Chub Discussion - Love & Relationship + Why Chub Seeks Chub? + How To Be A Chub? (Compiled)

[skylancer]

sigh....more chasers now and lesser chubs....how to survive..

in chaser view, there are alot of chasers but no chubby..

in chubby view, there are alot of chubbies but no chasers...

it is not hard to find 1. but it is hard to find a sincere guy who can tied down with you..

don u think so?

[Guest chubby25]

Just wondering, a chaser and a chub, who has the higher chance of being unfaithful in a relationship

[Baloo]

pls la... dun go and stereotype it's the fat one or the thin one go play la...

if you had to go do a research, you'd prolly come up 50-50 if everyone told the truth.

what ? you think only chasers chases as many chubbies as possible one har?

chubbies also like to eat as many chasers as possible one hor...

such is the nature of the game in this circle bro...

you din know?????

go watch more "Queer as Folk"

[Guest Guest]

hi a here looking for friends

I am 166cm 100kg & 31 years

WAHHH big big chub:p

good to rubba rubba :thumb:

[davidchua123]

how abt married, old chubby cabby (taxi driver)? i find them attractive

[bearlova]

Hi Hi, I am chubby 30+, 169cm, 82kg...Well I like bears, chubs and cubs in the descending order of preference...but I personally think it would be great to make friends even if the other party is not your type...like some forumers mentioned, besides the physical attraction, the personality of the other person is quite important. That is why I dont discriminate when I make friend...as long as there some kind of chemistry and we have a lot of things in common to talk about...why not? What is important is that both party enjoys each other's company.... :thumb: :thumb: :thumb:

[maturemedium]

how abt married, old chubby cabby (taxi driver)? i find them attractive

My little naughty approach flirting with a straight chubby mature taxi uncle.... :

I noticed this chubby uncle taxi driver (late 50s with a big beer belly ) who mostly starts his shift about the same time as i would go to work. One day I decided to take his cab for work. During the journey I joked about his belly being too big that it touches the steering wheel. He agreed with his jolly laugh and rubbed his tummy. Then I purposely asked about his sex life. This dialouge leads to his affairs with his mistress and subject of viagra etc etc.. and then lead to my favourite topics ....PENIS!!! hehe.. He talked about different shape n sizes penise that will satisfed a woman..blah blah. Then I asked him what shape n type of penis does he have.. that's when I strechted out my hand and touch n squeezed his cock. (so daring hor!!)

He must b surprise at my action but he just treat it like a man's talk.. He said he can't show me as he was driving. But he is proud about his tool keep tellling how he maked his mistress groan n moan!! So I naughtyly unzipped my pants and showed him my already erected cock and asked him will my penis satisfy a woman. He take a good look a few times a coment about it. He didnt touch la.. but I wished he would... hehe.. He said mine is the hammer type that have to bang hard to hit the waman G spot.. blah blah. But my true intention is to have him unzipped his pants...I failed... He obviously is so straight that he really thought we were just having man's talk. I have to zipped up my pants.. of course!! as we were on the road. Cannot let passing car see .. hehe. I reached my destination.

The next day I pursposely took his cab again to try my luck. Agian I touched his cock again n asked him if he had a good time with his mistress the night before, and ask to see his cock. This time he said he tooked picture of his cock with his mobile phone when he was having sex with his mistress . Wow!! the pic showed his fat cock... hehe... That's as far as it went la.. I took his cab a few time after that, but our conversation slowly drifted away from sex... thats when i really noticed he is so straight that he think sex between man are transverstite n man only...... Then I let go of him.. Never see him again. He is a nice man overall. Chatty n jolly.

[chubaholic]

thats when i really noticed he is so straight that he think sex between man are transverstite n man only...... Then I let go of him..

You should have gone to take his cab again in drag.

[GachiMuchi]

======== Moderator's Note =========

Sorry guys, I've moved some of your postings to Personals

Those seeking Chubs and vice versa, please direct your postings to the above page.

Good luck

[Guest Guest]

Clean cut chubs for chubs are so rare, most of them are so into that G-men look which is quite a turn off for me. Conversely, most the CLSes are more decent looking and cuter, but they are not into chubs like me

[Asura]

Fellow chubby guys, if you are seeking connection, please go to the Personal,

link here
http://www.blowingwind.org/forum/index.php?showtopic=10689

Should not clutter up space here for discussions. :twisted:

[reflection]

Saw this link in FaceBook...perhaps it will provide another avenue for guys into chubs. At least you can see their face pics.....

http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=41936950898

Edited January 30, 2009 by reflection

[chubaholic]

Kewl, saw many familiar faces.

[chubblicious]

Hey people, currently this is my third post here.

I was loitering on the main on #sgboy, and apparently, i use my username - chubblious.

Suddenly, even seconds before "advertising" myself on the main, several chaser came on.

Apparently, we did the normal intro thingy and yes, we're kinda clicked.

then he ask, what are you seeking? and i replied, a sweet relationship !

Guess the next answer he gave, really make me damn pissed off.

He said: " haha. you're young and inexperience i guess, you chubs want relationship? come on, if you got someone who are willing to have fun with you, it's already a miracle. Relationship for what? watch movie, i doubt you could fit in that chair. "

i was shocked. and i left the chatroom.

I was thinking of this " is chub/stocky or whatsoever, just a tool for fun? "

Merely, i'm just finding a relationship, someone i could relate to, emotionally and mentally.

Maybe i should just pray for miracle ):

[Guest c4c]

This post will create a lot of controversies but what the heck, I am speaking from my own experience.

I am assuming that you must be a chub into slim guys. The problem is that there are too many chubs like you who have spolied the slim chasers by choices. Because of this, they become too arrogant and feel that all chubs must like them and play by their rules. I was once like you and got disillusioned. So I gave myself another chance went with a chubs instead. They don't tend to treat us as badly as those slim chasers and I feel that they treated us with more respect, being fellow chubs themelves.

If you can accept chubs, give it a try. If you are chub-repulsive and cannot stand other chubs, I suggest you slim down and join the mainstream.

[Nova]

Dear Chubblicious,

It doesn't matter whether you prefer chubs or lean or whatever, you'll find someone who appreciates you.

Don't listen to crap advices, there is no such thing as a mainstream look.

And don't even be bothered about brainless comments you received, these people don't deserve a nanosecond of your life.

Given 1 thousand people, there will be a different 1 thousand people.

A long as you're happy and comfortable with how you are and how you look, you'll be fine.

[chubblicious]

Thanks, im happy for who am i and how do i look. And if i were to changed myself to fit into mainstream, it's kinda cheapening myself, which i dont condone. i believe i will find someone either chub or slim who appreciate me, i dont sterotype.

[2bsucked]

Its all a matter of preference, there is no wrong nor right. Why do some people like blue, some like yellow, some like red? One cannot fault someone else for liking blue just because he/she prefers yellow.

Similarly, when it comes to body types, people have different preferences. Just because I am str8/bi manly, stock musc, people think I must only prefer people like me...or worse still...the slim, lean types. In actual fact, I can never be turned on with a slim, lean guy in front of me. I much prefer meaty, stocky or even chubby types. When someone lean tries to hook up with me and I tell them my preference, guess what is their typical remark..."Why? You can choose anyone you want, why you pick those chubs?" I always feel such remarks are silly and just reflects on how shallow these people are.

There is a market for meaty types. I am someone who prefers this type.

So don't fret, there are people out there who can pick anyone, but they will pick you...and not just for your inner beauty (so many meaty guys think inner beauty is all they can use). True...inner beauty is more important...but listen up...your external beauty is not that bad either!!

Edited April 24, 2009 by 2bsucked

[chubblicious]

Its all a matter of preference, there is no wrong nor right. Why do some people like blue, some like yellow, some like red? One cannot fault someone else for liking blue just because he/she prefers yellow.

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So don't fret, there are people out there who can pick anyone, but they will pick you...and not just for your inner beauty (so many meaty guys think inner beauty is all they can use). True...inner beauty is more important...but listen up...your external beauty is not that bad either!!

Finally, someone that's interested in chub, least i know i am not that bad afterall.

Thanks, i hope to find someone like you tho (:

[skylancer]

Hmm.. sorry to hear your sad encounter in mirc.

My view is simple. Just look for someone who you like or someone who treasure you.

Just believe your eyes. And be yourself.

There are different groups in this circle so just open yourself more and let ppl understand you more.

Who knows what is in the end?

Maybe a sweet relationship? A good friendship? Business partner? so on....

But dont expect too high as the higher you expect, the turnout might be worst.

hmm.. you want to introduce yourself abit to this forum?

[Guest chaser]

Thanks, im happy for who am i and how do i look.

Then why r u complaining at the first place? If u r happy with yourself then when r u gonna accept the fact that that is how things work in chub chaser circle? Im sure u know abt the ratio of theres like 30 chubs to 1 chaser.

First of all, u r in a sex chat room and looking for a relationship there, and scaring the chaser away who is merely looking for sex.

Being a chaser myself, every single chub that i met online want me to be their bf on the first date. How would u react if u r me? I guess the same way the guy from the chat room react just that not mentionning it verbally like him.

Im sorry but i found your scenario very attention and sympathy seeking.

[chubblicious]

Then why r u complaining at the first place? If u r happy with yourself then when r u gonna accept the fact that that is how things work in chub chaser circle? Im sure u know abt the ratio of theres like 30 chubs to 1 chaser.

First of all, u r in a sex chat room and looking for a relationship there, and scaring the chaser away who is merely looking for sex.

Being a chaser myself, every single chub that i met online want me to be their bf on the first date. How would u react if u r me? I guess the same way the guy from the chat room react just that not mentionning it verbally like him.

Im sorry but i found your scenario very attention and sympathy seeking.

Who's not seeking for attention is a forum, for goodness sake, wiki things out.

And who classified chatroom as sex chat room, it's because people like you are out there seeking purely for fun that's why, you people tarnished the name.

for goodness sake, it's an relay chat, which literally means chatroom for friends and not plain sex.

and are you assuming? cause it just seems like it and you're making an ass out of you and me.

who says i want them to be my bf on the first fate? come on, if the topic of sex is on the hitlist, friends is definately not in it at all.

don't simply assume everything when you're aint sure what's going on.

people ask what am i seeking, and if im seeking relationship, i'll just say that.

i say sweet relationship not i seeking you to be bf of mine, please note that differences.

its kinda contradicting and insulting to yourself.

Edited April 24, 2009 by chubblicious

[snowball]

i used to go chat room when really bored & can't sleep, i never "advertising" myself in the main before, cos most don't bother to read there, well, nothing wrong to seek LTR, think there are quite alot people know their partner there, you have the right to seek what suit you best, regular sex buddy, boyfriend, chat etc.

chubblicious, think that guy just want to make fun of you, ignore him, there are all type of people in chat room, though most people prefer young tone gym built & seek above average look, but each have their market value.

be happy, not only chub will have such treatment, it apply to all sizes, i think most important, respect each other even not your type, we go chat room just to pass time, have fun, not to get angry or sad, don't take it too hard

Edited April 24, 2009 by snowball

[Cidai]

Then why r u complaining at the first place? If u r happy with yourself then when r u gonna accept the fact that that is how things work in chub chaser circle? Im sure u know abt the ratio of theres like 30 chubs to 1 chaser.

30 chubs to 1 chaser? And I thought its the other way round. Ignore those nasty comments. There are people who really appreciate chubs/stockies.

[Guest -chublover-]

Dun bother about all the silly comment that people are giving.

Have faith in yourself, have faith in others as well...

I for one have been a chublover all my life and I have love my same chub for 9 years already and am still loving him.

Cheers

[Riko]

First of all, I need to say that you're generalising. You're upset, we can tell, but you seriously do not have to make yourself sound so pathetic. This is an isolated incident. Unless you've been treated that way more than once or twice, you have an almost solid defence.

That guy is a jerk and is the same reason that chasers (like myself :whistle:) are getting a bad name. I have a few chaser friends (or have talked to someone online) and not one are like that.

I've talked to chatters who are insensitive pricks. They're idiots. F*ck 'em. Don't let just one guy's comment affect how you see things. You won't be swayed if someone told you that Singapore is a stupid country right? Unless you already feel that way, in which case... nevermind.

Then why r u complaining at the first place? If u r happy with yourself then when r u gonna accept the fact that that is how things work in chub chaser circle? Im sure u know abt the ratio of theres like 30 chubs to 1 chaser.

First of all, u r in a sex chat room and looking for a relationship there, and scaring the chaser away who is merely looking for sex.

Being a chaser myself, every single chub that i met online want me to be their bf on the first date. How would u react if u r me? I guess the same way the guy from the chat room react just that not mentionning it verbally like him.

Im sorry but i found your scenario very attention and sympathy seeking.

30 to 1?! Seriously!?!? Wow... I wish.

First of all, nobody ever made it a rule that it was a sex chat room. It's a chat room for gay men. WE made it into a sex chat room. That doesn't mean that people can't have decent half a mind conversations.

Secondly, scaring the chaser away? He HARDLY sounded scared. He was taunting the poor guy; making fun of him.

Third, why would your reaction be so drastic? Haven't you heard of talking things out? This isn't secondary school where you can just ignore friends if they offended you.

[skylancer]

Hmm.. just dont listen to silly comments and be yourself.

It is fact of life in plu circle, got ups and downs.

It is just a matter of time on whether you can find your MR Right or not.

But i believe there is someone who is interested in chub. So just dont upset about it ok?

** Nowadays, there are alot of people in Mirc who just want to have some fun or ons (a moment of fun) and not much people going for 'sweet relationship'. Thus, please be aware on such issues.**

[latterlim]

People will love a person for who they are and not what they look. Yes, body-types do come into the picture when one looks around. But it should never be the be-all-and-end-all for a relationship to blossom. The inner-beauty and the ability to click is even more crucial. At least, that is my take on things.

Do not be demeaned by others, for other will never be able to do that without you yourself allowing it. Thus, stay strong, and be yourself. For I always believe, everyone will have ONE, and I mean only ONE, true better-half in life. Once you found that ONE, it matters no more.

[latterlim]

People will love a person for who they are and not what they look. Yes, body-types do come into the picture when one looks around. But it should never be the be-all-and-end-all for a relationship to blossom. The inner-beauty and the ability to click is even more crucial. At least, that is my take on things.

Do not be demeaned by others, for other will never be able to do that without you yourself allowing it. Thus, stay strong, and be yourself. For I always believe, everyone will have ONE, and I mean only ONE, true better-half in life. Once you found that ONE, it matters no more.

Just to add on, and put into perspective my view. I am a chub chaser, but already found my ONE chubby LOVE... And I never viewed chubs as merely tools for fun! that's for sure!

[xzyte_koh]

Finally, someone that's interested in chub, least i know i am not that bad afterall.

Thanks, i hope to find someone like you tho (:

I am lean and I like chubs. However, I have difficulty to find a chub to love and to begin a relationship.

[chubblicious]

First of all, thanks to those who defended me.

If you do notice, i didn't make myself sound pathetic or what, it's purely you felt pity for me

and that's why you're denying it.

I didn't make it sound like " OMG, I want to kill myself!!! "

it's kinda silly if i were to do that. Overall, i was trying to voice out.

I'm glad that some of you had found your chublove and are still holding strong,

that's pretty awesome.

And i had already get over that particular guy who gave this comment,

I came to realize that if you're going to make yourself happy just by making others look sad, that's ain't going to work.

pray hard that he will change (:

anyway, as a chub, i guess many had preferences too.

and many damn skinny chaser is off the chart, i believe bout the alter ego thingy.

Let me ask fellow chubs something:

what you feel when you are on a date with someone damn lean or fit,

will you feel that others public are pointing and making comparison?

Isn't that something, you consider before going for date?

Life isn't that smooth and for all advice, thanks again.

I will continue searching for my MR RIGHT (:

Well, registration for my MR RIGHT is now on,

anyone interested?

LMAO :thumb:

[chubblicious]

Hmmmmm.... interesting topic bah!!!!

I had the same encounter as well.... not once but few. I remembered there's once a chaser told me the same thingy (this is a plcae for sex, u will never find a bf in here....etc). Felt disappointed but that's circle of life I guess. On the other hand, I got to know really nice chaser friends in the chat room too.

Chat room is just like a buffet... pick those u wanna eat then. Or a trading market, market for meat2meat. That's the basic rule of the game in cyberworld.

Basically, I had lost the confident to have a relationship with local guys. Moreover, Chub and chaser circle is really small in singapore plu community. My bf today, your bf tmr...

I am not surprise to find more and more chub 4 chub nowadays. Personally, I could not trust slim/hunk/fit chaser easily. (sorry no offence bah) Merely based on my past experiences. I find chubby guy are more attractive in term of personalities. I still believe that is some real good and nice slim chaser out there. Just the matter of time and location.

let's just wish im lucky to find someone with both looks and personalities (:

haha. well, but if the feeling is right, i dont really bother bout their looks.

[UFO]

Let me ask fellow chubs something:

what you feel when you are on a date with someone damn lean or fit,

will you feel that others public are pointing and making comparison?

Isn't that something, you consider before going for date?

Basically feeling normal, just another human being bah. Depends on what is the meeting/date for bah. For sex, excited lor. If not, not diff beh. Is all depends ont he mindset, the mood at that moment and the Chemistry between 2 HBs.

Why bother what others think??? You are not the only chubby on singapore's street nowadays bah. Is your life, who cares?? Moreover, who r they to judge? Obasan?? LOL

What to consider for? If he is not your cuppu, u will not agreed with the date right?

Be yourself, relax and enjoy every moment spend.

[chubblicious]

Basically feeling normal, just another human being bah. Depends on what is the meeting/date for bah. For sex, excited lor. If not, not diff beh. Is all depends ont he mindset, the mood at that moment and the Chemistry between 2 HBs.

Why bother what others think??? You are not the only chubby on singapore's street nowadays bah. Is your life, who cares?? Moreover, who r they to judge? Obasan?? LOL

What to consider for? If he is not your cuppu, u will not agreed with the date right?

Be yourself, relax and enjoy every moment spend.

you make it sound easy, no one would really dont care what others thinks.

to me, i do consider myself too sensitive, that's all

well, it's kinda contradicting.

i think im another chub seeking for hunks )):

it's like allowing myself to fall into a pit !!

[snowball]

Let me ask fellow chubs something:

what you feel when you are on a date with someone damn lean or fit,

will you feel that others public are pointing and making comparison?

Isn't that something, you consider before going for date?

i not chub chaser at all & i not a chub myself, yet my ex & current both are meaty, most of my friends get shocked when they get to know it, cos myself gym fit with 6 pacs.

chubblicious, i don't know why you bother so much, me as an example, if i decide to be with someone, i won't care what people think of us, cos Love is between 2 of us only ( unless he is married or attach, after knowing it, no matter how deep i love him, that's the time we say Bye Bye & won't ever meet again ). i wonder why you have this strange question, unless one of you or both look very gay, public can easily tell by your image or action.

if you have the feeling people pin point you both, it prove that you lack of self confident, you care alot & mind what people think of you. chubblicious, kindly take note, if a person truely love you, his heart for you will be firm & strong, don't be negative, there are still good one around, i believe in fate & Luck, so i treasure my dear alot, i like what he is, he is very charming in my heart, i appreaciate his good, do you know that he want to slim down, i bought slimming products for him & try to find which slimming center is good? however actually deep in my heart i don't want any change of him, but as long he like i must give him all my support right? All i know is want to make him feel secure.

Don't worry too much, when the right one appear, don't afraid to get reject, don't give up w/o having a try, good luck

Edited April 25, 2009 by snowball

[chubblicious]

i not chub chaser at all & i not a chub myself, yet my ex & current both are meaty, most of my friends get shocked when they get to know it, cos myself gym fit with 6 pacs.

chubblicious, i don't know why you bother so much, me as an example, if i decide to be with someone, i won't care what people think of us, cos Love is between 2 of us only ( unless he is married or attach, after knowing it, no matter how deep i love him, that's the time we say Bye Bye & won't ever meet again ). i wonder why you have this strange question, unless one of you or both look very gay, public can easily tell by your image or action.

if you have the feeling people pin point you both, it prove that you lack of self confident, you care alot & mind what people think of you. chubblicious, kindly take note, if a person truely love you, his heart for you will be firm & strong, don't be negative, there are still good one around, i believe in fate & Luck, so i treasure my dear alot, i like what he is, he is very charming in my heart, i appreaciate his good, do you know that he want to slim down, i bought slimming products for him & try to find which slimming center is good? however actually deep in my heart i don't want any change of him, but as long he like i must give him all my support right? All i know is want to make him feel secure.

Don't worry too much, when the right one appear, don't afraid to get reject, don't give up w/o having a try, good luck

yes, you're right, it's the confidence issue.

Maybe when i found the one i really love, things will be different

[imchaser]

I was thinking of this " is chub/stocky or whatsoever, just a tool for fun? "

Merely, i'm just finding a relationship, someone i could relate to, emotionally and mentally.

Maybe i should just pray for miracle ):

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Finally, someone that's interested in chub, least i know i am not that bad afterall.

Thanks, i hope to find someone like you tho (:

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If you do notice, i didn't make myself sound pathetic or what, it's purely you felt pity for me

and that's why you're denying it.

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what you feel when you are on a date with someone damn lean or fit,

will you feel that others public are pointing and making comparison?

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Well, registration for my MR RIGHT is now on, anyone intersted?

[chubblicious]

You are a real drama queen, arent you? Whats wrong to be treated as a tool for fun? Almost every gay is being treated or treating another as a sex object or tool for fun all their gay life, regardless if their chub or not.

Drama queen, not really. Please check in with part of my works is dramatic? And for goodness sake, people like you are or still is detestable. What's wrong to be treated as a tool for fun, human beings are born with mentality and emotion, for your info if you ain't human. So in any sense, we aren't tools or sex toy. And mind you, not almost all gay are treating as a sex object, then why are there relationship in the first place

And being a chub, not only you, straight chub or chubby women in this real world, faces discrimination everyday from a minority of narrow minded ppl. You ll just have to suck it up and face it like a man.

to Suck it up and face it like a man, yeah, and give those verbal abuser a thumbs up! for good riddance, no way. No one should be treated like that, no matter you're physically challenged or what. and for people like you with this type of mentality, simply forget it, life isn't suitable for you as life is full with humanity which obviously you're lacking of

But to make yourself sounds like a real poor victim of discrimination, or an innocent naive pure soul whos not into ONS but a sweet relationship, to gain sympathy from ppl of this forum by generalising some action from a single rude chaser, thus making a big dramatic entrance by introducing yourself to this forum on your third post, at the same time still have time to ask ppl to register to be your Mr. Right, but also afraid what other might think when being seen with a hunk, I just find something is not right. Sorry.

Make myself sounds like a real poor victim? yes, im a victim so i don't need to make myself sound like one. i dont believe that that particular chaser i met is the only one, im sure there's more than one, and there's one right here and that's you. and i guess it's to me and not against anything when i say that this is my third post right? so because of one set back and i completely lose myself to search for my life partner, i guess you seriously need some cupid's help. People like you are just trying to pick bone from an egg and then in the end, being detested. Grats, i start to detest you already.

[Guest Jedi]

You are a real drama queen, arent you? Whats wrong to be treated as a tool for fun? Almost every gay is being treated or treating another as a sex object or tool for fun all their gay life, regardless if their chub or not.

And being a chub, not only you, straight chub or chubby women in this real world, faces discrimination everyday from a minority of narrow minded ppl. You ll just have to suck it up and face it like a man.

But to make yourself sounds like a real poor victim of discrimination, or an innocent naive pure soul whos not into ONS but a sweet relationship, to gain sympathy from ppl of this forum by generalising some action from a single rude chaser, thus making a big dramatic entrance by introducing yourself to this forum on your third post, at the same time still have time to ask ppl to register to be your Mr. Right, but also afraid what other might think when being seen with a hunk, I just find something is not right. Sorry.

Classic example of a jxrk chaser... never trust them

[ixmog]

@chubblicious

Reality ! Reality ! Reality !

Make it a lesson learnt.

It's a sad world. It's real tough to find someone nice in our circle.

Many people judge people superficially and many think highly of themselves.

Where are the modest and honest good people ?

They are probably dead or closetted.

But don't despair !

Position yourself in which market you wanna sell yourself and you may succeed.

[chubblicious]

Yeah, i've learnt from above examples but that would stop me from making friends and searching

for the right one, call me naive or whatever, i still believe that somehow, someone is out there

totally perfect for me (:

am i right?

[beta]

Don't take comment in that irc so serious lah. But it is not easy to find a relationship in the irc chat. Most ppl in there r looking for fun only. Even those so call seeking LTR or friend one, u need to meet the expectation also and usually the requirements are quite high. But that doesn't mean those ppl r of high quality also LOL. If u really want to seek LTR there, u need a lot of patience and LUCK/FATE!!!

[GachiMuchi]

Just remember that, "The higher the expectation, the greater the disappointment".

Lots of people are always looking for that "Perfect" one. Soon, after a couple of relationship later, lots of drama and disappointments, age catching up, etc. they began to learn that "Perfect" is subjective.

What we look for and what we end up with can be humbling for those who are already in a relationship.

[Riko]

Yeah, i've learnt from above examples but that would stop me from making friends and searching

for the right one, call me naive or whatever, i still believe that somehow, someone is out there

totally perfect for me (:

am i right?

I do agree with you there. And I'm sure there are like minded people.

I just don't think mine is here in Singapore.

[castaway]

i not chub chaser at all & i not a chub myself, yet my ex & current both are meaty, most of my friends get shocked when they get to know it, cos myself gym fit with 6 pacs.

chubblicious, i don't know why you bother so much, me as an example, if i decide to be with someone, i won't care what people think of us, cos Love is between 2 of us only ( unless he is married or attach, after knowing it, no matter how deep i love him, that's the time we say Bye Bye & won't ever meet again ). i wonder why you have this strange question, unless one of you or both look very gay, public can easily tell by your image or action.

if you have the feeling people pin point you both, it prove that you lack of self confident, you care alot & mind what people think of you. chubblicious, kindly take note, if a person truely love you, his heart for you will be firm & strong, don't be negative, there are still good one around, i believe in fate & Luck, so i treasure my dear alot, i like what he is, he is very charming in my heart, i appreaciate his good, do you know that he want to slim down, i bought slimming products for him & try to find which slimming center is good? however actually deep in my heart i don't want any change of him, but as long he like i must give him all my support right? All i know is want to make him feel secure.

Don't worry too much, when the right one appear, don't afraid to get reject, don't give up w/o having a try, good luck

SO SWEEEEEEEEEEETTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT :clap: :clap: :clap:

[colinuniforms]

No need worry so much. no matter chub stocky or slim or even skinny. there are ppl who have different preference. i know alot ppl have high expectation if it not yours just tell them. no need make the remarks around. dun forget karma will get back to you.

[UFO]

Classic example of a jxrk chaser... never trust them

erm... everyone has his own point of view bah... respect bah :whistle:

[UFO]

you make it sound easy, no one would really dont care what others thinks.

to me, i do consider myself too sensitive, that's all

well, it's kinda contradicting.

i think im another chub seeking for hunks )):

it's like allowing myself to fall into a pit !!

Nothing is easy in life. Just that I had passed that phrase of life. No more external but internal stuff.

[lucwind78]

Hey people, currently this is my third post here.

I was loitering on the main on #sgboy, and apparently, i use my username - chubblious.

Suddenly, even seconds before "advertising" myself on the main, several chaser came on.

Apparently, we did the normal intro thingy and yes, we're kinda clicked.

then he ask, what are you seeking? and i replied, a sweet relationship !

Guess the next answer he gave, really make me damn pissed off.

He said: " haha. you're young and inexperience i guess, you chubs want relationship? come on, if you got someone who are willing to have fun with you, it's already a miracle. Relationship for what? watch movie, i doubt you could fit in that chair. "

i was shocked. and i left the chatroom.

I was thinking of this " is chub/stocky or whatsoever, just a tool for fun? "

Merely, i'm just finding a relationship, someone i could relate to, emotionally and mentally.

Maybe i should just pray for miracle ):

Hi chubblicious,

jus wanna share my little exp.

Not only you have to beware of chasers, but also chubs for chubs.

There are just too many predator out there you have to look out for yourself as u r like a piece of meat to them.

Never expects others to keep a lookout for you. Cos they might know the person is bad but they will never tell you.

Jus know when to say NO and never let your dick head takes over your big head.

Whatever you do, just make sure you practise safe sex.

You take good care. It's a vicious world out there.

Good luck.

[Guest gazarette]

hiya...

totally agree with lucwind.. it is a vicious world.. sometimes (actually most of the time..) you get to meet people with strange and weird ideas and mannerisms.. haha i had my fair share too.. even the same kind of retorts on IRC..

but i think we'd just have to go through all these and sift out the jewels from the bad.. and you'd finally find the one to have that sweet relationship with.. something i heard from a famous Kdrama & Forrest Gump.

Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what flavour you will get until you've tried all of them. But the whole box is still yours to eat.. and you will learn what is good and what is not.. haha i think im mumbling with no head or tail already.. so.... yea.. thats my two cents worth..

AND!!! i don't agree about the 30chubs to 1 chaser! haha there alot of chasers in SG actually, local and imported (from elsewhere) kinds.. and not to mention C4C if you don't mind.. nothing is impossible.. !! haha the market is not that small unless you restrict yourself.. of course it will be small..

Edited April 28, 2009 by gazarette