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I have recently started using this dating app called Hinge to find a partner, and as someone who is in his mid-thirties and has never dated before, life just started to feel really lonely navigating through alone. I have matched with a few guys and gone on a few dates before, but as with all online dating, you are matching with someone predominantly on whether they are good looking or not, so most of my attraction towards the guys I do meet in real life for such dates are purely due to looks. When those dates don't work out, I don't feel too upset about it because no feelings were involved, we went on the date, we don't vibe, we move on. 3 weeks ago, I ended up matching with this new guy and I remember coming across his profile, but had ran out of likes to give for the day (this shows how desperate I am to try and find someone on the app), so I gave him a rose (which is like a super like on Tinder) because he was cute and was someone who didn't take himself too seriously based on his profile. I was very much looking forward to conversing with him, but I knew it was going to be a 50/50 chance, he had to be interested in my profile first before we could get to that step. He did and actually messaged me back first, so we got to chatting and I really enjoyed our conversation, we had good banter almost immediately and soon brought the chat out to Telegram. The first week was just messages after messages, we replied to one another within the hour and I was constantly looking forward to them. By the second week however, the text messages from his side started slowing down, his replies were also starting to get shorter and I just found myself glued to my phone all day, waiting for him to message back. My interest towards him was still very strong, but it seemed like his has dwindled and I actually got really sad. Third week comes along and the messages were getting more and more sporadic, I tried to pep talk myself many times in my head that I didn't really know this guy, so I shouldn't let it affect me that much, if he was not interested, then I should just move on and hopefully find someone else who will be, but that is easier said than done. I was still very interested in him and I really wanted to give it an actual shot, because if I don't I know I will definitely regret it, so I asked him out. He agreed and we set a date. A huge part of me was so happy we could finally meet in real life, but another smaller part of me was also wishing that it would go horribly and I will instantly get over him once the date was over, because I didn't like how I was feeling, that longing for his attention felt suffocating. Well. The date actually went pretty well and we were able to hit it off in real life, our online banter translated really well offline and at that point in time, I felt like this was enough, if this was going to be our only date, I would be satisfied. The date ended and we went our separate ways, I dropped him a text minutes later and told him it was really nice to finally meet, he replied in kind, and then I half-jokingly told him he had better invite me out for a second meal. He had been "typing...", but the moment I send that out, he stopped and I was just left me on "read". The morning after, I woke up feeling satisfied and happy with the date, but then as the day went on, that sense of longing started to return and it started to intensify by late morning. I found myself once again checking my phone and yearning for a text from him, I couldn't focus on work, I had no appetite for breakfast, all I could think about was him and it was debilitating. I have never been in a relationship before because I have never felt so strongly for someone before to want to pursue a relationship with them, this is honestly the first time in my life I have developed such felt such strong feelings for a person and I do not like it. It's paralyzing, I know this isn't love, I know I'm just going through the infatuation phase, I mean I barely know the guy, we have only been talking online for 3 weeks, and only met up once, even I know that much that love take times to develop. But it's been a hard day. I feel like that intensity I felt during the late morning was probably brought on by my excessive caffeine intake in the morning because I have now calmed down and am feeling a little more in control, I guess typing this out also helped. Thanks for reading if you have gotten to this point, I just needed an outlet to express myself and would like to know if anyone else gone through this before and how you guys dealt with it. Update - 23rd May Thank you for all the replies guys! Just to share an update. He has texted me back and expressed that he isn't interested to pursue anything more, so I have also taken some time to get over him, and the feelings are starting to feel less intense as the days go by, now that I know for sure, it has definitely provided me with the closure I needed and also made it a tad easier to move on.

This is a collective plea from all of us here at BW for you readers to share your sexual experiences. Come on don't be shy! I am sure everyone has some unique experiences to share. Do not worry about writing in broken english. It in fact provides a distinctive flavour to the post. Since we have allowed posting to be made anonymously (you do not need to be a registered member to post), your identity will not be exposed. I am attaching an example of a great post written in somewhat working class singlish. Up to today, I get hard reading it. I am sure many of you guys have similar stories to tell. Kindly share. ==================================================================== SteamedFish Unregistered User (4/8/04 7:23 am) FishingMan Last weekend I was drinking with friends at the NTUC Club. When we said goodbye, I thought I'll go to the nearby seaside to get some fresh air. There are some lovers and 2 men fishing. I walked to the far side to sit near the man to see how was his luck. The lights were quite dim but I can see him. Quite a stout chap with a handsome fair face about 30+. After a while, he got up, unzipped and peed into the sea. Hehe, I of course looked at his cock. Nice. He saw me that. He sat down and carried on his fishing. I asked him got any fish. He said no but got cheekopek. I know he was referring to me. But I was thick-skinned. I said we all men why say until like that? See also no harm right. He said don't know why ah quas like to peep at him. Happened so many time already. I said he's handsome, that's why. He say he old cock liao and got 2 children already. So I say he got man flavor. He said I got very sweet mouth. Is it I want to makan him. I say I dare not, wait he beat me up. He said don't bluff, last time that kelong owner also behaved like me. Seems like he's got naughty story so I asked him to tell me. He said last time he fishing at Changi, got one man saw him and told him he got kelong and he can fish there many fish. Since he said it's free, so he went because the kelong's nearby. When they got on the kelong, there were 2 workers there. The owner told them to go mainland to do something so they left. While he's fishing, he caught many fishes. The owner took a big pail to put in the fishes. But one time, he accidentally spill water on him. The owner said sorry and told him to wash with the clean pail of water. He said here nobody so can just wash naked nobody see also. So he got naked and washed. Then the owner also strip naked and his cock was hard already. He said he also want to wash. So they washed. Then the owner washed his back for him. Then told him to relax while he massage his back. He put a big canvas cloth on the floor and told him to lie down. He told the owner he's not gay. The owner said never mind, only help him relax. The owner massaged until his cock stand also. Quite nice. Then he asked him want to release fire or not? He said no. But the owner already shaking his cock until he cums. The owner also masturbated till he cummed. I said his story made me steamed. He said he also steamed. He asked me whether I got let people play backside. I said very seldom. He said he want to fxxk my backside. I said cannot, here so dangerous. He said I am so hamsup, he want to fxxk me also think twice. Wait he changed his mind then it's too late. So I said go someplace can or not? He said can if not far away. So he kept his fishing line and carried his big bag. We walked to Marina South and saw a big lorry park that's quite dim. There's one big lorry so we climbed on. He lay his canvas on the floor and we striped naked. He asked why I not shy to let men fxxk. I said not always but must be handsome like him then I willing. If not, then I don't want also. He laughed, like that he can fxxk any men if he want. I asked he got condom or not. He said no. He say how? I said if not then we just shake out. He said cannot that means he not handsome enough is it? I said no condom dangerous. He said I clean backide or not? I said should be, I washed before going out. He said he got plenty of water. He said he has an idea. He took out a plastic bag and inside was a big sandwich wrapped in lots of cellophane. He carefully removed the cellophane and put the sandwich back into the plastic bag. He wrapped the cellophane a few times round his cock and tie round his balls. I touched it and it felt quite strong with the few layers. He said I am like a wolf. But then no lube. Again he opened the sandwich bag and took out the small piece of wrapped butter. Wah lan eh, he said this time it is like people said I "bua" butter on my backside and kan karchng. I must say he's quite a good fxxker with all the right moves. I got my legs on his shoulders and told him he's good. He smiled and pumped me slow and fast. First I cummed then he after. We used his water to wipe clean and put on our clothes. He said it was fun. I said next time we better go hotel. ======================================================================

Hi recently I have this urge of serving uncles above 40yo. I haven't got any actions yet (because I think it is difficult in this day and age) My biggest fantasies are to serve multiple uncle cocks or even dorm workers. Something about them not getting into action and going all out on me is hot. Like I had this "roleplay" where i want all the uncles to be playing mahjong and they make me suck them under the table.

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很难说得上是幸福还是不幸福。一如异性婚姻，也不知能一齐走完人生路的能有几个？可以肯定的，已婚而有白头偕老的居多，因为有法律保障，也有子女牵制。但我偏偏还是对上了一个已婚的好男人。怎么办？

I have been thinking for quite some time now that we have Singapore's Gay Missed Connection. Why not we make a Malaysia Edition for Malaysian gays?

There are lots of prc on Grindr but I think most of them use blued. Haven’t tried meetup with any

How to Discreetly Find out if Someone You Know Is Gay Co-authored by Kateri Berasi, PsyD and Danielle Blinka, MA, MPA Last Updated: June 10, 2024 References Explore this Article Observing Their Behavior Talking to Them Asking Them on a Date Questions & Answers Tips and Warnings Related Articles References Article Summary Someone’s sexuality is personal, so it’s important to respect their privacy. However, you might want to know if a person is gay because you’re interested in dating them or want to support them as a friend. Being open with them can be scary, so you’re likely feeling really nervous. While you can’t tell if someone is gay by how they look, you can observe them to see if they're queer. However, you need to talk to them if you want to be sure. If you’re interested in dating them, start by asking them to hang out as friends so you can get to know them better. Disclaimer: the term ‘queer’ is used throughout this article to include different types of orientations and is not intended to offend or insult. Method 1 Observing Their Behavior 1 Listen to how they comment on other people’s appearance. People who are queer are more likely to notice and compliment people who are the same gender as them. Pay attention when the person is talking about people to see which sex they tend to focus on. Additionally, consider the types of comments they're making, such as opinions about the person's appearance.[1] For example, your guy friend might say things like, “Did you see that guy’s abs?” or “He looks great in a suit.” Keep in mind that this alone doesn’t mean the person is gay! 2 Consider the person's past relationships and crushes. It’s possible that the person is bisexual/pansexual, and they may even be gay but not ready to come out. However, showing interest in a different gender is typically a sign that someone is straight. To figure out if they’re interested in a certain gender, consider who they typically date, who they’ve had a crush on, and which gender they tend to compliment. For instance, a guy that enjoys dating girls is probably straight, though he may be bisexual or pansexual. 3 Notice if they use “they” when talking about dates or crushes. If they’re dating someone who’s the same gender as them, they might use the pronouns “they” and “them” so that people don’t realize they’re queer. Listen to how they talk about their dates to figure out if they tend to say “they.” If they do, you might want to talk to them about their orientation.[2] They might say, “My date went well last night. They were really interesting, and I hope they’ll say ‘yes’ to a second date!” Keep in mind that they might be using the pronouns ‘they’ and ‘them’ because they are their date’s preferred pronouns. Don’t make assumptions until you talk to them. 4 Consider if they never talk about their love life. If someone is in the closet, it might be hard for them to talk about their love life. They might be nervous that someone will realize that they’re queer, which they might not be ready for. Be open with them about your own dating life, then ask about theirs. If they don't want to open up, don't push them to share more than they're ready for.[3] You could say, “I’ve been seeing this guy lately, and I think our relationship has a future. How’s your dating life going?” Again, this doesn't mean that they're gay. 5 Avoid making assumptions based on their looks, style, or voice. In the past, people believed the myth that you could recognize a queer person by looking at their face, observing their style, watching them walk, or listening to their voice. However, none of that is true! Both gay and straight people can look, dress, and sound however they want to. Ignore the stereotypes that you see in the media because they aren’t true.[4] For example, a guy can paint his fingernails and not be gay. Similarly, a girl can prefer a short haircut and not be a lesbian. Additionally, straight guys can have high pitched voices just like straight girls can have deep voices. At the end of the day, it is always better to ask than to make assumptions![5] Method2 Talking to Them 1 Bring up the topic of sexuality to start the conversation. Talk about a book, movie, TV show, or current event that is related to sexuality. Share your LGBTQ+ positive thoughts on the topic. Then, listen as they share their thoughts.[6] You might say, “I really enjoyed Hayley Kiyoko's new video for ‘Girls Like Girls!’ It made me wear my rainbow bracelet today. What did you think?” Before talking with someone about their sexuality, ask yourself why you want to know this and why it matters to you. Are you coming from an open or judgmental place? If you're asking due to a desire to find connection or from a place of empathy or support, these are good indicators that your question is more likely to be well-received.[7] 2 Express your support for the LGBTQ+ community. If you’re out of the closet, let them know that you’re proud of your sexual identity. If you’re an ally, tell them that you support the community. Then, see how they respond.[8] Say, “I came out to my family last year, and it was so hard! But it’s so great to be able to share my truth with everyone, and I’m proud of who I am,” or “I think it’s important for everyone to feel accepted, so I’m an ally for the LGBTQ+ community. If we all work together, we can create real change.” 3 Ask them directly if they are gay if they seem open to talking about it. If the person seems excited to talk about LGBTQ+ issues, they likely won’t be offended if you ask if they’re gay.[9] Be direct and to the point when you ask. Then, be respectful of their response, even if they decline to answer.[10] Say, “Have you ever questioned your sexual orientation?” or “Do you identify as gay/queer?” 4 Let the person come out on their own terms. It’s important to remember that it’s not really your business if someone is queer or not. If they don’t want to share with you, just let it go. Similarly, keep it to yourself if they confide that they are queer. Let them decide who knows and who doesn’t.[11] Don’t pressure someone to share if they aren’t ready. If someone asks you if the person is queer, say, “If you’re wondering about their sexual orientation, why don’t you ask them?” 5 Avoid asking other people about the person’s sexuality. While you might be nervous about talking to them, it’s not okay to discuss their sexuality with other people. This is gossiping and may start rumors that aren’t true. Don’t talk to anyone else about this person’s sexuality.[12] For instance, don’t ask, “Do you think that Todd is gay?” Method3 Asking Them on a Date 1 Ask them to go out as friends if you’re interested in dating them. You’re likely eager to get to know them as a partner, so asking them to hang out as friends might sound like a step backward. However, it’s actually a great way to get to know them and find out if they’re open to dating. Invite them to do something as friends and use it as an opportunity to build a foundation for a relationship.[13] Say, “Would you like to play mini golf this Friday?” or “I heard you like live music. Do you want to go see this local band with me?” 2 Get to know them by spending more time with them. Ask them to do more things together so you can get to know them better. Additionally, text or call them often to help your relationship grow. As you do this, be open about your sexuality and listen to how they talk about theirs.[14] Ask them to do things like go out for dinner, see a movie, or go bowling. Say things like, “I’ve known I liked girls since I was 12 and developed a crush on a girl in my dance class. Have you ever had a crush on a girl?” 3 Flirt with them after you’ve gotten to know them a bit. Start by giving them small compliments to see how they respond. If they seem receptive, try out a cute nickname to see if they like it. Finally, get a little closer to them physically.[15] You might say something like, “You look so great today! This shirt is really flattering on you,” or “Every time I see you walk into the room all I can do is smile.” Warning: Just be sure to respect their boundaries and back off if they get stiff, pull away, or wrap their arms around themselves. 4 Invite them out on a date if you think they might be open to it. After you’ve gotten to know them really well, decide if they seem open to dating you. If they do, go ahead and ask them on a real date. You can do this in person, via text, or as part of a romantic gesture.[16] Say, “Spending time with you has been so great! Would you be interested in going on a date? If not, that’s totally okay, and I’m happy to just be your friend.” You could also text, “Getting to know you these past few months has been amazing. Wanna try a date? If not, we’re still on for game night.” You could send flowers with a note that says, “Would you like to have a first date with me? If so, text me a picture of the flowers. If not, our friendship can go on like nothing happened.” 5 Cope with rejection by celebrating yourself and connecting with friends. It's likely that you're going to develop feelings for people who aren't into you. While everyone goes through this, it can feel especially painful when it seems like everyone you like is straight. If you get rejected, remember that it's not about you, so there's no reason to doubt how awesome you are. Instead, remind yourself that you're an amazing person who's worthy of love, then spend time with your friends to lift yourself up.[17] Don't be afraid to put yourself out there again! Go out and meet some new people. Soon, you'll find someone else who catches your eye.

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Hello everyone, Today is Monday, and I hope you’re all having a great start to the week. I wanted to share some thoughts on the difference between having an attitude problem and being easygoing, especially in the context of the LGBTQ+ community. A person with an attitude problem can be difficult to deal with. They might be very picky, often negative, and hard to please. Their interactions with others can come across as harsh or unpleasant. Difficult to Deal With: They often have a negative outlook, making interactions challenging. Picky and Hard to Please: Their high standards and critical nature can create tension. Harsh Interactions: Their communication style can be blunt or unpleasant, leading to conflicts. Resistance to Change: They may be inflexible, which can hinder progress and cooperation. On the other hand, a person with a positive attitude is easygoing, humble, polite, and pleasant to be around. They are approachable and make interactions smooth and enjoyable. Easygoing and Humble: They are approachable and open-minded, making them pleasant to be around. Polite and Pleasant: Their respectful and kind demeanor fosters positive interactions. Smooth Interactions: They handle situations with grace, making socializing enjoyable. Adaptable: They are willing to embrace change and new ideas, promoting a harmonious environment. In summary, understanding the difference between these attitudes can greatly impact our interactions and the overall atmosphere within our communities. Let’s strive to be more positive and approachable, fostering inclusivity and support for everyone.

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My boyfriend went onto Grindr and sent his stats and topless photos. For context, we were on a break for a while but agreed to be exclusive, and we had a major fight while he was overseas which led to us going no contact BUT had mutually agreed to not talk or see anyone else till he was back and tried to work things out. He saw a profile that looked like me and accused me of cheating, which on hindsight was him projecting onto me. After talking things out, I realised and pointed out that he had 1 more location-based chat to unlock for free and tried to clarify if there were indeed 3 initially as I have never really used the app. He assured me that there was only 1 unlock and hadn't spoken to anyone. A few days back a past fwb reached out to him, and my boyfriend told me about it as we agreed to have open disclosure if anyone from our pasts had contacted us. It turned out that my boyfriend had sent his stats and topless photos to the ex-fwb (without knowing it was him). It did hurt because I considered it as cheating, but I chose to forgive him pretty prematurely after a quick discussion about it, likely because I really wanted to work things out. I don't know what to do because I had already forgiven him, but I can't help but feel anxious and betrayed. I still feel so hurt about him going onto the app and proactively sending his stats and shirtless photos to random people after explicitly agreeing to stay exclusive and not talk to others. Please give me advice on how to proceed. I really like this guy and I don't know if I'm just ignoring all of the red flags at the moment. tl;dr: I need advice as my boyfriend and I got into a pretty rough patch, and he sent his stats and topless photos on Grindr.

I arrived at my workplace yesterday, and headed straight to a public toilet to adjust my hair. Suddenly there was this cisco officer who came into the washroom and had his eyes on me while going up to the the urinal. Even when he was peeing, his eyes was locked onto. Not that I was checking him out, but when someone glares at you, I'm sure you would be able to feel it. So once he was done, he stood next to me with a very obvious bulge while washing his hands. Once I was done, I quickly walked out to get a slip of water from the water cooler and saw him looking for me. I head back to that same direction as my work place was there and he suddenly approached and ask me to follow him to the enclosed stairs. I have no idea why I did that, maybe because he was armed? Then when we entered the enclosed room, I asked him ??? He replied 'come hook up'. I was very nervous and excited but didn't want to get wet and dirty as I'm just about to start work, so I rejected him and say maybe next time, smiled and go. Omggg,He had such a big bulge. Ok that's not the point. That was the second time I met him, the first time he just had his eyes on me all the way as well. What do you guys think, to go or not to go? Guys in uniform are so hot, especially with a big bulge LOL

To me this was pretty surprising as Japan is pretty conservative country. What you guys think?

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Tantric massage is a respectful massage ritual in which the entire body is touched and massaged in a harmonious and natural way. Agree? Disagree?

Have you ever had any thrilling fun/stories with your classmates/teachers/colleagues/instructors? E.g. kiss, hi, bj, anal. When the sexual relationship goes beyond the superficial relationship, everything becomes thrilling.

I’m a twink. A few months back, I’d never have imagined that I’d be dating a really cute muscular boy who’s into me too. Plot twist? It’s been abt 3 mths into our relationship & we haven’t gotten physically intimate. I admit most of it stems from my own insecurities about intimacy. My previous relationship (which was also my first) was with this toxic dude who gaslighted and shamed me for liking fitter guys, even though I told him I wasn’t expecting him to get ripped for me. But that didn’t stop him from calling me a ‘superficial fuck’ besides other horrible things he made me feel. So coming into this relationship, I have this emotional baggage with me where I don’t dare touch my bf because I always fear that he’d think I’m only with him for his body (not true because he has a sleeper build so I only found out he even had abs just recently when he was changing clothes). & I also don’t feel at all deserving of ‘enjoying’ his body he worked so hard for when.. I’ve nothing notable to offer back physically. But his bday is coming up soon & I was thinking of giving him a bonus ‘surprise’ at the end by finally getting intimate with him. I think even with these insecurities, I’d like to take that initiative since he’s told me that he respects my decision & is ready to wait. But I’ve a few concerns of mine: 1) With what I’ve mentioned about my insecurities, is there anything I can do or change my way of thinking to finally be comfortable with the idea of touching him without that guilt & feelings of undeserved-ness? 2) It’s gonna be my 1st time trying anal as a btm (didn’t do it with ex because he had performance issues). & I want to make it extra special by initiating to try raw (I’ve thought to bring him to test together for peace of mind). As a 1st time btm abt to try raw, anything I can expect or prepare so that the experience won’t be so awkward or painful? 3) Anything different I can expect from being intimate with a really fit muscular guy (I’d say he’s currently at his peak physique given that he’s in NDU. I’ve heard from friends that fitter guys tend to have more testosterones so generally have more stamina but I’m not so sure how I can keep up! You may help to answer some or all of the questions I’m asking. Appreciate any response! TLDR; twink is anxious abt 1st time raw sex with fit bf cause of previous baggage & wanna know how he could deal with it.

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Just wanna have some story time. This happened really unexpectingly and i feel that despite how 2020 has been to us, i still feel that there is still good left this year. It all began when i was scrolling through Grindr randomly. Was not looking for anything in particular because at this age (i’m turning 30 this year), I was already not expecting much from this app anyway. But then suddenly i saw this profile. He was staying nearby too. His profile pic looks decent and i thought why not say Hie. So i decided to say Hie first. He is 36 this year btw. He replied. The chat started very awkward with all the usual introduction. At this point, i didn’t expect much. He was very interested at the picture i gave him and he said it sure does gave him the attention. At the very beginning the chat started out a bit slow. So i thought to myself, this was going to be another case whereby sooner or later the chat will die out and after that either one of us will ghost each other. But to my surprise, he replied willingly after each replies. We even greeted each other in the morning. Which I find to be very strange in a good way as i was not expecting it to be that way. Days goes by, and we seem to be very interested with our chats that it seem as though we really enjoy each other’s time chatting. As we got to know each other, we decided we wanted to meet. So we exchanged contact with any hesitation. We seem to be so excited to meet as we were eager to finally able to see each other in person. So our first meet up was going jogging with each other. You can tell we were nervous but was trying to cover it up as we kept smiling to each other. We were happy when we finally met. So we had a good run till we ended up having fun somewhere. The session was hot as both of us didn’t had any fun for quite sometime. After that was done, it was not awkward at all. We continue walking back home as we chat. Can tell our conversation didnt stop as we chatted very naturally. I send him over at the mrt and waved goodbye. So days after that first meet up, we continue chatting over at whatsapp. We grew closer to each other each day by making time over our busy schedules to meet up whenever we can. Then came the whole Circuit Breaker period and this was when it really tested the both of us. Due to the strict restrictions, we were not able to see each other. Now this was the real hard part because the only way we got to see each other was through video calls. We both admit to each other that the situation made us miss each other a lot and the most sweetest thing was him using Grab services to deliver food/drinks/desserts for me. I was so touched at first and I returned the favour in doing the same thing too. We continue to tell each other that, once everything is ok, we will definitely see each other again. Fast forward to Phase 2 and when finally we were able to see each other, that is when things got serious. There was a particular day after we met, he asked me a question which led to the truth being told. I lied to him that I didn’t have any social media accounts (i.e. An ig account). He didn’t believe me and didn’t make any sound. Throughout the day, it made me feel guilty because i kept thinking of all the things that he had done for me. I didn’t wanna let him know my instagram account because at that point of time, i was attached with a girl. Yes, i thought I was bi. So before the day ends, I decided to tell him the truth. It was so hard for me to let him know that i broke down in tears trying to explain my situation. Despite him being hurt, he still cares for my feelings and he hugged me. He understand what was i going through and he was glad that i told him earlier before we went on further. That night was the lowest point in my life and for the both of us too. He told me he was cheated before. Just before we chatted, he recently broke up with his ex bf whom he was together with for more than 5 yrs. Can tell that night he was really down. He really thought it could work out between us and he poured out his feelings that night. We couldn’t stop texting each other that night till about 3am. I was crying non stop because we were trying to find a solution for this. We tried so hard to make each other to leave but our hearts really can’t take it. I knew how i felt that day and i knew i had to come out and be true to who i am. I couldn’t lie to myself anymore. This event made me even realise more that at this point in my life, i needed to make a clear direction to where i am going. The next morning we texted each other, our usual good morning. But we both didn’t slept well. I felt so guilty that i ordered his fave coffee delivery to his house. He was touched and he said he misses me. But he couldn’t stand the fact that I am still someone else’s. That was when i realise and made a decision. So i took the huge leap of ending of my r/s with my gf (she is my ex now). I decided not to let her know the real reason but i kept it generic with her. I knew sexually, i was not aroused by females. Once that was settled, I let him know of my decision and he was very supportive of it. He was glad that I looked happier now and that was the only thing he wanted, for me to be happy. After the whole saga, we were chatting even more and going out for dinner when we were finally able to dine out together recently. Till today, we decided not to have any status or told each other that we were dating. I mentioned my feelings to him before till one of the day inside my car when i was sending him off. We kissed goodnight and i accidentally said, ‘i love you’. He was shocked and smile shyly but did not reply. He texted me after that saying that he didn’t wanna sound bad to me but he said he was not ready for another r/s yet. He can’t seem to open his heart yet after what happened to him previously. I totally understand his situation but he felt that it was unfair to me if he would to keep me waiting. So now, we are really just enjoying each other’s company and having ‘fun’ with each other once in a while but we haven made it official yet. I want him to be my boyfriend and i think he also would like to have that but i think his heart was wounded the last time around and so he didn’t want to be hurt again. As of now, we are just going through each day. Are we friends with benefits? Are we dating? Will we be tgt as bf one day? I don’t know, only time will tell. Anyone went through somewhat similar situation? Hehe So what are your thoughts?

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The Purpose of This Writing This writing - and I shall confess that it comes with some emotional struggles - is my commitment to reach out to the gay community. It will be my story. It is written in memory of Fitz (not his real name). It is the space of our contribution; to honor my relationship with him. This space, after much persuasion from some close friends, is to render support to the community. To reach out mainly to gay couples (and hopefully to all gays) to share that everything is possible. Every strain, every burden, every chain and every hurdle retreats. Here, in this space, I hope to share: How to safeguard shared assets (about Wills, about Joint Account, about Joint Tenancy, about CPF Nomination, about Insurance Beneficiary, about Lasting Power of Attorney) How to (hopefully) survive a gay relationship The pains of grief losing a loved one Being a primary caregiver to cancer patient. I hope to share what I am experiencing and learning. It has, somewhat, impacted my way of life. Still, this sharing is not the absolute right way nor it is the only utmost course. This writing is to bring awareness to others as this awareness has served me. I just want to reach out to those who might be in the need and whom might be in the same path. About Grief Grief is a process. I hope, as I am allowing myself to be much exposed here, that it will grant me to heal and reconnect myself with Life. It is, at the same time, for me to maintain an ongoing connection with Fitz. It is my process to acknowledge that I am grieving. This space will probably be my healing ground. I learn that while the phrase "Letting Go" is so often easy to say, the process in itself is not. I learn, till anyone truly experienced the impact - the brunt, the shock - of a spousal loss and when the loss is still very much at the height of everything beautiful, that he/she will be able to fully empathize on the process of grief. A loss is a loss but there is variable difference towards grief. The reactions to a loss are unique and psychological. In my life, I have lost a father, a mother, a sister, a nephew and a beloved pet. I love all these people (including my beloved pet) but, somehow, the grief I experienced from each loss does not level up to a loss of a spouse. There is huge difference. There is unexplained uncertainty. There is unfamiliar fear. I learn that the only cure for grief is to let myself do my grieving. While time will heal, it is not that simple in truth. Time itself does not have any magical healing properties though it allows reality to take place. It is only when one is in the real experience that understanding evolves. Grief does not recognize deadline. There is no predictable trajectory in grief. The ebbs and flows are a landscape with peaks and valleys. Some days are easier than others. Some days, it can be riding a roller coaster. The roads are never a straight line. What makes it not easy is the mourning and grieving of the surviving gay partner. While I feel lucky that I am able to express and share my grief with family members and with good close friends - straight and gay, I realize it will not be easy for many other 'gay widows' who are not as privileged. Grief can be a bitch when there is no one out there to understand the real situation. The real loss. More so when we are gay and, probably, closeted. Grieving can be a lonely experience, though in solitude it brings one to surrender and accept. Let this space be another avenue to share, to care. Let it be a space to let grief takes new opportunities to present for another positive moment. When a chapter in life ends, another begins. It shall be in our own hands for that possibility to write the new and next wonderful stories. Thank you for listening. Thank you for taking time to read.

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