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Do You fxxk Around?
waterballoon reacted to TheVisitors for a topic
Open relationship is an arrangement a couple create for themselves, to give each other their freedom to express their sexuality with another person. I really don't think there is anything seriously wrong with it, when the couples are being honest and open with each other,as well as being honest with a third party who is willing to participate with their arrangement. So as long all participants are pleased with these arrangement, and act with responsibility, no one have the right to judge whose right and whose wrong. I have quite a few adventures with such couples, and I can vouch that they are often more pleasant, more honest and fun to be with, than with those who cheats behind their partners' back. Those are the ones who pretend to be the goody-two-shoes infront of their partners, but feast behind their backs. This is an act of betrayal, and when they get caught, they often turn the tables and blame their partners for forcing them to behave in such a manner. Open realtionships are not only exclusively practised in the gay culture, for the straights for their fair share of swing parties. I know of a straight married guy friend of mine, who enjoys watching his wife being fxxked by another guy. And she likes that too, so as long as they are getting their fun and itch scratched, why such we bother about them? When single, I do have and still have my wild days, provided I am responsible and aware of what am I doing. I do not be a prey to cheaters, I do not hurt anyone ( the innocent partner locked in the dark), and I do not get myself entangle with other people's messy lives. But when I am attached, I just automatically drop everything, for the rest of the world seems very unimportant to me suddenly. I just focus on with the one I want to establish with, to build that relationship to higher heights. But if it doesnt work, just move one, while you just learn to be wiser and kinder to yourself, while awaiting the next phrase in your life. For in life, there is nothing which is so conclusive or definite.1 point -
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suckmenao gave a reaction for a topic
To be fair, this topic was started by suckemenao and it is presumptuous to say what this topic is suppose to be about? And if it is a "debate", arguments based on morals etc. should be allowed as a debating point no? That said, I do see where GM is coming from and how the younger (perhaps more naive/over idealistic?) posters here seem to be too harsh on those with more open views. But this is what a forum is about right? To discuss and for each side to present a case why the other is wrong. That is what a debate is about. Being mature means being able to keep cool and not let the opinions of others affect us too much. Look forward to seeing more constructive arguments though and at least some acknowledgement there is some truth on both sides of the debate. (But of course it is so hard to avoid bitchiness from surfacing in a gay forum. lol)1 point -
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Tony Tan gave a reaction for a topic
yes, just like how homosexuals try to justify it is ok to put a penis in an anus? My take on the difference in attitudes is simple and without being judgemental. Some people are simply more sexual driven while others are emotionally driven. When you are sexually driven, your actions are controlled by your dick half the time. Such people see sex and making love as 2 different things. They can be loving and intimate with their partner, but the thrill of sex just isn't there. Emotionally driven guys are simply not wired to feel this way and hence can never understand why sexually driven guys feel the need to have more than one sex partner. There simply is no right or wrong here. It is just how people view sex differently, and just as how gay people argue that it is in their genes, is it also not possible that some people are genetically more inclined to want to mate with more than one person at a time? Try not to judge those who try to have an open relationship. If it works for them, why not just let them enjoy it and what is it for you to say they are not having a great relationship? Being sour-grapes perhaps? And does is it make some of you feel better when you see these relationships fail? At least they try to make something work. Rather than suppressing their needs and possibly taking out their frustration on their partners, by having a mutual understanding, could actually be a healthy outlet as long as the playing partner(s) are sexually responsible.1 point -
Of cos. When u r that old, u ll be sitting around Chinatown lurking for young guys cos no one wants to go to a relationship with u. Not everything that happens is because of u. Sure, u r the expert of the world regarding this issue. Wow. Its proven scientific studies that open relationship can work on some ppl (usually gay) and not for the other ppl (usually female). Though, some that in monogamy are actually already in an open rls just that they dont admit it just to avoid backlash from ppl like u. And do your naive mind really thinks that those gay couple that in a relationship that lasted for few decades, they really sleep with only one man? My life is fine thank u. Though i hope your sex life wil get better anytime soon since it sounds like u havent gotten any action lately. .1 point
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Not trying to be rude, but i heard from another thread that u dont suck cock, am i right? Anyone who got into a relationship with u will surely want an open rls cos of your lack of ability in sex area and your lack of desire to satisfy your partner. It's not really up to you or me to be "for or against" other people's relationships, or to judge them as "acceptable" or not. You don't get to vote on the ways other people live their lives. Please be more open minded and keep your argument to yourself, u r embarrassing yourself in your facebook already.1 point
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GachiMuchi gave a reaction for a topic
First, welcome to the real world, guess you are still growing up. Second, please don't be too idealistic and judgmental.1 point -
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GachiMuchi reacted to trevorcantona for a topic
i am sorry guys but who are we to judge? seriously, who are we? i know of couples whose relationships are no longer sexual anymore and this is their way of maintaining it! and i think some couples are fxxking around but maintain that they are in a "closed" relationship!?!? anyway, a relationship is not all about sex. of cos it is sex that makes it a relationship, nonetheless, everyone defines their own sexuality, and even when it comes to relationship! let us not judge those who are in open relationship! what may not work for you, may actually work for others! P/S: from all the long term relationship couples i know, ALL either end up option 1: play together OR option 2: go open! so seriously...1 point -
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suckmenao reacted to waterballoon for a topic
I don't mean to come across rude, but this is pretty ridiculous. I know being younger means there's a lot of things about life that are not understood, and many experiences or lessons not learned yet. However, I don't think that means that just because you're young you're not allowed to voice your opinion or to give "moralistic lessons". I mean... this IS a forum after all, where people (including rampant anonymous guests) say what they want. I'm not saying anyone's in the right or wrong, but it's really bad to pass of a sweeping statement that younger members are supposed to be like this, and older members are supposed to be like that, because there is no mold that anyone should be shaped after. Also, there's nothing wrong, if a younger person were to make you realize something new right? The vibe that I'm getting is that the older members seem to feel, "Oh he's too young, who cares about what he's saying. Probably untrue and based on his own young fantasy, compared to what I've learned in this harsh world." That is not wrong, but I really don't feel it's any right either. I do respect older members like you GachiMuchi but I also feel that many of the young members do give constructive comments and such.0 points -
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GachiMuchi reacted to waterballoon for a topic
totally agree with this. I really hate and disagree the notion of "open relationships" because... well look at our parents and other couples. Surely they don't fxxk around after they're married, right? I mean of course there are mistresses and all that stuff, but the way "open relationship" concept goes on in this community, it's like it's a right & nothing wrong or immoral at all, which disturbs me.-1 points -
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GachiMuchi gave a reaction for a topic
I agreed. I cant stand ppl who are not faithful to his partner. If you still wants to fool around, not get into relationship. Im a conservative guy and will never agree to any so called open relationship. If other ppl want to be open, let them be but i will expect my love ones to be faithful to me. Sigh...where to find such faithful ppl?-1 points -
The people expecting their partner to let them fxxk around is just as idealistic in the opposite way. And we are all growing up all the time if you still haven't figured out. Just look at the fact that most visitors of this forum are aged above 54, at least I don't think I will be lurking around a gay internet forum as often when I am that old I think you're right. But what I can't stand is those who did it in the background and tried to involve me in it. Oh the horror. I don't suck just any cocks like some people here, if you're really that curious about my oral activity. Lacking in ability in sex area can only be decided by the ones I've been in bed with, who don't seem to have ever complained at all. And I know better to not get attached if I still haven't found what I'm looking for. Also it's not up to you either if I want to keep my argument to myself or not, and I'm not embarrassing myself at all if you and your brilliant mind think so. And here's a bad news for you: most people in the world ended up agreeing that monogamy/mono-amory is eventually the best decision because it is too complicated to have one partner even - they may go and try without being known by their partner, but most would end up going back home anyway; though the ones who just can't settle down always end up being alone and lonely in the end eventually from my personal and unproven observation. And I hope your life will get better anytime soon since it doesn't sound like that at all to me-1 points
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GachiMuchi reacted to steelwings for a topic
If you are in an exclusive relationship, you do not get involved sexually with someone else, period. If you are doing that right now. Stop.-1 points -
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steelwings reacted to imchaser for a topic
No offence, but im not even old but at least i know enough to know whats happening in the real world and not in Disneyland, and not judge ppl by it whether its up against your moral believe or not. And at least i dont keep comparing gay relationship with straight relationship by using my parents as example like u and some poster above. Remember the thread abt why married men cheat ? Its the same case here by keep pushing your moral values here to our gay faces. Want it or not, open relationship is something thats is going on in this world, more if in a gay relationship. Hell, i think gay r the one that coined the term "open relationship". Thats why even Facebook have the Open Relationship option as their status. Why all u guys keep condemning open relationship as if its cheating, i dunno. Open relationship and Cheating in a relationship is different issue. Dont get confused. Many gay couples negotiate open relationships. They negotiate ground rules and open their relationships as a way to build trust and longevity in their partnerships. I think it's quite natural for men to want to continue to have an active sex life and be sexually attracted to other men. U don't own your lover, and you don't own his body. I think it's weird to ask someone you love to give up that part of their life. Im not saying that im an open relationship guy, but i know myself enough to realize that it's common for couples to get in a rut after they've been together for years and sex can grow predictable and unexciting. All of u guys seems just want to think of oh prince charming happily ever after till death do us part kind of ideal life.-1 points