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Hi everyone, I'm turning 45 this August and am seeking a suitable partner to spend time with. PM ME I am tall and slightly stocky, standing at 181 cm and weighing 87 kg. I'm looking for a mature, discreet and manly person around my age. We can start with dinner dates to see if we are compatible. I’m looking for someone intelligent, who enjoys traveling and other similar interests.

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My boyfriend went onto Grindr and sent his stats and topless photos. For context, we were on a break for a while but agreed to be exclusive, and we had a major fight while he was overseas which led to us going no contact BUT had mutually agreed to not talk or see anyone else till he was back and tried to work things out. He saw a profile that looked like me and accused me of cheating, which on hindsight was him projecting onto me. After talking things out, I realised and pointed out that he had 1 more location-based chat to unlock for free and tried to clarify if there were indeed 3 initially as I have never really used the app. He assured me that there was only 1 unlock and hadn't spoken to anyone. A few days back a past fwb reached out to him, and my boyfriend told me about it as we agreed to have open disclosure if anyone from our pasts had contacted us. It turned out that my boyfriend had sent his stats and topless photos to the ex-fwb (without knowing it was him). It did hurt because I considered it as cheating, but I chose to forgive him pretty prematurely after a quick discussion about it, likely because I really wanted to work things out. I don't know what to do because I had already forgiven him, but I can't help but feel anxious and betrayed. I still feel so hurt about him going onto the app and proactively sending his stats and shirtless photos to random people after explicitly agreeing to stay exclusive and not talk to others. Please give me advice on how to proceed. I really like this guy and I don't know if I'm just ignoring all of the red flags at the moment. tl;dr: I need advice as my boyfriend and I got into a pretty rough patch, and he sent his stats and topless photos on Grindr.

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I arrived at my workplace yesterday, and headed straight to a public toilet to adjust my hair. Suddenly there was this cisco officer who came into the washroom and had his eyes on me while going up to the the urinal. Even when he was peeing, his eyes was locked onto. Not that I was checking him out, but when someone glares at you, I'm sure you would be able to feel it. So once he was done, he stood next to me with a very obvious bulge while washing his hands. Once I was done, I quickly walked out to get a slip of water from the water cooler and saw him looking for me. I head back to that same direction as my work place was there and he suddenly approached and ask me to follow him to the enclosed stairs. I have no idea why I did that, maybe because he was armed? Then when we entered the enclosed room, I asked him ??? He replied 'come hook up'. I was very nervous and excited but didn't want to get wet and dirty as I'm just about to start work, so I rejected him and say maybe next time, smiled and go. Omggg,He had such a big bulge. Ok that's not the point. That was the second time I met him, the first time he just had his eyes on me all the way as well. What do you guys think, to go or not to go? Guys in uniform are so hot, especially with a big bulge LOL

Hi guys, I'm 45, a local Chinese. A bit about me: Personality-wise, I'm more of an introverted, sensitive person who enjoys reflecting, nature, and exploring new things. I value openness and respect in relationships. I'm attracted to guys who have a masculine appearance. I'm wondering if anyone's interested in dating and getting to know me? If you're in your mid-40s or older and looking for a companion or buddy, feel free to send me a private message. My stats: 45 years old, Chinese, 181cm tall, 87kg. I identify as a pure bottom.

很难说得上是幸福还是不幸福。一如异性婚姻，也不知能一齐走完人生路的能有几个？可以肯定的，已婚而有白头偕老的居多，因为有法律保障，也有子女牵制。但我偏偏还是对上了一个已婚的好男人。怎么办？

To me this was pretty surprising as Japan is pretty conservative country. What you guys think?

Boys imitate what they see. If what they see is emotional distance, guardedness, and coldness between men they will grow up to imitate that behavior…What do boys learn when they do not see men with close friendships, where there are no visible models of intimacy in a man’s life beyond his spouse? For all men, gay, bi, curious, tran and etc. Sensual massage or Tantric massage is way to explore and express yourself shamelessly and comfort according to your needs. Q: Sensual or tantric massage involves sexual intercourse? A: No. It's a respectful touch. Its highten your senses and your awareness about both bodies. Q: Do you always have sex after the massage? A: No. And not necessarily. About me: I'm a local Chinese massuer living in Kuala Lumpur. I have been giving massage for many years. I value my privacy and yours too. Feel free to ask anything privately. WhatsApp: 0179930991 (John) Telegram: @ModelMsg

Hi guys. Anyone interested to date me out? For dinner etc. I'm 181 90kg local chin. 45 this year. Seek for decent straight look, discreet , professional manly tops who are ard my age or older. Text me if you're interested.

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Have you ever had any thrilling fun/stories with your classmates/teachers/colleagues/instructors? E.g. kiss, hi, bj, anal. When the sexual relationship goes beyond the superficial relationship, everything becomes thrilling.

This is a collective plea from all of us here at BW for you readers to share your sexual experiences. Come on don't be shy! I am sure everyone has some unique experiences to share. Do not worry about writing in broken english. It in fact provides a distinctive flavour to the post. Since we have allowed posting to be made anonymously (you do not need to be a registered member to post), your identity will not be exposed. I am attaching an example of a great post written in somewhat working class singlish. Up to today, I get hard reading it. I am sure many of you guys have similar stories to tell. Kindly share. ==================================================================== SteamedFish Unregistered User (4/8/04 7:23 am) FishingMan Last weekend I was drinking with friends at the NTUC Club. When we said goodbye, I thought I'll go to the nearby seaside to get some fresh air. There are some lovers and 2 men fishing. I walked to the far side to sit near the man to see how was his luck. The lights were quite dim but I can see him. Quite a stout chap with a handsome fair face about 30+. After a while, he got up, unzipped and peed into the sea. Hehe, I of course looked at his cock. Nice. He saw me that. He sat down and carried on his fishing. I asked him got any fish. He said no but got cheekopek. I know he was referring to me. But I was thick-skinned. I said we all men why say until like that? See also no harm right. He said don't know why ah quas like to peep at him. Happened so many time already. I said he's handsome, that's why. He say he old cock liao and got 2 children already. So I say he got man flavor. He said I got very sweet mouth. Is it I want to makan him. I say I dare not, wait he beat me up. He said don't bluff, last time that kelong owner also behaved like me. Seems like he's got naughty story so I asked him to tell me. He said last time he fishing at Changi, got one man saw him and told him he got kelong and he can fish there many fish. Since he said it's free, so he went because the kelong's nearby. When they got on the kelong, there were 2 workers there. The owner told them to go mainland to do something so they left. While he's fishing, he caught many fishes. The owner took a big pail to put in the fishes. But one time, he accidentally spill water on him. The owner said sorry and told him to wash with the clean pail of water. He said here nobody so can just wash naked nobody see also. So he got naked and washed. Then the owner also strip naked and his cock was hard already. He said he also want to wash. So they washed. Then the owner washed his back for him. Then told him to relax while he massage his back. He put a big canvas cloth on the floor and told him to lie down. He told the owner he's not gay. The owner said never mind, only help him relax. The owner massaged until his cock stand also. Quite nice. Then he asked him want to release fire or not? He said no. But the owner already shaking his cock until he cums. The owner also masturbated till he cummed. I said his story made me steamed. He said he also steamed. He asked me whether I got let people play backside. I said very seldom. He said he want to fxxk my backside. I said cannot, here so dangerous. He said I am so hamsup, he want to fxxk me also think twice. Wait he changed his mind then it's too late. So I said go someplace can or not? He said can if not far away. So he kept his fishing line and carried his big bag. We walked to Marina South and saw a big lorry park that's quite dim. There's one big lorry so we climbed on. He lay his canvas on the floor and we striped naked. He asked why I not shy to let men fxxk. I said not always but must be handsome like him then I willing. If not, then I don't want also. He laughed, like that he can fxxk any men if he want. I asked he got condom or not. He said no. He say how? I said if not then we just shake out. He said cannot that means he not handsome enough is it? I said no condom dangerous. He said I clean backide or not? I said should be, I washed before going out. He said he got plenty of water. He said he has an idea. He took out a plastic bag and inside was a big sandwich wrapped in lots of cellophane. He carefully removed the cellophane and put the sandwich back into the plastic bag. He wrapped the cellophane a few times round his cock and tie round his balls. I touched it and it felt quite strong with the few layers. He said I am like a wolf. But then no lube. Again he opened the sandwich bag and took out the small piece of wrapped butter. Wah lan eh, he said this time it is like people said I "bua" butter on my backside and kan karchng. I must say he's quite a good fxxker with all the right moves. I got my legs on his shoulders and told him he's good. He smiled and pumped me slow and fast. First I cummed then he after. We used his water to wipe clean and put on our clothes. He said it was fun. I said next time we better go hotel. ======================================================================

I’m a twink. A few months back, I’d never have imagined that I’d be dating a really cute muscular boy who’s into me too. Plot twist? It’s been abt 3 mths into our relationship & we haven’t gotten physically intimate. I admit most of it stems from my own insecurities about intimacy. My previous relationship (which was also my first) was with this toxic dude who gaslighted and shamed me for liking fitter guys, even though I told him I wasn’t expecting him to get ripped for me. But that didn’t stop him from calling me a ‘superficial fuck’ besides other horrible things he made me feel. So coming into this relationship, I have this emotional baggage with me where I don’t dare touch my bf because I always fear that he’d think I’m only with him for his body (not true because he has a sleeper build so I only found out he even had abs just recently when he was changing clothes). & I also don’t feel at all deserving of ‘enjoying’ his body he worked so hard for when.. I’ve nothing notable to offer back physically. But his bday is coming up soon & I was thinking of giving him a bonus ‘surprise’ at the end by finally getting intimate with him. I think even with these insecurities, I’d like to take that initiative since he’s told me that he respects my decision & is ready to wait. But I’ve a few concerns of mine: 1) With what I’ve mentioned about my insecurities, is there anything I can do or change my way of thinking to finally be comfortable with the idea of touching him without that guilt & feelings of undeserved-ness? 2) It’s gonna be my 1st time trying anal as a btm (didn’t do it with ex because he had performance issues). & I want to make it extra special by initiating to try raw (I’ve thought to bring him to test together for peace of mind). As a 1st time btm abt to try raw, anything I can expect or prepare so that the experience won’t be so awkward or painful? 3) Anything different I can expect from being intimate with a really fit muscular guy (I’d say he’s currently at his peak physique given that he’s in NDU. I’ve heard from friends that fitter guys tend to have more testosterones so generally have more stamina but I’m not so sure how I can keep up! You may help to answer some or all of the questions I’m asking. Appreciate any response! TLDR; twink is anxious abt 1st time raw sex with fit bf cause of previous baggage & wanna know how he could deal with it.

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Just wanna have some story time. This happened really unexpectingly and i feel that despite how 2020 has been to us, i still feel that there is still good left this year. It all began when i was scrolling through Grindr randomly. Was not looking for anything in particular because at this age (i’m turning 30 this year), I was already not expecting much from this app anyway. But then suddenly i saw this profile. He was staying nearby too. His profile pic looks decent and i thought why not say Hie. So i decided to say Hie first. He is 36 this year btw. He replied. The chat started very awkward with all the usual introduction. At this point, i didn’t expect much. He was very interested at the picture i gave him and he said it sure does gave him the attention. At the very beginning the chat started out a bit slow. So i thought to myself, this was going to be another case whereby sooner or later the chat will die out and after that either one of us will ghost each other. But to my surprise, he replied willingly after each replies. We even greeted each other in the morning. Which I find to be very strange in a good way as i was not expecting it to be that way. Days goes by, and we seem to be very interested with our chats that it seem as though we really enjoy each other’s time chatting. As we got to know each other, we decided we wanted to meet. So we exchanged contact with any hesitation. We seem to be so excited to meet as we were eager to finally able to see each other in person. So our first meet up was going jogging with each other. You can tell we were nervous but was trying to cover it up as we kept smiling to each other. We were happy when we finally met. So we had a good run till we ended up having fun somewhere. The session was hot as both of us didn’t had any fun for quite sometime. After that was done, it was not awkward at all. We continue walking back home as we chat. Can tell our conversation didnt stop as we chatted very naturally. I send him over at the mrt and waved goodbye. So days after that first meet up, we continue chatting over at whatsapp. We grew closer to each other each day by making time over our busy schedules to meet up whenever we can. Then came the whole Circuit Breaker period and this was when it really tested the both of us. Due to the strict restrictions, we were not able to see each other. Now this was the real hard part because the only way we got to see each other was through video calls. We both admit to each other that the situation made us miss each other a lot and the most sweetest thing was him using Grab services to deliver food/drinks/desserts for me. I was so touched at first and I returned the favour in doing the same thing too. We continue to tell each other that, once everything is ok, we will definitely see each other again. Fast forward to Phase 2 and when finally we were able to see each other, that is when things got serious. There was a particular day after we met, he asked me a question which led to the truth being told. I lied to him that I didn’t have any social media accounts (i.e. An ig account). He didn’t believe me and didn’t make any sound. Throughout the day, it made me feel guilty because i kept thinking of all the things that he had done for me. I didn’t wanna let him know my instagram account because at that point of time, i was attached with a girl. Yes, i thought I was bi. So before the day ends, I decided to tell him the truth. It was so hard for me to let him know that i broke down in tears trying to explain my situation. Despite him being hurt, he still cares for my feelings and he hugged me. He understand what was i going through and he was glad that i told him earlier before we went on further. That night was the lowest point in my life and for the both of us too. He told me he was cheated before. Just before we chatted, he recently broke up with his ex bf whom he was together with for more than 5 yrs. Can tell that night he was really down. He really thought it could work out between us and he poured out his feelings that night. We couldn’t stop texting each other that night till about 3am. I was crying non stop because we were trying to find a solution for this. We tried so hard to make each other to leave but our hearts really can’t take it. I knew how i felt that day and i knew i had to come out and be true to who i am. I couldn’t lie to myself anymore. This event made me even realise more that at this point in my life, i needed to make a clear direction to where i am going. The next morning we texted each other, our usual good morning. But we both didn’t slept well. I felt so guilty that i ordered his fave coffee delivery to his house. He was touched and he said he misses me. But he couldn’t stand the fact that I am still someone else’s. That was when i realise and made a decision. So i took the huge leap of ending of my r/s with my gf (she is my ex now). I decided not to let her know the real reason but i kept it generic with her. I knew sexually, i was not aroused by females. Once that was settled, I let him know of my decision and he was very supportive of it. He was glad that I looked happier now and that was the only thing he wanted, for me to be happy. After the whole saga, we were chatting even more and going out for dinner when we were finally able to dine out together recently. Till today, we decided not to have any status or told each other that we were dating. I mentioned my feelings to him before till one of the day inside my car when i was sending him off. We kissed goodnight and i accidentally said, ‘i love you’. He was shocked and smile shyly but did not reply. He texted me after that saying that he didn’t wanna sound bad to me but he said he was not ready for another r/s yet. He can’t seem to open his heart yet after what happened to him previously. I totally understand his situation but he felt that it was unfair to me if he would to keep me waiting. So now, we are really just enjoying each other’s company and having ‘fun’ with each other once in a while but we haven made it official yet. I want him to be my boyfriend and i think he also would like to have that but i think his heart was wounded the last time around and so he didn’t want to be hurt again. As of now, we are just going through each day. Are we friends with benefits? Are we dating? Will we be tgt as bf one day? I don’t know, only time will tell. Anyone went through somewhat similar situation? Hehe So what are your thoughts?

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The Purpose of This Writing This writing - and I shall confess that it comes with some emotional struggles - is my commitment to reach out to the gay community. It will be my story. It is written in memory of Fitz (not his real name). It is the space of our contribution; to honor my relationship with him. This space, after much persuasion from some close friends, is to render support to the community. To reach out mainly to gay couples (and hopefully to all gays) to share that everything is possible. Every strain, every burden, every chain and every hurdle retreats. Here, in this space, I hope to share: How to safeguard shared assets (about Wills, about Joint Account, about Joint Tenancy, about CPF Nomination, about Insurance Beneficiary, about Lasting Power of Attorney) How to (hopefully) survive a gay relationship The pains of grief losing a loved one Being a primary caregiver to cancer patient. I hope to share what I am experiencing and learning. It has, somewhat, impacted my way of life. Still, this sharing is not the absolute right way nor it is the only utmost course. This writing is to bring awareness to others as this awareness has served me. I just want to reach out to those who might be in the need and whom might be in the same path. About Grief Grief is a process. I hope, as I am allowing myself to be much exposed here, that it will grant me to heal and reconnect myself with Life. It is, at the same time, for me to maintain an ongoing connection with Fitz. It is my process to acknowledge that I am grieving. This space will probably be my healing ground. I learn that while the phrase "Letting Go" is so often easy to say, the process in itself is not. I learn, till anyone truly experienced the impact - the brunt, the shock - of a spousal loss and when the loss is still very much at the height of everything beautiful, that he/she will be able to fully empathize on the process of grief. A loss is a loss but there is variable difference towards grief. The reactions to a loss are unique and psychological. In my life, I have lost a father, a mother, a sister, a nephew and a beloved pet. I love all these people (including my beloved pet) but, somehow, the grief I experienced from each loss does not level up to a loss of a spouse. There is huge difference. There is unexplained uncertainty. There is unfamiliar fear. I learn that the only cure for grief is to let myself do my grieving. While time will heal, it is not that simple in truth. Time itself does not have any magical healing properties though it allows reality to take place. It is only when one is in the real experience that understanding evolves. Grief does not recognize deadline. There is no predictable trajectory in grief. The ebbs and flows are a landscape with peaks and valleys. Some days are easier than others. Some days, it can be riding a roller coaster. The roads are never a straight line. What makes it not easy is the mourning and grieving of the surviving gay partner. While I feel lucky that I am able to express and share my grief with family members and with good close friends - straight and gay, I realize it will not be easy for many other 'gay widows' who are not as privileged. Grief can be a bitch when there is no one out there to understand the real situation. The real loss. More so when we are gay and, probably, closeted. Grieving can be a lonely experience, though in solitude it brings one to surrender and accept. Let this space be another avenue to share, to care. Let it be a space to let grief takes new opportunities to present for another positive moment. When a chapter in life ends, another begins. It shall be in our own hands for that possibility to write the new and next wonderful stories. Thank you for listening. Thank you for taking time to read.

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I am currently a 24 year old student who is about to graduate form university soon. I grew up in a traditional chinese family with 2 elder sisters. Being the only son in the family, i would be lying if i told u I did not have any pressure of procreating and carrying on the family line. When i was young, i had many crushes on different girls, throughout kindergarten and primary school. All was well until i entered an all boys secondary school, when i fell for a junior who was one year younger than me. I would just look forward to seeing him during recess and check out what he was doing. The feeling slowly faded away when i entered junior college. I did not take any action to confess to him whatsoever mainly because the circumstance back then did not allow me to do so. In junior college, i would be peeping at those hot guys in school but still, i was not able to bold myself to do anything to show my affections towards them, i felt weird, there was an inexplicable sense of awkward feeling when i knew that i developed liking towards the male species. It was not until university when i had my first girlfriend. I was primarily attracted to her nice personality, she was all i was looking for in a girl and maybe, wife. It took me a long six months before the courtship ended and we took our relationship to the next level. It was official finally after all the crazy chase. However, the honeymoon period was short-lived, our relationship surreptitiously suffocated me over the next 2 months. I was frustrated by her insecurity and i was extremely upset and unhappy. It came to a point when i realised i had to do something about it, so i took the prudent step to initiating the break up. She was devastated after the break up, but i on the other hand, have never felt so relieved in my life. It was the right decision, honestly. Ever since then, i have been trying to explore my sexual orientation and attempting to discover my true identity. I started hanging out at gay saunas and hooking up with guys on jackd and grindr. Last saturday, i met this guy at a local sauna and he asked me out for a drink after the session. I kindly obliged. He is a successful young man with an impressive resume and prospective career. I was however, not attracted to him. During the meet up, he subtly hinted that he wanted take our relationship to the next level. Nonetheless, i was feeling extremely uneasy throughout the whole meet up, wild imaginations ran through my mind. I could not imagine myself to be in a open gay relationship and be judged by others in the society. There was an inner voice telling me that I should not be doing this, this is not the life that i should be living. So over the next few days, i made it clear to him that we were nothing more than friends. Somehow, i had that strong urge to reconciliate and patch things up with my ex girlfriend. I suddenly felt the strong urge of getting a girlfriend and forming a family and settling down. I can't explain the extreme fluctuation in my thinking and perception. It was as if a sudden alarm sounded and woke me up from my subconscious lalaland and i had to get back to reality, as if i was straight once again. Thanks for enduring through my long post. I sincerely hope those with similar experience is able to shed some light and share your views and advice with me. Many thanks in advance!