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  1. Hi, 1. This thread is for users who are encountering problems with accessing Blowing Wind forum normally. You can ask questions on forum features or report technical problems here. Before posting, you may find it useful and often faster to go through the FAQ and help section. If you don't find your answer then, you are welcome to start a new reply here, I will get back to you as soon as I can. Help - http://www.blowingwind.org/forum/index.php?app=core&module=helpFAQ - http://www.blowingwind.org/forum/index.php?showtopic=67 2. This thread is strictly for technical issues pertaining to the forum. You should post your complaints and non-technical queries to the respective moderators. 3. I will be housekeeping this thread regularly to remove any non-related posts. Best regards, Bern
  2. Time Should I waste my time on you who i can't control Should i waste my time on things that is of my beyond Can't we see the time that went tick tock Is this the right time or is it not? They say time flows like a stream To a land where there are many dreams But you told me you did like to be a place full of surprises and supremes There are no other choices but this is the way its seems. I do not know what to say The world is so full of grey You say I am imperfect and this I know Yet I still think you are gold I may be kind and silly but it’s not fine. Your avoidant ways clearly shows through time Time will reveal who you are And you can really be a pain in the arse Letting you go should keep you afar As there is nothing left to be my fuss Finally I can get on my path. E.T. 13.01.2019
  3. I originally posted this on another forum, perhaps should start only on this topic. i am one of the cis gender guys how love eating my own cum. I do this for 2 reason one is for sexual pleasure, and second mental health benefit. I conduct a experiment on my own when for 2 weeks I did eat my own cum and track what is doing to me. Outside the enjoying the flavor and experience, I found that my mood was elevated and I felt good and receptive to world around me. The days I did not eat it, I did notice how easy I was getting agitated. I find this act to be beneficial for me! I am interested in doing more experiments. I am welcoming any suggestions. If you have not tired, it is worth trying it.
  4. hi all, just hope all can share your experience on your first time.. got mine during my ns... got it from my buddy... painful but song... now addicted must have it once a week if not more...
  5. Open Relationships: What People Don’t Want You To Know 17th Oct 2013 While my “Common Relationship Mistakes Gay Men Make” can be both controversial and loved, allot of people have problems with the whole “Open relationships are a mistake thing.” Allot of opinions have arisen from simply assuming I was telling you to NOT be in an open relationship. That’s not the case at all. However, I was telling you that open relationships can be excuses to not work on your relationship or just a reason to fuck around. And as I read all of your comments good and bad, I have to say I call bullshit on some. Allot of gays try to copy and re-enact my “mistakes” (unsuccessfully might I add) but most opinions are more complicated than mines. And yes, I said opinions. These are my opinions. But the difference between a human sexuality lesson, an angry gay who shoots down any advice, and life experiences is that the latter is a huge part of who we are as people. We did not learn about sex from Phys. Ed. We learned it from life experiences both personally and what we’ve observed. I’ve seen many open relationships in my lifetime and I can say first hand that my first “mistake” is truly a real one. Many gays don’t like to say it, but they do get into an open relationship because they make too many excuses. They don’t like to think they make mistakes so they use defense mechanisms. But the truth is, open relationships while they aren’t always a bad thing, they can be detrimental. What I’ve seen in most of my friendships with couples who mostly have open relationships is: lack of respect towards one another, a flame gone out, a inability to get out of that Peter Pan syndrome and trying to fix something that’s already broken. A reader informed me today that there are “studies” that open relationships DO work. Well of course they do! You get to have a meaningful relationship and then sleep around. Sounds like a win win situation if I ever saw any. But how about we take the hand away that covers the sky and get to the facts: STD’s are easily spread through open relationships, and if there is a “you do you but don’t tell me about it” that many open relationships employ, then you have a very real chance of contracting a disease whether you agree or not. Open relationships always seem to be a sweet spot for many people LGBT and straight because you can have your cake and eat it too. There is this notion that open relationships are extremely healthy and you can lead a normal life and be just fine doing it. Most of these opinions come from Metropolitan gays who either populate Chelsea, San Fran or any other heavily populated gay areas. They have tons of men at their disposal especially with all these apps and websites. So you tell me. It might just seem like being in an open relationship is pretty new normal to you too right? But what about gay men who don’t have tons of bars and clubs in handy? What happens when they want to be in an open relationship and they can only find a handful of men in their area? Is it the same “study” as the one a reader mentioned previously? You see certain gay men go by the “there is no right and wrong and your words don’t mean shit” method. They are threatened by the truth and by the very foundation of what an open relationship means. While exploring your sexuality and doing whatever you want is fine including an open relationship, it just seems like the typical scapegoat answers to prove a point. It’s just like when a Christian goes to the bible to use a verse to back their own special point of view. Open relationships are fine. You can have multiple partners and if your boyfriend or husband is fine with it, go for it. But common sense really needs to kick in or I’d be happy to get jumper cables for your brain. Every open relationship I know has by tradition become meaningless and existential. It is as much of a fad as MC Hammer pants. Its always a good idea when you think about it, not a good one when you actually do it. Let’s have some examples. Your boyfriend comes home to surprise you with dinner and some alone time but you’re fucking a stranger or your usual go to fuck buddy. In a porn mentality it just seems like a dream come true. But think about it. You are fucking a person you don’t know versus the person you love who wants to spend time with you. You start to lose respect for what matters. You start to lose the fact that you really love your boyfriend’s body even if time has passed. You are saying that your boyfriend is no longer sexy enough to look at every night. That monogamy is only for boring people. That having another person in your bed fulfills your relationship when in fact it only satisfies what you want. There are even times when even though you’ve both agreed to having an open relationship one feels left out or afraid to say “I don’t want you to have sex with that guy tonight.” The addiction to knowing you can have anybody you want can feed your ego and it can make you forget how your partner is feeling. But let’s look at it from another angle. 5 years have passed and it seems like an open relationship is a perfect idea. All is going well and it has not at all disrupted the way you look at your lives. But what happens when you age and those club boys don’t want you anymore? What happens when you’ve slept with the whole tri-state area and you need to travel out to fuck more people? Is this a healthy relationship or are you fueling a sexual addiction? You really have to think about all these things. When will you say “I’m done with fucking other people I just want you.” What happens? Will your partner feel comfortable with that? Will he feel like going back to “normal” is okay or will he eventually leave you for someone more adventurous? Will you leave him for someone more adventurous? Anything you do that involves risky behavior has consequences. And there is a very real opportunity to fall in love with someone else, spend more time with other men, or really devalue the worth of who you’re with at the moment. It means its okay for you to randomly flirt and get to know other men without that attachment but we’re human and what if you find someone better, cuter, smarter, funnier? Than you’re basically saying to your partner “Be good to me or you might just get replaced.” From my very real observations with friends in the gay community who have been in open relationship or are currently in one, the following has happened: Estrangement: A very weird distance between the couple. They seem to be in love on the outside but something is always brewing on the inside. Random guys will come to their house and they’ve seemed to compete for their attention or they secretly get super jealous but still allow it to happen. This awkwardness stems from so much open trust that you lose control of what’s happening and it just down spirals. You don’t know where he is what he’s doing, but you can’t ask him either because if he says something you don’t like you have to go with it. Social Status & Money: Some friends that are in open relationships always complain about one another when the other is not around. They seem to always say that the other can be replaced whether it be money issues or friendships. There is a total lack of respect and a lack of responsibility. The couple starts to experience this emotional detachment. They start to be void and empty and shallow and have excuses they think seem valid. Friends Or Fuck Buddies: Once the couple is knee deep in the open relationship they can’t differentiate whether they can keep a friend or not. They seem to only stick to people who are either unattractive or totally brother material as friends. Any other friend is possibly a target to fuck. The class goes out the window and its a free pass to suck the dick of that hot friend you’ve always borderline flirted with before. It just seems like the world is a personal playground and friendships aren’t options anymore until you’ve fucked the friend and then you don’t want to be around him anymore. Awkward Moments: As I mentioned before, I’ve had friends who have asked me to the bar or club with them because their boyfriend was hosting a fuck buddy at home. They then tell me how this is annoying and how this cannot go on. They tell me they’ve found dirty underwear, empty condom wrappers, dirty sheets and missing money. What really happens is that while you may think you have control of something has now spiraled into no man’s land, or ALL MAN’S LAND. Arguments A Plenty: When the friends I knew had open relationships, they seemed to always have something to fight about. It just seemed deeper and angrier than other arguments. They start throwing all this dirt and one finds out the partner slept with close friends and the other partner feels betrayed. They can’t look at the other partner in the eye and not be disgusted. But the problem is they call certain things cheating and other things NOT cheating so its plenty to get a headache about. Now understand that all relationships are different but I guarantee EVERY open relationship will run through these problems because they are inevitable. I am all about having fun and doing what you want, but when it comes to the sake of analyzing this topic, all arrows point towards a Pandora’s Box. Some gay men may never face problems but that’s hard to believe. Some may have clever ways of dealing with it and saying they’ve never been through what I just mentioned (defense mechanism). But I guarantee, everything I said here will be scrutinized because the truth is the truth. But I rather tell you what other people don’t so you can see what other people know and don’t ever say. You might also want to read about : 7 Break-Up Mistakes Gay Men Make Common Relationship Mistakes Gay Men Make Common Relationship Mistakes Emotionally Unavailable Gay Men Make
  6. I often lose my erection when I put on a condom. If I take out the condom I have no erection problem. Anyone have these problem or advise? Thanks.
  7. Any help on the hair loss? I dun like the hair loss centres which charge sky high.
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  9. Those who need encouragement... motivation...need advice...etc... Open to anything...chat...mingle...share..meet...repeat... If keen, pm. 🥂
  10. I know if I write this reply you are probably going to think I am reactive but I am hoping you started this thread with an intention to draw discussion on this taboo topic and increase the awareness of gay rape. I have spoken to some gay men who have been raped or sexually violated before and it is painful and devastating for them. Most gay men do not realise that being raped or molested can happen to them, just like it can happen to women. And it is nothing like gay pxxn and definitely not exciting at all. Gay rapes are always under reported (or probably not reported in Singapore) because not only it is hard to admit you are a victim, but people tend to think being a male, you are physically more capable of protecting yourself. Or most people do not realise that rapists do not need to be a stranger, it could be your boyfriend or someone you are dating who force you to do something against your will.
  11. The one thing to learn, in life, is not to take things personally. When we can hold and take full responsibility of our actions, thoughts and words, life becomes healthy with the flow of our mental, emotional, physical and spiritual minds. The biggest happiness to our souls is to stop blaming others when things do not turn out right by us. There is an inspirational quote from The Four Agreements - Jill Conyers and one of the agreements says:
  12. So i met this Vietnamese guy almost a year ago and we became FWB and it wasnt until December that i realised i liked him (i got angry at him when he jokingly said he met someone else besides me). We kinda had a fight after that and we didnt meet for like a month-til he came back on grindr to apologise. Ever since that incident i realised we became more close- sometimes after meeting up we would cuddle or just lay in his bed talking about random topics n he even asked me to eat with him once. Tbh i wasnt sure i liked him until he went back to Vietnam for CNY n i missed him like shit. Fast forward to now, we got a matching necklace. The problem now is that im not sure hes liking me back? There was a few instances that makes me think like: 1)At one point i told him jokingly that only my bf can f*ck me n he said then the only way is that he became my bf (or sth like that) 2) i jokingly asked him again (heh) that i feel attached to him n he replied with "i think you already know how i feel about you" which made me blush like shiit. Then just last week i told him about my ex texting me to meet again n he told me to go meet him if i want. ???? Any experts mind reading this lengthy post to evaluate? How should i respond? What should i do to further the rs??
  13. i like to start a new topic abt how bottoms make preparation to do anal i.e CLEAN HOLE lah .. i only know my way n i wonder if there are any better ways to do it .. my way using me fingers n hose pipe water ready to clean the waste . im quite kiasu n want to make it really clean so i dig deep inside .. ths sometimes cos a bit of temporary pain , thus if not in a rush i will do it halfnhour b4 the top arrives .. by then my muscles are relax n the hole is stretch-ready for anal .. any other ways or styles ? tops can put input also please B)
  14. Would you put your phone on urinal during peeing? (Provided have space for you to do so)
  15. Hey guys, do share any info on new cruising spots here. So far from what I know, we have these in KL: Parks 1. Taman Tasik Permaisuri (Bandar tun Razak) 2. Taman Kelana Jaya 3. Bukit Jalil Park (upcoming?) Swimming Pools 1. Kompleks Renang Bandar Tun Razak 2. Kelana Jaya Municipal Pool 3. Chin Woo Stadium Swimming Pool Malls 1. KL Sentral/Nu Sentral 2. Cheras Sentral Mall (upcoming?) 3. AEON Big Kepong? Gloryholes 1. Putrajaya Presint 6 Public Toilet 2. Gyms 1. CF Sunway? Saunas 1. Otot otot 2. Mandi manda 3. Kakiku Feel free to add to the list!
  16. Sometimes the sauna not many people, very sian. Then suddenly you hear the backside banging noise and a man moaning. Really make you beh tahan. Some of us will stand outside listen. Feel like force open the door and watch the man get fxxked. Only twice got so lucky. They purposely left the door half open. Watched until I all steam. But not always so lucky. No choice but to wait see them come out because we want to see who fxxked and who get fxxked. The one get fxxked sure very shy especially when he looked like a married uncle. Make him look malu also quite fun. So big already still shy like ku niang. You all also like to do that or not?
  17. A list of non-comprehensive helplines in Singapore: General Samaritans of Singapore (SOS): For anybody in crisis and persons with suicidal tendencies. Tel: 1800-221 4444 Opening Hours: 24 hours Oogachaga Hotline: Helpline for gay, bisexual, and transgendered men on sexuality and relationship matters, as well as advice and resources on safer sex and HIV/STI related issues. Tel: 6226 2002Opening Hours: Tuesdays - Thursdays: 7pm - 10pm and Saturdays: 2pm - 6pm (except on public holidays) Oogachaga is an anonymous hotline manned by LGBT professionals and all calls are strictly confidential. Our volunteers are trained to listen to you. You can also go to our website to find out more about us. Oogachaga email counselling at http://www.oogachaga.com/care Family Centre for Promoting Alternatives to Violence (PAVe): For families facing violence in need of counselling and support servicesTel: 6555 0390 Opening Hours: Mon to Fri: 9am – 6pm and Wed: 9am – 9.30pm Child Protection and Welfare Services (MCYS): Reporting of Child AbuseTel: 1800-258 6378 / 1800-7770000Opening Hours: Mon–Fri 8.30am – 5pm and Sat 8.30am – 1pm Elderly SAGE Helpline for Seniors: For anyone 50 years and above or anyone who has a concern or question regarding someone 50 years and aboveTel: 1800-555 5555 Opening Hours: Mon to Fri: 9am – 7pm and Sat: 9am – 1pm Lions Befrienders: Information, referral and befriender services for the elderly. Tel: 1800-375 8600 Opening Hours: Mon to Fri: 9am – 6pm Health & Disability Singapore Association for Mental Health (SAMH) Helpline: For people who have psychological, psychiatric or social problems and others who need information for such persons Tel: 1800-283 7019 Opening Hours: Mon-Fri: 9am – 6pm Action for AIDS Helpline: For those enquiring information and counselling services on all aspects of AIDSTel: 6254 0212 Opening Hours: Mon-Fri: 10am – 5.30pm Singapore Cancer Society: For those needing information related to cancerTel: 6221 9578 Opening Hours: Mon-Fri: 8.30am – 6pm Centre For Enabled Living (CEL): First-stop centre for users of eldercare and disability services, and their caregivers.Tel: 1800-8585 885 Opening Hours: Mon-Fri: 8.30am – 6pm and Saturday: 8:30am – 12:30pm (except on public holidays) Financial Assistance Comcare Hotline: Connect with Family Service Centres or other helping agency Tel: 1800-222 0000Opening Hours: 24 hours Credit Counselling: For consumers seeking help for serious debt problems.Tel: 1800-CALL-CCS (1800-2255 227) Opening Hours: Monday - Friday: 9am – 6pm More Information: http://www.ccs.org.sg/link.php Legal Aid Legal Aid Bureau: For low-income persons requiring legal assistance Tel: 1800-325 1424 Opening Hours: Mon-Fri: 8.30am – 12.30pm, 2.00pm – 5.00pm and Sat: 8.30am – 12.30pm Singapore Association of Women Lawyers: For members of public requiring free legal counselling. Appointments must be made directly with the community centres where the legal clinics are conducted.Tel: 6334 6809 Opening Hours: Mon-Sun: 9.00am – 8.00pm except public holidays Safra: By appointment and for SAFRA members only. Tel: 6377 9880 Opening Hours: Every 2nd Thursday of the month, 7pm to 9pm Community Centre: By appointment only. Please call your nearest Community Centre (www.pa.gov.sg) for information. More Information: http://legalclinics.sg/ Addiction / Substance Abuse Alcoholics Anonymous: For those who are alcohol-dependent and their families Tel: 6475 0890 Opening Hours: 24 hours National Addictions Management Service (NAMS): For individuals with various addictions, including substance behavioral addictionsTel: 6-RECOVER (6-7326837) Opening Hours: Monday – Thursday: 8.30am – 6.00pm, Friday: 8.30am – 5.30pm, Saturday: 8.30am – 12.30pm Singapore Anti-Narcotics Association (SANA): For drug-abusers, their families and the general publicTel: 1800-733 444 Opening Hours: Monday – Friday: 8.30am – 6pm WE CARE Centre: For individuals and families who need help with addictions Tel: 6471 5346 Opening Hours: Mon – Fri: 8.30am – 9.00pm and Sat: 10.00am – 8.00pm Gambling National Addictions Management Service (NAMS), Institute of Mental Health (IMH): For those with a gambling problem or know someone who does Tel: 1800-X-GAMBLE (1800-9 426253) / 1800-6-668-668 Opening Hours: Mon to Fri: 8.30am – 6.00pm ================= APPLY FOR CASINO EXCLUSIONS Self Exclusion: http://ces.ncpg.org....t&access=publicSelf Exclusion (Foreigners): http://www.knowtheli..._Foreigners.pdfFamily Exclusion: Call 1800-6-668-668 LEGAL & FINANCIAL ADVISORY SERVICES: The following FSCs have trained counsellors on hand to provide basic legal and financial advisory services for those facing problems such as financial difficulties, marriage issues and property related issues. Ang Mo Kio Family Service CentresAng Mo Kio Branch: Blk 230 Ang Mo Kio Ave 3 #01-1264 S(560230) Tel: 6453 5349Cheng San Branch: Blk 445 Ang Mo Kio Ave 10 #01-1627 S(560445) Tel : 6454 6678Sengkang Branch: Blk 223D Compassvale Walk #01-673 S(544223) Tel : 6312 8100 Hougang Sheng Hong Family Service CentreBlk 237 Hougang St 21, #01-406, S(530237) Tel: 6289 5022 Thye Hua Kwan Problem Gambling Recovery Centre133 New Bridge Road, Chinatown Point, #04-05 S(059413) Tel: 65382406 ================= Here are some other helplines that you want to call if you wish to talk to someone about your feelings. Other Helpline (Straight) > Samaritans of Singapore (a 24 hr suicide prevention hotline) 1800-221 4444 > SAGE Helpline (For elderly people over 50 years old and care-givers of the elderly) 1800-555-5555 (9:00am - 5:00pm Mon-Fri and 9:00am - 1:00pm Sat) >Care Corner Family Service Centre 1800-222-0000/1800-353-5800 (Chinese Speaking) > Singapore Association for Mental Health Hotline 1800-283-7019 > Family Service Centres 1800-838-0100 > Touchline (Touch Youth Service) 1800-377-2252 ================= Sexual Health Sexual Health Counselors at DSC If you need to talk to someone about sexual health, our friendly counselors are always ready to assist and they are reachable, call DSC Clinic 1800 252 1324. To visit DSC for a testing or screening, simply call our appointment hotline at 6293 9648. More info at DSC Website. ================= Last update : 28th April 2013
  18. It's comforting to know that even the royalities face the same problems as us. What a reassurance ! artile from 2/Jan's Nytimes (New york times) http://www.latimes.com/news/printedition/f...lines-frontpage Vadodara, India — AS a maharajah's son, Manvendra Singh Gohil grew up in a bubble of prestige and privilege, surrounded by hangers-on who treated him so reverentially that he was 15 before he crossed a street by himself. So the public snubs and rejection of the last nine months have been a new experience. Yet the mild-mannered Gohil couldn't be more content. At last, he says, he is living an honest life — albeit one that has touched off a scandal in the royal house of Rajpipla, one of India's former princely states. Last March, he revealed a lifelong secret to a local newspaper, which promptly splashed it on the front page. "The headline was: 'The Prince of Rajpipla Declares That He's a Homosexual,' " Gohil said with a rueful chuckle. "The newspaper sold like hotcakes." In the uproar that followed, disgusted residents in Gohil's hometown flung his photograph onto a bonfire. His parents publicly disowned their only son, printing notices in the press that he was cut off as heir because of his involvement in "activities unacceptable to society." Gohil's mother has threatened contempt proceedings against anyone who refers to him as her son. For scandal-mongers, the tale of India's gay prince is an irresistibly juicy affair full of details worthy of a tabloid tell-all: his teenage affair with a servant boy, a sexless marriage to a minor princess, a nervous breakdown. For Gohil, his very public unmasking has brought him a bully pulpit from which to speak out against a law that makes him not just a pariah of noble birth but also a common criminal. Here in the world's largest democracy, home to 1.1 billion people, sex between two people of the same gender remains a punishable offense. Decades after India threw off the yoke of British rule, the country still clings to a Victorian-era statute established by its colonial masters nearly 150 years ago, which demands up to life in prison for anyone committing "carnal intercourse against the order of nature." In practice, few prosecutions are brought to court. But reports abound of police using the law to harass and blackmail gay men and lesbians. Human rights advocates, lawyers groups and the government's AIDS coordinator are lobbying for repeal or revision of the law. In September, dozens of Indian luminaries, including Nobel Prize-winning economist Amartya Sen and author Vikram Seth, added their voices to the campaign. Activists are guardedly hopeful about the chances of a legal challenge now pending before the Delhi High Court. A hearing is scheduled for this month. But even should they succeed, changing attitudes will prove a far harder task. Despite India's high-tech wizardry and its rising affluence, this remains a highly conservative and conformist society where most young people undergo arranged marriages, the pressure to produce children is enormous and no gay role models or TV shows like "Will & Grace" exist to offer a hint of an alternative. Those who feel different learn to keep it to themselves — and to feel guilt-stricken about it. "It's not uncommon among the young people we work with to ask, 'Is there a medicine that can make me stop feeling this way?' " said Anjali Gopalan of the Naz Foundation, an AIDS organization that has taken a leading role in the fight to decriminalize homosexuality. "The law compounds all of this. It creates an environment for people to feel like this." The criminalization of homosexuality makes it difficult to set up social venues where gays can meet. Even in the nation's capital, New Delhi, a thriving metropolis of 15 million people, there are only two bars that host furtive, word-of-mouth gay nights just once a week, usually under the protective guise of a "private party" for some fictitious person. Those nights are packed. * GOHIL, 41, would seem an unlikely spokesman for bucking the system, one from which he has benefited handsomely. Although India's royal families were stripped of formal political power after the nation's independence in 1947, many retain enormous wealth and influence in their former fiefdoms, as smiling ribbon-cutters and patrons of the arts, education and charitable work. Gohil's parents, the maharajah and maharani of Rajpipla, a predominantly agricultural town of about 70,000 people in the western state of Gujarat, are the community's biggest landowners and have several palaces to their name, including a majestic, salmon-pink creation, complete with columns and balconies, that was Gohil's home when he was a toddler. (It's now a hotel owned by the family.) He lived a cocooned existence there and at the family residence in Mumbai, spending his childhood absorbing the finer points of royal protocol and etiquette, attending the finest schools and being waited on hand and foot. "It was so luxurious that even a glass of water I didn't have to go and get for myself," he said. By age 12, Gohil had already been invited to be guest of honor at a local school event. Around the same time, he began sensing that something besides his aristocratic background set him apart from his peers. "Somewhere inside me I felt I was different than others," he said in an interview at his office here in Vadodara, about 1 1/2 hours from Rajpipla. "When I came to the age where you develop sexual attraction to the opposite sex, I had the feeling that I'm not attracted to the opposite sex but the same sex." In India, talk of such intimate matters is taboo. At school, sex education for Gohil consisted of an embarrassed teacher telling her students about the sexual development of animals as a stand-in for human sexuality. Gohil's first clue to his own identity came from a classmate when he was 14. "A boy from my class, out of observation or what, one day came and asked me, 'Are you a homo?' I had not heard this word before. I said, 'What? I don't know,' " Gohil recalled. "I went home and looked it up in the dictionary, and it wasn't there." He didn't have the words to describe his impulses, but as a young teen he found a way to act on them at home with a servant boy his own age, an orphan whom Gohil's grandmother had taken under her wing. The two boys maintained a secret relationship until they were about 18, Gohil said. * AFTER his graduation from university, the pressure on Gohil to marry mounted as his parents expected their only son to carry on the Rajpipla line and assume his duties as custodian of the family's royal heritage, which stretches back 600 years. A suitable wife could manage the household, making sure that the heirlooms, the china and the sumptuous royal costumes were kept up to snuff. Gohil's father, the maharajah, and his mother, from a royal family in Rajasthan, scouted out potential mates, settling on a princess from the state of Madhya Pradesh. Gohil, then 25, agreed to the match, which quickly turned out to be a disaster. He felt no physical attraction for his wife and could not consummate their marriage. Her efforts to seduce him ended in tears. She even dragged Gohil to a doctor, but after 15 humiliating months of their being together yet not together, divorce became the only way out. As she left, his ex-wife gave Gohil one piece of advice: Never do this to another woman. But it took years for Gohil to summon the nerve to contact a well-known gay activist in Mumbai, formerly Bombay. Slowly, the young royal began tiptoeing out of the closet, deepening his involvement in the gay community and becoming an HIV counselor to other homosexual men. "My parents thought I was in yoga school, but I would be out distributing condoms," he said. Nonetheless, the increasing strain of pretending took its toll. His parents were on the hunt for a second wife, and residents in Rajpipla constantly asked Gohil whether he came bearing "good news" whenever he visited from Mumbai, unaware of the activities and friendships he was pursuing. In 2002, Gohil suffered a nervous breakdown, spending 15 days in the hospital. At the end of it, his sympathetic psychiatrist arranged for his parents, his sister and her husband to come for a family meeting during which, at Gohil's request, the doctor informed the family of his sexual orientation. "It was very, very emotional, very disturbing," he said. "They were all crying. They were still not willing to believe that this thing was true." Since then, Gohil has thrown himself into HIV/AIDS work through the Lakshya Trust, an organization he founded in 2000. It was partly to raise the profile of the group that Gohil decided to come out publicly. His straight friends were shocked to find out he was gay. His gay friends were shocked to find out he'd been married. For his parents, it was the last straw. He is no longer on speaking terms with his mother. His father, despite disinheriting him, has softened slightly, declaring in a newspaper interview that he had felt pressured by friends and relatives into taking such a drastic step and describing Gohil as "a gifted individual" and "a good son." The two men still speak occasionally, but their conversations are awkward. Gohil believes that his parents cannot legally prevent ancestral possessions from passing into his hands. Geeta Luthra, a leading civil lawyer in New Delhi, agrees. "If it's ancestral property, then in India … nobody can disinherit you," she said. "Custom is a part of the law in India, and the custom among princely families is the principle of primogeniture. So you can't deprive him" of his inheritance. Despite the controversy surrounding his coming-out, Gohil has continued to receive invitations to attend functions in his royal capacity. During the recent interview, Gohil happily showed off a photo of himself in traditional regalia: an elegant ivory suit on his slender frame, a large red turban complete with ostrich feather on his head, a double strand of pearls around his neck and a broad smile on his face, though whether it was out of the general Indian love of pageantry or a personal sense of fabulousness is hard to tell. * AN introvert by nature, Gohil enjoys nothing more than quiet time on his farm on the outskirts of Rajpipla, where he cultivates a passion for organic farming — his primary source of income — and practices the harmonium. He says he has "no regrets at all" over his decisions or the very public consequences that followed. Rather, he has finally been able to put on a little weight, offers for dates have started coming in and the Lakshya Trust just won an award from the United Nations. Representatives of the media keep calling, and a cheerful, newly liberated Gohil appears to enjoy telling his story. To those in Rajpipla who might still harbor reservations about their patron-in-waiting, he waves an indifferent hand. "They cannot get a prince on hire. I am the prince, and whether I am gay or not gay is hardly the issue," Gohil said. "I'm the only son — there are no cousins or brothers they can go to. They have to come back to me." * -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- henry.chu@latimes.com
  19. Hi just wanna rant. So i like my best straight friend. He knows it too and despite of that, we are still friends. I got a boyfriend now, who is really great, and he got a girlfriend too. But at times, i still fraternize about him and we still talked and he still wished me for the best for my partner and i but i feel a little torn. So hard. I think i will just live on with it and have him as close to me as possible (well, after all, he did tell me he will never live me in that way as he is straight) but does that means being unfair to my boyfriend? Arh! Conflicted. To add on, i don't really find my man physically attractive, he is cute, a great and fabulous man who have been by my side through my high and low, and i really am so grateful to have him in my life, but sex wise..... I tend to look for others behind his back >< i have been trying to be more exclusive, but it's hard. We have an age gap too, but arh i don't know! Thanks for hearing me rant.
  20. Dear All: We are proud to partner with Oogachaga to publicize their newest website, Precious SG via our community banner. https://www.sgprecious.life/ It's a one-stop information portal for mature LGBTQ+ people age 50 & above, especially gay & bisexual men, & other men who have sex with men, to find out more about HIV, and lots of useful tips on living with HIV as an older person. It's specially developed for people living with HIV (PLHIV) who are older gay & bisexual men, & also transgender people. The resources are currently in English & Chinese, & there are plans to translate into Malay & Tamil. (should you know of anyone that can help with the Malay/ Tamil translation, do reach out to them.) Oogachaga mentioned that it's the only online resource of its kind in Singapore! Oogachaga is a community-based, non-profit professional organization working with lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, questioning, queer & gender-diverse (LGBTQ+) individuals, couples & families in Singapore since 1999. You can contact them at: · CARE Email counselling: https://oogachaga.com/email-counselling · WhatsApp counselling: 8592-0609 (Sat: 2pm - 5pm, Tue - Thu: 7pm - 10pm) · Professional counselling: counselling@oogachaga.com However, if you need to talk to someone urgently because you're in emotional crisis, feeling suicidal or affected by suicide, please consider: · Samaritans of Singapore (SOS) 24hr suicide prevention hotline: 1-767 (1-SOS)
  21. Organized religions and other homophobic justify their condemnation of gays with the false idea that we cannot reproduce. One reads about the difficulties and costs for same-sex couples trying to find surrogates and / or adopt born children. But the reality is that we can procreate perfectly well. We gays can ejaculate, and lesbians can be fertilized and conceive. I can foresee a lot of disagreement, but I believe that every gay is able to impregnate a woman. No, I don't like pussies, but this dislike is such a small obstacle in the magnitude of this issue. Every day more women, many very beautiful, desire and choose to become single parent mothers. Often this is the result of failed relationships, tiredness of putting up with inconsiderate men whose only attraction is having a cock. These women want to have children, and they want to seek this opportunity during the window of their fertility. Why shouldn't such a woman be happy to find a handsome gay man who will give them the baby they want and then continue being a good father to the child? Why not marry a gay man who will also be a good provider to his family? A motivated woman can become so loving that she can make even a stone ejaculate 😄. And what is wrong with the gay man living with his wife, the mother of his child, who can be caring and a good company even if there is no sex? I speak from personal experience. I married at 35 y.o. and had my child, my son at 37. We had a normal family for 13 years until we separated for incompatibilities that were not sexual. She remarried, and I remained single until I started a relationship with my bf that lasted 21 years. Now 40 years after I married I am happy that I did, that I started the life of a great son and by extension the life of my three grandchildren. Hopefully I will never need a dollar from them, I am totally pleased enjoying the family satisfaction of any fortunate straight. .
  22. If you have a big cock, you are in for a good time at nude night in our saunas. Yes, size does matter a lot when come to sauna's nude night. Ask anyone who had been to nude night, he will swear that everyone will be going for the guy with the big tool hanging there. It does not matter whether he is a bottom or top but what matters is big! Rightly you will expect a big tool will be top, but many times you will be disappointed as the numbers of bottoms in the gay community far out-numbered the tops. Good tops are hard to find, least one with a size which immensely increases your pleasure both physical and aesthetically. One Seven had been a nudist heaven on Friday for a long time. The turnout is better and the choice is more. Having it on every Friday is a better choice than Towel Club once a month FMP, for the wait is far too long and most of the time the date is not right as the next day is a working day. Perhaps this is really the season to be jolly, the turnout on last Friday (22 Dec) was good. Perhaps many were on long leave and the season of joys is on the air. There were visibly more tourists too. What makes nude night more popular than the other is that there is more actions and the hit up rate is higher than those towel nights. When a guy decides to go for a nude night sub-consciously he is ready for action otherwise he would not be standing naked there. Those who are not sure and pretentious will not be there in the first place. I like OS nude night especially there double nude on every 17th of the month. It is very relaxing and free when the whole spa is nude. It reminds me of the days of Rairua, lying on the deck chair under the moonlight hugging someone with an erected dick. It is just pure erotic and sensual with the another hot body on top of you and the soft music will guide you in..(a smooth entry...) In contrast OS is wild and fetish. I have seen guys walking around in all sort of cock rings, PA and leather gears. OS was meant to be fetish when they renovated the place. You still see some of the fetish installment there like window in the doors for people to peep in, SM bench, chains and jail setup. I heard that fistees were playing before in the old OS because a sling room was availble. Now there are no more sling around after both of them were damaged by heavy use. It used to be a gangbang when ever one hanged himself on the sling at the jail area. One just need to hang himself on the sling, others will take the cue and bang on him. Last Friday was an eye opener, a guy tied himself up on the sm cross bench and was blindfolded awaiting for his master to serve him. Not before long a muscular guy came and the wait was over. Obviously the guy was an experienced dom in sm. He played his tits and put the cloth pegs on his tits making him moaned with pain and pleasure. Having aroused the slave the master when on to played with his cock, hitting the balls sending the slave to another round of ecstasy. Seeing the slave is ready, the master went over to examine the butt, whipping both moons with his palm to prepare for the next play. He pinched open the ass, peeped into the hungry juicy hole. He climbed over the bench, knelt over the hole and with one sharp swift push, banged his rock hard tool into the hole. Others were holding their breath and many already had a hard on at the side. The slave screamed and his voice only added pleasure and heat to the master and those watching at the side. It was one of those real life action that I had decided to document here for your reading pleasure. OS - 22 Dec 2006 Friday.
  23. Hi friends, I am running for a college election and was told that there will be an interview. And the interview is meant to be a killer one. I am aware that some interviews are structured to test how one will react in certain scenarios or under pressure. Being the sucker that I am, I was hoping to seek ya'll out for some sample qns, so that I can prepare. Once again, sankiew
  24. Hi all, Just curious, I wunder if every session has to have anal sex? Is there any who does not enjoy anal sex but enjoy companionships, huggings, non-anal sex? Care to share or comment. cheers
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