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Arrested exec shared drugs in F&P flat 18 June 2006 By ADAM DUDDING Graham Ball, the former Fisher and Paykel executive arrested in a Singapore drugs bust, was sharing drugs at a flat paid for by F&P when police swooped, say charge sheets released to the Sunday Star-Times by the Singapore courts. Ball, 45, and local man Lim Kim Hui, who is in his late 20s, were charged with trafficking, consumption and other drug charges after police found 2.25g of methamphetamine and 1.19g of ketamine in Ball's company flat. Urine samples from the men tested positive for drugs. Ball has continued to live at the flat since he was released on bail a week after his March 31 arrest, but a Fisher and Paykel spokesman in New Zealand said he would leave the flat when its lease expired in a few days. Ball's lawyer, Harbajan Singh, said the company fired Ball from his post as Singapore general manager soon after his arrest. He said Ball had "lost everything". "He was earning good money, he was number one running operations here. It's hit him very bad." Ball's $S100,000 ($102,000) bail was paid by his brother, who flew to Singapore after being told of the arrest by the New Zealand government. The two trafficking charges against Ball, each carrying a maximum sentence of 20 years in prison and 15 strokes of the cane, have since been replaced with possession charges in a plea bargain arranged by Singh. Singh said Ball, who is originally from Te Puke, in the Bay of Plenty, was likely to face a sentence of about nine months in prison plus fines. He will next appear in court on June 29. News of the arrest came as Singapore's prime minister, Lee Hsien Loong, arrived in New Zealand for an official five-day visit. Prime Minister Helen Clark yesterday refused to comment on Ball because his case is before the courts. She would not say if she would raise the matter with her Singaporean counterpart during his visit. A Fisher and Paykel spokesman in New Zealand said the company was "shocked" when Ball was charged, but he declined to comment on whether its reputation in Singapore had suffered as a result

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How many of u guys cook your own dinner when you get home after work? How much time do you spend doing this? Does anyone have any quick and simple recipes to share? Do u know of any cooking courses for men focussing on simple and quick meals? I have recently taken to preparing my own dinner, and looking to broaden my repertoire of recipes. As I'm fitness-oriented, I prefer meals that are balanced with a generous portion of protein --- chicken breast etc. There may be only so many ways to skin a cat but I'm sure that there are much more ways to cook chicken! Lol!

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Indonesian soldier gets seven months' jail for gay sex Published AUGUST 02, 2021 Updated AUGUST 02, 2021 Indonesian soldiers display their fighting skills at the Barang Indah Kiat port during a military parade to mark the 72nd anniversary of the Indonesian military's founding, in Cilegon on Oct 5, 2017. JAKARTA — An Indonesian soldier has been given a seven-month jail term for having gay sex, which is banned by the Southeast Asian nation's military as "deviant sexual behaviour". The 29-year-old recruit based in Kalimantan — Indonesia's section of Borneo island — was also booted from the army, according to a military court ruling dated July 15. The decision was made public this week. "The defendant was warned by superiors about the ban on LGBT behaviour in the military but... he still insisted on doing it," the 71-page ruling said. "(Gay sex) is deviant sexual behaviour... and the defendant has tainted the image of the (military) by doing so." The lengthy decision went into explicit detail about the soldier's romantic liaisons with another soldier, who was listed as a witness in the case. In July, a member of Indonesia's navy got a five-month jail term for having sex with a male serviceman. Last year, Amnesty International said at least 15 members of Indonesia's military or police had been sacked for having same-sex relations in recent years. While gay sex is barred in the military, it is legal for civilians in the world's biggest Muslim majority nation bar one province. But there is widespread discrimination and some gay Indonesians have been arrested for lewd conduct under its anti-pornography law. Same-sex relations are banned, however, in conservative Aceh province where it can result in a public flogging under local Islamic law. AFP

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Gay Men and Drugs: Chemsex in Singapore Posted by transformativejusticecollective25th Jul 2021 Posted in Uncategorized In recent years, drug use, in particular ‘Chemsex’ – the use of drugs during sex – has gained prevalence among gay, bisexual, and other men who have sex with men (GBMSM) in Singapore. With dating and sex apps such as Grindr, drugs and chemsex have bcome more easily accessible to GBMSM. In the region of Southeast Asia particularly, drugs like crystal meth are most typically used. In Singapore, conventional narratives of drug users suggest frivolous, self-interested individuals with little regard for the harms caused to families or society at large as a result of their drug use. At the same time, these narratives have justified the state’s punitive ‘zero-tolerance’ approach to drugs, including the use of capital punishment against users and traffickers of drugs. How accurately do such narratives reflect the experiences of GBMSM who engage in Chemsex in Singapore, or drug users in general? Dr. Rayner Tan, a researcher at the Saw Swee Hock School of Public Health, National University of Singapore, delves into this question. Contrary to more simplistic narratives that we encounter, Tan uncovers a myriad of motivations among GBMSM in Singapore in their turn towards drug use. Crucially, many of these motivations remain connected to the stigma of growing up gay or bisexual in Singapore society. In this context, sexualised drug use serves as a means of coping with underlying stressors and pressures that affect GBMSM. In several interviews, Tan’s interlocutors described chemsex as a way to deal with the shame brought about by the stigmatisation of gay sex in Singapore. Mental health issues linked to their experiences of homophobia, religious trauma, familial neglect, and sexual violence were also mentioned. In addition, Tan attributes the fact that GBMSM often engage in more sexual relationships due to the lack of non-sexualised spaces for these men elsewhere in Singapore. Specifically, in the absence of queer-inclusive sexuality education as well as the criminalisation of homosexuality among GBMSM under Section 377A of the penal code, sex in private (including chemsex) has become one of few outlets for GBMSM to express desire, attraction, and sexuality without feelings of shame. Within the queer male community in Singapore, some respondents talked about HIV-related stigma and racism creating feelings of shame, anxiety and low self-esteem. One said, “[drug use] became the only place where I could be myself.” Many respondents talked about the ease of access to chemsex as a norm within Singapore’s queer male community. The lack of safe, non-sexualised spaces for queer men in Singapore also means that many come to associate their self-worth with their sexual attractiveness. Beyond sexual shame, Tan’s respondents also underscored the use of chemsex to cope with challenges and stressors relating to work, finances and family — issues not unique to queer men. The absence of formal support, along with numerous barriers to care, obstructs GBMSM’s access to rehabilitation. This includes the lack of trusted aftercare centres for queer people, as well as the lack of legal protections. Furthermore, GBMSM who have strained relationships with their families, in particular those whose families may not be so accepting of different sexualities, are also deprived of family support needed during rehabilitative efforts. There are other challenges, however, that many of these GBMSM face which are not unique to their demographic. As Tan explains, Singapore’s Misuse of Drugs Act continues to create conditions for light users of drugs to become longer-term, more dependent drug users. Specifically, doctors and counselors must report drug users to the authorities. This disincentivises many drug users, gay or otherwise, from seeking access to care and support in the first place. To address this, Tan suggests: We need trauma-informed counselling efforts trained to create safe recovery environments for individuals and offer therapeutic solutions. Peer support programmes, LGBTQ+ specific services, and trauma-focused therapies are essential. More advocacy and education promoting literacy around substance use and addiction can go a long way towards destigmatising drug use. That which is illegal is not always immoral. Safe spaces should be provided for intracommunal discourse on chemsex. Drug and HIV/STI-prevention interventions can take place at sex-on-premises venues and online apps. Section 377A, which criminalises sex between men, should be repealed to encourage uptake of sexual and mental health services. Singapore’s Misuse of Drugs Act, and the Singapore Medical Council’s regulations, should be reviewed. Anonymised health and addiction recovery services and harm reduction services should be provided to all drug users in Singapore. Tan’s study shows that chemsex among gay, bisexual, and other men who have sex with men in Singapore is much more complex than is portrayed in mainstream media narratives. Understanding these queer men’s experiences on individual, intracommunal and societal levels helps us grasp the motivations behind their practice of chemsex, which is often a way of coping with trauma, marginalisation and shame. Apart from addressing the structural conditions that lead these queer men towards chemsex in the first place, community-based organisations and policymakers should also find ways to destigmatise drug use and provide safe spaces for drug users to seek support, care and rehabilitation.

Why I No Longer Want To Be Gay Luis Pabon NOVEMBER 17, 2014 I no longer want to be gay. I know that on the surface this statement reeks of the denial, self-loathing and internalized homophobia commonly associated with accepting and integrating ones gayness but truth is, I just don’t want to be gay anymore. It has outlived its usefulness. I have experienced all aspects of the life and can safely say that it no longer speaks to the person that I am or want to become. I didn’t always feel this way. Initially I came to this community searching for love, intimacy and brotherhood. In return, I got shade, infidelity, loneliness and disunity. The self-loathing in this community forces you to encounter a series of broken men who are self-destructive, hurtful, cruel and vindictive towards one another. I have struggled to adapt my moral code to fit the behaviors concomitant with the lifestyle but it seems that the lifestyle is forcing me too far away from everything I love and value. No matter how many times I try to purge my perception of its firmly held beliefs and skewed biases, the same classic stereotypes of gay men keep rearing their ugly heads. The indiscriminate sex, superficiality, unstable relationships, self-hatred, peter pan syndrome, closeted connections, ageism, shade, loneliness, preoccupation with sex, prejudice, aversion to intimacy all seem to come out of the ground I thought they were buried under. Gay men just seem to find it difficult to transcend the stereotypes and clichés attached to the life and it is becoming disheartening. It has been seven years since I decided to live my life as an openly gay male and it has not been an easy road. It has been fraught with much pain and misery that I initially tried to mask with alcohol, drugs, sex and parties. In the beginning it was hard to admit that I liked other men. But I did and it was a very freeing experience. It gave me the opportunity to assert my identity when for years I struggled with this. It gave me a chance to be my own activist and stand up in the face of opposition from family, friends and society as a whole. I took pride in my gay pride and felt as though I were apart of something greater than myself, a movement of men who loved other men and who were unafraid to show it. Our love was supposed to be a revolutionary act. But the truth is, we didn’t love each other; we were just infatuated with the idea of belonging and going against the grain. We loved the freedom and taboo of rebelling against societal mores. The love that we thought was intricate to the spelling of our revolution was just a knife that we turned in on ourselves under the guise of fun and good times. Personally I believe that love is sacrifice and not many gay men are willing to sacrifice for their brethren nowadays. Initially this spirit of self-sacrifice was salient during the AIDS crisis in the early 80’s and 90’s when resources were scarce and people were afraid. But now, there seems to be a preoccupation with the seduction of risk, as gay men play with matches, hoping to ignite meaningful connections in their never ending self-discovery. The grand prize of intimacy is often forfeited for the immediate gratification of a casual encounter on craigslist or a geo-social hook up on Grindr. Cars have become the new bedrooms and sex is not followed with pillow talk but rather phrases such as: “Blo and Go,” “Pump and Dump” and “Skeet and Leave”. The life is starting to look a lot like a slow death simmering on low heat and it doesn’t hold the same appeal that it once did to me. It is a life in serious need of renovations. Men also used to be men and approached you with a modicum of chivalrous courage. Now they hide behind electronic masks or position themselves in close proximity to you at clubs hoping you initiate contact only to arrogantly dismiss your advances in an attempt to project their own discomfort. I have noticed that a lot of gay men seem to only want a challenge and live for the elusive. They want men who do not want them, men who resemble the emotional distance or absence of their fathers. I am too young to long for the good old days but this life makes you miss what it meant to be gay. It makes you long for the times when a guy would greet you and offer you a drink as opposed to his cock size and sexual stats. The middleman of courtesy has been eliminated and replaced with an immoral devil who chaperons your destruction daily. It just isn’t worth it anymore. And while I recognize my attractions to men, I choose to no longer associate myself with a life that lives outside of morality and goodness. The gay life is like the love of a bad boy whose attention and love you initially covet but eventually outgrow. It’s just not where I see myself anymore. - Luis Pabon, The Thought Catalog (17 Nov 14) http://thoughtcatalog.com/luis-pabon/2014/11/why-i-no-longer-want-to-be-gay/ ============ Mod added the title of the article as is.

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How to stop catastrophizing Catastrophizing is a way of thinking called a ‘cognitive distortion.’ A person who catastrophizes usually sees an unfavorable outcome to an event and then decides that if this outcome does happen, the results will be a disaster. Here are some examples of catastrophizing: “If I fail this test, I will never pass school, and I will be a total failure in life.” “If I don’t recover quickly from this procedure, I will never get better, and I will be disabled my entire life.” “If my partner leaves me, I will never find anyone else, and I will never be happy again.” Doctors also call catastrophizing “magnifying,” because a person makes a situation seem much worse, dire, or severe than it is. Catastrophizing can lead to depression in some individuals. Fortunately, there are several methods to address the condition and avoid catastrophizing. Fast facts on catastrophizing: Catastrophizing can be a result of or cause of anxiety. Every person tends to catastrophize from time to time. A mental health professional can help address catastrophic thinking. Causes Catastrophizing is a belief that something is far worse than it really is. While there are several potential causes and contributors to catastrophizing, most fall into one of three categories. These are: Ambiguity Ambiguity or being vague can open a person up to catastrophic thinking. An example would be getting a text message from a friend or partner that reads, “We need to talk.” This vague message could be something positive or negative, but a person cannot know which of these it is with just the information they have. So they may start to imagine the very worst news. Value Relationships and situations that a person holds in high value can result in a tendency to catastrophize. When something is particularly significant to a person, the concept of loss or difficulty can be harder to deal with. An example would be applying for a job that a person wants. They may start to imagine the great disappointment, anxiety, and depression they will experience if they do not get the job before the organization has even made any decisions. Fear Fear, especially irrational fear, plays a big part in catastrophizing. If a person is scared of going to the doctor, they could start to think about all the bad things a doctor could tell them, even if they are just going for a check-up. A person may also experience catastrophizing related to a medical condition or past event in their life. Related psychiatric conditions Anxiety is closely related to catastrophizing. Anxiety is a condition where a person experiences heightened fear and preoccupation with a circumstance. Examples could be worrying about a big test coming up or being fearful of walking alone at night. Difference between catastrophizing and anxiety The primary difference between anxiety and catastrophizing is that anxiety can play a useful role in a person’s life. For example, anxiety can be a positive emotion because it can help a person to be protective of themselves. However, catastrophizing does not usually have any benefits. Having these catastrophic thoughts can fill a person’s mind with unnecessary emotions that take time and thought away from the reality of a situation. While both anxiety and catastrophizing can be harmful, anxiety can be beneficial in some circumstances. Link to depression Depression, or prolonged feelings of helplessness and sadness, is also connected to catastrophizing. When a person experiences prolonged feelings of hopelessness, they may tend to catastrophize and imagine the worst will happen. Pain catastrophizing In addition to mental health conditions, such as anxiety and depression, some people may catastrophize over feelings of pain. “Pain catastrophizing” is when a person obsesses and worries about pain, feels helpless when they experience pain, and is unable to put worries or thoughts of pain aside. According to an article in the journal Expert Review of NeurotherapeuticsTrusted Source, catastrophizing about pain is associated with increases in narcotic usage, post-surgical pain ratings, or depression after surgery. While no person looks forward to a post-surgical or post-injury pain, an irrational fear or approach can make a recovery especially difficult. Medical treatments Most people experience fear and worry at some time. However, if a person constantly fears the worst or hears from their friends and family that they are thinking in this way, they may need to address their catastrophic thinking. If a person has an underlying medical condition, such as depression, a doctor may prescribe antidepressant medications to help. Examples of these include: Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRI’s): Examples include fluoxetine (Prozac) and paroxetine (Paxil). These medicines increase the amount of the neurotransmitter serotonin in the brain. They are often the first-line treatment for people with depression but may also be prescribed for a variety of anxiety disorders. Serotonin and norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors (SNRIs): Examples of these include duloxetine (Cymbalta) and venlafaxine (Effexor). These medications increase the amount of serotonin as well as norepinephrine in the brain. Tricyclic antidepressants (TCA’s): These drugs include amitriptyline and nortriptyline (Pamelor). Doctors do not prescribe TCA’s very often today because of their undesirable side effects. Atypical antidepressants: These medications do not fit into a particular category regarding how they work. Examples include bupropion (Wellbutrin, Aplenzin) and trazodone. Sometimes, a doctor may initially prescribe one type of medication that may not be effective in reducing both depression and catastrophizing. In this case, the doctor may prescribe another medication. Six tips to manage catastrophic thinking Mental health experts often use techniques known as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) to help a person address their catastrophic thinking. These techniques require the person to be aware that they are experiencing catastrophic thinking, to recognize their actions, and to try to stop and correct their irrational thinking. Six tips to accomplish this include remembering and making use of the following techniques. These can help to manage the condition: Acknowledging that unpleasant things happen: Life is full of challenges as well as good and bad days. Just because one day is bad does not mean all days will be bad. Recognizing when thoughts are irrational: Catastrophizing often follows a distinct pattern. A person will start with a thought, such as “I am hurting today.” They will then expand on the thought with worry and anxiety, such as, “The pain is only going to get worse,” or “This hurting means I’ll never get better.” When a person learns to recognize these thoughts, they are better equipped to handle them. Saying “stop!”: To cease the repetitive, catastrophic thoughts, a person may have to say out loud or in their head “stop!” or “no more!” These words can keep the stream of thoughts from continuing and help a person change the course of their thinking. Thinking about another outcome: Instead of thinking about a negative outcome, consider a positive one or even a less-negative option. Offering positive affirmations: When it comes to catastrophic thinking, a person has to believe in themselves and that they can overcome their tendency to fear the worst. They may wish to repeat a positive affirmation to themselves on a daily basis. Practicing excellent self-care: Catastrophic thoughts are more likely to take over when a person is tired and stressed. Getting enough rest and engaging in stress-relieving techniques, such as exercise, meditation, and journaling, can all help a person feel better. Takeaway An article in the journal Expert Reviews in NeurotherapeuticsTrusted Source defines catastrophizing as “an irrationally negative forecast of future events.” If a person finds themselves continually catastrophizing events in their life and at-home techniques do not help, they should seek help from a mental health expert. Multiple ways exist to help a person overcome this way of thinking and live a life with less fear and anxiety.