I Can'T Enjoy Anal Sex :'(

[jamesg]

whenever i fingered myself there was pleasure but when i got fxxked, it was only pain and it was not at all pleasurable. am i doing it wrong?

[Azorius]

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Edited January 14, 2018 by Azorius

[Chub71]

whenever i fingered myself there was pleasure but when i got fxxked, it was only pain and it was not at all pleasurable. am i doing it wrong?

Perhaps if you tried sitting on your partner's rod you'll get more control of the sensations you want. Hope this suggestion helps.

[Exynos]

it's a little sad how everyone's trying so hard to conform to standards. i mean people can boast about their sex lives but in the end if u don't boast no one will think urs sucks anyways, so just enjoy what u really enjoy~

[keyboard]

it's a little sad how everyone's trying so hard to conform to standards. i mean people can boast about their sex lives but in the end if u don't boast no one will think urs sucks anyways, so just enjoy what u really enjoy~

I have a different take on it, it's like if everyone is saying ice-cream is so good, and when you do it, it taste bitter. You will definitely wonder why. The anus have many many sensitive nerves, of course it will feel good. But if you use sandpaper and rub your hole in the inside, you might as well kill yourself. So those who are not enjoying anal sex, you're doing it wrong.

They don't teach you in school how to enjoy anal sex, they also don't teach people how to fxxk in school to make it pleasurable for both. Figure that out. Being an experienced fxxker does not mean he can make you feel good. There's a type of people who derive personal pleasure from satisfying others pleasure, these are the type who makes a good fxxk.

If you cannot identify, those type of people will say things like, I like to see my partner face when he is cumming while I am fxxking him.

[delon]

yeah, all of my partner don't consider those things you mentioned as 'sex', I personally prefer to just do the things you mentioned (plus cuddling and kissing, you forgot to mention it ). But all gays I've met always want to do anal too...If all gays in the world are anal-sex-oriented like that, I probably should just have sex my hands lol XD

Kissing, cuddling, rimming are so hot and enjoyable. glad there r those who thinks alike.

[goodie]

i m glad there are people like me haha LOL

[playfulsg]

Hi,.. that's a nice to know someone voice out my concern too!

hahha

I never enjoyed anal sex.

but i always turn on with guys.

[boybelow]

when I get analed, self consciousness gets the better of me. I just want to give my guy the best experience but it makes me uncomfortable and tense.

[Blacque]

when I get analed, self consciousness gets the better of me. I just want to give my guy the best experience but it makes me uncomfortable and tense.

Ditto!

[curiousboy]

Ditto!

You mean this?

[Blacque]

You mean this?

Tsk check www.dictionary.com for its meaning...!

[curiousboy]

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Tsk check www.dictionary.com for its meaning...!

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HAHAHAHA I WAS JOKING RIGHTTTT! :B

Edited February 28, 2012 by curiousboy

[Guest Ironrod]

whenever i fingered myself there was pleasure but when i got fxxked, it was only pain and it was not at all pleasurable. am i doing it wrong?

Maybe u should try a smaller dick instead.

As for the rest who think anal sex is no fun, I only can say "sorry u are missing out a very fun part of being gay"

Pain and pleasure is only 1 thin line.

Ever being spank till your ass is red then get fxxked while your nipples was squeezed?

You just need to meet the right guy, whom can press the right buttons.

Of course, exploring with bf is the fun part. Let him understand your body , it takes time and the pleasure will follow.

But I won't suggest wasting a nice hole with toys.......if u must try 3 finger instead of 1

[SeannyShortcake]

Btm/top more.

Use lube.

Go slow.

Get into the sensual mode.

[UnknownZzZ]

I am a top and i just tried fingering my ass for the very first time.

Went all the way with my middle finger and i would say its still ok, but when i tried with 2 fingers all the way the feeling is quite intense.

Although not very painful, i feel more uncomfortable more than pleasure.

With my fingers only 8cm, i can't imagine taking a 15cm rod all the way, confirm pain.

[kennethhost]

Top and btm both tried. Both are nice....

[whitetiger]

Foreplay is also impt for the anal sex.. Sometimes, btm still feeling tense up or not ready, top must be able to sense that.. And do go for slow entry if the btm is new to it.. Rectum muscle will eventually take your size if you give some time.. Relax or teasing your btm sensitive area helps them too

Btm needs to relax well.. All in the mind

[radialhead]

I've been top since I started gay sex and I always wondered why my partners always moan, curse, writhe and have that look of pure pleasure everytime I fxxk them. So, I decided I will try to be a bottom.

It took me a year to mentally, physically and emotionally prepare for this task. I did online research and asked close friends. On top of this, I needed to find the perfect guy that really turns me on.

After a more than a year, I finally found the guy and went on to prepare the hotel, lube (lots) and condoms.

Yes, it hurts like hell.

If you haven't tried fingering yourself, this foreign hard thing inside your anus is really not pleasant. My body is rejecting the invasion. I chose this. Its funny because I remember its like I have to poop like right now. But I have been mentally preparing for this pain and told myself to suck it up.

We did several attempts and I had to let his cock go out a few time because it was tearing my asshole. After several tries. the whole hard dick went it. He was smooth and patient much to my relief. I can see he enjoyed it and I was glad he did.

While I was showering and cleaning myself when I felt the pain in my asshole. I groped and saw I was slightly bleeding. I cleaned it thoroughly even though it was really painful. The small wound bleeding eventually stopped and I went out the hotel limping but mentally satisfied. Get fxxked: check.

Though I'm a flex/versa, I have to say that being a bottom takes a lot of fxxk for you to enjoy it. Also a BIG plus if the guy is a great fxxker. That's why if you find one, try to schedule a part 2,3,4. . . . hehehe.

So my advice: do your research, ask friends, lots of lube, condoms, mental preparation for the pain and start with a small dick. Work your way up the inches when comfortable. =)

[apophis]

i felt the same way at the start. I wanted to bottom but it was just so painful that despite me wanting it, there was no pleasure at all.

Fingering wasn't any more fun, and it was really just uncomfortable.

I think i was just so tense all the time that I never relaxed. With one of my boyfriends, we were doing lots of foreplay, he rimmed me a lot, and he managed to relax me a lot down there. It still hurt at the start but it did feel amazing afterwards!

Keep trying.

[warlock88]

probably need more fingering, rimming and you need to relax.

[apophis]

also, try different positions. I find being on top helps control it better. You can decide how much you take in first.

Oh and use a lot of lube! Be over generous.

[Azorius]

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Edited January 14, 2018 by Azorius

[apophis]

for tense bottoms, its also about finding the right top. A good one will be able to help relax you and make you feel more comfortable with the situation and whats to come. first time encounters might be too stressful. Try to get to know someone better first.

[Guest boys-pleasure]

That's one of the reasons why I would like to stay a virgin haha

[gerigo]

In order to enjoy anal sex, here are a few pointers to remember.

- As the bottom, there is prep you have to do. That means loosening up and being relaxed.

Unfortunately most all of pxxn don't show the prep that bottoms have to go through to prepare for the penetration. They just show the fun penetration part and we all assume it's the beginning of the engagement. If you watched Belami or Sean Cody behind the scene videos, they show the bottom do the flush and then the dilation with butt plug. Takes a little time.

For me, I like to take the time to rim the bottom. It's really enjoyable for both, and by the time the rimming is over, the bottoms is usually ready to receive. That's my way of taking over from the butt plug bit which seems a little mechanical and unsexy.

- As the top, you can't just go at it like its a pussy. The anus is different and require time to relax and dilate. You have to do your part to make the bottom feel comfortable and ready.

About the actual act, what people have said is right. Just do what turns you on. Don't need to mimic what u see on pxxn.

[radialhead]

also, try different positions. I find being on top helps control it better. You can decide how much you take in first.

Oh and use a lot of lube! Be over generous.

Totally agree.

There were several guys where I was their first top/ fxxker. With lots of lube, I always recommend him to sit on my dick so he could control how much he wants to let in. At this moment, I lay back, put my hands over my head, gently encourage him, let him feel he's doing it right and enjoy the whole experience.

I make sure my cock is rock hard for his convenience. Seeing how hard he works to pleasure himself with my dick turns me on a lot. We stay in that position until he tires then we go to another position he likes. When he rans out of ideas, I take over. =P

[apophis]

experienced tops here should be offering to help those with difficulties! lol

[darkiedark]

Yeah. Been having this question for quite a while now. My bf wish to fxxk me but I can't seem to enjoy it. It's painful. We've tried on several occasions, but the session usually is very short cos I can't take the pain.

He's nice enough to not always ask for it and when I decline, he don't force me as well. But I can tell that he really wants to do it and I hope I can do it for him too. So hopefully any good btm can share their experience on how they manage to cope with the pain. Haha..

Another concern I have is that if I loosen my hole too much. I'm afraid that there will be problems next time when I can't control my shit :S

[Blacque]

Yeah. Been having this question for quite a while now. My bf wish to fxxk me but I can't seem to enjoy it. It's painful. We've tried on several occasions, but the session usually is very short cos I can't take the pain.

He's nice enough to not always ask for it and when I decline, he don't force me as well. But I can tell that he really wants to do it and I hope I can do it for him too. So hopefully any good btm can share their experience on how they manage to cope with the pain. Haha..

Another concern I have is that if I loosen my hole too much. I'm afraid that there will be problems next time when I can't control my shit :S

Just make sure you watch your diet and maintain a good bowel system!

[azimuth]

Don't worry. Cuddling can sometimes be very fun too!

[Speedos]

After reading this thread, I have greater appreciation for any guy who bottoms for me now. I hope to become flexible with some training.

[apophis]

Speedo: you make it sound like its a chore for us. In truth it's very enjoyable! It might take some preparation sometimes but it's usually worth it...of course the top has to be doing a good job at it too! Lol

[Cube3]

I dislike the taste of durians. Everybody says, try, try, but I still dislike it. No need to force myself lor...

[mydontay]

Anal sex can be painful or pleasure, depends if bottom can feel relax and whether the top can make the bottom relax.

I have 4 encounters of being a bottom, only the 2 guys made me painful as they just wanted a quickie without considering my painfulness!

I tried as a top twice. The first was very pleasure one, with the uncle teaching me how to anal when he found out that I had not done so. he made me feel relax and shiok with all the encouragement chats while we were doing.

As for the 2nd one, maybe his "hole" was too tight, I did not enjoy it, but feel painful after that.

So many factors contributed to a pleasure anal.