Racism or Racial Preference?

[Letsuckit]

On 4/19/2026 at 12:13 PM, ANK said:

Anyone stocky guy in try now, no Indian n bangla

How is this still a thing 2026 haha such blatant racism and no one bats an eye. Too much of such trash on this forum.

[kalel]

7 hours ago, Letsuckit said:

How is this still a thing 2026 haha such blatant racism and no one bats an eye. Too much of such trash on this forum.

 

I think you need to chill - you would need to differentiate between 'preference' and 'racism'.

 

What you quoted was a preference, not racism. Even our minister, Mr K. Shanmugam, said:

"People may have racial preferences, and that in itself is not racism.

But if they bring it out into the public sphere and impose it on others, then it crosses the line." (source is here)

 

If you are not happy with that post(s), you just need to ignore it/them and move on. Any real racism post(s) that impose negatively on others, we will definitely remove them.

 

[Letsuckit]

5 hours ago, kalel said:

 

I think you need to chill - you would need to differentiate between 'preference' and 'racism'.

 

What you quoted was a preference, not racism. Even our minister, Mr K. Shanmugam, said:

"People may have racial preferences, and that in itself is not racism.

But if they bring it out into the public sphere and impose it on others, then it crosses the line." (source is here)

 

If you are not happy with that post(s), you just need to ignore it/them and move on. Any real racism post(s) that impose negatively on others, we will definitely remove them.

 

I think you need to pick up a dictionary when people exclude you just because of your race and then call it a preference doesn’t make it a preference. The fact that a moderator is defending racist shir like this is why shit like this continues go and talk to people who have race “preferences” and maybe find out what about that race is so bad that it somehow defines the entire race causing them to be off their list that would be an interesting convo don’t try correct me when it doesn’t affect you. Thank you. I don’t care about what someone else said about racial preference we aren’t trying to get married it’s literally a hookup also what is it that causes people to not want a particular race but are open to all others? This isn’t the first post I have seen and won’t be the last as long as people like you and the guy who posted it are around so I will continue to call you out deal with it.

[Letsuckit]

6 hours ago, kalel said:

 

I think you need to chill - you would need to differentiate between 'preference' and 'racism'.

 

What you quoted was a preference, not racism. Even our minister, Mr K. Shanmugam, said:

"People may have racial preferences, and that in itself is not racism.

But if they bring it out into the public sphere and impose it on others, then it crosses the line." (source is here)

 

If you are not happy with that post(s), you just need to ignore it/them and move on. Any real racism post(s) that impose negatively on others, we will definitely remove them.

 

Also I don’t have to ignore anything if I see something wrong I’m going to say something I don’t expect you with your bias ass to understand anything aren’t you the same race as the person who posted it I do t find it surprising that you support it mind your business instead telling me anything.

[kalel]

13 minutes ago, Letsuckit said:

I think you need to pick up a dictionary when people exclude you just because of your race and then call it a preference doesn’t make it a preference. The fact that a moderator is defending racist shir like this is why shit like this continues go and talk to people who have race “preferences” and maybe find out what about that race is so bad that it somehow defines the entire race causing them to be off their list that would be an interesting convo don’t try correct me when it doesn’t affect you. Thank you. I don’t care about what someone else said about racial preference we aren’t trying to get married it’s literally a hookup also what is it that causes people to not want a particular race but are open to all others? This isn’t the first post I have seen and won’t be the last as long as people like you and the guy who posted it are around so I will continue to call you out deal with it.

 

13 minutes ago, Letsuckit said:

Also I don’t have to ignore anything if I see something wrong I’m going to say something I don’t expect you with your bias ass to understand anything aren’t you the same race as the person who posted it I do t find it surprising that you support it mind your business instead telling me anything.

 

The fact that you could ignore what our minister, Mr K. Shanmugam (who is NOT A CHINESE), said that it is fine for racial preference, and going on and on, shows a lot about your character.

 

Was trying to reason with you, but since you want me to mind my business, then let me tell you this: you should take a week suspension from posting in this forum (go cool off your head). As moderators, we neither support nor oppose racial preferences, so long as it is not any form of racism.

 

[Malaylover]

32 minutes ago, kalel said:

 

 

The fact that you could ignore what our minister, Mr K. Shanmugam (who is NOT A CHINESE), said that it is fine for racial preference, and going on and on, shows a lot about your character.

 

Was trying to reason with you, but since you want me to mind my business, then let me tell you this: you should take a week suspension from posting in this forum (go cool off your head). As moderators, we neither support nor oppose racial preferences, so long as it is not any form of racism.

 

Are you dumb? Let’s put things into context shall we. He said that isn’t anything wrong with people of the same race feeling comfortable with one another that was the racial preference he was referring to preference isn’t excluding an entire race by saying no Ind and no bangla but you obviously don’t understand English. Reason with me brother pick up a book for once in your life you think you moderator big shit? You have no balsl to suspend the racist accounts who block people for simply being Ind while they chat you up all they want to until they find out about your race but when people call you out you too scared to talk about the issue is it fuck you loser. Ban me all you want doesn’t change the fact that you aren’t any better than these racist fuckers and that you clearly support racist “preference” you don’t get dictate what is racism to my race when I’m the one facing it bitch.

Edited June 7 by Malaylover

[Malaylover]

Just now, Malaylover said:

Are you dumb? Let’s put things into context shall we. He said that isn’t anything wrong with people of the same race feeling comfortable with one another that was the racial preference he was referring to preference isn’t excluding an entire race by saying no Ind and no bangla but you obviously don’t understand English. Reason with me brother pick up a book for once in your life you think you moderator big shit? You have no balsl to suspend the racist accounts who block people for simply being Ind while they chat you up all they want to until they find out about your race but when people call you out you too scared to talk about the issue is it fuck you loser. Ban me all you want doesn’t change the fact that you aren’t any better than these racist fuckers and that you clearly support racist “preference” you don’t get dictate what is racism to my race when I’m the one facing it bitch.

This is how the moderators of this forum are I guess support racist bs just cos they don’t think it’s a problem don’t know how to understand context of issues and miss quote people to try and prove a non-existent point. If this how you treat minorities who are also on this forum for calling out the bs people say it just proves my point!

[kalel]

55 minutes ago, Malaylover said:

Are you dumb? Let’s put things into context shall we. He said that isn’t anything wrong with people of the same race feeling comfortable with one another that was the racial preference he was referring to preference isn’t excluding an entire race by saying no Ind and no bangla but you obviously don’t understand English. Reason with me brother pick up a book for once in your life you think you moderator big shit? You have no balsl to suspend the racist accounts who block people for simply being Ind while they chat you up all they want to until they find out about your race but when people call you out you too scared to talk about the issue is it fuck you loser. Ban me all you want doesn’t change the fact that you aren’t any better than these racist fuckers and that you clearly support racist “preference” you don’t get dictate what is racism to my race when I’m the one facing it bitch.

 

53 minutes ago, Malaylover said:

This is how the moderators of this forum are I guess support racist bs just cos they don’t think it’s a problem don’t know how to understand context of issues and miss quote people to try and prove a non-existent point. If this how you treat minorities who are also on this forum for calling out the bs people say it just proves my point!

 

The 2 of you have very similar writing style (saying the same thing), was there even "two of you"?

 

Dugged out that the "2 of you" were using the same IP address for several occasions - so it was just you @Malaylover since you created @Letsuckit. I think if you cannot handle rejections, then you should just skip using this forum - there are other apps you could use too.

 

Of course, you would want to say - don't tell you what you should do. Then, by the same logic, don't tell me what I should do! And moderators here just do what is necessary, definitely will not take any BS from you!

 

[Malaylover]

8 minutes ago, kalel said:

 

 

The 2 of you have very similar writing style (saying the same thing), was there even "two of you"?

 

Dugged out that the "2 of you" were using the same IP address for several occasions - so it was just you @Malaylover since you created @Letsuckit. I think if you cannot handle rejections, then you should just skip using this forum - there are other apps you could use too.

 

Of course, you would want to say - don't tell you what you should do. Then, by the same logic, don't tell me what I should do! And moderators here just do what is necessary, definitely will not take any BS from you!

 

I created it cos people thought I only liked Malays due to my name but even then never rejected anyone cos of race. Also rejection is fine it’s only a problem when you ok with everything except my race and you block me for it without a word that’s blatant racism clearly so get your facts right also I didn’t pretend like I was someone else I directly quoted you for a reason! I think if you can’t do your fucking job like calling racist users out then you should quit as moderator. I didn’t say anything to you until you spoke to me are you having trouble following the logical trail I understand it might be difficult for you. I won’t take any shit from you either so man up when I reply to you instead of quoting me then suspending my account for calling it out what is evident.

[kalel]

Moved the above out of topic posts to the Flaming Room.

 

 

Let me put it in context why I responded to this in my first reply above. "Letsuckit" used the Report function to report 2 posts from the same member he quoted as 'racism', which I then used my first reply to explain the issue. However, he clearly couldn't take "no" as an answer and told me to "mind my business" - which I did (the explanation).

 

By his logic, that would mean this thread below is also in the form of 'racism', since it excluded other races, right? Should it be banned then?

"Indian / Bangla / Punjab / Sikh Guys (Compiled)"

 

I read through my posts above, I didn't resort to name-callings or anything. However, "Letsuckit"/"Malaylover" started a series of name-calling and even implied me being 'uneducated', as above, but there were more abusive ones (in the chat messages, see below). So, I wonder if people blocked him for his race, or they blocked him for some other reason(s)?

 

<<I do not respond to ALL chat messages, not just his>>

 

 

 

So, is it racism or racial preference?

 

[leckmich]

bangla s a degoratory term, i think?

[kalel]

1 hour ago, leckmich said:

bangla s a degoratory term, i think?

 

Bangla is actually a language, guess over here, they just used 'Bangla' in short for the people.

In case someone is going to say I'm uneducated, below is what ChatGPT replied:

 

No, “Bangla” is not generally a derogatory term.

“Bangla” is the native name for the Bengali language, and it is commonly used by Bengali speakers themselves. For example:

• Bangla = the Bengali language.

• People may say they speak Bangla instead of saying they speak Bengali.

• It is the official language of Bangladesh and one of the major languages of the Indian state of West Bengal.

The word can also be used culturally, such as “Bangla literature” or “Bangla music.”

However, as with many ethnic or national identifiers, tone and context matter. In some places, a person might use “Bangla” informally to refer to someone from Bangladesh or a Bengali-speaking community. By itself, the word is not a slur, but if it is used mockingly or as part of a stereotype, it can be perceived as offensive because of the speaker's intent rather than the word itself.

If you tell me the specific sentence or context where you heard it, I can explain exactly how it was being used.

 

[leckmich]

well i suppose only the person above can give the context or intention of his post

[Guest Guest]

Hahaha  ... so "no Indian n bangla" is not a form of racial preference but a form of racism, but it becomes acceptable if you whitewash it with a nickname "Malaylover"? 

 

That's basically just two sides of the same coin, isn't it?? Hypocrite! 🤣

[Guest Guest]

We are all entitled to our preference/opinions which may not even be baseless at all. No matter how often the race-card is thrown out by perpetrators to play victim, facts like these are really hard to deny: https://www.instagram.com/reels/DZReVe-I4ZF/ 

People just want to blame-shame the public for racism, simply because it is easier then going out to educate their entire race on how to behave.    

 

Sure, there are definitely good guys among the black sheep. But if I'm not gonna take my chances there, I'm just not gonna take my chances there.  

[juicyass]

i myself do not fancy dealing with malay anymore to the point I put "strictly no malay" in my grindr profile and I have all the right reasons to do so because I have encountered numerous occasions in which most of the experiences were hugely disappointing, and at some point one of the occasions involved police intervention. 

 

So does it make me a racist here?

 

So the malay stated in their profile preference saying "malay only" considered not racist but just strictly preference?

 

Funny how these "malays" think they are right at every wrongs just because they play the holy card. 🤷‍♂️ 

[kalel]

Let's see, so recently, there was another post being 'reported' (see below) - reason cited was 'racist'.

<<will not show who the member is or when was it posted>>

 

What do you guys think - is the post racist?   🤔

 

 

[Malaylover]

On 6/10/2026 at 9:15 PM, kalel said:

 

Bangla is actually a language, guess over here, they just used 'Bangla' in short for the people.

In case someone is going to say I'm uneducated, below is what ChatGPT replied:

 

No, “Bangla” is not generally a derogatory term.

“Bangla” is the native name for the Bengali language, and it is commonly used by Bengali speakers themselves. For example:

• Bangla = the Bengali language.

• People may say they speak Bangla instead of saying they speak Bengali.

• It is the official language of Bangladesh and one of the major languages of the Indian state of West Bengal.

The word can also be used culturally, such as “Bangla literature” or “Bangla music.”

However, as with many ethnic or national identifiers, tone and context matter. In some places, a person might use “Bangla” informally to refer to someone from Bangladesh or a Bengali-speaking community. By itself, the word is not a slur, but if it is used mockingly or as part of a stereotype, it can be perceived as offensive because of the speaker's intent rather than the word itself.

If you tell me the specific sentence or context where you heard it, I can explain exactly how it was being used.

 

I like how to prove that you “educated” you had to use ChatGPT. The term Bangla is language but it has been used on this forum disparaging many times others words are also part of language they can also be used to the same effect simple logic. 

[Malaylover]

On 6/12/2026 at 12:36 PM, Guest Guest said:

Hahaha  ... so "no Indian n bangla" is not a form of racial preference but a form of racism, but it becomes acceptable if you whitewash it with a nickname "Malaylover"? 

 

That's basically just two sides of the same coin, isn't it?? Hypocrite! 🤣

I think it’s funny that your opinions are hidden behind a guest account also I addressed my name in a previous post I created my account due to a positive experience I had with someone never once did I block anyone for their race even when people asked me if I only like Malay men I always said I have no preferences so read the whole thread before speaking out of your anus. 

[Malaylover]

On 6/12/2026 at 12:55 PM, Guest Guest said:

We are all entitled to our preference/opinions which may not even be baseless at all. No matter how often the race-card is thrown out by perpetrators to play victim, facts like these are really hard to deny: https://www.instagram.com/reels/DZReVe-I4ZF/ 

People just want to blame-shame the public for racism, simply because it is easier then going out to educate their entire race on how to behave.    

 

Sure, there are definitely good guys among the black sheep. But if I'm not gonna take my chances there, I'm just not gonna take my chances there.  

Go look up the word preference. Preferences are rankings not saying I entirely don’t want a race they are very different things so ya may want to look at that first.

[Malaylover]

Just now, Malaylover said:

Go look up the word preference. Preferences are rankings not saying I entirely don’t want a race they are very different things so ya may want to look at that first.

I also like how in your statement you want to talk about how races should behave who made you the decider of how a race should behave exactly? Does yours behave certainly from the looks of this forum they don’t so check yourself. 

[Malaylover]

On 6/12/2026 at 9:54 PM, juicyass said:

i myself do not fancy dealing with malay anymore to the point I put "strictly no malay" in my grindr profile and I have all the right reasons to do so because I have encountered numerous occasions in which most of the experiences were hugely disappointing, and at some point one of the occasions involved police intervention. 

 

So does it make me a racist here?

 

So the malay stated in their profile preference saying "malay only" considered not racist but just strictly preference?

 

Funny how these "malays" think they are right at every wrongs just because they play the holy card. 🤷‍♂️ 

Then maybe pick better people you can’t say that the entire race of people are full of bad experiences because you made bad choices excluding an entire race will never be a preference you can google it. It’s simple.

[Malaylover]

On 6/17/2026 at 6:45 PM, kalel said:

Let's see, so recently, there was another post being 'reported' (see below) - reason cited was 'racist'.

<<will not show who the member is or when was it posted>>

 

What do you guys think - is the post racist?   🤔

 

 

How about asking or ai since you seem to rely on them for your definitions moderator simple right.

[Malaylover]

On 6/8/2026 at 8:35 PM, kalel said:

Moved the above out of topic posts to the Flaming Room.

 

 

Let me put it in context why I responded to this in my first reply above. "Letsuckit" used the Report function to report 2 posts from the same member he quoted as 'racism', which I then used my first reply to explain the issue. However, he clearly couldn't take "no" as an answer and told me to "mind my business" - which I did (the explanation).

 

By his logic, that would mean this thread below is also in the form of 'racism', since it excluded other races, right? Should it be banned then?

"Indian / Bangla / Punjab / Sikh Guys (Compiled)"

 

I read through my posts above, I didn't resort to name-callings or anything. However, "Letsuckit"/"Malaylover" started a series of name-calling and even implied me being 'uneducated', as above, but there were more abusive ones (in the chat messages, see below). So, I wonder if people blocked him for his race, or they blocked him for some other reason(s)?

 

<<I do not respond to ALL chat messages, not just his>>

 

 

 

So, is it racism or racial preference?

 

You don’t have to resort to name calling when support racism that’s enough. Preferences are fine but when they exclude entire races because of your preconceived notions that’s racism. Also you aren’t a minority try being an Indian and talking to the people in your own forum you will see if I get blocked for my race or something else but until then I suggest to keep your speculations in the empty space between your ears.

[Guest Guest]

8 hours ago, Malaylover said:

I like how to prove that you “educated” you had to use ChatGPT. The term Bangla is language but it has been used on this forum disparaging many times others words are also part of language they can also be used to the same effect simple logic. 

 

8 hours ago, Malaylover said:

I think it’s funny that your opinions are hidden behind a guest account also I addressed my name in a previous post I created my account due to a positive experience I had with someone never once did I block anyone for their race even when people asked me if I only like Malay men I always said I have no preferences so read the whole thread before speaking out of your anus. 

 

8 hours ago, Malaylover said:

Go look up the word preference. Preferences are rankings not saying I entirely don’t want a race they are very different things so ya may want to look at that first.

 

8 hours ago, Malaylover said:

I also like how in your statement you want to talk about how races should behave who made you the decider of how a race should behave exactly? Does yours behave certainly from the looks of this forum they don’t so check yourself. 

 

8 hours ago, Malaylover said:

Then maybe pick better people you can’t say that the entire race of people are full of bad experiences because you made bad choices excluding an entire race will never be a preference you can google it. It’s simple.

 

8 hours ago, Malaylover said:

How about asking or ai since you seem to rely on them for your definitions moderator simple right.

 

8 hours ago, Malaylover said:

You don’t have to resort to name calling when support racism that’s enough. Preferences are fine but when they exclude entire races because of your preconceived notions that’s racism. Also you aren’t a minority try being an Indian and talking to the people in your own forum you will see if I get blocked for my race or something else but until then I suggest to keep your speculations in the empty space between your ears.

walau eh... clearly from all ur posts ar, u r crude n rude la... n u still like to say others nia... i think ppl block u not bcos ur race, they block cos of ur bad attitude + lousy personality k... no pt. argue wif this fellow...

[Guest Why Why Why]

On 6/7/2026 at 4:35 PM, Malaylover said:

This is how the moderators of this forum are I guess support racist bs just cos they don’t think it’s a problem don’t know how to understand context of issues and miss quote people to try and prove a non-existent point. If this how you treat minorities who are also on this forum for calling out the bs people say it just proves my point!

 

Wah Lau.  Other moderators here are actually ok but only this one is by far the worst I've seen even when you compare with moderators of HWZ. His action is baseless and unintelligent hence dont bother lah.

[Malaylover]

9 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

 

 

 

 

 

 

walau eh... clearly from all ur posts ar, u r crude n rude la... n u still like to say others nia... i think ppl block u not bcos ur race, they block cos of ur bad attitude + lousy personality k... no pt. argue wif this fellow...

How about you have the balls to put your account name to your opinion I don’t have to be nice to racists or people who support it. Have balls bro if you want to open your mouth.

[Malaylover]

9 hours ago, Guest Guest said:

 

 

 

 

 

 

walau eh... clearly from all ur posts ar, u r crude n rude la... n u still like to say others nia... i think ppl block u not bcos ur race, they block cos of ur bad attitude + lousy personality k... no pt. argue wif this fellow...

How would you know why people block from how you speak im sure you are a lonely racist in his basement should be fair for me to say cos baseless nonsense seems to be supported by idiots like you hahaha

[Glyph]

On 7/4/2026 at 2:10 AM, Malaylover said:

Also you aren’t a minority try being an Indian and talking to the people in your own forum you will see if I get blocked for my race or something else but until then I suggest to keep your speculations in the empty space between your ears.

 

Good sir, this can be taken as you saying people of the majority race, or any other races for that matter, cannot be a victim of racism. This is untrue. It can also translate to you deeming other races of not having the capacity to empathise, which itself is a prejudicial statement that constitutes as racism. But none of us are blatantly calling you out, because we rationalise and understand where you're coming from.

 

Can we just agree that personal ads like these aren't, say, employment ads where racial exclusion is regarded as discriminatory? Sexual attraction is deeply personal, and the traits of it are usually uncontrollable. The original poster of your quoted post probably felt that he doesn't want to serve out rejections individually, much like many others on Grindr who have similar wordings on their profile bio.

 

If this still doesn't appease you, then we'll proceed to remove his post. But know that there is little for us to discuss if you cannot remain civil.

Edited Tuesday at 11:50 AM by Glyph
Correction, you didn't quote the post but you get what I mean.

[Malaylover]

3 hours ago, Glyph said:

 

Good sir, this can be taken as you saying people of the majority race, or any other races for that matter, cannot be a victim of racism. This is untrue. It can also translate to you deeming other races of not having the capacity to empathise, which itself is a prejudicial statement that constitutes as racism. But none of us are blatantly calling you out, because we rationalise and understand where you're coming from.

 

Can we just agree that personal ads like these aren't, say, employment ads where racial exclusion is regarded as discriminatory? Sexual attraction is deeply personal, and the traits of it are usually uncontrollable. The original poster of your quoted post probably felt that he doesn't want to serve out rejections individually, much like many others on Grindr who have similar wordings on their profile bio.

 

If this still doesn't appease you, then we'll proceed to remove his post. But know that there is little for us to discuss if you cannot remain civil.

I’m talking within the context of this conversation just because it can be taken does not mean that is what is meant. It’s very clear that the majority race will back each other regardless of the content being spoken by their own people. Also, in this case I’m talking about the perspective of a minority with prove of racism against me so people who haven’t gone through it in the instances that have making comments on the matter in support of racism isn’t something I have to tolerate. And if these people have gone through racism I will still say that, that is awful but why would they supporting their own race being the same is what is beyond me.

 

When you exclude races in your post whatever you intentions are doesn’t come across people just see the post. Also I have brought up several instances of racism not just one. I don’t have to try to understand what he was trying to say I saw what he said and I stand by what I said. Also job ads with racial preferences have to be justified by the law and if they aren’t they can sued for the ad. Anyway the context I have given is plenty to support what I have stated so person or not there is a way to go about doing it and when your personal thoughts are posted on a public forum people will comment on it just like you just did to my post. Also your fellow moderator was not adequately informed enough on the situation to say half the things he said and I addressed it. I haven’t said anything wrong but I like how the person who has isn’t being corrected. What a forum lol.

[Malaylover]

3 hours ago, Glyph said:

 

Good sir, this can be taken as you saying people of the majority race, or any other races for that matter, cannot be a victim of racism. This is untrue. It can also translate to you deeming other races of not having the capacity to empathise, which itself is a prejudicial statement that constitutes as racism. But none of us are blatantly calling you out, because we rationalise and understand where you're coming from.

 

Can we just agree that personal ads like these aren't, say, employment ads where racial exclusion is regarded as discriminatory? Sexual attraction is deeply personal, and the traits of it are usually uncontrollable. The original poster of your quoted post probably felt that he doesn't want to serve out rejections individually, much like many others on Grindr who have similar wordings on their profile bio.

 

If this still doesn't appease you, then we'll proceed to remove his post. But know that there is little for us to discuss if you cannot remain civil.

Remains civil is reserved for those who act with more consideration with their posts I don’t have to be civil when I call out racism you can be if you would like but you don’t get to control me. I’m a grown man. Also what has been done so far about the plenty of other people who block you for simply stating your race nothing right. You can’t do anything about them so I will call them out as I please I have every right to.

[Glyph]

It's kind of sad that the only way you seem to derive self-preservation is by putting down anyone who shares a different standpoint. I rest my case.

[D.0284]

one should be allowed to determine who to date or have Intimate relationship. How to expect everybody to just accept anyone that comes along?