Share your experience of being Ghosted, Catfish encounter (compiled)

[Guest Weirdo]

On 10/17/2020 at 4:42 PM, Guest Hazily Instructor said:

Heads up guys, there are some real weirdos in this group. Someone messaged me thru my registered profile asking to meet up in the woods for a naked Satanic ritual and then they didn't show up. 🤬

Sorry, ritual cancelled because of rain. We meet up tonight 11pm same place? No see no scatter 

[Guest Guest]

LGBT Dating

 

Sad for the crane operator. 😔

[Guest Satanic Boi]

Woah how do i get in touch with other satanists who are into ritualistic sex ? 😈

[Guest Scared]

This thread very scary. 

Why local so jovial about this type? 

 

In the US, got this type of case the victim end up dead, chopped up, eaten etc. 

 

Please don't spread this kind of nonsense. 

[Guest haze]

On 10/17/2020 at 4:42 PM, Guest Hazily Instructor said:

Heads up guys, there are some real weirdos in this group. Someone messaged me thru my registered profile asking to meet up in the woods for a naked Satanic ritual and then they didn't show up. 🤬

Maybe he did show up? Just that you can't see him. Did you perform the ritual as instructed?

[Guest Busstopping]

Like just ignore their messages/call and avoid contact, and wish they get the message, or would you tell the you’re no longer interested?

[Guest He Lied]

I ghosted someone for sending me his outdated picture before the meetup.  He told me his photo was recent but when he arrived, he looks like someone 20 years older.  I immediately took cover in one corner until the guy left without noticing I was around. 

[Guest Random guest]

I used to date this guy who was clingy, but his dick was nice. After dating 6 months, i grew tired of him and went to his place to had one last sex. In the end, i just told him he deserved better and i will be back. Then i proceeded to ignore him just so i can see his reaction. But he became stalkerish for no reason. Glad he is out of my life now.

[Guest I felt nauseous]

19 hours ago, Guest Random guest said:

I used to date this guy who was clingy, but his dick was nice. After dating 6 months, i grew tired of him and went to his place to had one last sex.

You are living proof why so many gay people are reserved and afraid of having sexual relationship with anyone at all.  People would rather be single than being trashed by you like disposable underwear.  

[Guest Regan]

Causing char

https://t.me/joinchat/c1X3K6wsWzc4ZDBl

[yoyo74]

Ghosting someone is not a good thing as it makes others miserable trying to search for an answer. If i dislike anyone i will at least tell him the reason for it before ending any kind of relationship so that i wont be causing any extra misery. What i believe is if you ghost someone than when someone do the same thing to you than you will be deserving such treatment. I want to make it a point that if someone really ghost on me, I wont be feeling i deserve it lol

[Expired Btm Uncle]

I think if you put urself at the receiving end of ghosting, would you like it? 

[kiloKilo]

Many of us who are not within the male beauty standard will easily receive one or more of the following negative responses: 

 

- Blocked

- Ignored

- Lead on and ghosted

- Hate replies

 

To be on the receiving end is really sad and miserable. Be kind, just reject politely. At least they can continue their life without feeling more miserable.

[begleitung]

On 4/29/2021 at 7:28 PM, kiloKilo said:

 

 

To be on the receiving end is really sad and miserable. Be kind, just reject politely. At least they can continue their life without feeling more miserable.

Agree. It’s hurtful though the other thinks it’s ok. 

[lonely57]

On 4/29/2021 at 7:28 PM, kiloKilo said:

Many of us who are not within the male beauty standard will easily receive one or more of the following negative responses: 

 

- Blocked

- Ignored

- Lead on and ghosted

- Hate replies

- Sorry not my type

 

To be on the receiving end is really sad and miserable. Be kind, just reject politely. At least they can continue their life without feeling more miserable.

 

added one more. seems like everyone's type is above said male beauty standard. 

[kiloKilo]

20 hours ago, begleitung said:

Agree. It’s hurtful though the other thinks it’s ok. 

Happen too often to be a norm.

[kiloKilo]

20 hours ago, lonely57 said:

 

added one more. seems like everyone's type is above said male beauty standard. 

Yah. Is like porn and social media have condition us that sex or date is only pleasurable with the above adverage looking people. Coming out as gay is hard, to be part of the community even harder 🤣.

[Guest Hantu]

Fear of the other person being rejected may not take it kindly or accept the rejection, hence ghosting is the appropriate approach to give the subtle hint. The person being rejected  should get the hint if he's been in this circle for long as ghosting is prevalent in the gay community and has been in existence since time memorial when gay movement took root in SG.

 

Take heart, chill and don't be too clingy. 

[Guest Try and see]

22 minutes ago, lookseelooksee said:

Does anyone else have a similar experience? I find it so sad that we must either give in to other people's demands of us or risk being ghosted/blocked. Why can't we just be true friends?

 

Happened to me several times, especially when I said that I just wanted to hang out, but without any sex.

 

A lot of gay guys are like that, so don't feel bad.

It's not you; it's them.

They are behaving worse than char bor.

[yuquidam]

Ghosted is good. That means he turns into a ghost not you ....keke.

 

No lost bro. It's their lost. In fact, good riddance.

[FattChoy]

On 12/29/2016 at 12:58 AM, kidster said:

The objective of this poll is to bring your attention such unwarranted behavior on Grindr. We are all out to find friends, sex for some (let's not deny it) and LTR for many in this small lonely circle.

 

Life as an aj is already very tough. Why makes it worse for our fellow members? 

Cos young people these days suck at socializing.  

[Zealouslogue]

1 hour ago, FattChoy said:

Cos young people these days suck at socializing.  

Eh hello, not easy for us youngsters to socialize these days. Don't anyhow ah. 

[Guest Ghosted]

Can a person be walking in front of you down a footpath and then just disappear?

This has happened 3 times in a week down a local footpath near my home.

[Guest Jof67]

I was ghosted before for having a mongolian look. I paid back on some occasion to those too chinese looking ones

[lightsmith32]

Sometimes we chat with others, naturally they lose interest and move away.  Sometimes we meet people and they move away after first date or few dates. Sometimes we love someone and they too move away. Can be us, can be them. These are natural and nothing wrong. 

 

Ghosting is something u do becoz u cannot take responsibility for your wrong actions or you are so childlike you cannot communicate and bring a situation into a propee course ... a person with value will not do it ... 

 

I have been ghosted but i have always consciously made sure never to ghost people, leave people hanging, be rude to people.

 

Like say like, dont like say dont like. Keep head high and walk away.

[notd]

As the saying goes...

 

Treat others how you would like to be treated yourself.

 

Unless that person has given you an extremely good reason to ghost them, which doesn't happen most of the time, you owe it to them and more importantly, yourself to give them a closure. 

 

I'm guilty as charged when it comes to ghosting people too, and I did a lot of that when I was healing from a period of uncertainty and heartbreak.

 

That being said, these days, I try to make conscious effort of letting people down nice and slowly if I find that our paths or goals no longer align. A simple "Thank you for the interest, but the connection that you and I have is not the connection that I'm looking for," easily sends the message across and leaves things on a pleasant note for both parties to reconnect again, if ever. 

 

Don't burn bridges unless you have to. I'm not saying you should stay friends with people that you dislike, but a friend or acquaintance gained is one less enemy made.

[Zyscgk]

On 4/26/2021 at 11:15 PM, Guest Random guest said:

I used to date this guy who was clingy, but his dick was nice. After dating 6 months, i grew tired of him and went to his place to had one last sex. In the end, i just told him he deserved better and i will be back. Then i proceeded to ignore him just so i can see his reaction. But he became stalkerish for no reason. Glad he is out of my life now.

Psycho....he's lucky to be rid of you. 

[Same]

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[30yochinese]

hi, Happy T.G.I.F. Below's content is X-Rated. Personally, i don't want to expose my sexual-life publicly, coz 1 or 2 guys have P.M. me for LTR/dates & once they read about my escapades... i am F*****Up. To my dear potential bf/bff, pls don't get pissed off reading this. thx. 

 

 

(1)

Guy on Grindr, invites me to his place at Tampines. of all the CatFish (CF) i have come across... THIS GUY RANKS THE MOST EVIL, why? he lures u into his trap. 

          

to excite me, he does a video-call with me. I shall spare u the details on what he did in the Video-Call... but i thought he was real. Anyway, when i reached, he blocked me. has this happened to me before? YES, but never has someone lured me via video to go to his place. 

       

                

(2) CF Type#2

tbh, this guy isn't a CF, but what he did was. U see, he doesn't reveal much during my conversation with him. He is late 40s, ah being look, & when i reach his place, this is why he is a CF:

-he does chem sex,

-he uses poppers,

-he smokes,

-he does it raw,

once he took out a Cigarette, i left. 

        

to make matters worse, he won't suck or do nipple-play, he won't kiss,& our dear-ah-beng doesn't know the meaning for the word "Foreplay"... then WTF am i here for?

     

to give him tution on how to how-to-suck? CF asks u to go to his place, & doesn't tell u his bad habits =(

      

i shall end here. i am very very very scared... Guy#2 is 48yo & stays at Holland Rise. 10 years from now i will be in my late 40s, like him... & he scares me coz he is addicted to 3 vices. dear D, if u are reading this... if u continue living like this... U won't be able to reach 50yo.😮😱

     

     

*one more thing, i realised the articles i wrote... i should get a job at the Customer Service Counter, lol ... if u wonder why i write so well... it ain't becoz i have a high I.Q. ... but becoz i have a photographic memory. i thank God🙏for this gift 😃

Edited August 6, 2021 by 30yochinese
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[riverrobles]

I have one example of people even editing conversations or direct messages in IG by putting their own and username. This will then be used as proof to persuade other victims that he can be trusted, that the reviews are good. So beware esp with online transactions with anonymous people you just had a conversation with in Twitter, in any groupchat , Grindr. 

 

[BudakFit]

Any apps sure have one....they take someone else pics etc....most always ask for dick pic and when you say NO they will say yours is small etc....that is why don't want to share haha it is them who is small...insecure and blaming to someone else...pity and sad to this kind of people....they think they can get what they want or they think you sure want something from them... remember just move on many Q on the list... no need to obey or give what they want.....

 

For those who are new or curious or bi if you chat or wanna meet up here ask for more pics or even better VC. VC show face only then end. Then VC again for body to cock to asss..so they can't record you or photoshop haha same goes for group cams or vc or live...be smart. Either you show face body or just body with tights or trunks or swimwear or body cock ass...so people won't know who u r or can record etc...and do remember just ignore those who keep asking your dick pic etc...coz high chance they played u out n block u... If they want to see ask them meet up they will get so annoy n block you...coz they don't get what they want...fair isn't it...for me I am fucking damn direct if you wanna see my dick meet me stop asking how big etc....I fucking dont own you anything...if not keen move on..it is not my lost it is yours haha if compare also you be kneeling down choking me somewhere...big enough to slapped your horny fuck face haha 

 

I always regularly update my pics and info all apps etc....

 

Some use old pics for many years obviously....like this fit jock guy in pics all pecs abs ask him that is all your latest pics he say yes...when meet all bodyfats not fit etc but we end our night well 😏 he still damn hot cute to me haha and when u meet them it is them but different then their younger back then....yet again it always your call....

 

So to all, if they play game you play too....you deserved better anyway....me and my groups are here if you need someone 😏🤗💦

 

I be your leader, guru and master! Haha 

 

[Koyima]

Grindr def has a shit ton of catfish but so do all apps. But fortunately theyre really easy to catch. If its too good to be true, you can always ask for a video chat. Ive had my few catfishes, do what I do. Walk away and laugh LMAO

[30yochinese]

Some use old pics for many years obviously....

@BudakFit, the old face pic i used, shows me CLEAN SHAVEN. when i sent my current face pic to a guy... he rejected me coz right now... i have alot of facial hair.

                 

its quite sad he hates Guys who are Hairy... & only likes Guys who are cute... 
    
Good thing he rejected me, coz now i can see his "True Colours".
          

[begleitung]

On 8/6/2021 at 9:41 PM, Koyima said:

Grindr def has a shit ton of catfish but so do all apps. But fortunately theyre really easy to catch. If its too good to be true, you can always ask for a video chat. Ive had my few catfishes, do what I do. Walk away and laugh LMAO

Good summary. 

[begleitung]

Catfish exist everywhere 

[riverrobles]

Even before Grindr people catfish already so just be prepared in any app, catfishing is used in identity theft,doxxing, scamming (love scams,charity scams, accident scams,etc) and blackmailing . So it is not just the be all end all of relationships, use it only as a tool but of course nothing can beat actual dates, making friends, having activities like what @BudakFitis doing. Even in Tinder, trans(posing as women) people bait straight guys then in exchange for intimate photos and videos and identity or personal info, once they get it, it can be used for extortion and blackmail. Even our own PLUs or LGBTQIA brothers expose discreet guys and blackmail them in Grindr and other. apps exposing their face photos, mobile numbers and real identities. The worst case is when catfishing is used for vendetta or revenge exposing real identities of male masseurs, male sex workers or high end escorts who can be gay or straight, professionals , celebrities or even influencers. 

 

My advice:

For apps, I prefer okcupid especially if you are looking for LTR and Recon for fetishes and kinks that you specifically like, like BDSM< exhibitionism.

 

For good natured and wholesome fun with strangers, PLU or not, I use this app MeetUp or AirBnB experience to participate and join an activity I like. Hint: you may find a friend there and it could a good start, be open, smile and start a convo.

[Guest sad]

i got ghosted by my boyfriend of almost 2 years after a very big argument. he did not respond to my texts for 2 months. after a while i decided to stop waiting and just walk away. it's honestly painful but sometimes the lack of a commitment from a marriage makes this a lot easier and convenient. consider it dodging a bullet?

[FattChoy]

On 9/4/2021 at 3:54 PM, Guest sad said:

i got ghosted by my boyfriend of almost 2 years after a very big argument. he did not respond to my texts for 2 months. after a while i decided to stop waiting and just walk away. it's honestly painful but sometimes the lack of a commitment from a marriage makes this a lot easier and convenient. consider it dodging a bullet?

Is it 2 years or 2 mths?

 

It's more like he ghosted you forever.  It took you 2 mths to realize and 2 years to end your denials.  

[Guest filter]

Grindr is all about filtering. You filter, I filter you.

 

Everyone end up on the shelves as years go by 

[Guest FuttChoy]

On 1/18/2020 at 1:12 PM, FattChoy said:

It's part and parcel of dating scene.  Don't be an ass and you'll get ghosted less.

 

You mean don't be an ass like yourself?

[lonely57]

is it considered ghosting if u been on a few dates with him but it was never really established that we were a couple?

[Guest Ahgui]

How to deal with being ghosted? Am i so bad? Just suddenly stopped replying despite my attempts to text him over the apps 

[Guest btmguy]

Nothing you can do about it. Just move on

[greg01greg]

Just something I like to share - so last night someone replied to my post and we arrange to meet. 

Everything went well, seem like an altogether sane bloke.. 

then about 30 min to supposedly arrive, he said that he fell off the stairs and his legs was bleeding. 

The message just stopped there left me wondering if he was lying in a pool of blood... 

 

I wonder should I be calling for the ambulance for him?

 

Moments later found him online... im guessing he flaked.. oh well...

Sent him a message thanking for his time replying to my post sharing his explicit pictures and all.

Of course - no reply from him..

 

I'm just glad he's ok and didn't lose a leg over a hook up.. 

 

to that guy, just be upfront.. dont need the drama.. or you will one day fall off the stairs and you might need that help..

 

let's not be afraid to say "no thanks"

Edited May 25, 2022 by greg01greg

[Guest >o<]

Maybe he was there, saw you, change his mind and then his fake story

 

[greg01greg]

On 5/25/2022 at 1:52 PM, Guest &gt;o&lt; said:

Maybe he was there, saw you, change his mind and then his fake story

 

 

haha perhaps.. but I was at home the whole time.. fake a story I don't care but at least be smart about it and say sorry can't meet..

I guess he watched too many Indian dramas with dramatic cliffhangers haha

[Guest Drama mama]

But you also drama leh. 

You come forum created a drama thread to stir drama and pull other people into your drama. 

 

Sorry hun you can't preach no drama when you are participating in one yourself... 

 

This is why people anyhow. Cause someone did it to me. I for fun do the same things to others. 

 

Don't hook up online la. 

 

Then face cam or zoom or what. Technology so good now. Ppl still send headless picture? You trust the photo is real ah? 

 

Lol

 

Anyway this forum alot of time waster one. Some poster not even from Singapore. 

 

One time I saw got people post at toilet at night. Now etc. I go see. Nobody one. 

 

All fake one la. 

 

Go pink dot and meet people better. Or go changi beach toilet and meet the young people better... 

 

 

 

[greg01greg]

On 5/25/2022 at 2:50 PM, Guest Drama mama said:

But you also drama leh. 

You come forum created a drama thread to stir drama and pull other people into your drama. 

 

Sorry hun you can't preach no drama when you are participating in one yourself... 

 

This is why people anyhow. Cause someone did it to me. I for fun do the same things to others. 

 

Don't hook up online la. 

 

Then face cam or zoom or what. Technology so good now. Ppl still send headless picture? You trust the photo is real ah? 

 

Lol

 

Anyway this forum alot of time waster one. Some poster not even from Singapore. 

 

One time I saw got people post at toilet at night. Now etc. I go see. Nobody one. 

 

All fake one la. 

 

Go pink dot and meet people better. Or go changi beach toilet and meet the young people better... 

 

 

 

 

 

huh? while youre here as guest hiding yourself as a pot stirrer.. 

again HUH? 

thanks for your input.. go have a good day at the beach.. 

[Guest Guest]

So, people fell down the stairs and his leg bled means he cannot remain online meh? Since when do people needs a pair of walking legs and full body of blood to go online? I really dunno how TS think most of the time. 

[greg01greg]

On 5/25/2022 at 2:59 PM, Guest Guest said:

So, people fell down the stairs and his leg bled means he cannot remain online meh? Since when do people needs a pair of walking legs and full body of blood to go online? I really dunno how TS think most of the time. 

ahhh so should I be editing the post to cater to your understanding? well he was online, meaning he was still alive but didn't reply to me when I asked if he was ok.  anyway im sorry that you need me to break the story down for your understanding.   

thanks for your input .. now off to your next topic to nip pick on  

Edited May 25, 2022 by greg01greg