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很难说得上是幸福还是不幸福。一如异性婚姻，也不知能一齐走完人生路的能有几个？可以肯定的，已婚而有白头偕老的居多，因为有法律保障，也有子女牵制。但我偏偏还是对上了一个已婚的好男人。怎么办？

Time Should I waste my time on you who i can't control Should i waste my time on things that is of my beyond Can't we see the time that went tick tock Is this the right time or is it not? They say time flows like a stream To a land where there are many dreams But you told me you did like to be a place full of surprises and supremes There are no other choices but this is the way its seems. I do not know what to say The world is so full of grey You say I am imperfect and this I know Yet I still think you are gold I may be kind and silly but it’s not fine. Your avoidant ways clearly shows through time Time will reveal who you are And you can really be a pain in the arse Letting you go should keep you afar As there is nothing left to be my fuss Finally I can get on my path. E.T. 13.01.2019

I have been thinking for quite some time now that we have Singapore's Gay Missed Connection. Why not we make a Malaysia Edition for Malaysian gays?

This is a collective plea from all of us here at BW for you readers to share your sexual experiences. Come on don't be shy! I am sure everyone has some unique experiences to share. Do not worry about writing in broken english. It in fact provides a distinctive flavour to the post. Since we have allowed posting to be made anonymously (you do not need to be a registered member to post), your identity will not be exposed. I am attaching an example of a great post written in somewhat working class singlish. Up to today, I get hard reading it. I am sure many of you guys have similar stories to tell. Kindly share. ==================================================================== SteamedFish Unregistered User (4/8/04 7:23 am) FishingMan Last weekend I was drinking with friends at the NTUC Club. When we said goodbye, I thought I'll go to the nearby seaside to get some fresh air. There are some lovers and 2 men fishing. I walked to the far side to sit near the man to see how was his luck. The lights were quite dim but I can see him. Quite a stout chap with a handsome fair face about 30+. After a while, he got up, unzipped and peed into the sea. Hehe, I of course looked at his cock. Nice. He saw me that. He sat down and carried on his fishing. I asked him got any fish. He said no but got cheekopek. I know he was referring to me. But I was thick-skinned. I said we all men why say until like that? See also no harm right. He said don't know why ah quas like to peep at him. Happened so many time already. I said he's handsome, that's why. He say he old cock liao and got 2 children already. So I say he got man flavor. He said I got very sweet mouth. Is it I want to makan him. I say I dare not, wait he beat me up. He said don't bluff, last time that kelong owner also behaved like me. Seems like he's got naughty story so I asked him to tell me. He said last time he fishing at Changi, got one man saw him and told him he got kelong and he can fish there many fish. Since he said it's free, so he went because the kelong's nearby. When they got on the kelong, there were 2 workers there. The owner told them to go mainland to do something so they left. While he's fishing, he caught many fishes. The owner took a big pail to put in the fishes. But one time, he accidentally spill water on him. The owner said sorry and told him to wash with the clean pail of water. He said here nobody so can just wash naked nobody see also. So he got naked and washed. Then the owner also strip naked and his cock was hard already. He said he also want to wash. So they washed. Then the owner washed his back for him. Then told him to relax while he massage his back. He put a big canvas cloth on the floor and told him to lie down. He told the owner he's not gay. The owner said never mind, only help him relax. The owner massaged until his cock stand also. Quite nice. Then he asked him want to release fire or not? He said no. But the owner already shaking his cock until he cums. The owner also masturbated till he cummed. I said his story made me steamed. He said he also steamed. He asked me whether I got let people play backside. I said very seldom. He said he want to fxxk my backside. I said cannot, here so dangerous. He said I am so hamsup, he want to fxxk me also think twice. Wait he changed his mind then it's too late. So I said go someplace can or not? He said can if not far away. So he kept his fishing line and carried his big bag. We walked to Marina South and saw a big lorry park that's quite dim. There's one big lorry so we climbed on. He lay his canvas on the floor and we striped naked. He asked why I not shy to let men fxxk. I said not always but must be handsome like him then I willing. If not, then I don't want also. He laughed, like that he can fxxk any men if he want. I asked he got condom or not. He said no. He say how? I said if not then we just shake out. He said cannot that means he not handsome enough is it? I said no condom dangerous. He said I clean backide or not? I said should be, I washed before going out. He said he got plenty of water. He said he has an idea. He took out a plastic bag and inside was a big sandwich wrapped in lots of cellophane. He carefully removed the cellophane and put the sandwich back into the plastic bag. He wrapped the cellophane a few times round his cock and tie round his balls. I touched it and it felt quite strong with the few layers. He said I am like a wolf. But then no lube. Again he opened the sandwich bag and took out the small piece of wrapped butter. Wah lan eh, he said this time it is like people said I "bua" butter on my backside and kan karchng. I must say he's quite a good fxxker with all the right moves. I got my legs on his shoulders and told him he's good. He smiled and pumped me slow and fast. First I cummed then he after. We used his water to wipe clean and put on our clothes. He said it was fun. I said next time we better go hotel. ======================================================================

10 SIGNS THAT A GUY WANTS YOU JUST FOR SEX by NATALIE | Nov 16, 2006 | Emotional Unavailability | 16 comment 1. He tells you. There are a whole lotta lines that guys trot out that equal “I’m just in it for the sex” or that they don’t want a relationship. And a lot of the time, we’ll ignore this because we don’t want to see him or ourselves in this way. When they say that just want to have “fun’ and aren’t looking for a relationship, or they make noises about “going with the flow” and not getting any ideas about a relationship, they’re saying that it’s just about sex (or whatever else they’re getting). What it isn’t about is a relationship. Instead of rationalising and hoping that he will change his mind after the event, don’t and move on. 2. He is sexual towards you. Be wary of guys who steer the conversation down the sexual route very quickly. This is Fast Forwarding, and it’s often ignored and mistaken for a strong attraction and connection. It’s that “He just can’t help himself because he’s so into me” syndrome. Intensity isn’t the same as intimacy. He’s not into you; he’s into the idea of shagging you. Making a lot of sexual innuendos? Steering the conversation onto sex? Staring meaningfully at your breasts and crotch? Yep, it’s highly likely that he’s got one thing on his mind and it’s not getting to know you; it’s getting into your knickers. If you haven’t met him yet, but there’s already sexual talk or even requests for nude photos or sexting, flush. 3. He tries to do more than a kiss on the first date. No matter how great the sparks are between you both, generally speaking, guys that really do like you can keep their penis in their pants and their hands above board for at least one evening… And that’s not because having sex on the first date is “wrong” (it isn’t). It’s about intentions and recognising your discomfort. If you’re wondering if it’s just about sex, odds are that you can stand to wait more than one date to sleep together. 4. He suggests that you become f*ck buddies, Friends With Benefits, casual-something-or-other. It’s not because he’s not ready for a relationship yet; it’s because he just wants to have sex and is emotionally unavailable too. That’s two not so great qualities for the price of…well…your sanity! His mind is on sex and enjoying the fringe benefits of a relationship without the responsibility and commitment of one. 5. He expects something in return for taking you out to dinner and paying for the meal. Some guys think: paid for date = getting laid tonight. They are the worst. Their sense of entitlement means that they treat women like prostitutes. They’re likely to act all wounded if you don’t invite them back or express discomfort at their advances. This type of mentality doesn’t bode well for a relationship, never mind a date! 6. He doesn’t want to try to get to know you. A guy doesn’t need to know what colour knickers you’re wearing in order to get to know you. You’ll also find that a lot of the conversation is surface and that it tends to serve the greater purpose of making you feel comfortable enough… to have sex. 7. He seems to call only when it’s 1) dark, 2) late and 3) to arrange when to have sex. It’s amazing how this can creep up on you. Step back and consider when they call and how much the relationship has progressed (relationships based around sex don’t). Suddenly it will become clear that they’re using you. 8. Your ‘relationship’ hasn’t progressed past buying you drinks/dinner and ending up in bed. It’s a permanent date (or “pop-up romance). Despite what seemed like initial promise, the relationship has faltered or come to a halt because the focal point is the sex. The only thing he’s interested in building on is his hard-on. If you try to do coupley things, he’s likely to be very uncomfortable or will go along with things but create conflict, so he’s effectively sabotaging any chance of progress. Remember that with this type of guy, every time they think you may want, need, or expect too much, they’ll do something crappy. 9. He doesn’t want to do anything that involves talking to each other properly unless it leads to sex. Try having a conversation with him that reeks of two people in a relationship and note his patent discomfort. 10. Once the sex is over, he makes a hasty exit. While some will stick around and dignify you with a cuddle, many don’t like to stay the night lest you think things are getting serious. The ones that do stay over and hang around are astute enough to play the game to avoid creating conflict, but that doesn’t change the fact that they just want sex. A rule of thumb is that if you feel as if you’re being used, it’s because you are. And if it feels like it’s all about the sex or sex seems to dominate or you have to be reassured that it’s not just about the sex, it’s because it’s all about the sex!

There are real-life stories for you to read on the blog: "I Will Survive: Personal gay, lesbian, bisexual & transgender stories in Singapore"You can also read the full version of all the stories here in the e-book. And the book review HERE.

Hi all, I seek connection with any matured above 40s / Tall lean Chinese top. Hopefully you're discreet and decent looking. I'm 42, local Chinese. 181..90kg. PM me.

Hi, folks . When is your first ' blowjob' ? And where ?

what are your views with sex with colleagues? I got friends who are VERY scared of bumping into colleagues when cruising. I understand if they are toilet cruising but what if you are in a gay spa? What is there to be afraid of? If they are there, they are also gay? If so, will you have sex with them?

Hi , I'm in early 40. Tall Decent looking chn. Consider myself good-natured soft spoken person. Hope to form discreet relationship/ friendship, with straight act and manly individuals. Look for someone whom can feel comfortable with and that can have deep intellectual conversation with. I may not be good at talking but i can be a good listener to You. PM for more if u r in 40 and 50s . I'm single fyi 🤠

If two guys are in a serious LTR, how often do you think it’s normal for them to meet up? Once a week? Fortnight? Monthly? Every other day? Is it possible to be too frequent or too infrequent? How much time does an average couple spend together? Is it common for gay partners in Sg to move in together? For those in LTR, care to share about your own experience of how much time you spend with your BF/partner?

“但爱像泡沫 如果能够看破 有什么难过” 走过 笑过 甜过 爱过 背叛 原谅 背叛 再原谅 背叛 再原谅 因为我没真正爱过我自己 气过 恨过 难过 放过 因为我没有想象的那么可怜 没有爱 我还是我爱的我 at 19, I met my first bf. then I went into the army and we parted at 24, I met my second bf. then after 23 years, we broke up had I knew that all will end as such, I would not have invested everything now I invest nothing time is short and precious, I'll move bolder and live happier love is now for the young and idealistic p.s. At my younger days, Thanks to @DMassage I've gotten some really good advice which is still very useful today 😃

Lately, it seems that the more I make up my mind to live a Life that makes sense to me, the more I must isolate myself from certain shared activities. And these decisions sometimes hurt and I ask myself am I being selfish? I sometimes feel obligated participating in what is ment to be leisure, and I find myself getting increasingly angry and resentful. What's going on here? I enjoy it when I make time for some solitary recreation, yet I fear being seen as unobliging or even stuck-up when I place my own needs foremost. Why? I admit that I used to enjoy being needed - but lately I am finding it a pain, and I even rationalize away calls for help. Am I so uncharitable? Perhaps it is the innate call to start focusing on what I want to have and experience in my own Life - I'm afterall turning 30 soon. Is this is simply the inexorable pull of Life calling? I do not know... All I know is lately I keep asking myself when am I going to stop talking about doing it and start doing it? Or maybe I am just overloaded and need more than ever to get away from it all...

To be frank, I seldom see gay couples at the city area during weekends.

Good day, I had created a telegram group for Malaysian to social, or talk anything there, well, you know what it is. Please feel free to join https://t.me/joinchat/OmcZiR2givmEbIYsEi-Pxw See ya

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Hey guys, I need advice to handle this situation. My boyfriend and I am in a relationship for almost 2 years now. We never had anal sex from the start and it bothers me. I did told him that i miss getting fuck but he always told me to give him time. He did have problem with getting an erection. He tried supplements that i bought for him like tongkat ali and maca and some supplements from the States he bought himself. It does help a bit but the erection will be gone fast. Sometimes he asked me whether I would like to get another guy to fuck me and he just watch. I reject the offer all the time and told him I am willing to wait for him to heal. I am not willing to do it with other guy because it feels like cheating. I mean that would be an open relationship instead and I only want him and not other guy to have me on bed especially having sex. Maybe I just sound selfish and conservative but it is the way I am treating my partner all this time. I hope you guys here can share some tips on how to handle this. Any product that is good for erection? I scare that if this problem gets prolong it will end up with him having erectile dysfunction.

Hi, I'm turning 43 soon, 181, 89kg Chinese. I was wondering if anyone wan to date me out, maybe blind dates over some nice dinners/movies? I'm attracted to matured, discreet, intellectual and straight acting tops . PM me , telegram @yoyQq

Open Relationships: What People Don’t Want You To Know 17th Oct 2013 While my “Common Relationship Mistakes Gay Men Make” can be both controversial and loved, allot of people have problems with the whole “Open relationships are a mistake thing.” Allot of opinions have arisen from simply assuming I was telling you to NOT be in an open relationship. That’s not the case at all. However, I was telling you that open relationships can be excuses to not work on your relationship or just a reason to fuck around. And as I read all of your comments good and bad, I have to say I call bullshit on some. Allot of gays try to copy and re-enact my “mistakes” (unsuccessfully might I add) but most opinions are more complicated than mines. And yes, I said opinions. These are my opinions. But the difference between a human sexuality lesson, an angry gay who shoots down any advice, and life experiences is that the latter is a huge part of who we are as people. We did not learn about sex from Phys. Ed. We learned it from life experiences both personally and what we’ve observed. I’ve seen many open relationships in my lifetime and I can say first hand that my first “mistake” is truly a real one. Many gays don’t like to say it, but they do get into an open relationship because they make too many excuses. They don’t like to think they make mistakes so they use defense mechanisms. But the truth is, open relationships while they aren’t always a bad thing, they can be detrimental. What I’ve seen in most of my friendships with couples who mostly have open relationships is: lack of respect towards one another, a flame gone out, a inability to get out of that Peter Pan syndrome and trying to fix something that’s already broken. A reader informed me today that there are “studies” that open relationships DO work. Well of course they do! You get to have a meaningful relationship and then sleep around. Sounds like a win win situation if I ever saw any. But how about we take the hand away that covers the sky and get to the facts: STD’s are easily spread through open relationships, and if there is a “you do you but don’t tell me about it” that many open relationships employ, then you have a very real chance of contracting a disease whether you agree or not. Open relationships always seem to be a sweet spot for many people LGBT and straight because you can have your cake and eat it too. There is this notion that open relationships are extremely healthy and you can lead a normal life and be just fine doing it. Most of these opinions come from Metropolitan gays who either populate Chelsea, San Fran or any other heavily populated gay areas. They have tons of men at their disposal especially with all these apps and websites. So you tell me. It might just seem like being in an open relationship is pretty new normal to you too right? But what about gay men who don’t have tons of bars and clubs in handy? What happens when they want to be in an open relationship and they can only find a handful of men in their area? Is it the same “study” as the one a reader mentioned previously? You see certain gay men go by the “there is no right and wrong and your words don’t mean shit” method. They are threatened by the truth and by the very foundation of what an open relationship means. While exploring your sexuality and doing whatever you want is fine including an open relationship, it just seems like the typical scapegoat answers to prove a point. It’s just like when a Christian goes to the bible to use a verse to back their own special point of view. Open relationships are fine. You can have multiple partners and if your boyfriend or husband is fine with it, go for it. But common sense really needs to kick in or I’d be happy to get jumper cables for your brain. Every open relationship I know has by tradition become meaningless and existential. It is as much of a fad as MC Hammer pants. Its always a good idea when you think about it, not a good one when you actually do it. Let’s have some examples. Your boyfriend comes home to surprise you with dinner and some alone time but you’re fucking a stranger or your usual go to fuck buddy. In a porn mentality it just seems like a dream come true. But think about it. You are fucking a person you don’t know versus the person you love who wants to spend time with you. You start to lose respect for what matters. You start to lose the fact that you really love your boyfriend’s body even if time has passed. You are saying that your boyfriend is no longer sexy enough to look at every night. That monogamy is only for boring people. That having another person in your bed fulfills your relationship when in fact it only satisfies what you want. There are even times when even though you’ve both agreed to having an open relationship one feels left out or afraid to say “I don’t want you to have sex with that guy tonight.” The addiction to knowing you can have anybody you want can feed your ego and it can make you forget how your partner is feeling. But let’s look at it from another angle. 5 years have passed and it seems like an open relationship is a perfect idea. All is going well and it has not at all disrupted the way you look at your lives. But what happens when you age and those club boys don’t want you anymore? What happens when you’ve slept with the whole tri-state area and you need to travel out to fuck more people? Is this a healthy relationship or are you fueling a sexual addiction? You really have to think about all these things. When will you say “I’m done with fucking other people I just want you.” What happens? Will your partner feel comfortable with that? Will he feel like going back to “normal” is okay or will he eventually leave you for someone more adventurous? Will you leave him for someone more adventurous? Anything you do that involves risky behavior has consequences. And there is a very real opportunity to fall in love with someone else, spend more time with other men, or really devalue the worth of who you’re with at the moment. It means its okay for you to randomly flirt and get to know other men without that attachment but we’re human and what if you find someone better, cuter, smarter, funnier? Than you’re basically saying to your partner “Be good to me or you might just get replaced.” From my very real observations with friends in the gay community who have been in open relationship or are currently in one, the following has happened: Estrangement: A very weird distance between the couple. They seem to be in love on the outside but something is always brewing on the inside. Random guys will come to their house and they’ve seemed to compete for their attention or they secretly get super jealous but still allow it to happen. This awkwardness stems from so much open trust that you lose control of what’s happening and it just down spirals. You don’t know where he is what he’s doing, but you can’t ask him either because if he says something you don’t like you have to go with it. Social Status & Money: Some friends that are in open relationships always complain about one another when the other is not around. They seem to always say that the other can be replaced whether it be money issues or friendships. There is a total lack of respect and a lack of responsibility. The couple starts to experience this emotional detachment. They start to be void and empty and shallow and have excuses they think seem valid. Friends Or Fuck Buddies: Once the couple is knee deep in the open relationship they can’t differentiate whether they can keep a friend or not. They seem to only stick to people who are either unattractive or totally brother material as friends. Any other friend is possibly a target to fuck. The class goes out the window and its a free pass to suck the dick of that hot friend you’ve always borderline flirted with before. It just seems like the world is a personal playground and friendships aren’t options anymore until you’ve fucked the friend and then you don’t want to be around him anymore. Awkward Moments: As I mentioned before, I’ve had friends who have asked me to the bar or club with them because their boyfriend was hosting a fuck buddy at home. They then tell me how this is annoying and how this cannot go on. They tell me they’ve found dirty underwear, empty condom wrappers, dirty sheets and missing money. What really happens is that while you may think you have control of something has now spiraled into no man’s land, or ALL MAN’S LAND. Arguments A Plenty: When the friends I knew had open relationships, they seemed to always have something to fight about. It just seemed deeper and angrier than other arguments. They start throwing all this dirt and one finds out the partner slept with close friends and the other partner feels betrayed. They can’t look at the other partner in the eye and not be disgusted. But the problem is they call certain things cheating and other things NOT cheating so its plenty to get a headache about. Now understand that all relationships are different but I guarantee EVERY open relationship will run through these problems because they are inevitable. I am all about having fun and doing what you want, but when it comes to the sake of analyzing this topic, all arrows point towards a Pandora’s Box. Some gay men may never face problems but that’s hard to believe. Some may have clever ways of dealing with it and saying they’ve never been through what I just mentioned (defense mechanism). But I guarantee, everything I said here will be scrutinized because the truth is the truth. But I rather tell you what other people don’t so you can see what other people know and don’t ever say. You might also want to read about : 7 Break-Up Mistakes Gay Men Make Common Relationship Mistakes Gay Men Make Common Relationship Mistakes Emotionally Unavailable Gay Men Make

So i met this Vietnamese guy almost a year ago and we became FWB and it wasnt until December that i realised i liked him (i got angry at him when he jokingly said he met someone else besides me). We kinda had a fight after that and we didnt meet for like a month-til he came back on grindr to apologise. Ever since that incident i realised we became more close- sometimes after meeting up we would cuddle or just lay in his bed talking about random topics n he even asked me to eat with him once. Tbh i wasnt sure i liked him until he went back to Vietnam for CNY n i missed him like shit. Fast forward to now, we got a matching necklace. The problem now is that im not sure hes liking me back? There was a few instances that makes me think like: 1)At one point i told him jokingly that only my bf can f*ck me n he said then the only way is that he became my bf (or sth like that) 2) i jokingly asked him again (heh) that i feel attached to him n he replied with "i think you already know how i feel about you" which made me blush like shiit. Then just last week i told him about my ex texting me to meet again n he told me to go meet him if i want. ???? Any experts mind reading this lengthy post to evaluate? How should i respond? What should i do to further the rs??

Hi guys, how would you please a submissive top or be very a dominant btm?