T Gunner Posted March 23 Posted March 23 Sometimes wonder how many of us are leading a double life… straight but part of us gears towards gay preference.. It can be due to fear, judgement, stigma, shame etc… and mostly need to do that to protect their reputation and career, family or even relationship… But at some point you also want to be happy and feel real, am just wondering how people navigate that… Calebtan and tinkymale 1 1 Quote
feilyxnixx Posted March 23 Posted March 23 Just adjust according to situation. Probably just accept that you have your own preferences too. Adapting to switch gears instantly takes a looong time to learn... T Gunner 1 Quote
MasterFitMalaySG4U Posted March 23 Posted March 23 Good topic Reality there is few straight and even married guys who love to get fuck or go gay sauna Most feminine love to be girls so much they transit trans. I think crossdress drag still okay if u r a man or even married man just earn extra money vrtllysmnth and T Gunner 2 Quote
Eddie Adrika Posted March 23 Posted March 23 @T Gunner I think many people struggle with this because society often makes it hard to be open about who we are. Fear of judgment, stigma, or losing relationships can push someone into living a ‘double life.’ It’s not always about choice… it’s often about survival in environments where being different isn’t accepted. That pressure can weigh heavily, and it explains why some people feel they have to switch gears depending on the situation. At the same time, everyone deserves to feel real and happy. Living authentically doesn’t always mean being fully out in every space… it can start with finding safe circles, trusted friends, or communities where you don’t have to hide. Those small pockets of authenticity can make a huge difference, even if the wider world isn’t ready yet. Navigating that balance isn’t easy, but acknowledging your truth is already a powerful step toward self-acceptance. Ultimately, it’s about recognizing that happiness and authenticity matter just as much as reputation or career. The journey looks different for everyone, but the common thread is learning to honor your own identity while protecting your well-being. Change may be slow, but even small acts of honesty with yourself can open the door to a more fulfilling life. T Gunner, KitsuneK, kidster and 1 other 1 1 2 Quote
vrtllysmnth Posted March 23 Posted March 23 As a closeted CD myself, yeah pretty much living the double life!! haha 😄 Same body, 2 different souls and personalities so to say. Or an analogy I like to use is, 1 PC, 2 different operating systems - sometimes boot into Windows, sometimes boot into Linux 🤣 Strictly straight as masc self ; but can reach total cock lust as fem self. Introspectively, it really can be mind-boggling how both can exist within the same "person". It's like I'm a severed Lumon employee LOL I agree with @MasterFitMalaySG4U! Started CD as a way to explore my bisexual fantasies while not embodying my masc self. Ended up liking femininity sooo much and well... here I am. I have dabbled with HRT and estrogen, mostly to just boost my feminine features but not to fully transition. But I won't lie, there were days where I really felt like saying "fuck it!" and commit to transitioning 😅 I know I'm an anomaly given crossdressing itself gives a somewhat safe avenue to live this double life, but I hope my sharing gave some insights! 😊 Quote
KitsuneK Posted March 23 Posted March 23 As a CD I feel like Batman/Bruce Wayne. Only a select few know the batman, where Bruce is the mask I wear on the daily, blending in society. For years I've lived the double life, identifying as trans, living the girly life in the night but feeling like I must keep up the mask of masculinity out of fear of it being discovered. I still haven't tried HRT, and it's been over a decade now since I began this life. westiesissy22, Leser and kim_xd 1 2 Quote
Pubico1 Posted March 23 Posted March 23 (edited) Is living a double life also a legit way of life? It must have emerged out of necessity of context. I think there’s no need to be so harsh on oneself. Edited March 23 by Pubico1 T Gunner 1 Quote
Popular Post sphere Posted March 23 Popular Post Posted March 23 (edited) I think your topic kind of resonates with many of us eh @T Gunner, not just straight with gay preferences, but also the fact that gays also live a double life - like myself... *sigh* Like the reasons you mentioned, mine would be work & family, where being myself is not acceptable, which left me 'no choice' but living as a 'straight' while at work and at home, and living as my true self when I'm alone in my room. It is actually tiring putting on a 'facade' everyday/everytime, but our society is not as acceptance as Taiwan/Thailand. So this forum is 'my home' where I could be myself and 'do' what I like without fear/judgement (other than the few arguments in certain threads, haha). Yeah, whenever the forum is down/not available, like 2-3 days back, I'm a little 'lost', haha. Anyway, whether or not if we're living a double life, as @Pubico1 rightfully put it, no need to be harsh on ourselves, but most importantly - we should always stay happy and healthy eh, cheers! Edited March 23 by sphere Nivek, ziurtis, indmarried and 3 others 4 2 Quote Happy - is what we should be, always. Notice: I DO NOT use the Chat Function in this Forum - this has always been written in my profile (and I don't read it too). {it is unfortunate that this new Chat Function does not allow users to turn/switch off in mobile phone}
bigbeardaddy Posted April 25 Posted April 25 On 3/23/2026 at 3:58 PM, KitsuneK said: As a CD I feel like Batman/Bruce Wayne. Only a select few know the batman, where Bruce is the mask I wear on the daily, blending in society. For years I've lived the double life, identifying as trans, living the girly life in the night but feeling like I must keep up the mask of masculinity out of fear of it being discovered. I still haven't tried HRT, and it's been over a decade now since I began this life. You're perfect. Beautiful, sexy.... You're perfect just the way you are. KitsuneK 1 Quote
JusteMoi Posted April 25 Posted April 25 Everyone, though most are in denial, lives a double-life … it is not hard see that when one considers their professional and private lives … they rarely coincide … T Gunner 1 Quote
Togsport Posted April 27 Posted April 27 As you go through different stages of life cycle, your life changes .. two, three, or more than you can imagine 😬😵💫 JusteMoi 1 Quote
HC-B Posted May 10 Posted May 10 A Mexican Netflix film, based on true events, called The Dance of the 41 sums up this thread to a tee—to ultimately fatal results… Quote
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