Guest Marad44 Posted December 4, 2011 Report Share Posted December 4, 2011 Picture him..He is self-reliant, provides for himself and doesn't need a partner to compliment his needs and wants. He circulates & socializes. He has a balanced appetite for romance and sex and is not frustrated. Love relationship doesn't rule his world. He is happy being sole & whole.Can you picture yourself in his shoes? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dreamer Posted December 4, 2011 Report Share Posted December 4, 2011 haha. there are some of us who HAVE been single all along. i vote for the second option i guess. i do want to see what it's like having a "boyfriend" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blissfull Posted December 4, 2011 Report Share Posted December 4, 2011 He is self-reliant, provides for himself and doesn't need a partner to compliment his needs and wants. He circulates & socializes. He has a balanced appetite for romance and sex and is not frustrated. Love relationship doesn't rule his world. He is happy being sole & whole.I think everyone needs a person in their life who they can trust and love totally - a need.It's not an obvious need like eating when you're hungry or sleep when you're tired, it's a unconscious (conscious for some or most) need for someone to rely on.But that's just my opinion. "Well, I didn't know it would come to this but that's what happens when you're on your own." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
derryfawne Posted December 4, 2011 Report Share Posted December 4, 2011 I'd rather settle with being single than being with someone that doesn't suit me well.The few experiences I've had in the past in relationship and/or dating that didn't really work, I felt burdened and obligated; and felt lots of guilt whenever I cannot sincerely reciprocate back.I still haven't had the chance to experience that strong mutual relationship, though. Still looking for that perfect boyfriend who I can treasure, and even if it wouldn't last forever, at least one that I can proudly reminisce as sweet memories in the future.So, option 2 for me. biscuits 1 “Do not take life too seriously. You’ll never get out of it alive.” — Elbert Hubbard Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dreamer Posted December 4, 2011 Report Share Posted December 4, 2011 I'd rather settle with being single than being with someone that doesn't suit me well.The few experiences I've had in the past in relationship and/or dating that didn't really work, I felt burdened and obligated; and felt lots of guilt whenever I cannot sincerely reciprocate back.I still haven't had the chance to experience that strong mutual relationship, though. Still looking for that perfect boyfriend who I can treasure, and even if it wouldn't last forever, at least one that I can proudly reminisce as sweet memories in the future.So, option 2 for me.^5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dreamer Posted December 4, 2011 Report Share Posted December 4, 2011 suddenly in the mood to romanticize (further) relationships! hahaha! don't hate me, Marad44!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abang Posted December 4, 2011 Report Share Posted December 4, 2011 (edited) I was having this relationship for more than 8 years.Only recently, we broke off due to circumstances beyond our control.He had to return to the States due to company 's policy.It was not easy to accept it as both of us knew a long distance relationship wont work.In this few months, life had been boring.Suddenly there is a void.I began to shun places where we used to go, to eat, to shop.I immersed on a new job.I became 老宅男。I need someone to .......... Edited December 4, 2011 by abang Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Officeboy Posted December 5, 2011 Report Share Posted December 5, 2011 Option5: already have one, hoping it last long Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Marad44 Posted December 5, 2011 Report Share Posted December 5, 2011 I was having this relationship for more than 8 years. Only recently, we broke off due to circumstances beyond our control. He had to return to the States due to company 's policy. It was not easy to accept it as both of us knew a long distance relationship wont work...Sorry to know abang. Everything has a good reason. My 2012 usher in the change you wish for. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Marad44 Posted December 5, 2011 Report Share Posted December 5, 2011 Option5: already have one, hoping it last longMay it last for ever Officeboy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EasleyLim Posted December 5, 2011 Report Share Posted December 5, 2011 I dunno, maybe it's my age but I'm not ready for any sort of romantic commitment now.I don't feel like I need someone to make me whole or complete, or complement me. I'm fine by myself./cue typical trust issues responses Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Officeboy Posted December 5, 2011 Report Share Posted December 5, 2011 May it last for ever Officeboy.Thanks Marad. If my dad was half as understanding as u r, i would be happier. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest slinkYcaT Posted December 5, 2011 Report Share Posted December 5, 2011 ... sometimes, it's better to have nobody than have somebody who is half-there or who doesn't want to be there.xoxo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonely57 Posted December 5, 2011 Report Share Posted December 5, 2011 ive never had one but i want one.. cuz i just feel so lonely esp when my friend are all like attached.. ): Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted December 5, 2011 Report Share Posted December 5, 2011 Like Officeboy, I would choose the missing option: I have a bf, I do not need anything more, and we have been happy for nearly 10 years now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XiaoMessy Posted December 5, 2011 Report Share Posted December 5, 2011 Yes! I need one! How to seek revenge 101: Know him. Befriend him. Make him trust you wholeheartedly. Destroy him. Utterly. By typing this I fear no one's gonna friend me. :c Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Marad44 Posted December 5, 2011 Report Share Posted December 5, 2011 ...I have a bf, I do not need anything more, and we have been happy for nearly 10 years now.Lucky kittens Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Foolish Posted December 5, 2011 Report Share Posted December 5, 2011 Never had one, never really saw the need for one till I got to know this guy a few months back who I think I am starting to develop feelings for. The problem is, I don't know if he is interested in me like that.Keep trying to shut it off but it is hard. I'm just riding the wave (of friendship) for now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phil Posted December 5, 2011 Report Share Posted December 5, 2011 Lucky kittens Thanks, but let's rather say "old cats".The funny thing is that I had never felt the need for one before meeting him.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted December 5, 2011 Report Share Posted December 5, 2011 i hv had many boyfrens, actually now 2 timing, one has been with me over 9 years, lucky he lives overseas but i found the one i really love only 2 months old but my luv 4 him getting stronger by the day, i luv u if u read tis secret to relationship: recognise each other weaknesses, be accomodating and dun b so petty over money issues lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Marad44 Posted December 6, 2011 Report Share Posted December 6, 2011 (edited) Thanks Marad. If my dad was half as understanding as u r, i would be happier.For one who learned hard lessons through six not too smart gay relationships, who came out to his dear wife & daughter and who went partying with his straight daughter to lesbian, gay and straight bars in one night, I keep my fingers crossed for the day Singaporean gay partners walking up the aisle with the blessing of their kith and kin. May be not in your generation but one day... Edited December 6, 2011 by Marad44 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonely57 Posted December 6, 2011 Report Share Posted December 6, 2011 i hv had many boyfrens, actually now 2 timing, one has been with me over 9 years, lucky he lives overseas but i found the one i really love only 2 months old but my luv 4 him getting stronger by the day, i luv u if u read tis secret to relationship: recognise each other weaknesses, be accomodating and dun b so petty over money issues lolohh wow.. long distance uh? u should probably make a break with him so that he could move on if u have no more feelings for him. make a decision. dont keep him on the hook =D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GodwinK Posted December 7, 2011 Report Share Posted December 7, 2011 I'm 20 this year and I only started to venture into the gay world when I was 19.Used to be quite yearning for a boyfriend but after a steep learning curve in 2010 and 2011. Now, I'm just...meh..take it or leave it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greysuperhero Posted December 7, 2011 Report Share Posted December 7, 2011 I do wish to commit myself to someone in the future. So, yes. Option 1. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonely57 Posted December 7, 2011 Report Share Posted December 7, 2011 I'm 20 this year and I only started to venture into the gay world when I was 19.Used to be quite yearning for a boyfriend but after a steep learning curve in 2010 and 2011. Now, I'm just...meh..take it or leave it?what do u mean by steep learning curve? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GodwinK Posted December 9, 2011 Report Share Posted December 9, 2011 what do u mean by steep learning curve?Ups and downs in gay life. Steep = imagine a horde of rhinos coming at you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allegro Posted December 9, 2011 Report Share Posted December 9, 2011 Hmm this is pretty subjective and it also depends on the situation at hand...For myself, I've had my share of lonely days, and no, I do not engage in one night stands.Took me awhile to finally find someone who shared the same interest and insecurities, and to look to each other for strength. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mercutio Posted December 9, 2011 Report Share Posted December 9, 2011 (edited) Having a boyfriend is so far down the hierarchy of life's needs that it hardly counts as a "need", more like a "nice to have". As such, it really should be regarded as a luxury, kind of like an A.Lange & Söhne watch. You don't really need one to get through life; you don't even need one to be happy or fulfilled. But there's always the nagging suspicion that if you had one, you'd be better off somehow. And it never helps that those who actually have one often take every opportunity to display it, or to tell you to put yourself on the waiting list for one because "it's worth it".What you don't see is the additional bill you get each year when you send that darn watch for maintenance (yes, there's maintenance: something which neophyte watch-owners often do not realize). You realize then also that though it's "automatic", it still stops when you don't wear it for a while and then you have to set it all over again.And as you get older, you tend to place less importance on owning luxuries. OR, you go crazy that time is slipping by and you've never owned one. In the meantime, those who have one and have kept it well, treasure it even more as it's been with them all their life. (And there I shall end the watch metaphor because people typically then pass the watch on as an heirloom to their son.) Edited December 9, 2011 by Mercutio Mercurio sacris fertur Boebeidos Undis virgineum Brimo composuisse latus Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Wait! Posted December 10, 2011 Report Share Posted December 10, 2011 Wait! After reading some of the entries, I found out that some of these "preferred to be single" people have not actually fell in love before.In the first place, the society is no longer so straight forward. Having a bf is more like to mean having a buddy than a lifetime companion.Hanging out with a bf would most likely be classified as a way of spending free time than a need to be with him.To some people, meeting Mr. Right does not mean meeting Mr. Perfect. Meeting Mr. Perfect does not mean meeting Mr. Perfect 10.You may have dated someone who didn't make you feel like a bf, does not mean he isn't Mr. Right for someone else. The feeling should be mutual. How he treats you is usually a response to how he deems that way you are treating him.If you want to date someone who only reacts the way you want him all the time, then a soft toy or a robot would fit better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
higgsboson90 Posted December 12, 2011 Report Share Posted December 12, 2011 i'd want option 1, but i'm living with option 2. we don't always get what we want, do we? =] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xav Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 Hmm i had a bf and dates before but i feel that you cannot rush into a relationship just because you are desperate to have a bf. This will only hurt you and him eventually. A relationship means committing your time, your body to one person so you have to be ready and really want it."When it comes it comes. You can't force it to happen" sum1outhere_03 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saranghaeyo Posted December 13, 2011 Report Share Posted December 13, 2011 Hmm i had a bf and dates before but i feel that you cannot rush into a relationship just because you are desperate to have a bf. This will only hurt you and him eventually. A relationship means committing your time, your body to one person so you have to be ready and really want it."When it comes it comes. You can't force it to happen" totally agree Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ryuin Posted December 19, 2011 Report Share Posted December 19, 2011 I'm somwwhere between option one and two. Sometimes I really want one. Other times I'm gratefull for being single. I want someone but not to be in a relationship. Hmmmm confusin much? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Takuya29 Posted December 19, 2011 Report Share Posted December 19, 2011 Option Two. It doesn't matter if I can get one. If I do find one, then good for me. If not, life still goes on. Live life to the fullest as if each day was the last. Nobody is born a warrior in exactly the same way that nobody is born an average man. We make ourselves into one or the other. Follow me on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelonelygeek/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest slinkYcaT Posted December 23, 2011 Report Share Posted December 23, 2011 Been there, done that and got burnt like, way too many times ... I've been single for the longest time now and am not exactly actively seeking either . I am not exactly the marrying kind, and for a love-cynic like me, I guess I am better off single and go on my merry-making way. Works very well for me : I have fun WHEN I WANT, HOW I WANT.Yeah, of course it can get real lonesome at times, but then again when it comes to love & relationship, i'll rather stick to my mantra : Better to be alone for the right reasons, than be with someone for the wrong ones.xoxo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sum1outhere_03 Posted December 23, 2011 Report Share Posted December 23, 2011 I'm somwwhere between option one and two. Sometimes I really want one. Other times I'm gratefull for being single. I want someone but not to be in a relationship. Hmmmm confusin much? Hmms although I choose #2, I'm having the same thoughts too... It's the "I'm-ok-with-being-single-but-it'll-be-good-to-have-one" kind of feeling. Will you be my valentine's? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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