy26 said:

It;s hard to find someone compatible! U need fate I guess! haha

9 hours ago, Kimochi said:

Sauna start finding guys you like then play with them and ask if he's in for it 

 

In sauna needs fate too. 

[Rice60640]

Fuck buddies are not found. They are cultivated. You have spend time and energy. 

[Kimochi]

1 hour ago, Sport-coholic said:

 

In sauna needs fate too. 

You go many times. Fate chance will naturally be higher 

[Lonelyboy90]

On 10/16/2017 at 10:21 PM, Kimochi said:

You go many times. Fate chance will naturally be higher 

 

tsk tsk kimo ah kimo..

[Kimochi]

1 hour ago, Lonelyboy90 said:

 

tsk tsk kimo ah kimo..

??? Yes lonely slut? Its simple mathematics cum probability. 

[XgymX]

shouldnt you be trying each other out first.

if enjoy each other then will naturally meet more 

and eventually become regular buddy

[thorzguy]

It doesn't happen just like that, overnight.
It takes time to build up the rapport, mutual understanding and respect before one can be a regular buddy.

Not easy to find one, so if found, just hang on tight.

[lovehandle]

14 hours ago, sgind said:

Tough to get to meet guys in the first place

Meeting indians tough??

 

some places have more, u ought to strategise

[lovehandle]

6 minutes ago, sgind said:

Looking to meet chn though. 

then u have to try harder, not asking u to lie

[XgymX]

On 10/20/2017 at 5:17 PM, sgind said:

Tough to get to meet guys in the first place

 

haha I feel many guys just playing hard to get 

even though they are lusting for you

once they tried and enjoy the sex

they will ask you for more

[NeoAstro]

You need some degree of compatibility with the other person.

 

With that said, you need to actually meet and try a guy (Sexually) since you want a fuckbuddy. Hook-up apps such as Grindr is actually a great platform to find one (in contrary believe) unless you prefer to check out a guy face to face (A lot of guys are picky and hate surprises lol). I got my fuckbuddies from Grindr for real.

 

Like one said, once you found a guy whom you like, you need to put some effort and energy to form that 'fuckbuddy' relationship. It's not hard to do. I always think it's like making a new friend except it's more intimate. I shared some of my personal life with him especially the current events including my sexual life, but not all of them because, well, he's still a stranger after all. So, shared with your own discretion. In other word, you need to communicate like you're trying to forge a friendship and be honest about your sexual life. Best is before you two go for the home run if you know what I mean like meeting up first for a dinner or lunch. This is based on my own experience lol. I remembered that with one of my fuckbuddies, we went for a date before actually sealing the deal at night. During that time, I told him about myself (again not all) including all my sexual experiences; when the last time I'd sex, with whom, who's my favorite lol and etc and he ended talking about the same thing. But the most important lesson here is not to take everything personally like getting jealous and never ever judge him. Try to know him, share your thought/opinion/advice and at the same time, never get too involved. You're not his bf (yet/or ever). After that, try to perform well in bed laaaa. Make him to like your personality and sex skill. I would want to add appearance, but, it's not something we can control. Just be happy if you're cute/handsome/fit/etc because it's definitely a plus. Before I forgot, this is for the first time you met a guy. Should you two ever have sex again, repeat the communicating step. Do it like you and a friend meet in a coffee shop to catch up with each other because like I said earlier, making a fuckbuddy is actually like making a new friend but don't share too much unless you trust him. And also one thing, don't  be afraid to share your sexual desires/ fetishes/like/dislike with him. Who knows if he actually shares the same interests as you do like I'm with my fuckbuddy. He told me that he wanted to take a piss on me and yeah I really like that because I'm a submissive bottom. I still remembered he was hesitate to tell me that because he was afraid I will freak out lol but look now, we became fuckbuddies and I like when he take a piss on me. I know all the things he likes to during sex like dry fucking (yup, he dry fucked me). Moral of the story, don't be reserved about your sex interests/fantasies because at the end of the day, fuckbuddy is all about sex. Be open about sex and always up for experiment lol! I've met a few guys who are so reserved about sex (and lame in it too) that I decided just ons with them. So, if you met someone like me and you're reserved about sex, it'll be hard for us to be fuckbuddies. Luckily, not all guys are like me lol. 

 

Ahhh, there is also a simple way to earn yourself a fuckbuddy. Chatting! Try to get to know each other by chatting. I believe this is a well-known and most-used mode of communication among gays. BW even got forum dedicated to get a chat buddy. So yeah. Just don't kill your opportunity to get to know a guy by being a jerk, pushy, ignorant or weird especially if you're opted to be discreet (no real picture whatsoever). I hate this kind or people and I think I'm not the only one. Try to forge some form of 'friendship' by doing what I've written above. By the time you and a guy meet, he should already like you personality. Now left for your sexual skill to determine the final outcome. This is how I earned myself another fuckbuddy and as of now, I've found a few potential candidates to be my fuckbuddies (I found from BW). The only obstacle is that they're far away from me lol... so sad. How I know? Because fuckbuddy relationship is almost like having an actual relationship but not so much. He's borderline that of a boyfriend but not one.

 

However, if you don't believe in your sex skill, no worry. Just tell the guy you're not good. Sometimes, he'll understand or he also feel the same thing about himself and he will tell about it too. Thus, you get a common thing going on and to discuss about! 

 

Speaking about fuckbuddies, oh man how I miss them a lot nowadays because I'm in a different city. Can't wait to visit them again lol. Cam just isn't enough for me.

 

Edited October 21, 2017 by NeoAstro

[Alson]

any slim or lean guys here to be fuck buddies ?

[Guest 72%dark]

On 16/10/2017 at 10:15 PM, Rice60640 said:

Fuck buddies are not found. They are cultivated. You have spend time and energy. 

Sorry to disagree. In most things I’m very much a believer in making the effort. But when it comes to sexual compatibility it’s really not something that can be cultivated, it’s as simple as the two people must have sexual likes and habits that complement. At the end of the day it’s about mutual pleasure. You can’t tell two tops or two bottoms to ‘cultivate’ their fuckbuddy relationship, for example, and the same thing applies to other aspects of sexual intercourse.

 

@NeoAstro, thanks for the great advice. I just want to point out though that there are people like me who would rather not communicate so much about themselves with a fuckbuddy. To me the relationship you describe is rather too intimate, more like a friendship (with benefits) or something akin to a BF. For some of us, a certain degree of anonymity can be a relief and an escape from the banality of our everyday lives. Sometimes we just want someone who wants us simply for our physical selves.

[LeanMature]

Nothing about mutual pleasure or sexual compatibility.  Two tops or bottoms who like each other can still have fun and gratification.  It is the preference of age and race that people get rejected.  You don't have to show your face, you will get rejected by telling your age or race.

 

On ‎22‎/‎12‎/‎2017 at 7:53 PM, 72%dark said:

Sorry to disagree. In most things I’m very much a believer in making the effort. But when it comes to sexual compatibility it’s really not something that can be cultivated, it’s as simple as the two people must have sexual likes and habits that complement. At the end of the day it’s about mutual pleasure. You can’t tell two tops or two bottoms to ‘cultivate’ their fuckbuddy relationship, for example, and the same thing applies to other aspects of sexual intercourse.

 

@NeoAstro, thanks for the great advice. I just want to point out though that there are people like me who would rather not communicate so much about themselves with a fuckbuddy. To me the relationship you describe is rather too intimate, more like a friendship (with benefits) or something akin to a BF. For some of us, a certain degree of anonymity can be a relief and an escape from the banality of our everyday lives. Sometimes we just want someone who wants us simply for our physical selves.

 

[Guest 72%dark]

On 23/12/2017 at 9:28 PM, LeanMature said:

Nothing about mutual pleasure or sexual compatibility.  Two tops or bottoms who like each other can still have fun and gratification.  It is the preference of age and race that people get rejected.  You don't have to show your face, you will get rejected by telling your age or race.

 

 

 

Hmm, perhaps your definition of "fuckbuddy" is different from mine, but a fuckbuddy is not the same as a one-night stand; crucially, a fuckbuddy is someone with whom you can and want to have sex repeatedly. So yes, two tops or two bottoms could certainly have fun together—for instance they could just jerk each other off;

but if they really like and want to have anal sex, someone is going to have to compromise and assume a role that he may not enjoy. And once someone's enjoyment is compromised, how well is that fuckbuddy 'relationship' serving him? What then is the point of remaining fuckbuddies with that specific person rather than someone more compatible? The same reasoning applies to other aspects of sexual intercourse (top/bottom role is just one example).

[LeanMature]

16 hours ago, 72%dark said:

 

Hmm, perhaps your definition of "fuckbuddy" is different from mine, but a fuckbuddy is not the same as a one-night stand; crucially, a fuckbuddy is someone with whom you can and want to have sex repeatedly. So yes, two tops or two bottoms could certainly have fun together—for instance they could just jerk each other off;

but if they really like and want to have anal sex, someone is going to have to compromise and assume a role that he may not enjoy. And once someone's enjoyment is compromised, how well is that fuckbuddy 'relationship' serving him? What then is the point of remaining fuckbuddies with that specific person rather than someone more compatible? The same reasoning applies to other aspects of sexual intercourse (top/bottom role is just one example).

 

If he likes your cute face and bod and cock,  he will compromise his position for you.  Every guy can a bottom but not every bottom can be a top.  If both are bottom, then the term fuckbuddy is not applicable.   

[trumpeter]

On 12/26/2017 at 5:33 PM, LeanMature said:

 

If he likes your cute face and bod and cock,  he will compromise his position for you.  Every guy can a bottom but not every bottom can be a top.  If both are bottom, then the term fuckbuddy is not applicable.   

Then it is call play mate or fun buddy

[Ironrod]

On 22/12/2017 at 7:53 PM, 72%dark said:

 

@NeoAstro, thanks for the great advice. I just want to point out though that there are people like me who would rather not communicate so much about themselves with a fuckbuddy. To me the relationship you describe is rather too intimate, more like a friendship (with benefits) or something akin to a BF. For some of us, a certain degree of anonymity can be a relief and an escape from the banality of our everyday lives. Sometimes we just want someone who wants us simply for our physical selves.

 

For the sake of "safety", I think what @NeoAstro suggested is a preferred method. The best way to be safe is to know the person's sexual history. Yes, maybe there is no need to talk abt family, work or even interest but a person's sexual history shows what kind of person he is and to the extend of his "risk appetite". Most of us wants a fuckbuddy becos we do not want to engage casual sex with strangers which put ourselves at higher risk.

[micrhoid]

(side note, you guys would've been getting FB or FWB much more easily than I do since you guys fit in the cookie cutter of what the gay community demands (don't try to talk to me about preferences), but then again, to each their own)

 

It's all about communication. @NeoAstro made incredibly perfect description on getting one. It's not really that hard to find at all. It's all about making efforts on trying to find one that fits the both of you, and compromise accordingly. Sure it's fine not to share a lot about your personal life, but you still need to find something between the two of you guys to stay close together. Else it's gonna be another one night stand and it won't work out.

[Rice60640]

On 12/22/2017 at 7:53 PM, 72%dark said:

Sorry to disagree. In most things I’m very much a believer in making the effort. But when it comes to sexual compatibility it’s really not something that can be cultivated, it’s as simple as the two people must have sexual likes and habits that complement. At the end of the day it’s about mutual pleasure. You can’t tell two tops or two bottoms to ‘cultivate’ their fuckbuddy relationship, for example, and the same thing applies to other aspects of sexual intercourse.

No need to be sorry for having your own opinion. What I meant is that you can find some guy for an ONS but if you want the ONS to become a regular then you need to spend time and energy and cultivate the relationship. 

 

Now it’s my turn to disagree. My FB and I are both tops but we like each other enough to be regular FB.  I think for us it’s the companionship, conversation and intimacy. Sex is just the cherry on top. Does it work for everyone?  Probably not. But it could happen is my point.