My ex used to be one of those guys. Very well respected in the community he lived in, was the president of the local chamber of commerce, owned a small real estate business. Had a wife, 3 kids, church leader etc. But every so often, he would go to the gay bath-houses then and enjoy his himself. The pressure of maintaining the facade became too much after a while, and living up to the expectations of everyone but himself. So he came out, got divorced, and moved into the city. Having given up everything to the ex-wife and kids, he tried working in real estate for a while, but was not very successful. By chance he saw an ad looking for pxxn performers, he went and the rest is history