Life phases of gay men

[Guest Curious]

What are the life phases of gay men?

For heterosexuals, they study, party and socialise, find a job, get married have a house, get children and pay off mortgages and debts and no more clubbing.

Is it the same for homosexuals less the marriage and children?

[Guest Umm]

On 8/15/2022 at 10:04 PM, Guest Curious said:

What are the life phases of gay men?

For heterosexuals, they study, party and socialise, find a job, get married have a house, get children and pay off mortgages and debts and no more clubbing.

Is it the same for homosexuals less the marriage and children?

There's no fixed answer. The only thing common among all straight people, is that they're straight. The only thing all gay men have in common is that they're gay.

 

What you brought up is one of those "common life paths" which, while many people do follow (and there's nothing wrong with that btw), there's nothing binding every single person to.

 

We're in a fairly-prosperous era where if someone happens to be gay, it's not an automatic damnation, where the field of sexuality is being given more attention, and where the equal rights of LGBT people are slowly getting recognized.

 

Your sexuality is just one part of you; it's up to you how you want to live your life.

 

Sure, some "life paths" are more prevalent in some social circles than others, but I think all humans do have some degree of free will - there's no fixed "life phases" all gay men follow.

 

There are still some places today where gay guys can only "live" their sexuality "underground". In some places today, gay men can get married, buy houses, adopt or even biologically father children - and of these, some would also have a chance to get into messy divorces (like some straight people, lol). Gay people, like ALL people, come in all varieties; shapes and sizes; personalities and worldviews. Red or blue, loud or quiet, nice or nicer, etc. Don't be pressurized to be or to do anything you wouldn't want to.

 

Ask yourself, contemplate on who you are, what you want, and have a backbone. Yes, we grow and our worldview may develop through life experiences, but as long as you act with a clear conscience, you can own your choices and corresponding consequences, and be able to sleep at night. That's good enough for me.