Discussion on Fisting + How Is The Feeling? (compiled)

[Guest PA-Alex]

Anyone experience in Anal fisting, I want to try with someone experience enough to fist me.

 

 

[Guest Diu Ney Si Fatt]

Later cannot hold your bowels in.

[Librium]

Might sometimes come across fisting porn while browsing around but was never into it, until recently again bump into one of them and then the next thing is finding myself watching many of them. A very strange change but it’s one of the way that can give my cock an instant hardon

[Coresub]

On 4/23/2022 at 10:26 AM, Guest Diu Ney Si Fatt said:

Later cannot hold your bowels in.

This is incorrect and like saying if you do yoga you cannot stand up. 

[Tallboi]

Hmmmm, really not much going on here, sad but guess expected with more niche fetish like fisting, especially in Singapore…

 

Personally, I see fisting as pretty much a natural progression for anyone who gets into serious anal play. If you enjoy anal play and end up getting into toys, beyond just prepping for penetration with a cock but more to pursue the sensations of working out and stretching your hole, you just naturally end up on the path to progressively larger and larger toys. If you keep at it till you reach 2.8”-3” diameter, fisting just becomes a really natural next step, imo. 

 

Conversely, I feel fisting tops are rarer than fisting bottoms. I don’t mean the typical top who saw some fisting vids, thought it was hot and decided he wants to try it out. I mean the top who went thru that phase, fell in love with it and then made the investment of time and effort to gain experience learning proper fisting technique… Still more hardwork as a bottom prepping for fisting (deep, thorough cleansing; clean diet; progressive conditioning of their hole), but it’s rare finding a good fisting top who has the level of experience to really know what they are doing. Trimmed and filled nails, researched and prepped lots of good lube, cleaning material prepped for the inevitable mess, good pacing, etc… All for the mostly psychological pleasure of fisting someone (can’t really consider a hand/arm an erogenous zone, really much more in the mind…). And it’s easy to tell if a top is just fisting for the sake of satisfying a btm without enjoying the act himself… Level of intensity and commitment to the act just isn’t anywhere near the same.

 

Personally, the pleasure I get from being fisted is more psychological. Definite physiological element to it, like during a good session I’d end up getting my prostate essentially pummeled like a punching bag. Combination of prostate stimulation and my hole getting stretched out feels amazing and I leak like crazy, but I personally have never quite crested to a full orgasm from fisting alone. Full body tingling and shivers, but never a full climax. Honestly the lack of an orgasm has become part of the psychological pleasure I get from fisting. Just continuous, intense sensations coming from my hole, to the point my cock is just wholly forgotten. I’m just a moaning, drooling, shaking mess; intensity of the experience reducing my body awareness to just my hole, nothing else matters except being a receptacle for whatever the top wants to shove into me next… 

 

As a bottom, my understanding of the pleasure fisting tops get is pretty indirect, but from talking with tops after, seems to be a combination of the (literally tactile, not-directly sexually simulating) physical sensations of reaching deep inside someone and the psychological aspects of pleasuring their bottom. If there’s some fisting tops here, would love to hear your opinions.

Kind of annoyed by people saying fisting is dangerous/will lead to incontinence. Like previous post, I like to think of anal play as a kind of yoga, but you’re focusing on just one set of muscles, your anal sphincters. Same way people who can do splits don’t lose control of their legs, sane, progressive anal play isn’t going to lead to incontinence. Quite the opposite really, you end up developing really good awareness of your muscles and can relax and tighten them as you desire. There is potential for damage if an inexperienced bottom attempts a fist, or just any overly large toy they aren’t prepared for, and ends up tearing something… So yeah, fisting definitely requires a degree of patience and commitment of time and effort to developing one’s hole. Most will probably find that too tedious… That’s actually a big aspect I enjoy, developing my hole like a longterm body modification project. Turning it from just a simple orifice into something… still functional, but far more… kinky. Plus I just find it far more interesting than the typical aesthetics people go for…

 

Anyway, hope this stimulates alittle more interest in this thread…

[corastarbreeze]

I am just curious as I hardly can get more than 3.5cm toy into my anal. I have been playing with anal toys for many years 

[Guest Cumman]

On 6/11/2023 at 9:32 AM, corastarbreeze said:

I am just curious as I hardly can get more than 3.5cm toy into my anal. I have been playing with anal toys for many years 

 

It really depends on how often you play. A 3.5cm cm used to be tough for me, and each time the size it went up the "filling" sensation will make me go crazy. I also do a bit of hole stretching when taking dump with my fingers.

 

Nowadays my comfortable is 5cm, 7cm is my okay limit, with 8cm sometimes can sometimes cant. 

 

Also been trying to self fist. But still cant reach pass my kunkles.....

[Tallboi]

On 6/11/2023 at 9:32 AM, corastarbreeze said:

I am just curious as I hardly can get more than 3.5cm toy into my anal. I have been playing with anal toys for many years 

Different factors could be holding you back, hard to figure out without knowing more. The regularity of your anal play, how much lube you’re using, toy shape, etc can all affect how your body adapts. 

[CoolD]

Got some toys online. Slowly trying stretch but paired along w fear. The sensation is quite unexplainable 

[Tallboi]

On 6/19/2023 at 3:08 PM, CoolD said:

Got some toys online. Slowly trying stretch but paired along w fear. The sensation is quite unexplainable 

Yep, that’s how you get hooked on anal play. Slowly progress up through bigger and bigger toys till you almost inevitably end up trying fisting.

[Mr lemon]

On 6/11/2023 at 4:26 AM, Tallboi said:

Hmmmm, really not much going on here, sad but guess expected with more niche fetish like fisting, especially in Singapore…

 

Personally, I see fisting as pretty much a natural progression for anyone who gets into serious anal play. If you enjoy anal play and end up getting into toys, beyond just prepping for penetration with a cock but more to pursue the sensations of working out and stretching your hole, you just naturally end up on the path to progressively larger and larger toys. If you keep at it till you reach 2.8”-3” diameter, fisting just becomes a really natural next step, imo. 

 

Conversely, I feel fisting tops are rarer than fisting bottoms. I don’t mean the typical top who saw some fisting vids, thought it was hot and decided he wants to try it out. I mean the top who went thru that phase, fell in love with it and then made the investment of time and effort to gain experience learning proper fisting technique… Still more hardwork as a bottom prepping for fisting (deep, thorough cleansing; clean diet; progressive conditioning of their hole), but it’s rare finding a good fisting top who has the level of experience to really know what they are doing. Trimmed and filled nails, researched and prepped lots of good lube, cleaning material prepped for the inevitable mess, good pacing, etc… All for the mostly psychological pleasure of fisting someone (can’t really consider a hand/arm an erogenous zone, really much more in the mind…). And it’s easy to tell if a top is just fisting for the sake of satisfying a btm without enjoying the act himself… Level of intensity and commitment to the act just isn’t anywhere near the same.

 

Personally, the pleasure I get from being fisted is more psychological. Definite physiological element to it, like during a good session I’d end up getting my prostate essentially pummeled like a punching bag. Combination of prostate stimulation and my hole getting stretched out feels amazing and I leak like crazy, but I personally have never quite crested to a full orgasm from fisting alone. Full body tingling and shivers, but never a full climax. Honestly the lack of an orgasm has become part of the psychological pleasure I get from fisting. Just continuous, intense sensations coming from my hole, to the point my cock is just wholly forgotten. I’m just a moaning, drooling, shaking mess; intensity of the experience reducing my body awareness to just my hole, nothing else matters except being a receptacle for whatever the top wants to shove into me next… 

 

As a bottom, my understanding of the pleasure fisting tops get is pretty indirect, but from talking with tops after, seems to be a combination of the (literally tactile, not-directly sexually simulating) physical sensations of reaching deep inside someone and the psychological aspects of pleasuring their bottom. If there’s some fisting tops here, would love to hear your opinions.

Kind of annoyed by people saying fisting is dangerous/will lead to incontinence. Like previous post, I like to think of anal play as a kind of yoga, but you’re focusing on just one set of muscles, your anal sphincters. Same way people who can do splits don’t lose control of their legs, sane, progressive anal play isn’t going to lead to incontinence. Quite the opposite really, you end up developing really good awareness of your muscles and can relax and tighten them as you desire. There is potential for damage if an inexperienced bottom attempts a fist, or just any overly large toy they aren’t prepared for, and ends up tearing something… So yeah, fisting definitely requires a degree of patience and commitment of time and effort to developing one’s hole. Most will probably find that too tedious… That’s actually a big aspect I enjoy, developing my hole like a longterm body modification project. Turning it from just a simple orifice into something… still functional, but far more… kinky. Plus I just find it far more interesting than the typical aesthetics people go for…

 

Anyway, hope this stimulates alittle more interest in this thread…

Last time I tried fist myself, can't get past my knuckle, body not flexible. Miss the fun and excitement.

[JC96]

On 6/11/2023 at 4:26 AM, Tallboi said:

Hmmmm, really not much going on here, sad but guess expected with more niche fetish like fisting, especially in Singapore…

 

Personally, I see fisting as pretty much a natural progression for anyone who gets into serious anal play. If you enjoy anal play and end up getting into toys, beyond just prepping for penetration with a cock but more to pursue the sensations of working out and stretching your hole, you just naturally end up on the path to progressively larger and larger toys. If you keep at it till you reach 2.8”-3” diameter, fisting just becomes a really natural next step, imo. 

 

Conversely, I feel fisting tops are rarer than fisting bottoms. I don’t mean the typical top who saw some fisting vids, thought it was hot and decided he wants to try it out. I mean the top who went thru that phase, fell in love with it and then made the investment of time and effort to gain experience learning proper fisting technique… Still more hardwork as a bottom prepping for fisting (deep, thorough cleansing; clean diet; progressive conditioning of their hole), but it’s rare finding a good fisting top who has the level of experience to really know what they are doing. Trimmed and filled nails, researched and prepped lots of good lube, cleaning material prepped for the inevitable mess, good pacing, etc… All for the mostly psychological pleasure of fisting someone (can’t really consider a hand/arm an erogenous zone, really much more in the mind…). And it’s easy to tell if a top is just fisting for the sake of satisfying a btm without enjoying the act himself… Level of intensity and commitment to the act just isn’t anywhere near the same.

 

Personally, the pleasure I get from being fisted is more psychological. Definite physiological element to it, like during a good session I’d end up getting my prostate essentially pummeled like a punching bag. Combination of prostate stimulation and my hole getting stretched out feels amazing and I leak like crazy, but I personally have never quite crested to a full orgasm from fisting alone. Full body tingling and shivers, but never a full climax. Honestly the lack of an orgasm has become part of the psychological pleasure I get from fisting. Just continuous, intense sensations coming from my hole, to the point my cock is just wholly forgotten. I’m just a moaning, drooling, shaking mess; intensity of the experience reducing my body awareness to just my hole, nothing else matters except being a receptacle for whatever the top wants to shove into me next… 

 

As a bottom, my understanding of the pleasure fisting tops get is pretty indirect, but from talking with tops after, seems to be a combination of the (literally tactile, not-directly sexually simulating) physical sensations of reaching deep inside someone and the psychological aspects of pleasuring their bottom. If there’s some fisting tops here, would love to hear your opinions.

Kind of annoyed by people saying fisting is dangerous/will lead to incontinence. Like previous post, I like to think of anal play as a kind of yoga, but you’re focusing on just one set of muscles, your anal sphincters. Same way people who can do splits don’t lose control of their legs, sane, progressive anal play isn’t going to lead to incontinence. Quite the opposite really, you end up developing really good awareness of your muscles and can relax and tighten them as you desire. There is potential for damage if an inexperienced bottom attempts a fist, or just any overly large toy they aren’t prepared for, and ends up tearing something… So yeah, fisting definitely requires a degree of patience and commitment of time and effort to developing one’s hole. Most will probably find that too tedious… That’s actually a big aspect I enjoy, developing my hole like a longterm body modification project. Turning it from just a simple orifice into something… still functional, but far more… kinky. Plus I just find it far more interesting than the typical aesthetics people go for…

 

Anyway, hope this stimulates alittle more interest in this thread…

I feel ya, it's so discouraging to have the ignorant make snide jokes on how loose I possibly am. Fisting is so much more than ramming an arm in, and it's a pity that not many dare to tenderize our prostate.. 

[CoolD]

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Edited September 2, 2024 by CoolD

[tns]

Let me share some experience here. I started exploring this anal play a while ago... I started gauging the size I can take comfortably with egg plants. It was around 3cm diameter. I'll go one round of enema before each practice session. And use plenty of lube.

I started buying anal plugs after I can insert and remove the 3cm diameter egg plant with ease. My increment is 0.5cm. So I tried 3.5cm. Don't force it through first time though. I took me roughly 1 month with 2-3 times practice a week to get it in. The feeling is satisfying, it's not "pain" as in you're wounded kind of pain, but it is satisfying feeling that makes me shiver. Hard to describe. It will take me a while to get use to 3.5cm. Once I feel like easy to get it in and out. I started with 4cm. Gradually... I managed to get a 7.5cm plug in last night. this journey so far took more than a year for me. It's still a long way to reach the fist size I think. But I am not in a hurry.

Important thing is... should do it in a place where you feel safe and relaxed. not worried about anything. If your mind is constantly worry about if people will see or hear you. It's gonna be tough. And please let go of your fear of the untrue theories of getting your anal muscle stretched, and you will find it easier.

Edited November 2, 2024 by tns

[tns]

Just a short follow-up on my anal training... The sensation/feeling of the 7.5cm plug is much much more intense than the 7cm. I would say it's another level of pleasure compared to those 7cm or smaller plugs. The feeling is not just at the sphincter muscle, the sensation runs beyond and goes deeper, feel full. I feel like can't wait to push it out but at the same time I want to keep it in. I never sweat after training but with the 7.5cm achievement, my body keep sweating for a while even after shower. It's like I just had a gym workout. It feels good. 🙂

[tns]

On 6/16/2023 at 5:58 PM, Tallboi said:

Different factors could be holding you back, hard to figure out without knowing more. The regularity of your anal play, how much lube you’re using, toy shape, etc can all affect how your body adapts. 

Agreed. Though size of certain toy is smaller, it does not mean it's easier to get it in. For me, I find the strawberry shape is the best, not too blunt at the top, neither it's too sharp. It's better than egg shape.

Edited December 3, 2024 by tns

[Tallboi]

On 11/2/2024 at 11:43 PM, tns said:

 

Let me share some experience here. I started exploring this anal play a while ago... I started gauging the size I can take comfortably with egg plants. It was around 3cm diameter. I'll go one round of enema before each practice session. And use plenty of lube.

 

Glad to see more interest in anal play and anal training! Yeah, it’s quite an investment in time and effort, but it’s really worthwhile. And there’s so much to experiment with and learn! 
 

On 11/2/2024 at 11:43 PM, tns said:

And please let go of your fear of the untrue theories of getting your anal muscle stretched, and you will find it easier.

So glad you get this too. Too many people believe any anal play/training will make their holes loose/incontinent/cause health problems. I have so much better awareness and control, and have retained that even after years of play with huge toys. 
 

5 hours ago, tns said:

Agreed. Though size of certain toy is smaller, it's does not mean it's easier to get it in. For me, I find the strawberry shape is the best, not too blunt at the top, neither it's too sharp. It's better than egg shape.

Yep, a nicely tapered toy is a good shape for insertion, gentle on initial entry but still gives a good stretch as you go farther in. Just not too pointed and not too long, so it doesn’t poke against the sigmoid and cause discomfort. 

[Steve5380]

I don't pass judgment on those who practice fisting.  If they can do it without causing damage, and enjoy it,  good for them!

 

Where I am absolutely firm is on my opinion that there is no need to do this!   There are so many other things we can enjoy in life, and more specifically, skills of our body we can put some effort in developing.  Like stretching our lower body ( not the anus), developing incredible balance, calisthenics, etc. 

[Tallboi]

6 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

I don't pass judgment on those who practice fisting.  If they can do it without causing damage, and enjoy it,  good for them!

 

Where I am absolutely firm is on my opinion that there is no need to do this!   There are so many other things we can enjoy in life, and more specifically, skills of our body we can put some effort in developing.  Like stretching our lower body ( not the anus), developing incredible balance, calisthenics, etc. 

Meh, why not both? No reason one can’t pursue both kink & fitness, the two synergise well together. I advocate heavily on the kink side since that’s more of the slant here, but I do balance my pursuits irl. 

[tns]

just a little update... Last month on Nov 2nd, it was my first time passing the 7.5cm diameter threshold. I have been practicing with the 7.5cm toys (I have 2 plugs, 1 strawberry shape and 1 egg shape) 2-3 times a week. Some times it's easy and some times need a little bit of effort to slide them in depending on my mood. I realized that if I set a schedule that I "must" do it that night, it's harder. So I just go with the flow, only do it when I feel like it.

Tonight... 30+ days after 7.5cm mark, I felt particularly relaxed. So I also tried the 3-tier plug with 7cm, 8cm, and 9cm diameters. Not hoping for anything... and surprisingly, when I closed my eyes and relax my body... the 8cm part just went in without pain. The sensation was even more intense. This time, my thighs shiver, I can feel the prostate being stimulated, and I almost moan out of control. It's another new experience. I thought it will take a longer time before I can reach 8cm. Now I need to start looking for a 8.5cm toy. 🙂

Edited December 7, 2024 by tns

[tns]

Opps. The only way I know how to get large toys i.e. AIiExpress stops shipping to Bolehland already... sob sob.

[btmslut]

there's a numbing spray that helps you relax. it works somewhat

[duntellyou]

14 minutes ago, btmslut said:

there's a numbing spray that helps you relax. it works somewhat

 

won't recommend anything that numbs you, you wont be able to tell if you injured yourself and make it worse...

[tns]

If I can't get large toys to be delivered to bolehland, I made my own. Haha. Bought some silicone mix from shopee and found a right container with right shape and size and walla. I made a 8.5cm diameter toy for practice. and I am glad that after much training, I graduated to 8.5cm. Next is to make a 9cm toy. 🙂

Edited February 12, 2025 by tns

[sgcurious]

Kinda difficult to find fistees or people that are into this in SG

[tns]

On 2/18/2025 at 6:03 PM, sgcurious said:

Kinda difficult to find fistees or people that are into this in SG

 

I guess it's the same in KL too.

[ZHF]

did a few fisting to others. not very difficult as my hand is not big especially boosted by popper.

 

I think the most difficult part is the "second door" inside. thus most people can only do half fisting

[tns]

Almost 3 months after I broke the 8.5cm diameter barrier, I managed to let the 9cm toy through last night. And I moaned and shivered in ecstacy. 🙂

Tonight I experimented with a 16 inch toy to experience depth, very slowly. It kind hit a spot at around 10 in where I could feel a kind of sharp sensation, not pain exactly. I pulled back a little and pushed a little to gently "massage" the area, and after a few tries the sensation got intense and suddenly I can push it further to around 14 in. I bet I could push it further because it felt smooth to go further. However, the deep sensation was not as ecstatic as the feeling of girth though. Not sure I am gonna enjoy going deep as much as going big.

 

The last stage of my anal training would be 9.5cm in diameter, the largest tool I have at the moment. Maybe I need another 3 months to grow from 9cm to 9.5cm. Cheers.

Edited March 2, 2025 by tns

[Tallboi]

On 3/3/2025 at 1:44 AM, tns said:

It kind hit a spot at around 10 in where I could feel a kind of sharp sensation, not pain exactly. I pulled back a little and pushed a little to gently "massage" the area, and after a few tries the sensation got intense and suddenly I can push it further to around 14 in. I bet I could push it further because it felt smooth to go further. However, the deep sensation was not as ecstatic as the feeling of girth though. Not sure I am gonna enjoy going deep as much as going big.

Ah, you’ve hit the rectosigmoid junction. Inner ring there requires whole separate level of conditioning to be able to take big toys deeper. It’s really annoying prepping for depth play tho, have to do a deep cleanse to keep things clean…

[tns]

5 hours ago, Tallboi said:

Ah, you’ve hit the rectosigmoid junction. Inner ring there requires whole separate level of conditioning to be able to take big toys deeper. It’s really annoying prepping for depth play tho, have to do a deep cleanse to keep things clean…

Ya. it was really messy and I had to repeat the cleansing process. Maybe I shouldn't mentally dismiss that sensation as not desirable until I hit it with a bigger toy later. As the toy grows bigger, it also grow taller, so it's kind of unavoidable. 🙂

Edited March 5, 2025 by tns

[Nor4guy]

Any fistee here in sg? Im a fister

[tns]

Lesson learned last night... Don't eat super spicy hot food during the day if you plan to train with large toy at night of the same day. 🙂

[fetish69]

On 3/27/2025 at 1:15 PM, tns said:

Lesson learned last night... Don't eat super spicy hot food during the day if you plan to train with large toy at night of the same day. 🙂

The diet to have full satisfaction in your fisting session to have Japanese food as not spicy as ate food that contain high fiber. I usually rim my nails well-kept and file them so there no sharp edges especially when you going to have hot action include fisting as it also when you are fingering the btm will not feel pain as your nails cut their ass. As a top we cannot used them we please even though they are looking horny or raunchy. Unless the session they request to be used like a ragdoll and rough.

 

I ever fist guys be it locally all of them end happy as I take my time to loosen the btm by first I will fuck him real well till he loosens up than follow by sex toy from various size dildo, butt plug and a huge super thick dildo I guide him with breathing technique as more poppers so he more relaxes.

 

I to see when the session goes smoothly and see the asshole fully rose but protruding out and I will rub it or I put my 8'5 inches thick in his ass it great pleasure to fuck loose sloppy wet ass.

[tns]

just recording my observation. I have 2 large toys. one is a plug with 9cm diameter (kind of round) with 6cm diameter neck after the widest part. Another one is a 9cm diameter dildo shape with a 8cm diameter shaft after the widest part. The second one just makes me shiver and want to scream when I got it in. the constant 8cm stretch is amazing. 😄

[tns]

Just another update on anal training... 6 months after I achieved the 9cm mark... I still can't get the 9.5cm diameter part in even with regular training. I am starting to wonder if there's a physical limit for the size... 😞

Edited September 30, 2025 by tns

[Steve5380]

On 1/21/2014 at 9:51 AM, Blacque said:

Can't imagine the pain of getting a double penetration, anal fisting is absolutely out of the world! 

 

I am out of words to judge fisting.  The only benefit I can think of it is the ability of having a colonoscopy without sedation.

[Tallboi]

On 9/30/2025 at 1:24 AM, tns said:

Just another update on anal training... 6 months after I achieved the 9cm mark... I still can't get the 9.5cm diameter part in even with regular training. I am starting to wonder if there's a physical limit for the size... 😞

What material is your 9cm and 9.5cm toys? Rigidity of the toy you’re using can be a major factor. I have a rigid PU plug that’s 3.75” that feels more challenging than another soft silicone plug that’s 4”.
 

Individual anatomy could be a factor, do you feel the toy pushing against the sitz bones?

[tns]

2 hours ago, Tallboi said:

What material is your 9cm and 9.5cm toys? Rigidity of the toy you’re using can be a major factor. I have a rigid PU plug that’s 3.75” that feels more challenging than another soft silicone plug that’s 4”.
 

Individual anatomy could be a factor, do you feel the toy pushing against the sitz bones?

material wise, I would say it's a medium softness. not too hard and not to soft.

I don't know how does pushing against sitz bones feel though. it just feel really really really tight on entry.

[Analgape]

I think a group for fisting would be awesome in Singapore. Everyone who is interested in joining pls respond to this text. But first we would have to see how may people it would be and then we need to discuss some guidelines for the group. 

[CoolD]

8 hours ago, Analgape said:

I think a group for fisting would be awesome in Singapore. Everyone who is interested in joining pls respond to this text. But first we would have to see how may people it would be and then we need to discuss some guidelines for the group. 

Pls add me to the group 😜