Is Anyone Into Staycation Alone?

[calcinus]

Hi bros,

Just curious if anyone does staycation alone?

For me, I always look forward to do staycation in boutique hotel around Singapore. It is good getaway since I stay with parents. I kinda enjoy solitary at times. However, I have a strange anxiety when I am being too alone - ok, don't laugh - I know this may be silly. Once it entered the night, I have hard time sleeping alone in the hotel room since I am not used to that alone. Having family sleeping in the next room at house does give a sense of security. So I am also in dilemma - should I go staycation? To have some private space yet hate the idea of insecurity sleeping alone. Sigh. Ok. I know it sounds silly again. Haha.

Maybe someone can share your thoughts or any love for staycation alone too?

[gstc82]

No

[iamziz]

I think you should. Use the opportunity to overcome the fear. Besides, should there be emergencies, you will still be in Singapore and if any immediate attention needed, the hotel can provide it. 

[Leanmeat]

Ask someone to chill together?

[alien]

Just tell urself the hotel rm next to urs also occupied with pple, tis may give u a sense of security when u sleep at night?!

[Guest VAc]

Never tried staycation b4 but when I need some solitary, I will go travel alone. It provides some spiritual gratification.

Anyway, Thread starter any good hotels here to recommend?

[doncoin]

Sleep with lights on. 

[alien]

I guess someone who lack of sense of security usually needs someone to be physically ard. Think those switching on lights, tv or toking on the phone may not help much?!

[keyboard]

I dont find Singapore really a place worth to do staycation. Don't you find the money saved can be spent on something like a spa treatment or fine dinning or even getting an expensive pillow + bedsheets and blast aircon at home.

 

After hearing so many horror stories about hotels, beg bugs. Really defeats the purpose at the end of the day.

[Coolbriz]

If you have that sense of insecurity when sleeping alone without your parents next door, then just go with what you are most comfortable with. You still have some privacy since your parents are sleeping in another room and you have your own room. No point stressing yourself out when staycation is meant to be enjoyable and relaxing . But hard fact is, you probably need to learn to adjust your comfort zone one day as your parents can't always be there with you. So, give it a try one day to have staycation alone or with a friend. Who knows you might like it

[alien]

Not easy to overcome ur fear.

[Guest Guest]

I totally understand cos this exactly how I feel each time I find some private time. I agree that it helps if the rooms next to yours are all occupied.

It's really a mixed feeling

[Firday]

bring along your teddy bear, blanket or pillow.

on the tv or radio to create white noise

 

while on numerous business trip, lack of security and non stop travelling...sometime I go for stout, red wine and beer to sooth to sleep.

 

take a hot soak bath tub

 

take muscle relaxer pill

 

put some menthol oil

 

pray some perfume.

 

through my experience...u need something you are familiar with, like photo, Walkman, mp3 or faviourite music , teddy bear soft toy or blanket or clothes..that make you feel familiar and safe.

 

it work for me...due to no choice.

[calcinus]

Thanks for your comments. It is really a dilemma since it is a thrill to getaway from our home and enjoy the private space that I can have, while being alone and the emptiness is sometimes unbearable.

But it is true that one day my parents will leave me. So soon or later, I will have to come into terms that I will be alone. Sigh.

Thanks to bro Firday for the tips. I will try out one time

[Marineboy]

Hi Calcinus

 

 

My motto in life is to do whatever turns me on..really. No need to comply or give excuses..don't want to do something just say no..lol

Well it took a long time..i use to be very accommodating n still do at times but I learnt to say NO more often..nothing else needs to be said really

 

I also do not believe in ghosts etc..but somehow the mind will play tricks n to be honest you will frighten yourself silly most of the time.

Indeed the emptiness n the silence is deafening..at first. You will get use to it n with your mindset overcome all those fears in time.Mobile devices can be a great companion too.

 

I have never been alone all my life..there was always the folks n siblings etc around..

Once I got home n nobody was in..which is really rare..i had my first home alone..n the silence was deafening..i had some music or the radio on n it helps..to get use to things in time.This episode got me thinking n preparing ahead in a sense.

 

After losing my folks I finally got to be home alone...my helper had to go back since they cannot stay on as the employer is no longer around.

FIrst couple of days it was lonely n sad..but fortunately my bf will come over n join me for dinner after work etc..

Then the nights were worse( bf does not live with me)..every sound is amplified.I will go n check things out..though at times there will be goose bumps..but I keep my mind strong n after a few nights..no issues..

Staycation I am sure you enjoy the peace etc but alone well its your choice..really.

We humans will just get use to things n adjust accordingly. I am sure you have some good frens..or start being a good fren n making more as well. Some people enjoy solitude again its a choice you make really.

 

I use to travel a lot n sleep in different hotels..too tired to think back then..haha

I suggest you avoid horror movies..i feel they contribute to unfounded fears for many people..some people seem to enjoy getting scared..lol

So whatever turns you on.Live your life as how you feel n want to in your power.

I have hifi n radio sets around if I need them...but lately the silence is no issue anymore.

 

Treasure those around you..n mentally prepare as I did..though it pains me to lose my folks I learn to move on as the journey of Life continues for each one of us..till its our turn to take the next leap.

I don't know what is next..i don't think there is a heaven or hell really..so enjoy n share the love n when its time I look forward for the next leap into the unknown..

[infinityx]

I travel a lot and is always either staying in hotels or a weekly apartment that I will call it my home for the next month.

If you already have some plans on activities in mind during those days, especially if it is designed to pamper yourself including "doing nothing". Feeling good will naturally arise.

 

Perhaps meetup a friend just for dinner or lunch or even afternoon tea will be extra comforting during your self-love staycation.

[navyblue]

Dear TS,

You are not being silly cos I share the same feeling as you. Things just seem different at night, even if I am at home but alone.

Guess we just have to keep trying to sleep alone till we can overcome our fear.

[darkflame]

If I have some voucher, I'd do a staycation alone if nobody tags along.

Am living alone now so it's no different to a lone staycation.

[azimuth]

It is really not a bad idea to travel and do staycations alone. You train your self-dependence which will come in very useful in future.

If you are worried about hearing and seeing things leave a light or the TV on. In that case the the silence won't get to you and you start imagining things.

[calcinus]

Thanks for all your sharing. Really appreciate it. It is comforting to know that I am not alone in this sense of insecurity.

Bro Marineboy said something that brought tears to my eyes. Because even today I fear the day my parents are gone. It is truly a sad thing to acknowledge that the only people who love me unconditionally is no longer in this world - the void in my heart will never be filled again. What made it worse is that I have no lover and no sibling. I will be really alone and empty. Sigh.

[alien]

Think no matter whether u have ur parents with u or even bf, who knows someday in future u might still be alone?! Cos u never know wht is going to happen in future. Many times just take things easy and not imagine and think too much, esp when u r alone. Tis is not to make things worse or make urself anxious. Cos when u get anxious, anything 'not real' may happen and it wld get really scary!

Edited June 4, 2015 by alien

[Marineboy]

Thanks for all your sharing. Really appreciate it. It is comforting to know that I am not alone in this sense of insecurity.

Bro Marineboy said something that brought tears to my eyes. Because even today I fear the day my parents are gone. It is truly a sad thing to acknowledge that the only people who love me unconditionally is no longer in this world - the void in my heart will never be filled again. What made it worse is that I have no lover and no sibling. I will be really alone and empty. Sigh.

 

You are not alone..we are here with you........you just  have to get to know some of us a little better ,,the answer is blowing in the wind

BF isn't everything..but certainly nice to have one...some true frens is all you need.

Don't shy kopi can liao..hahaha :oops:

[XS.Lin]

I do staycation alone from time to time, just a way to get away from my kids (I have 2 grown up working adult kids who still living with me). Sometime, you just want a peace and quiet times of your own and I slept like a baby.

[nicholasyada]

I stay alone in hotel rooms very often due to work travels. Just play some familiar music, keep the TV on some nice channels so that the silence doesnt not get to you.

 

Cheers.

[IkuTube]

Leave a light on and not too bright when you are going to sleep.  Think of good things.  Maybe it is also good just to think about you, your goals.  When the mind is tired, you will just sleep.

 

Perhaps, choosing the hotel is also important.  Pamper yourself with a good rated one while enjoying the spirit of staycation.

[azimuth]

You can also listen to some soothing music or podcasts with your earphones. This way it will distract your thoughts away.

 

I will usually leave a small light on because I wouldn't want to knock into anything on my way to the toilet at night if I need to. After all, the room is a whole new environment. :-)

[lovehandle]

how have u been doing it alone? when you have difficulty sleeping alone?

anyway, i always doing it and is planning one soon!

[inamoto]

 

 

 

Hi bros,

Just curious if anyone does staycation alone?

For me, I always look forward to do staycation in boutique hotel around Singapore. It is good getaway since I stay with parents. I kinda enjoy solitary at times. However, I have a strange anxiety when I am being too alone - ok, don't laugh - I know this may be silly. Once it entered the night, I have hard time sleeping alone in the hotel room since I am not used to that alone. Having family sleeping in the next room at house does give a sense of security. So I am also in dilemma - should I go staycation? To have some private space yet hate the idea of insecurity sleeping alone. Sigh. Ok. I know it sounds silly again. Haha.

Maybe someone can share your thoughts or any love for staycation alone too?

 

Perhaps the reason why you look forward to a staycation is because a part of you / us will like to have some time away from our parents where we can be ourselves. this will be more so for guys who are still closeted where we can't be ourselves even when we are in the comfort of our home..but once you are alone, the loneliness set in and your difficulty in sleeping happens.. 

Since you are aware that you do not feel the best when you are alone, perhaps it is best to find good friends to go enjoy a short getaway or when you have a companion / bf to  go with.. after all, if we are going to spend our hard earned money on a staycation, we would want to make the best out of it.. 

Edited June 13, 2015 by inamoto

[ahboy]

i travel alone at times so quite used to sleeping alone

[blueocean1069]

love to staycation in hotel alone,

like the environment in hotel...

"better to have some one accompany of course"

 

tried to stay in Peninsula Hotel , River View Hotel and Studio M Hotel b4...

 

don't have any problem to sleep alone in hotel...

 

looking forward next staycation lol

[mydontay]

though i have yet to stay alone for staystation, i do like the thoughts of doing so. relaxing

[Guest Guest]

Staycation new term old meaning ???

Chalets ??? Come to my mind.

[lovehandle]

On ‎3‎/‎6‎/‎2015 at 10:21 PM, Firday said:

bring along your teddy bear, blanket or pillow.

on the tv or radio to create white noise

 

while on numerous business trip, lack of security and non stop travelling...sometime I go for stout, red wine and beer to sooth to sleep.

 

 

through my experience...u need something you are familiar with, like photo, Walkman, mp3 or faviourite music , teddy bear soft toy or blanket or clothes..that make you feel familiar and safe.

 

For me, I have NO issues sleeping at all, I can doze off in seconds and I luv staycation alone too or w friends

but once a while, I will bring along a "friend" ie a teady bear ...but not all can accept such behaviour!

Glad to know that Firday will think of a bear too!!!!
 

[mith]

too expensive! 

[teatree]

On ‎4‎/‎6‎/‎2015 at 6:52 PM, calcinus said:

Thanks for all your sharing. Really appreciate it. It is comforting to know that I am not alone in this sense of insecurity.

Bro Marineboy said something that brought tears to my eyes. Because even today I fear the day my parents are gone. It is truly a sad thing to acknowledge that the only people who love me unconditionally is no longer in this world - the void in my heart will never be filled again. What made it worse is that I have no lover and no sibling. I will be really alone and empty. Sigh.

 

Good that you think ahead, so that you will be mentally prepared when the day comes. Ten years ago, I harboured the same thought, and today, I am all alone. Be filial to your parents when they are still alive, if you want to overcome the sorrows when they are dead.

[lonelyglobe]

17 hours ago, teatree said:

 

Good that you think ahead, so that you will be mentally prepared when the day comes. Ten years ago, I harboured the same thought, and today, I am all alone. Be filial to your parents when they are still alive, if you want to overcome the sorrows when they are dead.

This is a problem that will be faced by many out there....have a few good friend around do help, back to the topic, get a connecting room if staying with friend or family, stay in a 4 bed hostel room, rent a room from the locals through airbnb, sometime when u get a bad companion or someone who snore like nobody business, then u will appreciate the beauty of staying alone, just remember to leave the lights in the toilet on so your room won't be in complete darkness and easy when u need to go pee in the middle of the night...........

[lightsmith32]

You are not alone ... sometimes i do it too esp when lazy to travel but want some me time alone.

[Traveler3032]

I don't know the OP' s age and financial situation. But if possible, it's a good idea to move out of the parents house. One needs independence to grow up and mature. I know it's quite expensive and lots of house chores to do on your own, but freedom is priceless. Even if you can't afford to live alone, sharing an apartment with others is a better alternative. In the western countries, there is stigma for adult children who stay with the parents. Again, if money is not a major issue, taking a real vacation is so much better than staycation. See  new places, meet new people, and have plenty of sex without worrying about the parents' approval. 

[Guest]

I aint loner by nature. But at times, we do need time for ourselves. Agreed with TS. I used to watch movies and goto seasides by myself. As for staycation and afraid of staying alone, i guess u have to get used to it bcos no one can help you although many can give u pointers.

 

Depending on your frequency of staycation, i suggest is more cost worthy to jave hot bath with bubble bath lotion at home. Moving out is an option. The other is buying an apartment yourself.

 

Aa for taking care of your anxiety of being alone, you can try:

1. Have a good friend stay over and spend a splendid evening together follow by a romantic cuddling night.

 

2. Have a good suntan, workout, sport session or any physically tiring sports before dinner. U will have a very good sleep after dinner.

 

3. Make or find a hotel room u like best or comfortable with. Bcos, human tend to be feel easy and relax when the surrounding environment is familiar.

 

Cheers and enjoy your staycation during CNY. Let us know if the feedbacks here helped.

[Guest]

Many of you gave advice no doubt with very helpful and caring intentions, but I don't think you quite understand the needs of an introverted person. OP isn't going on a staycation because he is lonely or needs someone to offer to accompany him. He enjoys briefly getting away to somewhere quiet and without anyone recognizing or having expectations of him, all he needs now is to be assured that this place will be safe and peaceful.

 

Not to worry. Hotels are well trained to give you your space. For those however may days, you will just be guest #345, completely indistinguishable from the other guests. Singapore hotels are very safe so long as you don't invite trouble into your room. No one is going to actively enter a random hotel and choose a random room to pick on.

[Guest]

On 03/06/2015 at 8:19 PM, calcinus said:

Hi bros,

Just curious if anyone does staycation alone?

For me, I always look forward to do staycation in boutique hotel around Singapore. It is good getaway since I stay with parents. I kinda enjoy solitary at times. However, I have a strange anxiety when I am being too alone - ok, don't laugh - I know this may be silly. Once it entered the night, I have hard time sleeping alone in the hotel room since I am not used to that alone. Having family sleeping in the next room at house does give a sense of security. So I am also in dilemma - should I go staycation? To have some private space yet hate the idea of insecurity sleeping alone. Sigh. Ok. I know it sounds silly again. Haha.

Maybe someone can share your thoughts or any love for staycation alone too?

 

You sound like someone who has yet to be independent , does your parents pay for your the internet and electricity that you use to surf the internet and find your way into BW chat rooms,

 

sorry , until the day you can support yourself , you will always have this feeling of insecurity and niggling uneasiness of not being able to make big life decisions on your own , and stand by it and defend yourself from naysayers and critics.

 

Why don't set a goal for yourself , that in ten to fifteen years time , you slowly move towards your goal of owning your own place and paying your own bills and also set aside money to take care of your aging parents, giving them an allowance and helping your younger siblings to be independent by supporting their studies ,

 

then when that day comes, you will not have this feeling of troubling staycations and those diffivcult decisions that you find important now ,but in the future you look back, you will find they are insignificant when compared to helping your own family out and building relationships with your family members who will be with you till the end.

 

Gay friendships do not last and gay bf come and goes.

[go-geek]

I have always liked the idea of staycation and do enjoy being alone, being an introvert. But similar to TS, I find myself oddly disturbed by the quietness of night alone in the room.

 

Though I end up just thinking myself to sleep, I wouldn't mind a friend to just chat till someone gives in and snooze.

[nate42]

I do it from time to time.  To go away from the stresses of life for 2 nights. Now that I am married, I try to get away alone for at least once a year. Usually at a beach resort like Batam or Bintan. I like Desaru best. The beaches are nice.  Mostly, whichever place has a beach and a good deal.  Staycations at home can be expensive.  If your plan is to get away...really get away!  

 

Desaru is cheap now. It costs me less than S$400 all for 2 nights from Fri to Sun, with breakfast and meals at the hotel, usually room service.  Most of the beach resorts Like Lotus & Pulai are family resorts. So security tends to be higher.

 

So it depends what you plan to do on a "staycation" alone to get your mind off.  I suggest you do stuff you wouldn't do or have time to do when you are home.  

 

This is what I do. On the first night, after dinner, I will spend a couple hours at the beach for some reflection time with the maker.  Then I will head back to drink myself silly...usually 6-8 cans of beer, or a couple bottles of wine...with movies on the TV or on my laptop.  I have kids at home, so it is hard to be able to drink more than usual.

 

Next day to detox....go for a massage in town Don't ask me names, I just go in one that looks clean.  Seem to change each time I visit.  Head back...read a book on the balcony or at the beach or pool. 

 

The idea is to relax.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Edited January 27, 2016 by nate42
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[suckmegood]

staycation alone and u really think u r alone? u nvr know "who" else is with u at night. lol

[Guest Glyph]

Just now, suckmegood said:

staycation alone and u really think u r alone? u nvr know "who" else is with u at night. lol

 

Can you not put silly things into someone's head? Let them have their peaceful retreat.

[Bpfjar]

On 6/3/2015 at 8:19 PM, calcinus said:

Hi bros,

Just curious if anyone does staycation alone?

For me, I always look forward to do staycation in boutique hotel around Singapore. It is good getaway since I stay with parents. I kinda enjoy solitary at times. However, I have a strange anxiety when I am being too alone - ok, don't laugh - I know this may be silly. Once it entered the night, I have hard time sleeping alone in the hotel room since I am not used to that alone. Having family sleeping in the next room at house does give a sense of security. So I am also in dilemma - should I go staycation? To have some private space yet hate the idea of insecurity sleeping alone. Sigh. Ok. I know it sounds silly again. Haha.

Maybe someone can share your thoughts or any love for staycation alone too?

 

Maybe can invite someone to sleep with you 

[ZealousZeno]

I do staycations too but never alone.... its always best to have someone trustworthy or feel comfortable with to accompanying you. As an outgoing introvert, I may not be in favor of crowds but definitely welcome quality time with a few who i can share time / thoughts or laughter with. The loneliness sometimes just breed more unnecessary thoughts and increase stress instead ~    

[suckmegood]

2 hours ago, Glyph said:

 

Can you not put silly things into someone's head? Let them have their peaceful retreat.

 

u do realize that this is a FORUM right?

[Guest Glyph]

25 minutes ago, suckmegood said:

u do realize that this is a FORUM right?

 

Yes, I do. So much so that I have replied to your post on my own accord, and for a better cause.
 

I believe you'd be better suited to be viewing this thread.

[Wyatt]

On 27/01/2016 at 8:31 PM, ZealousZeno said:

I do staycations too but never alone.... its always best to have someone trustworthy or feel comfortable with to accompanying you. As an outgoing introvert, I may not be in favor of crowds but definitely welcome quality time with a few who i can share time / thoughts or laughter with. The loneliness sometimes just breed more unnecessary thoughts and increase stress instead ~    

 

I totally agree with Zeno... I love staycations and well, I kinda have staycation almost every month or once every two months.. but its always with a friend or two.. or even in small groups... it definitely welcome quality time to spend with those that im comfortable with, chat over drinks and snacks.. play games.. so yea.. for a start, get a friend or two to do staycation.. and if you really want to over come that fear, slowly reduces the amt of people each time u do staycation.. till you are ready to do so one ur own. (: 

 

just my 1 cents worth of opinion (: hope it helps!