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Hi guys! 

 

I’ve been on Grindr the last few months just to check it out. It's been an utterly surprising and somewhat shocking experience for me. 

 

I don't think i’m bad looking and i’m not 6pack fit but i’m not say overly chubby (170, 74) and my body is work in progress. 

 

Most guys vanish or say not my type after viewing 1/2 pictures. This fucking hurts and I feel a little shitty about myself (full honesty).

 

So i’m here to ask you guys - Bi, gay or wherever you are in this, could you please give me some opinions on what are some ideal physical qualities in a bottom? 

 

Answer Format ==> I’m bi | Like petite, small, smooth boys that smile a lot? 

 

Looking for some good feedback here. Thanks 

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This isn't a one-size-fits-all sort of thing. There isn't going be an exemplar bottom that meets the expectations of every top there is. Some tops will be attracted to slimmer builds, while others might gravitate towards stocky, muscular, short or some other body type. Same thing applies for personality - some would want femme, whereas other might prefer masc, dom or bratty btms. 

 

In short, there'll always be a market for whatever "category" you fall into. Granted, some might be more 'niche' than others. Just don't stop putting yourself out there otherwise, you won't find that person who finds you their "ideal."

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1 hour ago, hairyboycunt said:

This isn't a one-size-fits-all sort of thing. There isn't going be an exemplar bottom that meets the expectations of every top there is. Some tops will be attracted to slimmer builds, while others might gravitate towards stocky, muscular, short or some other body type. Same thing applies for personality - some would want femme, whereas other might prefer masc, dom or bratty btms. 

 

In short, there'll always be a market for whatever "category" you fall into. Granted, some might be more 'niche' than others. Just don't stop putting yourself out there otherwise, you won't find that person who finds you their "ideal."

so, what your preferences?

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For me, I prefer my bottoms to be physically smaller than me. I'm 180/95 so that means someone more petite and shorter. Build-wsie, he doesn't have to have 6 packs or be overly buffed. I like firm bodies and nothing that jiggles too much, especially the glutes when fucking, and I prefer guys who are tanned. Face-wise, as long as the complexion is relatively clear, and his teeth are clean, I am good. 

 

Having said that, it is just a general list of preferences. In reality, sexual chemistry and good attitude is more important to have a pleasurable time for both parties. 

Love. 

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Hey there Grocksdlostboy,

While I feel you're trying to reach out to tops out there is a nice way to start.

However,  I do feel that you need to seek the kind of tops that suit you. 

 

Take the time to know thyself first... and not be feeling the negativity of the rejections on grinder, that you're judging yourself by.

 

As a person who enjoys anal sex, you should seek out the profiles that interest you... if he responds negatively... no worries, and if a lousy top contacts you, just reject him politely and move on!

 

There are hundreds of profiles out there, eventually you'll find the right top(s) of your choice to be friends with and the mutual  fun that follows.

 

Respect is important both ways even during fun... Never tolerate disrespect from anyone, tops included.

Always remember that you are in charge of your life,  and must choose carefully those whom you want as friends and fuk buddies. 

In the meantime just go online to Shopee  and buy yourself a nice Dildo, it will please you to no end till you find the right human with a Cok to have a good time with.

 

Just my thoughts.

Cheers 🥂 Mike 

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On 2/11/2024 at 2:06 PM, grocksdlostboy said:

Hi guys! 

 

I’ve been on Grindr the last few months just to check it out. It's been an utterly surprising and somewhat shocking experience for me. 

 

I don't think i’m bad looking and i’m not 6pack fit but i’m not say overly chubby (170, 74) and my body is work in progress. 

 

Most guys vanish or say not my type after viewing 1/2 pictures. This fucking hurts and I feel a little shitty about myself (full honesty).

 

So i’m here to ask you guys - Bi, gay or wherever you are in this, could you please give me some opinions on what are some ideal physical qualities in a bottom? 

 

Answer Format ==> I’m bi | Like petite, small, smooth boys that smile a lot? 

 

Looking for some good feedback here. Thanks 

I guess there is no perfect answer but hey goes my reply:

I am Vers | Like bottom who take care of themselves(as in clean shaven, good personal hygiene and have big butt and chest)

I guess it’s a kink for me to fuck a bottom who is bigger built than me(I am not muscular and 165cm)

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Hey guys! 


Thank you for your inputs. Really appreciate them and I’m going to take it all in. Completely agree and believe in this, but my experience on Grindr did shake me. 
 

I’m on my fitness journey although not perfect yet (170/74) but I will reach there - for myself, my health and the aesthetics that may or may not appeal to anyone. 
 

it’s still interesting to hear the physical and other attributes that bi guys/ tops find attractive. So please keep sharing and drop me a DM if you want to connect. 

 

Cheers, 

Andrew 

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I'm a vers bottom.| Based on my past encounters, by being cute, slutty, submissive (being obedient) and I feel most importantly, being verbal helps bring out the best in your top. Basically let them feel superior. Like how they look? Compliment and 'highlight' their strengths. Make them feel good about it. How to be submissive? Normally I ask my top to slap me, most will find it a turn on. During the encounter, don't be afraid to stray from vanilla sex. Explore each other's interests beyond the usual stuff.

 

I cannot emphasize communication. Talk a lot during foreplay, get to know more about your top's desires. Some tops get switched on quick with verbal cues, some with visual cues. Oh, I've noticed how teasing beforehand can really make a diffrence in how the top desires for his bottom later on.

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12 hours ago, simply_me said:

how about this???

 

Seriously, this is a discussion on ideal bottom type not I show you my ugly-as-fuck ass discussion.

 

Moreover, you had enough warning points from various moderators for spamming.

 

You get 1 week holiday for spamming with ads again and disrupting the discussion.

 

You want to hookup go to the Personal.

 

The next spam will be your last. 

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12 hours ago, G_M said:

 

I am the moderator for the forum, why do you think I need to lurk?

 

I lured you as easy as I have thought it is.
Fuck you and your fucking "forum". You're so fucking pissy all the time.
Please ban me and delete my account! I've been requesting so many times already and still no action taken!

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On 2/11/2024 at 2:06 PM, grocksdlostboy said:

Hi guys! 

 

I’ve been on Grindr the last few months just to check it out. It's been an utterly surprising and somewhat shocking experience for me. 

 

I don't think i’m bad looking and i’m not 6pack fit but i’m not say overly chubby (170, 74) and my body is work in progress. 

 

Most guys vanish or say not my type after viewing 1/2 pictures. This fucking hurts and I feel a little shitty about myself (full honesty).

 

So i’m here to ask you guys - Bi, gay or wherever you are in this, could you please give me some opinions on what are some ideal physical qualities in a bottom? 

 

Answer Format ==> I’m bi | Like petite, small, smooth boys that smile a lot? 

 

Looking for some good feedback here. Thanks 

I'm a btm, I am not looking to answer your question, but to comment on the situation.

 

Yes, people can have preference. So do you. My motto is always, if you can't control what others think, why let their thoughts control you? There is really nothing you can do there and then if they vanish. And thinking about it just does not help anything.

 

I like your approach of working in progress and get better day after day. Work on improving yourself for the future person that you are finding.

 

And get off apps if you can. There are a lot of other non-apps social activity that you can participate and get to know people. 

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Try not to take these rejections too seriously on Grindr.

There are lots and lots of mentally disturbed, catfishers, nasty, bitchy types on there.

You cannot expect that everyone on there is responding in a sincere manner.

At least an outright rejection is better than getting ghosted when you get there.

 

You may also want to consider your choice of photos.  If possible, get a friend to have a look at your profile/ pics and give their opinion.

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Hey guys!!

 

Thank you all so far for the inputs. I appreciate both content 

 

Sharing of Preferences - Good to know and it’s almost like market research. Sometimes some of us bottoms may never understand what’s appealing unless we hear it and think about it. So keep sharing your preferences and details. 
 

Love myself- I certainly do and believe that my worth is more than my bodily features (which will fade/falter) but I hope that in understanding preferences, I can also assure myself that this could be a strongly desired preference or more. For me loving self is important to love everyone else in life. 
 

Hope the thread can be kept alive more more meaningful comments and inputs. Also if we could get some Bi men commenting that will be cool. 
 

Cheers,

Andrew

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