grocksdlostboy Posted February 11 Report Share Posted February 11 (edited) Hi guys! I’ve been on Grindr the last few months just to check it out. It's been an utterly surprising and somewhat shocking experience for me. I don't think i’m bad looking and i’m not 6pack fit but i’m not say overly chubby (170, 74) and my body is work in progress. Most guys vanish or say not my type after viewing 1/2 pictures. This fucking hurts and I feel a little shitty about myself (full honesty). So i’m here to ask you guys - Bi, gay or wherever you are in this, could you please give me some opinions on what are some ideal physical qualities in a bottom? Answer Format ==> I’m bi | Like petite, small, smooth boys that smile a lot? Looking for some good feedback here. Thanks Edited February 11 by grocksdlostboy Spelling ettor Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrFhill Posted February 11 Report Share Posted February 11 I love fucking those who look like James Charles or Kai (PH Zilv Gudel's bf), femboys in general. sgtwinkbottom_ and grocksdlostboy 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post MasterFitMalaySG4U Posted February 11 Popular Post Report Share Posted February 11 For me that btm/subs/slaves must have that sensual fuck face and big ass for me to dress him up in roleplay like jockstrap...wrestling...waiter...soccer player...etc.... Big asss imagine yourself rimming him like your favorite soup...taste damn good. If u don't have sensual fuck face or big ass is okay for me too.... What more important is the vibe connect n chemistry. The physical touch. A BTM also need to have a basic skill too. Like when u lick or suck pls do have eye contact with your master or top or daddy. Try to do your best to have physical interaction while doing so if not I can teach u haha be ready to surprised your master or top with your horny hunger thirsty desire.... Nevertheless both top & BTM or verst need to play a part together. No attitude. No ego but master/top u can be vulgar..be in control...let him wanting more...slapped your dick to his cute face...make him sniff ....I can teach u too haha That is why I think before you judge someone be it here on apps...give yourself or them opportunity by just meeting it can be just a simple coffee or hike etc .... Alexwong, Hole4use, anxiousfriedtofu and 4 others 1 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lightsmith32 Posted February 11 Report Share Posted February 11 Must be slim and feminine and very obedient. Must have hygiene and a clean rear... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grocksdlostboy Posted February 11 Author Report Share Posted February 11 Thanks for the replies!!! Would love to hear more views too 💯 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hairyboycunt Posted February 11 Report Share Posted February 11 This isn't a one-size-fits-all sort of thing. There isn't going be an exemplar bottom that meets the expectations of every top there is. Some tops will be attracted to slimmer builds, while others might gravitate towards stocky, muscular, short or some other body type. Same thing applies for personality - some would want femme, whereas other might prefer masc, dom or bratty btms. In short, there'll always be a market for whatever "category" you fall into. Granted, some might be more 'niche' than others. Just don't stop putting yourself out there otherwise, you won't find that person who finds you their "ideal." ktq, And then, manehiso and 1 other 1 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrFhill Posted February 11 Report Share Posted February 11 1 hour ago, hairyboycunt said: This isn't a one-size-fits-all sort of thing. There isn't going be an exemplar bottom that meets the expectations of every top there is. Some tops will be attracted to slimmer builds, while others might gravitate towards stocky, muscular, short or some other body type. Same thing applies for personality - some would want femme, whereas other might prefer masc, dom or bratty btms. In short, there'll always be a market for whatever "category" you fall into. Granted, some might be more 'niche' than others. Just don't stop putting yourself out there otherwise, you won't find that person who finds you their "ideal." so, what your preferences? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sky894 Posted February 11 Report Share Posted February 11 (edited) . Edited April 13 by Sky894 anxiousfriedtofu, lightsmith32 and Tightpants 1 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted February 12 Report Share Posted February 12 For me, I prefer my bottoms to be physically smaller than me. I'm 180/95 so that means someone more petite and shorter. Build-wsie, he doesn't have to have 6 packs or be overly buffed. I like firm bodies and nothing that jiggles too much, especially the glutes when fucking, and I prefer guys who are tanned. Face-wise, as long as the complexion is relatively clear, and his teeth are clean, I am good. Having said that, it is just a general list of preferences. In reality, sexual chemistry and good attitude is more important to have a pleasurable time for both parties. anxiousfriedtofu, Des, Kenjikenji and 1 other 2 2 Quote Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mike_amk Posted February 12 Report Share Posted February 12 Hey there Grocksdlostboy, While I feel you're trying to reach out to tops out there is a nice way to start. However, I do feel that you need to seek the kind of tops that suit you. Take the time to know thyself first... and not be feeling the negativity of the rejections on grinder, that you're judging yourself by. As a person who enjoys anal sex, you should seek out the profiles that interest you... if he responds negatively... no worries, and if a lousy top contacts you, just reject him politely and move on! There are hundreds of profiles out there, eventually you'll find the right top(s) of your choice to be friends with and the mutual fun that follows. Respect is important both ways even during fun... Never tolerate disrespect from anyone, tops included. Always remember that you are in charge of your life, and must choose carefully those whom you want as friends and fuk buddies. In the meantime just go online to Shopee and buy yourself a nice Dildo, it will please you to no end till you find the right human with a Cok to have a good time with. Just my thoughts. Cheers 🥂 Mike Malabird, grocksdlostboy and funky beaver 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kinkienips Posted February 13 Report Share Posted February 13 On 2/11/2024 at 2:06 PM, grocksdlostboy said: Hi guys! I’ve been on Grindr the last few months just to check it out. It's been an utterly surprising and somewhat shocking experience for me. I don't think i’m bad looking and i’m not 6pack fit but i’m not say overly chubby (170, 74) and my body is work in progress. Most guys vanish or say not my type after viewing 1/2 pictures. This fucking hurts and I feel a little shitty about myself (full honesty). So i’m here to ask you guys - Bi, gay or wherever you are in this, could you please give me some opinions on what are some ideal physical qualities in a bottom? Answer Format ==> I’m bi | Like petite, small, smooth boys that smile a lot? Looking for some good feedback here. Thanks I guess there is no perfect answer but hey goes my reply: I am Vers | Like bottom who take care of themselves(as in clean shaven, good personal hygiene and have big butt and chest) I guess it’s a kink for me to fuck a bottom who is bigger built than me(I am not muscular and 165cm) grocksdlostboy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grocksdlostboy Posted February 13 Author Report Share Posted February 13 Hey guys! Thank you for your inputs. Really appreciate them and I’m going to take it all in. Completely agree and believe in this, but my experience on Grindr did shake me. I’m on my fitness journey although not perfect yet (170/74) but I will reach there - for myself, my health and the aesthetics that may or may not appeal to anyone. it’s still interesting to hear the physical and other attributes that bi guys/ tops find attractive. So please keep sharing and drop me a DM if you want to connect. Cheers, Andrew Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kinkienips Posted February 15 Report Share Posted February 15 7 minutes ago, Fannyfacial said: what about big butts like this? Clean and smooth Haha must see the package to determine haha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kinkienips Posted February 15 Report Share Posted February 15 Yea, sort of. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
horhorfun Posted February 15 Report Share Posted February 15 Ideal bottom type is smooth butt..tight ass,and suck very good Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post anxiousfriedtofu Posted February 16 Popular Post Report Share Posted February 16 I'm a vers bottom.| Based on my past encounters, by being cute, slutty, submissive (being obedient) and I feel most importantly, being verbal helps bring out the best in your top. Basically let them feel superior. Like how they look? Compliment and 'highlight' their strengths. Make them feel good about it. How to be submissive? Normally I ask my top to slap me, most will find it a turn on. During the encounter, don't be afraid to stray from vanilla sex. Explore each other's interests beyond the usual stuff. I cannot emphasize communication. Talk a lot during foreplay, get to know more about your top's desires. Some tops get switched on quick with verbal cues, some with visual cues. Oh, I've noticed how teasing beforehand can really make a diffrence in how the top desires for his bottom later on. ktq, OIC555, nigelc and 4 others 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simply_me Posted February 20 Report Share Posted February 20 5 minutes ago, DrFhill said: some people may like that. thanks... My master asked me to put the butt plug from my house to his house. And he will take it out using his mouth. prism 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrFhill Posted February 20 Report Share Posted February 20 don't post "personal" here. GM might lurking and close this thread fast if you do that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G_M Posted February 20 Report Share Posted February 20 12 hours ago, simply_me said: how about this??? Seriously, this is a discussion on ideal bottom type not I show you my ugly-as-fuck ass discussion. Moreover, you had enough warning points from various moderators for spamming. You get 1 week holiday for spamming with ads again and disrupting the discussion. You want to hookup go to the Personal. The next spam will be your last. Quote http://www.facebook.com/gachimuchi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G_M Posted February 20 Report Share Posted February 20 11 hours ago, DrFhill said: don't post "personal" here. GM might lurking and close this thread fast if you do that. I am the moderator for the forum, why do you think I need to lurk? Quote http://www.facebook.com/gachimuchi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radiusulnar Posted February 21 Report Share Posted February 21 (edited) since we are taking about ideals, indulge my fantasy. submissive straight-acting sleeper-muscle slut who lives to give pleasure Edited February 21 by radiusulnar anxiousfriedtofu, grocksdlostboy and lw_guy 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrFhill Posted February 21 Report Share Posted February 21 12 hours ago, G_M said: I am the moderator for the forum, why do you think I need to lurk? I lured you as easy as I have thought it is. Fuck you and your fucking "forum". You're so fucking pissy all the time. Please ban me and delete my account! I've been requesting so many times already and still no action taken! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
funky beaver Posted February 26 Report Share Posted February 26 On 2/11/2024 at 2:06 PM, grocksdlostboy said: Hi guys! I’ve been on Grindr the last few months just to check it out. It's been an utterly surprising and somewhat shocking experience for me. I don't think i’m bad looking and i’m not 6pack fit but i’m not say overly chubby (170, 74) and my body is work in progress. Most guys vanish or say not my type after viewing 1/2 pictures. This fucking hurts and I feel a little shitty about myself (full honesty). So i’m here to ask you guys - Bi, gay or wherever you are in this, could you please give me some opinions on what are some ideal physical qualities in a bottom? Answer Format ==> I’m bi | Like petite, small, smooth boys that smile a lot? Looking for some good feedback here. Thanks I'm a btm, I am not looking to answer your question, but to comment on the situation. Yes, people can have preference. So do you. My motto is always, if you can't control what others think, why let their thoughts control you? There is really nothing you can do there and then if they vanish. And thinking about it just does not help anything. I like your approach of working in progress and get better day after day. Work on improving yourself for the future person that you are finding. And get off apps if you can. There are a lot of other non-apps social activity that you can participate and get to know people. grocksdlostboy and T Gunner 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
And then Posted March 1 Report Share Posted March 1 Try not to take these rejections too seriously on Grindr. There are lots and lots of mentally disturbed, catfishers, nasty, bitchy types on there. You cannot expect that everyone on there is responding in a sincere manner. At least an outright rejection is better than getting ghosted when you get there. You may also want to consider your choice of photos. If possible, get a friend to have a look at your profile/ pics and give their opinion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grocksdlostboy Posted March 2 Author Report Share Posted March 2 Hey guys!! Thank you all so far for the inputs. I appreciate both content Sharing of Preferences - Good to know and it’s almost like market research. Sometimes some of us bottoms may never understand what’s appealing unless we hear it and think about it. So keep sharing your preferences and details. Love myself- I certainly do and believe that my worth is more than my bodily features (which will fade/falter) but I hope that in understanding preferences, I can also assure myself that this could be a strongly desired preference or more. For me loving self is important to love everyone else in life. Hope the thread can be kept alive more more meaningful comments and inputs. Also if we could get some Bi men commenting that will be cool. Cheers, Andrew Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Genn1818 Posted April 2 Report Share Posted April 2 On 2/21/2024 at 3:23 PM, DrFhill said: I lured you as easy as I have thought it is. Fuck you and your fucking "forum". You're so fucking pissy all the time. Please ban me and delete my account! I've been requesting so many times already and still no action taken! Lol!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Genn1818 Posted April 2 Report Share Posted April 2 On 2/11/2024 at 2:06 PM, grocksdlostboy said: Hi guys! I’ve been on Grindr the last few months just to check it out. It's been an utterly surprising and somewhat shocking experience for me. I don't think i’m bad looking and i’m not 6pack fit but i’m not say overly chubby (170, 74) and my body is work in progress. Most guys vanish or say not my type after viewing 1/2 pictures. This fucking hurts and I feel a little shitty about myself (full honesty). So i’m here to ask you guys - Bi, gay or wherever you are in this, could you please give me some opinions on what are some ideal physical qualities in a bottom? Answer Format ==> I’m bi | Like petite, small, smooth boys that smile a lot? Looking for some good feedback here. Thanks There s a btm for every top. It’s just personal preference. You try posting yourself here, see how is the interest haha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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mp440028 Posted April 4 Report Share Posted April 4 Straight, 50/60something, dad-bod, security guard/bus driver type, that is willing to be fucked. Must be as ordinary as possible. Don't really like too handsome/pretty/hunky. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XanderS Posted April 28 Report Share Posted April 28 On 2/11/2024 at 2:06 PM, grocksdlostboy said: Hi guys! I’ve been on Grindr the last few months just to check it out. It's been an utterly surprising and somewhat shocking experience for me. I don't think i’m bad looking and i’m not 6pack fit but i’m not say overly chubby (170, 74) and my body is work in progress. Most guys vanish or say not my type after viewing 1/2 pictures. This fucking hurts and I feel a little shitty about myself (full honesty). So i’m here to ask you guys - Bi, gay or wherever you are in this, could you please give me some opinions on what are some ideal physical qualities in a bottom? Answer Format ==> I’m bi | Like petite, small, smooth boys that smile a lot? Looking for some good feedback here. Thanks Honestly, I get the feeling of not being someone's type, especially if you like them. It's not a new feeling for me, but it gets better once you come to accept you can't be everyone's type. For me, I like my butts with a juicy butt. Don't need to be bubble or muscle level, just a round butt will do. They need to know what kind of movements turn them on or doesn't, what makes them feel comfortable. Telling me what you like, asking me to stop if I go too fast, I get turned on by it. I'm here to pleasure you, so make sure I'm doing it right for you. horhorfun 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blueduck Posted May 2 Report Share Posted May 2 Straight or married guy who willing to try, also no fat or chubby Quote traveling around Greater Jakarta Traditional Massage Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Malabird Posted May 6 Report Share Posted May 6 (edited) In the supermarket, lean meat and loins are in higher demand, but many like pork belly too. it takes a matured mindset of ‘Beauty is in the eyes of beholden’ to like a little or very much meaty bod, there are always some demands and craving for higher BMI. Also rejection is a norm in gays apps and chats. what hurts is the way people expressing their rejection. While We seek fun and hope to get physical satisfaction, be ready for getting rejection and disappointment. Edited May 24 by Malabird horhorfun, curious.explorer and grocksdlostboy 1 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grocksdlostboy Posted June 29 Author Report Share Posted June 29 Hello! Bumping this post. I’m still trying to understand all the physical attributes and kinks that will turn guys on. Yes, everybody has an individual preference but it will be great to hear. I would love to be able to seduce guys to be bi too if possible. Hehe Cheers, Andrew Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lightsmith32 Posted June 30 Report Share Posted June 30 On 6/29/2024 at 10:03 AM, grocksdlostboy said: Hello! Bumping this post. I’m still trying to understand all the physical attributes and kinks that will turn guys on. Yes, everybody has an individual preference but it will be great to hear. I would love to be able to seduce guys to be bi too if possible. Hehe Cheers, Andrew Getting ghosted is part and parcel of the game. Seduction is a skill you need to build up based on what works for you. Can't be taught. Get fit, grow your confidence, take care of your face, clean your privates and talk to guys who show interest in you. Those who are not keen, move on. Rinse and Repeat. grocksdlostboy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ERFAbangBear Posted July 8 Report Share Posted July 8 i'll say the best kinds are those into similar kinks preferably, open communication, bubble butt (thats just me tho) mmmmm and I think the kind that's not shy to ask to direct if needed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DonT Posted November 30 Report Share Posted November 30 Different tops and Bi have different preference for their btm. I have my fair share of being rejected too cos of my look or my bulit. Being a ntm usually, I try to communicate with the tops their fun preferences and we shld try to share each other likes of kinks too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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