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Time Should I waste my time on you who i can't control Should i waste my time on things that is of my beyond Can't we see the time that went tick tock Is this the right time or is it not? They say time flows like a stream To a land where there are many dreams But you told me you did like to be a place full of surprises and supremes There are no other choices but this is the way its seems. I do not know what to say The world is so full of grey You say I am imperfect and this I know Yet I still think you are gold I may be kind and silly but it’s not fine. Your avoidant ways clearly shows through time Time will reveal who you are And you can really be a pain in the arse Letting you go should keep you afar As there is nothing left to be my fuss Finally I can get on my path. E.T. 13.01.2019

The Purpose of This Writing This writing - and I shall confess that it comes with some emotional struggles - is my commitment to reach out to the gay community. It will be my story. It is written in memory of Fitz (not his real name). It is the space of our contribution; to honor my relationship with him. This space, after much persuasion from some close friends, is to render support to the community. To reach out mainly to gay couples (and hopefully to all gays) to share that everything is possible. Every strain, every burden, every chain and every hurdle retreats. Here, in this space, I hope to share: How to safeguard shared assets (about Wills, about Joint Account, about Joint Tenancy, about CPF Nomination, about Insurance Beneficiary, about Lasting Power of Attorney) How to (hopefully) survive a gay relationship The pains of grief losing a loved one Being a primary caregiver to cancer patient. I hope to share what I am experiencing and learning. It has, somewhat, impacted my way of life. Still, this sharing is not the absolute right way nor it is the only utmost course. This writing is to bring awareness to others as this awareness has served me. I just want to reach out to those who might be in the need and whom might be in the same path. About Grief Grief is a process. I hope, as I am allowing myself to be much exposed here, that it will grant me to heal and reconnect myself with Life. It is, at the same time, for me to maintain an ongoing connection with Fitz. It is my process to acknowledge that I am grieving. This space will probably be my healing ground. I learn that while the phrase "Letting Go" is so often easy to say, the process in itself is not. I learn, till anyone truly experienced the impact - the brunt, the shock - of a spousal loss and when the loss is still very much at the height of everything beautiful, that he/she will be able to fully empathize on the process of grief. A loss is a loss but there is variable difference towards grief. The reactions to a loss are unique and psychological. In my life, I have lost a father, a mother, a sister, a nephew and a beloved pet. I love all these people (including my beloved pet) but, somehow, the grief I experienced from each loss does not level up to a loss of a spouse. There is huge difference. There is unexplained uncertainty. There is unfamiliar fear. I learn that the only cure for grief is to let myself do my grieving. While time will heal, it is not that simple in truth. Time itself does not have any magical healing properties though it allows reality to take place. It is only when one is in the real experience that understanding evolves. Grief does not recognize deadline. There is no predictable trajectory in grief. The ebbs and flows are a landscape with peaks and valleys. Some days are easier than others. Some days, it can be riding a roller coaster. The roads are never a straight line. What makes it not easy is the mourning and grieving of the surviving gay partner. While I feel lucky that I am able to express and share my grief with family members and with good close friends - straight and gay, I realize it will not be easy for many other 'gay widows' who are not as privileged. Grief can be a bitch when there is no one out there to understand the real situation. The real loss. More so when we are gay and, probably, closeted. Grieving can be a lonely experience, though in solitude it brings one to surrender and accept. Let this space be another avenue to share, to care. Let it be a space to let grief takes new opportunities to present for another positive moment. When a chapter in life ends, another begins. It shall be in our own hands for that possibility to write the new and next wonderful stories. Thank you for listening. Thank you for taking time to read.

can anyone explain how to organise, and what happen during orgy? normally, can a chub join? it seems like its very quiet in this kind of event.

Hey guys, do share any info on new cruising spots here. So far from what I know, we have these in KL: Parks 1. Taman Tasik Permaisuri (Bandar tun Razak) 2. Taman Kelana Jaya 3. Bukit Jalil Park (upcoming?) Swimming Pools 1. Kompleks Renang Bandar Tun Razak 2. Kelana Jaya Municipal Pool 3. Chin Woo Stadium Swimming Pool Malls 1. KL Sentral/Nu Sentral 2. Cheras Sentral Mall (upcoming?) 3. AEON Big Kepong? Gloryholes 1. Putrajaya Presint 6 Public Toilet 2. Gyms 1. CF Sunway? Saunas 1. Otot otot 2. Mandi manda 3. Kakiku Feel free to add to the list!

Testicle Breathing – Why You Should Breathe With Your Balls by Steffo Shambo | Testicle Breathing Testicle Breathing is the subtle art of contracting and lowering the family jewels. It is done in the pursuit of mastering your inner sexual energy. Testicle breathing is also known as Scrotal Compression or Testicular Breathing. It transforms raw sexual energy into higher energy. This energy then nourishes the spine, the nervous system, the brain, and other organs. This practice results in a tremendous increase in the energy of the brain and nervous system. Table of Content Testicle Breathing after 30-days of Non-Ejaculation The Benefits of Testicle Breathing Testicle Breathing Instructions Testicle Breathing Sitting Exercise Testicle Breathing Standing Exercise The Big Draw Technique How To Practice The Big Draw How often Should I Practice Testicle Breathing? When To Practice Testicle Breathing? Testicle Breathing Video Testicle breathing is an easy and effective exercise that trains a man to be sensitive and in tune with the subtle energy within his testicles. Testicle breathing uses the mind and breath to move internal energy via muscle contractions. When a man is unaroused, the energy in the testicles is in the cold Yin state. Testicle breathing guides this cold energy from the testicles up the spine and into the head. Here, it stimulates and activates the pineal and pituitary glands. Dr. Joe Dispenza has researched ancient yogic knowledge. This is what he said about these kinds of exercises: “When we inhale through our nose, and at the same time squeeze our intrinsic muscles, we accelerate the cerebrospinal fluid into the brain. As we follow the movement of energy to the top of our head, then hold our breath and squeeze, we are increasing intrathecal pressure. The increased pressure moves the cerebrospinal fluid from the fourth ventricle through a small canal into the third ventricle (arrows). At the same time, fluid traveling around the cerebellum (arrows) compresses the crystals of the penial gland. The mechanical stress that is applied produces an electrical charge in the penial gland, creating a piezoelectric effect.” Testicle Breathing after 30-days of Non-Ejaculation Men who have not ejaculated in thirty days or more will see quick results from testicle breathing. Men who have not learned to control their ejaculation as yet will not reap as many of the benefits from this exercise. I understand that it can be daunting when first attempting to control your ejaculation. But once you get the hang of it you will see that it’s actually super feasible. Honestly, you’ll even start to enjoy it! This will greatly increase your success in lasting 30 days. You might struggle with ejaculation control, or you might have an addiction to ejaculating frequently. Worse yet, you might suffer from premature ejaculation. It is common in a man’s life at some point, and studies suggest that around one in every three men suffers, or has suffered from premature ejaculation (PE). Having worked with hundreds of men with those issues, I know how devastating it can be. It can greatly affect your confidence, relationships, and vitality in life. Find yourself in the same boat and are committed to working on solving these issues? Book a breakthrough session and let’s see if we’re a match to work together! We can then craft a game plan on how you can master the art of ejaculation control. Please note, this is only for men who are 100% committed to working on overcoming their sexual issues in a short amount of time. If that’s you – find a time, and answer a few questions in the application. The Benefits of Testicle Breathing Energizes the testicles with fresh pranic life-force. Removes stagnant energy in the pelvic floor from sitting too long and wearing tight undergarments. Increased testicular health and general male sexual health. Increased perception of subtle energy in the energy body. Removes sexual frustration, stress, and tension. It helps to control sexual energy by moving it upwards. It rejuvenates the kidneys, prostate, and other organs. Testicle Breathing Instructions The best way to get started is by freeing your testicles. You want them to hang freely and away from tight clothing. So you can either do it naked if you’re in a warm climate or you can wear loose-fitting clothes sans any undergarments. Start breathing in and out through the nostrils. Visualize pranic energy flowing down into the testicles as you inhale and up into the brain as you exhale. Picture the movement along the central channel parallel to the spine. As you inhale, you’re also squeezing on the Mula bandha, the root lock. But this is a gentle squeeze that comes from the mind rather than from physical exertion. While exhaling you release the contraction of the pelvic floor and lower the testicles. This is all done while internalizing with the eyes closed. The best way to practice it is to do it standing, and the second-best is to be sitting down as explained below. Testicle Breathing Sitting Exercise Sit on the very edge of a chair with your testicles and scrotum unsupported. Your weight should be entirely on the buttocks and feet, and not on your perineum Inhale deeply through the nostrils and lift the testicles with your mind and root lock. Visualize energy moving down to the testicles. Exhale and lower the testicles. Visualize how the energy is moving along the central channel up to the brain. Repeat this 9 times and you will start to feel the activation of your sexual energy within the lower body. After 9 rounds, inhale deeply and hold your breath while doing the Big Draw. Visualize you drawing bright white energy upwards. Relax, take a few recovering breaths, and you will notice the effects. That’s one set, now repeat for 3-6 rounds. Testicle Breathing Standing Exercise Stand with feet hip-width apart, knees slightly bent. Shake your hips to loosen the scrotum and let it hang freely. Inhale deeply through the nostril and lift the testicles with your mind and root lock. Visualize energy moving down to the testicles. Exhale and lower the testicles. Visualize how the energy is moving along the central channel up to the brain. Repeat this 9 times and you will start to feel the activation of your sexual energy within the lower body. After 9 rounds take a big inhalation and hold the breath while doing the Big Draw. Visualize you drawing bright white energy upwards. Relax, take a few recovering breaths, and you will notice the effects. That’s one set, now repeat for 3-6 rounds. The Big Draw Technique Known as the Power Lock for men in the Taoist tradition, the Big Draw differs slightly from Tantric circles by way of practice. The idea is to draw aroused sexual energy up to the higher chakras and energy centers of the body. And thereby, transforming sexual energy into spiritual energy – a higher form of Shen. You can use this by yourself or with a partner. How To Practice The Big Draw Begin to contract the root lock, Mula Bandha. Contract the muscles of the anus, Ashwini Mudra. Contract the muscles of the abdomen, Uddiyana bandha. Pull the navel against the spine. Contract the throat lock, with the chin down towards the chest, Jalandhara Bandha. You have now entered the famous Granthis – the three main knots of the human body, which is the key to awaken Kundalini. Press the tongue to the roof of the mouth, i.e. the soft part of the pallet. And lastly, roll your closed eyes up locking towards the third eye, in the middle of the forehead. Practice these movements one at a time until you are able to combine all of this into one swift motion. Start from the bottom and do a wave-like motion from bottom to top, in a repeated manner. This will release a tremendously powerful Kundalini energy shooting into your brain. The most important thing is not to focus on perfecting your movement to 100%. Instead, it’s how you feel and how you experience the energy that matters most. So try playing around with it until you find a way that feels natural. Try not to overly fixate on the different ways this technique is being taught in different teachings. Tantra is an experiential path, and your experience is what matters most. This practice is safe to perform anytime throughout the day. However, please don’t use it together with The Million Dollar Point technique that some teachers would recommend. The MDP can be devastating for your health and sexual functions. How often Should I Practice Testicle Breathing? You may do this practice with rounds of 9 breaths and 1 big draw, for 3-6 sets. It can be done at any time throughout the day, but especially when the energy is stagnated, or you are feeling frustrated. You can practice it while standing in line, on a flight, on the bus, or even while making love! When To Practice Testicle Breathing? You can do it at any time throughout the day, especially when you feel negative feelings of irritation coming up from sitting down at your desk all day. As mentioned above, it’s especially good to do while on a long-haul flight. Because it’s so discrete, you can get up during the flight and stand up in the aisle in order to practice it! No one is ever going to even realize what you’re doing. 🙂 And of course, you can practice testicle breathing when you are making love. Try to do it when you feel you are close to ejaculation. This will help to calm you down and to charge your brain with that powerful sexual energy called Jing Chi in Taoism. Thus it will help you preserve your seed – the youthful elixir stored in your testicles. Testicle Breathing Video Watch this Testicle Breathing instructional video. As I guide you in the practice step-by-step. Now over to you, have you experienced the benefits of testicle breathing? Or do you feel inspired to start practicing after reading this? Share your observations, and how it goes, in the comments below! If you enjoyed this article, then you’ll likely also love reading: Testicle Sunning – Boosting Testosterone by Sunbathing Your Balls

Hi all, I had a wet dream last nite!!!!! I couldnt even remember when was the last time I had a wet dream... and last nite was shiok!!! I woke up with cum all over my boxer shorts, and it was very very wet. I could remember parts of the dream... I was in a public toilet and was at this urinal next to a guy who was wanking his cock off... Then the urinal had one kind of object that helped me to masturbate, and I wasnt masturbating at all.. it was the object that acted like an ass, and I was like fcuking an ass... isnt that cool???? Well, it was good... hopefully I can dream of that again tonite, but it's messy though... Any guys wanna share your wet dreams???

I am currently a 24 year old student who is about to graduate form university soon. I grew up in a traditional chinese family with 2 elder sisters. Being the only son in the family, i would be lying if i told u I did not have any pressure of procreating and carrying on the family line. When i was young, i had many crushes on different girls, throughout kindergarten and primary school. All was well until i entered an all boys secondary school, when i fell for a junior who was one year younger than me. I would just look forward to seeing him during recess and check out what he was doing. The feeling slowly faded away when i entered junior college. I did not take any action to confess to him whatsoever mainly because the circumstance back then did not allow me to do so. In junior college, i would be peeping at those hot guys in school but still, i was not able to bold myself to do anything to show my affections towards them, i felt weird, there was an inexplicable sense of awkward feeling when i knew that i developed liking towards the male species. It was not until university when i had my first girlfriend. I was primarily attracted to her nice personality, she was all i was looking for in a girl and maybe, wife. It took me a long six months before the courtship ended and we took our relationship to the next level. It was official finally after all the crazy chase. However, the honeymoon period was short-lived, our relationship surreptitiously suffocated me over the next 2 months. I was frustrated by her insecurity and i was extremely upset and unhappy. It came to a point when i realised i had to do something about it, so i took the prudent step to initiating the break up. She was devastated after the break up, but i on the other hand, have never felt so relieved in my life. It was the right decision, honestly. Ever since then, i have been trying to explore my sexual orientation and attempting to discover my true identity. I started hanging out at gay saunas and hooking up with guys on jackd and grindr. Last saturday, i met this guy at a local sauna and he asked me out for a drink after the session. I kindly obliged. He is a successful young man with an impressive resume and prospective career. I was however, not attracted to him. During the meet up, he subtly hinted that he wanted take our relationship to the next level. Nonetheless, i was feeling extremely uneasy throughout the whole meet up, wild imaginations ran through my mind. I could not imagine myself to be in a open gay relationship and be judged by others in the society. There was an inner voice telling me that I should not be doing this, this is not the life that i should be living. So over the next few days, i made it clear to him that we were nothing more than friends. Somehow, i had that strong urge to reconciliate and patch things up with my ex girlfriend. I suddenly felt the strong urge of getting a girlfriend and forming a family and settling down. I can't explain the extreme fluctuation in my thinking and perception. It was as if a sudden alarm sounded and woke me up from my subconscious lalaland and i had to get back to reality, as if i was straight once again. Thanks for enduring through my long post. I sincerely hope those with similar experience is able to shed some light and share your views and advice with me. Many thanks in advance!

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Have this new program that is intended to give most of our community a chance to rejuvenate from our lives into retreat in north of Thailand . It will be 3-5 days of mindfulness, meditation and massage in the middle of lush greenery atop high vantage rolling hills of Chiang Mai. This is a chance for those whom are experiencing mental stress , burnout , and recovering from addiction, possibly trauma. Am looking forward to supporting this program with qualified individuals with psychoanalysis, counselling background, sports/ massage therapist, local tourist guide. Once this program have been created we will mostly advertise through dedicated channels , like forums , social media and other exclusive platforms. Our main aim is to promote wellbeing of mind , body and spiritual growth. We as community are stronger when stay together 💪💓.

Situationship: 5 Signs You’re in a Situationship Written by MasterClass Last updated: Nov 8, 2022 • 3 min read A situationship is an undefined romantic relationship between two people. Learn about the pros and cons of this arrangement and some guidelines for getting out of one if you’re unhappy. What Is a Situationship? A situationship is an uncommitted, undefined romantic relationship between two people—meaning that those in this type of relationship have not established what they are to each other. While it may share some similarities with a friends-with-benefits relationship, the two terms do not mean the same thing. A friends-with-benefits relationship is when friends engage in casual sex without taking on the commitment aspect of a relationship. A situationship, on the other hand, lacks a formal label. A situationship can be temporary (like if you just started going on a few dates with someone and it’s too early to place labels on the relationship), or it can sum up the entire relationship. 5 Signs You’re in a Situationship There are several telltale signs that you might be in a situationship, including: 1. You deal with inconsistent behavior. Inconsistency is a common trait of situationships. You don’t know when you’ll see or hear from each other next. 2. You don’t use labels. Situationships lack definition by nature, so you and your partner likely haven’t sat down to discuss whether you want to be in a serious relationship. 3. You have no long-term plans. There is not much progression in situationships, so you may not talk about the future often or at all. 4. You haven’t made it exclusive. Since you haven’t defined the relationship, you and the other person involved might be seeing other people. 5. You lack an emotional connection. In a situationship, you likely don’t have deep discussions. Instead, you may have a more physical- or surface-level connection than an emotional one. Pros of Being in a Situationship Being in a situationship isn’t necessarily bad; it all comes down to personal preference and what a healthy relationship means for you in your current stage of life. Pros of this arrangement include: You can see other people. If you want to see other people, you have the option. You have independence. Since you aren’t in a serious relationship, you only have your own wants, needs, and schedule to consider. You have no commitment. You can have fun with the other person, enjoy their company, and be intimate with no-strings-attached. Cons of Being in a Situationship Situationships come with a few cons, including: You could end up heartbroken. If you develop feelings in a situationship and the other person doesn’t, it can lead to conflict and heartbreak. You deal with ambiguity. Situationships may leave you feeling like you’re in limbo, questioning your relationship status, which is unsettling for some. You lack stability. Since you aren’t in a committed relationship, the other person is not a consistent source of support, and you likely don’t make regular plans with them. How to Get Out of a Situationship If you find yourself in a situationship when you don’t want to be, follow these steps to get out of it: 1. Evaluate your situation. The first step to getting out of a situationship is to understand whether you’re actually in one. You may simply be in the early stages of a new relationship that only requires you to communicate with your partner what you want. 2. Understand why you’re unhappy. If you feel your relationship isn’t progressing the way you want, consider why you’re unhappy. For example, if you have a purely physical situationship, perhaps you want to look for something deeper in the future. Outlining exactly why the situation does not serve you will help you avoid it moving forward. 3. Decide what you want. Determine whether you want to be in a real relationship with the other person and whether you want to date them exclusively. Decide what outcome you want and why, so you can communicate that to your partner. 4. Communicate with the other person. Tell them what you want and how they can meet your needs. Be open and honest with them, and hear what they have to say in response. 5. Move forward. If you end the situationship, move forward confidently and think about how to avoid a similar situation. Now that you understand your needs, you’ll be able to communicate them upfront to potential partners. 6. Talk with a relationship expert. If you find yourself in a pattern of undefined romantic relationships that negatively impact your mental health, consider speaking with an expert or a relationship coach to help you break the cycle. https://www.facebook.com/reel/1189294568423801

Source: Straits Times Sexually assaulted behind bars By K. C. Vijayan THREE prisoners have been charged with physically and sexually assaulting their fellow inmate in a prison cell in Changi Prison earlier this year. The three men, aged between 19 and 21, are accused of punching and kicking the man in his chest and body, some time between April 26 and May 5. All three are also said to have forced him to perform oral sex on them in the cell on several occasions between April 27 and May 5. One of them, Mohammed Zameen Abdul Manoff, 20, also allegedly sodomised him in the cell on April 28.

i like to start a new topic abt how bottoms make preparation to do anal i.e CLEAN HOLE lah .. i only know my way n i wonder if there are any better ways to do it .. my way using me fingers n hose pipe water ready to clean the waste . im quite kiasu n want to make it really clean so i dig deep inside .. ths sometimes cos a bit of temporary pain , thus if not in a rush i will do it halfnhour b4 the top arrives .. by then my muscles are relax n the hole is stretch-ready for anal .. any other ways or styles ? tops can put input also please B)

Help! I have been trying to get rid of a few strands of hair around my nipples- three to be precise, without success. Meticulous shaving almost every other day sees little result. The regrowth is so fast it makes no sense to continue shaviing the same area. Any permanent, and painless, way to get rid of this evil??

There was an incident recently where I had a small skin "sensitivity" near the private areas. I was deciding whether to ignore it or goto see my family doctor. I decided to see a new doctor for treatment. I registered using a christian name and told the registration that I was a foreign talent and thus do not have a NRIC. The good news is that the doctor told me that it was a common "skin reaction" that had nothing to do with sex. A little cream and a review one week later and I was cured. After that incident, I think that it is good that we should know some PLU friendly medical practitioners. a. We are more comfortable when you speak to them about the medical condition and if necessary the real context of how we may have got it. b. They probably know our concerns and can address it more directly. c. Sometimes you may want to bring your partner along who will need to learn how to take care of you. eg post circumcision care Anyone can recommend PLU friendly doctors. Post or PM me. If required, I can keep the information private. Related : Anyone can recommend PLU friendly lawyers and financial counsultants that can provide professional advise.

10 SIGNS THAT A GUY WANTS YOU JUST FOR SEX by NATALIE | Nov 16, 2006 | Emotional Unavailability | 16 comment 1. He tells you. There are a whole lotta lines that guys trot out that equal “I’m just in it for the sex” or that they don’t want a relationship. And a lot of the time, we’ll ignore this because we don’t want to see him or ourselves in this way. When they say that just want to have “fun’ and aren’t looking for a relationship, or they make noises about “going with the flow” and not getting any ideas about a relationship, they’re saying that it’s just about sex (or whatever else they’re getting). What it isn’t about is a relationship. Instead of rationalising and hoping that he will change his mind after the event, don’t and move on. 2. He is sexual towards you. Be wary of guys who steer the conversation down the sexual route very quickly. This is Fast Forwarding, and it’s often ignored and mistaken for a strong attraction and connection. It’s that “He just can’t help himself because he’s so into me” syndrome. Intensity isn’t the same as intimacy. He’s not into you; he’s into the idea of shagging you. Making a lot of sexual innuendos? Steering the conversation onto sex? Staring meaningfully at your breasts and crotch? Yep, it’s highly likely that he’s got one thing on his mind and it’s not getting to know you; it’s getting into your knickers. If you haven’t met him yet, but there’s already sexual talk or even requests for nude photos or sexting, flush. 3. He tries to do more than a kiss on the first date. No matter how great the sparks are between you both, generally speaking, guys that really do like you can keep their penis in their pants and their hands above board for at least one evening… And that’s not because having sex on the first date is “wrong” (it isn’t). It’s about intentions and recognising your discomfort. If you’re wondering if it’s just about sex, odds are that you can stand to wait more than one date to sleep together. 4. He suggests that you become f*ck buddies, Friends With Benefits, casual-something-or-other. It’s not because he’s not ready for a relationship yet; it’s because he just wants to have sex and is emotionally unavailable too. That’s two not so great qualities for the price of…well…your sanity! His mind is on sex and enjoying the fringe benefits of a relationship without the responsibility and commitment of one. 5. He expects something in return for taking you out to dinner and paying for the meal. Some guys think: paid for date = getting laid tonight. They are the worst. Their sense of entitlement means that they treat women like prostitutes. They’re likely to act all wounded if you don’t invite them back or express discomfort at their advances. This type of mentality doesn’t bode well for a relationship, never mind a date! 6. He doesn’t want to try to get to know you. A guy doesn’t need to know what colour knickers you’re wearing in order to get to know you. You’ll also find that a lot of the conversation is surface and that it tends to serve the greater purpose of making you feel comfortable enough… to have sex. 7. He seems to call only when it’s 1) dark, 2) late and 3) to arrange when to have sex. It’s amazing how this can creep up on you. Step back and consider when they call and how much the relationship has progressed (relationships based around sex don’t). Suddenly it will become clear that they’re using you. 8. Your ‘relationship’ hasn’t progressed past buying you drinks/dinner and ending up in bed. It’s a permanent date (or “pop-up romance). Despite what seemed like initial promise, the relationship has faltered or come to a halt because the focal point is the sex. The only thing he’s interested in building on is his hard-on. If you try to do coupley things, he’s likely to be very uncomfortable or will go along with things but create conflict, so he’s effectively sabotaging any chance of progress. Remember that with this type of guy, every time they think you may want, need, or expect too much, they’ll do something crappy. 9. He doesn’t want to do anything that involves talking to each other properly unless it leads to sex. Try having a conversation with him that reeks of two people in a relationship and note his patent discomfort. 10. Once the sex is over, he makes a hasty exit. While some will stick around and dignify you with a cuddle, many don’t like to stay the night lest you think things are getting serious. The ones that do stay over and hang around are astute enough to play the game to avoid creating conflict, but that doesn’t change the fact that they just want sex. A rule of thumb is that if you feel as if you’re being used, it’s because you are. And if it feels like it’s all about the sex or sex seems to dominate or you have to be reassured that it’s not just about the sex, it’s because it’s all about the sex!

There are real-life stories for you to read on the blog: "I Will Survive: Personal gay, lesbian, bisexual & transgender stories in Singapore"You can also read the full version of all the stories here in the e-book. And the book review HERE.

If you have a big cock, you are in for a good time at nude night in our saunas. Yes, size does matter a lot when come to sauna's nude night. Ask anyone who had been to nude night, he will swear that everyone will be going for the guy with the big tool hanging there. It does not matter whether he is a bottom or top but what matters is big! Rightly you will expect a big tool will be top, but many times you will be disappointed as the numbers of bottoms in the gay community far out-numbered the tops. Good tops are hard to find, least one with a size which immensely increases your pleasure both physical and aesthetically. One Seven had been a nudist heaven on Friday for a long time. The turnout is better and the choice is more. Having it on every Friday is a better choice than Towel Club once a month FMP, for the wait is far too long and most of the time the date is not right as the next day is a working day. Perhaps this is really the season to be jolly, the turnout on last Friday (22 Dec) was good. Perhaps many were on long leave and the season of joys is on the air. There were visibly more tourists too. What makes nude night more popular than the other is that there is more actions and the hit up rate is higher than those towel nights. When a guy decides to go for a nude night sub-consciously he is ready for action otherwise he would not be standing naked there. Those who are not sure and pretentious will not be there in the first place. I like OS nude night especially there double nude on every 17th of the month. It is very relaxing and free when the whole spa is nude. It reminds me of the days of Rairua, lying on the deck chair under the moonlight hugging someone with an erected dick. It is just pure erotic and sensual with the another hot body on top of you and the soft music will guide you in..(a smooth entry...) In contrast OS is wild and fetish. I have seen guys walking around in all sort of cock rings, PA and leather gears. OS was meant to be fetish when they renovated the place. You still see some of the fetish installment there like window in the doors for people to peep in, SM bench, chains and jail setup. I heard that fistees were playing before in the old OS because a sling room was availble. Now there are no more sling around after both of them were damaged by heavy use. It used to be a gangbang when ever one hanged himself on the sling at the jail area. One just need to hang himself on the sling, others will take the cue and bang on him. Last Friday was an eye opener, a guy tied himself up on the sm cross bench and was blindfolded awaiting for his master to serve him. Not before long a muscular guy came and the wait was over. Obviously the guy was an experienced dom in sm. He played his tits and put the cloth pegs on his tits making him moaned with pain and pleasure. Having aroused the slave the master when on to played with his cock, hitting the balls sending the slave to another round of ecstasy. Seeing the slave is ready, the master went over to examine the butt, whipping both moons with his palm to prepare for the next play. He pinched open the ass, peeped into the hungry juicy hole. He climbed over the bench, knelt over the hole and with one sharp swift push, banged his rock hard tool into the hole. Others were holding their breath and many already had a hard on at the side. The slave screamed and his voice only added pleasure and heat to the master and those watching at the side. It was one of those real life action that I had decided to document here for your reading pleasure. OS - 22 Dec 2006 Friday.

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Hi just wanna rant. So i like my best straight friend. He knows it too and despite of that, we are still friends. I got a boyfriend now, who is really great, and he got a girlfriend too. But at times, i still fraternize about him and we still talked and he still wished me for the best for my partner and i but i feel a little torn. So hard. I think i will just live on with it and have him as close to me as possible (well, after all, he did tell me he will never live me in that way as he is straight) but does that means being unfair to my boyfriend? Arh! Conflicted. To add on, i don't really find my man physically attractive, he is cute, a great and fabulous man who have been by my side through my high and low, and i really am so grateful to have him in my life, but sex wise..... I tend to look for others behind his back >< i have been trying to be more exclusive, but it's hard. We have an age gap too, but arh i don't know! Thanks for hearing me rant.