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As per topic. What's your take on this? I get very annoyed when people confuse this term with "invisibility". How can you make real friends if you don't even show a picture when requested? Then what is the diff say talking to a robot? I have lots to say on this but really. What are your views regarding this?

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Mybe being friends require patience & respect on one's privacy at the moment..

In as much as i consider your preference on having friends (knowing the face of the one your talking with)..others, like me, also found friends by mere exchange of views..pics or seeing the face is just a bonus. The day will defintely come when you'll exchange pics as well & then even meet for a better conversation.

 

On the other hand, there are those who will be willing to immediately provide pics (even without asking)..

In any case, i hope you'll find friends...true friends who will not based their friendship on your looks alone..

Have a nice day..

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Mybe being friends require patience & respect on one's privacy at the moment..

In as much as i consider your preference on having friends (knowing the face of the one your talking with)..others, like me, also found friends by mere exchange of views..pics or seeing the face is just a bonus. The day will defintely come when you'll exchange pics as well & then even meet for a better conversation.

On the other hand, there are those who will be willing to immediately provide pics (even without asking)..

In any case, i hope you'll find friends...true friends who will not based their friendship on your looks alone..

Have a nice day..

You post really provoked some sort of thought in me that I really found the need to post this... I looked back at what I have done lately and it seem to make me such a bad person by following the herd and asking for " a pic " at the earliest instances during a conversation and I think it was probably due to;

1. Impatience - why bother wasting time when that guy obviously doesn't suit you (ok no offense but for example, this guy doesn't look like he will do sports and he looks like he only watch movies and eat popcorns..)

2. Stereotype - per point 1, you judged when you saw the pictures therefore you found it very important to see the person you are talking to before proceeding

3. Herd behaviour - you see people asking for pics from you therefore you continued the practice by doing it on other people.

4. Ego - I am not sure how true but probably just want to showcase how cute or handsome some one is.

Add on if you think of anything else...

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Coming from a guy who's pretty much invisible (in your words).

 

1. Impatience - why bother wasting time when that guy obviously doesn't suit you (ok no offense but for example, this guy doesn't look like he will do sports and he looks like he only watch movies and eat popcorns..)

 

But I think looks can be deceiving and is not a good indicator of what his hobbies are. (Worse if the person uses some other photo other than himself)

 

Well you dont have to waste time if you just ask him directly what his hobbies are. Unless you meant that he still look like a turd even though he do sports then yeah you may have find it a waste of time XDD

 

Otherwise im pretty honest when it comes to this. E.G "I AM A BORING DUDE WHO EATS POTATO CHIPS WHILE LYING ON MY MESSY BED THAT HAS A LAPTOP PLAYING THROUGH DIFFERENT SEASONS OF ADVENTURE TIME"

I hope someone digs that. /derp

 

2. Stereotype - per point 1, you judged when you saw the pictures therefore you found it very important to see the person you are talking to before proceeding

 

I agreeeeee, I myself judge even though I try not to. And Isn't it also sad when someone only become interested in talking to you only after seeing your photo and how cute you are. But attractiveness plays a part in making friends and choosing a partner anyway so it isnt like a bad thing.

 

3. Herd behaviour - you see people asking for pics from you therefore you continued the practice by doing it on other people.
 

Nah, I don't insist. Mainly because i just want a chat or two sometimes or that I dont really have the intention to meet people up so I am not insistent on photos. 

 

4. Ego - I am not sure how true but probably just want to showcase how cute or handsome some one is.

 

I dont think it is ego, people who are not like really cute or handsome have sent me photo. I don't think they sent it with a "THIS IS GONNA GET HIM GOING HEAD OVER HEELS FOR ME"  I think it is more of friendliness than ego that they chose to share their photos, and perhaps it is comfortable for them to do so. (Like I'm not ever comfortable to do so)  

 

I dont like to reveal myself because I am not out of the closet, and i don't intend to be for the time being. So I think it is risky to be sharing photos with others. But at the same time i like talking to people in the circle since I can then talk abt things that I cant talk about usually when it concerns homosexuality. That is all xD

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