Have You Come Out Yet?

[JayRoss55]

Whether or not someone has "come out" is deeply personal, and there’s no right or wrong timeline. If you’re asking yourself this question, remember that your safety, comfort, and readiness come first. If someone asked you, it's okay to share only what you feel safe sharing.

[MasterFitMalaySG4U]

Choose not to come out and enjoy the ride beside I only in for fun sex exhibit sides blah3 haha I still want my proud man side. Always the king 👑 not the weak etc haha that is why we men when we getting older fitness faith recovery and sex is our most highest priority. This is also to maintain our whole mental state so we don't drama mama etc we have this positive charisma happiness vibes and look so young then age. Master DOM Top like me can teach u if u want haha 

[Thatguy642]

I don’t publicly announce my sexuality and come off pretty straight it seems, but no issues telling people I sleep with dudes sometimes. 

[JayRoss55]

15 hours ago, Thatguy642 said:

I don’t publicly announce my sexuality and come off pretty straight it seems, but no issues telling people I sleep with dudes sometimes. 

You don't owe anyone a public label or announcement, and letting people assume you're straight while being honest with sexual partners is a valid way to navigate your identity. The key is distinguishing between public presentation (where you stay quiet) and private disclosure (where you're direct), which isn't inconsistency but selective transparency.

[Why?]

Come out of what?  I am not a prisoner to begin with. 

[Damienzo]

I came out to my family about 5 months ago and gradually to other close friends. Only after getting attached though. Otherwise I would have in all likelihood remain closeted 

[Why?]

I'm probably the only one who enjoys keeping things a little mysterious; nobody really needs to know or comprehend me completely. Not the government, not my parents, not my siblings, not my friends.  Sometimes, the less they know about me, the more respect I anticipate.

[doncoin]

I've been out for decades. I no longer feel that need to hide my sexual orientation nor feel ashamed for it. What others think, or how they feel about LGBTQIA+ is none of my business, especially strangers. I am not living my life for them. 

 

The reason I came out is to control the narrative of my life. I dictate how and what is said versus letting others speculate. WIth my family, it is learning to accept and embrace who I am, and to some degree, dealing with the fact that my parents may never have grandchildren. With close friends, it is being able to sort out those who will accept and love you as you are, versus those who are homophobic. With work, it is to shut down the office gossips. Once you're out, there really isn't much to gossip about you. You control the narrative. 

 

 

[Naveyafluz]

Nobody ever asked so not out, but if anyone asked, i am ok to be out though.

[Le Petit Chinois]

I only out to very few… but I don’t normally “come out”… but I don’t deny, and I will show them rather than “tell them my choice”

 

My family know… my parents never ask, but they prolly know from my sister (one of the person I came out long time ago), my siblings and their children all know… one of my niece keep telling me “you’re so brave”. 🫣 every CNY my father gave my husband big hongbao, “same value” as my hongbao, ie he’s not outsider. 
 

Our neighbours know enough, we always 出双入对，sometimes some neighbourhood shop auntie will ask “where is your other friend” if only one of us going to their shop. 

 

In our professional life, me and my husband work together, people around us knows or as they work with us long enough they will eventually know we’re not just business partners. 

[Damienzo]

On 4/22/2026 at 7:00 AM, Le Petit Chinois said:

I only out to very few… but I don’t normally “come out”… but I don’t deny, and I will show them rather than “tell them my choice”

 

My family know… my parents never ask, but they prolly know from my sister (one of the person I came out long time ago), my siblings and their children all know… one of my niece keep telling me “you’re so brave”. 🫣 every CNY my father gave my husband big hongbao, “same value” as my hongbao, ie he’s not outsider. 
 

Our neighbours know enough, we always 出双入对，sometimes some neighbourhood shop auntie will ask “where is your other friend” if only one of us going to their shop. 

 

In our professional life, me and my husband work together, people around us knows or as they work with us long enough they will eventually know we’re not just business partners. 

That’s really nice with family acceptance. 
I still remember when my family came to know, my brother said that he is 100% behind me. My nephew said to me “I’m so proud of you”. My mum took a few conversations and accepted and now she said that we got couple look. 

[cutejack]

23 minutes ago, Damienzo said:

That’s really nice with family acceptance. 
I still remember when my family came to know, my brother said that he is 100% behind me. My nephew said to me “I’m so proud of you”. My mum took a few conversations and accepted and now she said that we got couple look. 

Ur brother behind u? He wants to top u ar? Notti he.

[Le Petit Chinois]

16 hours ago, Damienzo said:

That’s really nice with family acceptance. 
I still remember when my family came to know, my brother said that he is 100% behind me. My nephew said to me “I’m so proud of you”. My mum took a few conversations and accepted and now she said that we got couple look. 

Yes!
 

Very lucky to have family support. I once think my family will never approve my choice. It turned out it all just worry too much.

 

I always tot my family are the most conservative of all… my parents treat us equally well.

 

Parents will sure be upset about this… but they know I have someone to look after me and they know my partner love me more than my other siblings get from their spouse. 

[Damienzo]

On 4/24/2026 at 5:01 PM, Le Petit Chinois said:

Yes!
 

Very lucky to have family support. I once think my family will never approve my choice. It turned out it all just worry too much.

 

I always tot my family are the most conservative of all… my parents treat us equally well.

 

Parents will sure be upset about this… but they know I have someone to look after me and they know my partner love me more than my other siblings get from their spouse. 

I think most of us worry too much and tend to withhold. At end of the day, our family would also want us to be happy too. 

[Veloster]

3 hours ago, Damienzo said:

I think most of us worry too much and tend to withhold. At end of the day, our family would also want us to be happy too. 

Def well said ...if any of your family member says they love you ...they will accept it...that's love..same goes to real friends ...I have been blessed by loving parents! And even my str friends and esp one who loves me so much all our close friends calls him my str BF and literally shows me affection like a bf ...we go trips tgt we hangout tgt we workout tgt ..we are literally inseparable! Bromance to the extreme! So yes it's all just labeling what's important is real love real respect and as you said at the end of the day our loved ones wants us to be happy and when you know you are home to them and vice versa!

[Guest guest1]

On 4/18/2026 at 7:35 PM, MasterFitMalaySG4U said:

Choose not to come out and enjoy the ride beside I only in for fun sex exhibit sides blah3 haha I still want my proud man side. Always the king 👑 not the weak etc haha that is why we men when we getting older fitness faith recovery and sex is our most highest priority. This is also to maintain our whole mental state so we don't drama mama etc we have this positive charisma happiness vibes and look so young then age. Master DOM Top like me can teach u if u want haha 

Not coming out = " my proud man side. Always the king 👑 not the weak"??

what kind of mindset is that???

 

[JayRoss55]

On 4/26/2026 at 1:15 AM, Damienzo said:

I think most of us worry too much and tend to withhold. At end of the day, our family would also want us to be happy too. 

That's a thoughtful insight, worry often makes us hold back when we should be leaning in. Our families usually care more about our genuine well-being than about us being perfect or problem-free. Letting go of excessive worry can actually bring us closer to the people we love. Happiness isn't selfish; it's often what our loved ones truly wish for us. So maybe the kindest thing we can do for our families and ourselves is to stop withholding and start living more fully.