Having a gay parent, how do you cope up?

[Guest kaiser75]

My father recently admitted to us that he is gay. My mother fmhas filed for a divorce. Since then our family is in chaos. I'm a closeted gay myself. How would you cope up if you are in similar siutation.

[Rohanpune]

Let him knw that u understand him. I can imagine why he got married the pressure from Asian parents to get married is high. I'm guessing (and I may b wrong here) but he never pressured u to get married. That's because he knows how much it must be killing him inside and he didn't want u to go trough the same thing. Just be there for him living a lie is not easy as we all know here.

i can only imagine how hard it's going to be for u and ur family, but these are the same parents who cared and loved you. Family problems exist for all but different for each. 

every family has their problems "All happy families are alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way"-Leo Tolstoy. 

and look at the silver lining u have someone who understands u better now. 

[fab]

I love you no matter who u r.

[cutejack]

Wow interesting topic. Pls share. Guess not many dad will confess abt this. But i m meeting alot of gay daddy outside. Nice to hear that they are married with children in their marriagable age. Kinky

[wkayz]

Wow so dramatic. How old are you and is your dad?

 

I guess maybe after this you can also confess to him, to show that you got his back. Or probably he already knew you're one of them as well..? Your mom must be devastated.

[Ener]

Intro your dad to me please. 

[And then]

Support your mum, and maybe don't come out to her just yet.

Support your dad and come out to him.

No need to blame anyone.

[Guest guest]

Very drama.

[Guest Empathy]

While some of us may make contemptuous joke of the situation, do have empathy for TS. 

 

It is not easy to be in the middle of a family that is in chaos.  At both his ends, they are still his parents whom he cares and respects.

 

I have no best solution for you, TS.  Perhaps, all that you can do is to stay neutral and be there for both your father and mother as they are sorting things out.  They have to make their choices, ultimately.  They may approach you and ask for your well being.  Should they do that, be honest with your feelings.  It is important to do that and that you are heard.  You don't have to tell them about your sexual orientation now - that will only escalate to another 'problem'.  

 

I am glad that you are trying to reach out for some help here.  Perhaps, you may also want to reach out to your friends that know about you.  You have to talk about your inner feelings, about what is happening around you that is affecting you.

 

Take care.