Looks Versus Body Debate + Do Good Looks Or Body Really Play A Part In Choosing A Partner? (Compiled)

[firereaver]

Looks for me. Need not be handsome though, just handsome to me it's ok.

[DominicT]

Looks, of course. I doubt you see many people walking around naked so looks is still a better way to judge a person.

[Guest Guest]

Good body, then ask him to wear a plastic bag over his head, problem solved.

[Guest alien]

I wld say overall pkg.

[ShearerBear]

Looks definitely. But if too skinny then cannot cause Im a bear lover! Cheers

[kh87]

Some times no matter how u look, if you have a good body u will look nice in any outfit.... So body will actually help to improve the image

[xxxpartyboixxx]

Body - yes it can be trained but not all are willing or can train hard enough to impress. It also shows their determination, discipline and healthy lifestyle. You can enjoy good body in bed :oops: , for protection (my fantasy of a man to be my strong tower) and people with good body looks good in most clothes. I prefer sexy body over charming looks.

[MisterPotter]

Friendly look. That's all that matters.

[Rafa87]

Ideally everyone wants a partnerwith handsome/cute looks with awesome bod but such people are rare and even if you do meet them, im sure they are looking for the same kind most of the time.

That leaves the following

1. Cute looks with avg/slightly avg bod - My preferred choice

2. Awesome bod with avg/slightly avg bod

3. Decent looks but slightly chub/out of shape

4. great bod but looks cmi

5. Everything CMI

Somehow i feel that most people here do not practise what they preach, many would claim that looks are more impt than bod but i think its not the case at all. Many of my friends would just go for a guy with abs and huge biceps/chest even if the face abit off, as opposed to a cutie with an average bod. But i do agree that with a good bod it somehow makes your face appear more attractive than it originally is, maybe if u workout extensively it makes your face more chiselled and features more well-defined haha not sure if its true.

[klc]

looks over body for me.

if you're cute, it don matter to me if you're fat or thin or chiseled.

[FateEva]

Maybe I wll check the age?

[teeshirt]

Face over body cos I really like kissing

[briax]

I watched this very interesting discovery documentary about sexual attraction for heterosexual women many years ago. It talks about how their body needs influence their choices of sexual partners. Note, this experiment is probably not very scientific.

When a woman is in a reproductive season, they tend to look for men who look stronger physically and more masculine. In some cases, they are likely to forgo on the looks.

When a woman is not in a reproductive season, they tend to look for men who are more feminine in facial feature and less strong in phyisque. In these instances, they more likely to look for lover instead of sex partner.

The documentary explained it as human innate needs to make sure offsprings survival rate and a more masculine sex partner may increase the survival rate.

How that is related to gay men need i have no idea. But i do know that i hv different seasons too and that influence how different men appeal to me.

[SuperSentai]

It's looks for me. Body can be anywhere from slim to slightly baby fat, but face have to be at least pleasant looking/above average.

[Guest]

looks. body can be average.

[Guest Jonty]

both baby~~~ hahaa

but really if i were to choose either one i will choose face..

especially beautiful eye, flawless skin and nice nose..... i will melt.. haha!

wait wait there's more. i love round sexy butt.. haha!

[Guest body yea]

I only look at guys with sex in mind, so the body is priority. My preference is stocky, no need to be ripped muscular, and definitely not lean nor skinny... i don't fxxk bones.

for face, I can accept most imperfections as long as the facial expression does not scream attitude. Nothing more dickshrinking than a horrible looking face that shows attitude. i myself far from perfect anyway. Peace.

[Guest jzlookin]

looks hands down

body can be trained up, looks cant..

[eric6363]

Bodies pants down! I mean hands down!

[yhm_zzh]

hmm... looks i guess?

Prefers average looking ones though, too shuai/dreamboy ones dont really make it for me Same for body too :thumb:

[p-2122]

looks! Liked the 郭鑫 from 娘娘駕到. Very handsome and cute and gay. Kill to have such bf!

[vincent_ng]

Some times no matter how u look, if you have a good body u will look nice in any outfit.... So body will actually help to improve the image

seems like mostly go for looks than body. For me, I go for body. Give me a bod like recklessbootlegger or kh87, I don't care how they look like.

Great bods need hours of pumping at the gym and follow strict diet. In order to last, of course have to continue to train/maintain till old age. Good looks on the other hand are gifts from nature, didn't sweat a bit to have them and worst, won't last.

Edited February 4, 2011 by vincent_ng

[waterballoon]

I'm shocked that most people... prefer looks? Seems like a totally different story in the real world...

[Guest Guest]

I'm shocked that most people... prefer looks? Seems like a totally different story in the real world...

Hello what do you expect?

You are only 19, full of negative emos, live in your own dreamy world and don't know whats going on at the other side of the globe and real world out there....yet....still want to comment so much..wow piang...

[kh87]

Thank you hor. Har Har...

[edisonlim84]

lols so we r supposed to be happy when people says u look more handsome alrdy?hahas!!

well personally i have no body but i tink i look decent(i hope:/), so looks more impt fr me lor hahas!!

[Guest Guest]

I look for Gu Lan, the bigger the better..............hahaha

[vincent_ng]

for sex, give me a great bod. I can spend hours exploring the body, the abs, the biceps, the triceps, the abs, the butts, etc. I can skip the face if it's not good looking.

for bf, give me a normal/average look and body. Too pretty flower attracts all kinds of bees, butterflies and other unknown insects.

for colleague, give me a handsome face. Best is we are working on same project. So that I will be motivated to go to work, to last me thru the long boring meetings.

[derryfawne]

Given all other things equal, I think muscular fit guys are more oggle-worthy. But it's less of a necessity and more of a big bonus point. We're all willing to accept something that is less than perfection. At the end of the day, one's fitness is only one small aspect of human quality, so do not be too upset about it.

[Guest Guest]

i like guys with qualification, car and financial stability.

[Tor]

I like slim and lean one.

[Guest spirit]

Is it true that gays like guys who are fit and musculine ?! If it's so then what is to become of those who are not so fit ?! Does this means only those who are good looking and fit will be loved and those who are not don't deserved to be loved ?!

no... not true... for me, hunks are eye candies... if my bf is hunky, its a bonus...

[fab]

Fit more than muscular.

Lean meat over muscle too.

[abang]

Beauty lies in the hands of the beholder..

To each his own..

The society-at-large goes for beautiful things- come on, who on earth would want to look at fugly people. I believe it is not just a muscular or hunky body that makes you a HOT property, you need many other "pull or push" factors too.

Confidence in oneself is important. I would definitely go for a person who is humourous and preferably, well-read and well-travelled over a slab of meat! The only way to have it all is to emit positive vibes and impress others through your self-image.

I as an older man may no longer be at the prime of my youth/physique but I believe there are many other attractive features in me that makes me droolworthy. The smile, the laughter and the happy persona....the list goes on.

Overall, I rather say this, I go to the gym or exercise because I dont want to fall sick and look haggard. If I look more attractive to others, it is mere bonus/bliss.

[sum1outhere_03]

Hey,

I think it's pretty much true that most guys like muscular guys, be you skinny or fit. (Check out the trevvy poll I've created here).

So, (correct me if I'm wrong), fit muscular have more chances of getting hitched (for relationship or ONS) than those who aren't...

I'm a skinny guy myself, thus I'm pretty much motivated to get myself pump up.

Edited March 27, 2011 by sum1outhere_03

[PictureHouse]

I ma lean. but at the end of the day, its all about fate,. Not abt body or look.s I have met up with a few guys but its always asking about XXX.

Why cant there be soemone asking me about relationship.

[waterballoon]

I don't think it's "all" gay men, but... I see this gay community like sales/telemarketing.

As in, the more attractive u are, the more guys u get who are interested in u & thus the higher chance of u finding a relationship.

Assuming ur fat & ugly (like me), the guys who are interested are probably like say, 1 or something & thus the probability of finding a relationship from there is much, much lower than a fit/muscular guy.

[sum1outhere_03]

I don't think it's "all" gay men, but... I see this gay community like sales/telemarketing.

As in, the more attractive u are, the more guys u get who are interested in u & thus the higher chance of u finding a relationship.

Assuming ur fat & ugly (like me), the guys who are interested are probably like say, 1 or something & thus the probability of finding a relationship from there is much, much lower than a fit/muscular guy.

Haha, well you can always change the way you look!

Although my growth has been not very significant in muscles wise, I am still getting myself to hit the gym as and when I can.

Good luck everyone

[No Frills Factory Outlet]

well the norm is the first physical appeal more than anything else.

intellect comes after that...

but that is how it is in reality ,...

[waterballoon]

Haha, well you can always change the way you look!

yeah u can only change urself, if u wanna have more "hits".

[isainho]

Not true la. everyone has different preferences..

muscular and slim hunks turn me off but i do prefer chubs only.

what matters the most is that u have to be happy with who you are regardless of ur stats.

Gambatte everyone!

[koolkai]

Is it true that gays like guys who are fit and musculine ?! If it's so then what is to become of those who are not so fit ?! Does this means only those who are good looking and fit will be loved and those who are not don't deserved to be loved ?!

Yes, you are right to some extend. The probability of one who is good looking or fit or both are likely to be adored and loved by another guy. Even for straight people, girls who are pretty get hitched much more easily than less attractive, plump girls. This is the reality and especially true for the gay world

[Guest Euouae90]

IMO that's not true. I myself used to have that perception. Last time I have met some people from the forum to just have meal or something together (not for sex of course). One that really interest me is the one who has the most admirable perception or way of thinking, behaviour and more on the "soft" traits of him. He's not that attractive in term of physical appearance (as in he's not that muscular, fit may be yes) compared to other guys I met. But sadly he has been attracted to some one else.

[Guest alien]

Although fit and muscular guy wld have higher chance of attracted other guys. But afterall still depends on fate and chemistry btw individual lo. At rhe end of the day, there are still pple out there who like slim, lean. fat, chubby and skinny guy la.

[Guest Guest]

Sex with guys with lots of chemistry is GOOD

If he has a cute face and nice body, BETTER!!!!

[Guest Euouae90]

btw, I hope everyone realize that at the end of the day everyone will lose their "handsome-ness", will get illnesses, diseases etc. When we all lose that "greatness" of physical appeal etc, that's the real test for our partner whether he loves us for whatever we are or because of our appearance. If he only love the appearance, some day he will leave us because the thing he's looking for is already disappeared. Everytime I remember this, I become less judgemental to person based on only his appearance.

[Guest Luke]

btw, I hope everyone realize that at the end of the day everyone will lose their "handsome-ness", will get illnesses, diseases etc. When we all lose that "greatness" of physical appeal etc, that's the real test for our partner whether he loves us for whatever we are or because of our appearance. If he only love the appearance, some day he will leave us because the thing he's looking for is already disappeared. Everytime I remember this, I become less judgemental to person based on only his appearance.

Yes Yoda, you have a point. I am not that bad-looking but I get uncomfortable when ppl keep flattering me on my appearance. I would be most happy if they compliment me on other things.

Yes, looks will fade one day. But if you aged gracefully, that's a different story.

Some men, in their 40s and 50s, are very charming and sexy(if they eat well and exercise regularly).

[Guest Derrick Lee]

...Being muscular and fit it's just the hardware. Without a good software; your maturity; attitude, etc. you can still be single and alone, etc.

Good point! :thumb:

Till now, I was attracted to people who are feminine/musculine/fit/unfit/below-average-look/boyish-handsome-look before. It's a wide range of appearances. It's the inside of the person and how he complements with his way of expressing.

[Guest amidst_the_stars]

Good point! :thumb:

Till now, I was attracted to people who are feminine/musculine/fit/unfit/below-average-look/boyish-handsome-look before. It's a wide range of appearances. It's the inside of the person and how he complements with his way of expressing.

Wow. Just like a rainbow. Special.

[Guest hunk who wants a hunk]

Anyone can be fit and muscular, it's only whether if the person wants to make an effort, or is just plain lazy.

I think some of the posters here should stop labelling all good looking people as being bad on the inside. They just have higher standards and taste.