What is your fear?

[Guest fearless]

1. Fear getting old

 

or

 

2. Fear for not having money when old

[Guest Fearless]

No fear. 

Just live. 

When money run out. 

Just die. 

[Guest Guest]

Fear all my saving who will spend it after I die.

[Guest Fearless]

10 minutes ago, Guest Guest said:

Fear all my saving who will spend it after I die.

 

No need fear there.

I will gladly take that burden off from your hands 

[passinthenight]

24 minutes ago, Guest Guest said:

Fear all my saving who will spend it after I die.

 If you don't travel 1st class, the people who inherit your money, will.

[passinthenight]

My fear is being the richest man in the graveyard.

This is why I retired early and spending as quickly as I can.

[Guest Do you know?]

Fear the unknown.  

[Guest Guest]

Fear one day no more blowing wind  due to those old moderator pass away one day .

[drektster]

the older a person grows the less fear there is.

[Guest Papaya]

Just dreamt being retrench, think  thats is my fear.

[lonelyglobe]

Outlived flat's lease,  flat gone,  CPF gone, cash gone,  real tragedy. 

[kidster]

Fear of my boss calling for meeting at 5pm daily. It's never a short one. lol

[Guest Guest]

Fear when I reach 70 my dick can't  erect. If to become bottom wonder any cutie will like to screw a 70  year old man .

 

[egal]

fear of fear

[Steve5380]

On 11/18/2022 at 6:07 AM, drektster said:

the older a person grows the less fear there is.

 

While some fear death as they get older,  those who are fortunate like us we start to shed the reasons of fear as we see that much of it does not materialize.  

 

On 11/18/2022 at 4:41 AM, Guest Do you know? said:

Fear the unknown.  

 

Yes, the unknown can inspire fear, like what we felt as children in the dark!   Later on, when we realize that there is much more we don't know than what we know,  we take it easy and even...  even embrace our ignorance,  our total ignorance of the "supernatural", for example.  One thought that can set us free is: " fear not what we cannot change",  because such fear is a waste of energy.

 

On 11/17/2022 at 9:36 PM, Guest fearless said:

1. Fear getting old

or

2. Fear for not having money when old

 

LOL!  I am getting old and older, wooooohhhh.   No, I'm kidding.  An octogenarian but the fear has not set in yet.  Am I a latecomer, or will I be able to avoid it?

[VS_06]

Cicak 

[thatsamore]

The drill at the dentist...

[Sweetie Pie]

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On 11/19/2022 at 9:47 PM, lonelyglobe said:

Outlived flat's lease,  flat gone,  CPF gone, cash gone,  real tragedy. 

I believed that the majority of people are afraid of their health issues.  In addition to being painful and inconvenient, it also has a cost.  All negative thoughts will surface if you are lonely.  Scary, right?

 

[Samuel Lim]

So, I like to think of myself as a pretty fearless person. I mean, bring on the the dark, or even public speaking—I'm game. But when it comes to heights, well, let's just say I turn into a quivering mess. And, uh, let's not even get started on vaginas. They might as well be the final frontier for me.

[Jellapho]

I am fearful of being left all alone after my parents pass on. As i get older, it's less likely for me to find a partner and my social circle gets smaller. I think I can understand why some people continue to work after their retirement. It's not always about the livelihood after retirement, but rather to stay connected with others, keep oneself busy so that time passes less painfully compared to staying at home alone, not knowing what to do day to day. Sometimes these thoughts frighten me as they race through my mind before I sleep at night, leaving me in tears at the prospect of living alone eventually....

[GachiMuchi]

2 hours ago, Jellapho said:

I am fearful of being left all alone after my parents pass on. As i get older, it's less likely for me to find a partner and my social circle gets smaller. I think I can understand why some people continue to work after their retirement. It's not always about the livelihood after retirement, but rather to stay connected with others, keep oneself busy so that time passes less painfully compared to staying at home alone, not knowing what to do day to day. Sometimes these thoughts frighten me as they race through my mind before I sleep at night, leaving me in tears at the prospect of living alone eventually....

 

We all will have to face our fears head on and plan ahead for our future.

 

If I were you, you should start planning for your future.

1. Plan to put yourself in a old age home. Can call and check out which old folk home and how much they charge.

2. Go do some volunteer work. Besides caltivating good karma, you will get to know social workers, and other volunteers, etc. Who knows, you might find a good friend which you can grow old together.

3. Find out how you can prevent depression and work towards being more positive. Being alone does not necessarily meant that you will be lonely.

4. Seek counselling if posstible, if your depressive mood persist. Only you can help yourslef as you will understand yourself better than strangers or friends.

 

Here are some agencies that provides help and counselling.
There are several resources in Singapore that can provide support for elderly individuals who might be feeling lonely or depressed:

1. NTUC Health: They offer a range of services including nursing homes, day centers, and active aging programs. These facilities provide not just care, but also opportunities for social interaction and meaningful connections.

2. Silver Support Scheme: This government initiative provides cash supplements to seniors aged 65 and above who had low incomes during their working years. It aims to give them greater assurance in retirement.

3. Pioneer and Merdeka Generation Packages: These packages offer healthcare subsidies and MediSave top-ups to seniors who have contributed to Singapore's development.

4. Seniors' Mobility and Enabling Fund: This fund provides subsidies for assistive devices such as wheelchairs and walking sticks, helping seniors to age actively within their communities.

5. Social Service Offices: You can visit your nearest Social Service Office or call the ComCare hotline at 1800-222-0000 for personalized assistance and support.

6. Community Activities: Encouraging participation in community activities, such as senior citizen clubs, hobby groups, or volunteer programs, can help reduce feelings of loneliness and depression.

It's important to reach out and seek help when needed. There are many resources available to support the well-being of elderly individuals in Singapore.

 

 

[Jellapho]

17 minutes ago, GachiMuchi said:

 

We all will have to face our fears head on and plan ahead for our future.

 

If I were you, you should start planning for your future.

1. Plan to put yourself in a old age home. Can call and check out which old folk home and how much they charge.

2. Go do some volunteer work. Besides caltivating good karma, you will get to know social workers, and other volunteers, etc. Who knows, you might find a good friend which you can grow old together.

3. Find out how you can prevent depression and work towards being more positive. Being alone does not necessarily meant that you will be lonely.

4. Seek counselling if posstible, if your depressive mood persist. Only you can help yourslef as you will understand yourself better than strangers or friends.

 

Here are some agencies that provides help and counselling.
There are several resources in Singapore that can provide support for elderly individuals who might be feeling lonely or depressed:

1. NTUC Health: They offer a range of services including nursing homes, day centers, and active aging programs. These facilities provide not just care, but also opportunities for social interaction and meaningful connections.

2. Silver Support Scheme: This government initiative provides cash supplements to seniors aged 65 and above who had low incomes during their working years. It aims to give them greater assurance in retirement.

3. Pioneer and Merdeka Generation Packages: These packages offer healthcare subsidies and MediSave top-ups to seniors who have contributed to Singapore's development.

4. Seniors' Mobility and Enabling Fund: This fund provides subsidies for assistive devices such as wheelchairs and walking sticks, helping seniors to age actively within their communities.

5. Social Service Offices: You can visit your nearest Social Service Office or call the ComCare hotline at 1800-222-0000 for personalized assistance and support.

6. Community Activities: Encouraging participation in community activities, such as senior citizen clubs, hobby groups, or volunteer programs, can help reduce feelings of loneliness and depression.

It's important to reach out and seek help when needed. There are many resources available to support the well-being of elderly individuals in Singapore.

 

 

 

Thank you for your kind advice.

[Sweetie Pie]

3 hours ago, Jellapho said:

I am fearful of being left all alone after my parents pass on. As i get older, it's less likely for me to find a partner and my social circle gets smaller. I think I can understand why some people continue to work after their retirement. It's not always about the livelihood after retirement, but rather to stay connected with others, keep oneself busy so that time passes less painfully compared to staying at home alone, not knowing what to do day to day. Sometimes these thoughts frighten me as they race through my mind before I sleep at night, leaving me in tears at the prospect of living alone eventually....

In contrast to an assisted living facility, you can opt to remain in a communal apartment where you have your own bedroom, kitchen, and bathroom while yet enjoying privacy.   Join groups for food salvage, nighttime walks, and bird viewing. Learn to paint, draw, cook, learn a new language, YouTube, write your own stories etc.  These are all very youthful activiies

 

Quietness is hard to come by in Singapore.  In actuality, being at home by yourself without any interruptions is a luxury, especially if you have already experienced life's challenging journeys and witnessed enough of humanity's ilks.   It's about time you lead a serene, secure, and healthy existence.  It's pointless to consider old age nursing home or to make plans to live in an assisted living facility because doing so accelerates your physical and mental aging.   Don't consider yourself old or aging; you can still outperform young people in a variety of ways, including being healthy, being streetwise, and being mature.   Don't be like those Lao Ah Pek who always look for a fight and then faced critical consequences as compared to your peaceful, safe existence.

  

 

[Steve5380]

13 hours ago, Sweetie Pie said:

In contrast to an assisted living facility, you can opt to remain in a communal apartment where you have your own bedroom, kitchen, and bathroom while yet enjoying privacy.   Join groups for food salvage, nighttime walks, and bird viewing. Learn to paint, draw, cook, learn a new language, YouTube, write your own stories etc.  These are all very youthful activiies

 

Quietness is hard to come by in Singapore.  In actuality, being at home by yourself without any interruptions is a luxury, especially if you have already experienced life's challenging journeys and witnessed enough of humanity's ilks.   It's about time you lead a serene, secure, and healthy existence.  It's pointless to consider old age nursing home or to make plans to live in an assisted living facility because doing so accelerates your physical and mental aging.   Don't consider yourself old or aging; you can still outperform young people in a variety of ways, including being healthy, being streetwise, and being mature.   Don't be like those Lao Ah Pek who always look for a fight and then faced critical consequences as compared to your peaceful, safe existence.

  

 

 

I agree with you.  We should plan for old age with the goal to stay HEALTHY.  This is No. 1.  While we are healthy and self-sufficient we better stay away from "assisted living facility",  aka "decrepit old people's refuge till death".   I don't know about communal apartments in SG,  if "communal" is really necessary.  I live alone in a family house, isolated from the exterior world, except that my "communal" is a good neighborhood where one sees other neighbors rarely.  I NEVER feel lonely, interacting some with my family far away, with people I see in stores, in the gym,  in my community of Aikido, etc.   If retired with infinite time, it should not be difficult to establish some relationships with others,  even if not so personal.  

[Sweetie Pie]

1 hour ago, Steve5380 said:

 

I don't know about communal apartments in SG,  if "communal" is really necessary.

In contrast to HDB housing, communal apartments are few and, most likely because of the negative connotations attached to being old and sickly.  Though smaller, it has aided features like push buttons to notify your care provider if you fall, grab bars around your house, non-slip flooring, and other care amenities right outside your door. It's like having your own apartment with the convenient of  emergency assistance nearby.  The price of such apartment is marginally higher than HDB.     Other than that I know very little of it.    Even if you don't live in a communal flat, privacy is difficult to find in Singapore.  Elderly individuals are frequently and obnoxiously approached by volunteers who knock on their doors, ask them to engage in dull social activities, and invade their privacy.   Therefore, leading a calm, quiet, and secure existence is becoming more and more of a luxury, in my personal opinion and I'm not sure why single people are so afraid of being alone and living a quiet life. 

[Steve5380]

21 minutes ago, Sweetie Pie said:

In contrast to HDB housing, communal apartments are few and, most likely because of the negative connotations attached to being old and sickly.  Though smaller, it has aided features like push buttons to notify your care provider if you fall, grab bars around your house, non-slip flooring, and other care amenities right outside your door. It's like having your own apartment with the convenient of  emergency assistance nearby.  The price of such apartment is marginally higher than HDB.     Other than that I know very little of it.    Even if you don't live in a communal flat, privacy is difficult to find in Singapore.  Elderly individuals are frequently and obnoxiously approached by volunteers who knock on their doors, ask them to engage in dull social activities, and invade their privacy.   Therefore, leading a calm, quiet, and secure existence is becoming more and more of a luxury, in my personal opinion and I'm not sure why single people are so afraid of being alone and living a quiet life. 

 

Now I understand.  But if people are afraid of loneliness,  what is wrong with frequently being approached by volunteers who knock on their doors and ask them to engage in dull social activities?   How is this obnoxious "invasion of privacy"?   In the first place, they can always ignore the knocks and not answer.  And secondly,  isn't this approach a good way to practice social skills and listen to their talk about social activities, and then politely and friendly decline them if not interested?

 

Single people who are afraid of being alone and live a quiet life have not learned to appreciate themselves.  By the time they are seniors, this should have been learned.  They should follow the teachings of The Buddha to appreciate solitude and quietness...

[Sweetie Pie]

6 minutes ago, Steve5380 said:

 

 what is wrong with frequently being approached by volunteers who knock on their doors and ask them to engage in dull social activities? 

 

The volunteers' pre-planned interview questions were designed to drain your energy and make you feel as like you don't know about personal care nor live life to the fullest.  These visitors weren't well accepted in my neighborhood, and most neighbors avoided the volunteers by refusing to open the doors for them.  At least, my mom find them annoying and a disturbance of peace while she was sleeping soundly at home.

[Sweetie Pie]

40 minutes ago, Steve5380 said:

 

Single people who are afraid of being alone and live a quiet life have not learned to appreciate themselves.  By the time they are seniors, this should have been learned.  They should follow the teachings of The Buddha to appreciate solitude and quietness...

You entered the game late. When I was twelve, I already knew the value of calm and tranquility, even though I wasn't religious. I like to be by myself at school, simply with birds, rabbits, and other tiny critters, and I don't want to interact with other kids. As a teenager, I frequently hide in the school garden during recess and don't give a damn about the activities my peers are participating in.  I was fortunate to have my own private space while I was in the army because it was a sensitive unit and I was restricted to mingle around freely.  Many people think I wasted all my youthful years being less sociable, but I enjoy it tremendously.   Not everyone is a good fit for my lifestyle, and I also don't understand why people are afraid of being alone but I will try to understand them, but no promise.

[Steve5380]

10 hours ago, Sweetie Pie said:

You entered the game late. When I was twelve, I already knew the value of calm and tranquility, even though I wasn't religious. I like to be by myself at school, simply with birds, rabbits, and other tiny critters, and I don't want to interact with other kids. As a teenager, I frequently hide in the school garden during recess and don't give a damn about the activities my peers are participating in.  I was fortunate to have my own private space while I was in the army because it was a sensitive unit and I was restricted to mingle around freely.  Many people think I wasted all my youthful years being less sociable, but I enjoy it tremendously.   Not everyone is a good fit for my lifestyle, and I also don't understand why people are afraid of being alone but I will try to understand them, but no promise.

 

I entered the game quite early, as a child and then a teenager. I was also introverted and intellectual, instead of gregarious and outgoing.  But I have changed, and now I can have both attitudes. What matters is that we are flexible and adaptable.  If we are in reasonable good health, by the time we become seniors we should feel happy both alone and in company of others, with only a minimum of fears.   

[TigerYam]

Happy New Year 2025.

 

But you all are not happy and fear of getting old. Why?

 

Because...you all are added 1 year to your age, showing that you all are getting old 1 year, no more a young handsome chap. Add 1 year to your age, the God will add 1 wringgle to your face (no more cute), and your erected penis will decrease 1° from 90° (not solid anymore). Seniors are getting near to the grave, unknown sickness come and yet they are still so "picky".

 

Government increased 10cents in transport fare, food price go up especially CNY, and your salary increase by 1% or remain. When older by 1 year , fear of getting retrench or getting fire.

 

Gay are getting very lonely. One year older, no one want to choose you to play, especially middle age gay fear of growing a lot of unwanted fats in the body, wringgle grow on face, and pretend to be cute. For senior gay fear of muscle lost, dysfunction, white hairs and wear cap to cover their head. 

 

So....this 2025 New Year....all PLU fear of getting older, lonely, sickness, monies....etc.