Guest DepressedBtm Posted July 10, 2016 Report Share Posted July 10, 2016 I've had many brushes where guys would express that they would like for me to top them but I am unable to. I am definitely gay, goes without question but I don't seem to be able to take on the fucking role when it comes to sex. As much as I want to, it doesn't happen. I mean, labels and all, power bottom, bottom pig, bottom slut, cum bucket...whatever, similarly like how gay or straight you are, this isn't a choice of mine. It seems that taking it up the ass is the only option for me, and I feel sorry for guys who often have to find it out the hard way (*no pun intended). This is starting to feel wrong for me and I am getting a little under the cloud when guys are disappointed by that fact. Is it really wrong or selfish not to be able to perform a certain role when it comes to sex? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted July 10, 2016 Report Share Posted July 10, 2016 13 minutes ago, Guest DepressedBtm said: I've had many brushes where guys would express that they would like for me to top them but I am unable to. I am definitely gay, goes without question but I don't seem to be able to take on the fucking role when it comes to sex. As much as I want to, it doesn't happen. I mean, labels and all, power bottom, bottom pig, bottom slut, cum bucket...whatever, similarly like how gay or straight you are, this isn't a choice of mine. It seems that taking it up the ass is the only option for me, and I feel sorry for guys who often have to find it out the hard way (*no pun intended). This is starting to feel wrong for me and I am getting a little under the cloud when guys are disappointed by that fact. Is it really wrong or selfish not to be able to perform a certain role when it comes to sex? is that because it is too painful for u? or emotionally u r not being able to accept that - but why? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lonelyboy90 Posted July 10, 2016 Report Share Posted July 10, 2016 15 minutes ago, Guest DepressedBtm said: I've had many brushes where guys would express that they would like for me to top them but I am unable to. I am definitely gay, goes without question but I don't seem to be able to take on the fucking role when it comes to sex. As much as I want to, it doesn't happen. I mean, labels and all, power bottom, bottom pig, bottom slut, cum bucket...whatever, similarly like how gay or straight you are, this isn't a choice of mine. It seems that taking it up the ass is the only option for me, and I feel sorry for guys who often have to find it out the hard way (*no pun intended). This is starting to feel wrong for me and I am getting a little under the cloud when guys are disappointed by that fact. Is it really wrong or selfish not to be able to perform a certain role when it comes to sex? why must you be so affected by this? it is your choice and preference. why should you bother by what other guys want you to do for them? if you dont enjoy it, dont do it. dont make yourself uncomfortable and ended up in an awkward situation. Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Topper Posted July 10, 2016 Report Share Posted July 10, 2016 The ans is a simple NO. U dont have to live your life or play your role based on others' expectation. Since u are approached by many guys to top them, that means u must be looking like a hot "top", whom I wont mind topping. ;-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimochi Posted July 10, 2016 Report Share Posted July 10, 2016 Count me in xD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Lazy2login Posted July 10, 2016 Report Share Posted July 10, 2016 Aiya .. next time you're in a threesome hor, you get one top to lie down, then you sit on him. Then you get the 3rd guy (b or v) to sit on you while you are hard from being .. ahem .. penetrated. Problem solved! Hee Ok ok on a serious note, don't worry about it. You can be anything you like and things can change in the future if you want it to. I have a friend - pure bottom for years, literally decades. Now recently turned into a top cos he's suddenly into younger guys and he wants to top them. So don't stress over this ya .. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted July 10, 2016 Report Share Posted July 10, 2016 It is not wrong. But it is a waste. 鍾意就好,理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest DepressedBtm Posted July 10, 2016 Report Share Posted July 10, 2016 17 hours ago, lovehandle said: is that because it is too painful for u? or emotionally u r not being able to accept that - but why? It's not pain but rather, as hard as I try, I am unable to enter the rear successfully. And even if I did, I couldn't stay erect for long inside of the person. 17 hours ago, Lonelyboy90 said: why must you be so affected by this? it is your choice and preference. why should you bother by what other guys want you to do for them? if you dont enjoy it, dont do it. dont make yourself uncomfortable and ended up in an awkward situation. Perhaps it's because I keep bumping into versatiles, and or bottoms like myself. Typically no one makes role preferences known at the initial stage, it's only in the bedroom where you will really have to cross your fingers if you got the right match. And I dread the disappointed looks of those who learn that I am unable to top them. It makes me feel like a very selfish person in bed. 16 hours ago, Guest Topper said: The ans is a simple NO. U dont have to live your life or play your role based on others' expectation. Since u are approached by many guys to top them, that means u must be looking like a hot "top", whom I wont mind topping. ;-) Perhaps it's true that it's a bottoms world in our community. There seems to be a lack in tops. By now I suppose we would have learned to not judge the book by it's cover. I've been related instances where some effeminate guys fuck like a stallion in bed, that is if you are able to get to that stage. 15 hours ago, Kimochi said: Count me in xD Haha...hmmm... 10 hours ago, Guest Lazy2login said: Aiya .. next time you're in a threesome hor, you get one top to lie down, then you sit on him. Then you get the 3rd guy (b or v) to sit on you while you are hard from being .. ahem .. penetrated. Problem solved! Hee Ok ok on a serious note, don't worry about it. You can be anything you like and things can change in the future if you want it to. I have a friend - pure bottom for years, literally decades. Now recently turned into a top cos he's suddenly into younger guys and he wants to top them. So don't stress over this ya .. I'm not sure if my psyche will ever change. But thanks for the piece of advice. 10 hours ago, fab said: It is not wrong. But it is a waste. But why is it a waste? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted July 11, 2016 Report Share Posted July 11, 2016 3 hours ago, Guest DepressedBtm said:/ It's not pain but rather, as hard as I try, I am unable to enter the rear successfully. And even if I did, I couldn't stay erect for long inside of the person. Perhaps it's because I keep bumping into versatiles, and or bottoms like myself. Typically no one makes role preferences known at the initial stage, it's only in the bedroom where you will really have to cross your fingers if you got the right match. And I dread the disappointed looks of those who learn that I am unable to top them. It makes me feel like a very selfish person in bed. Perhaps it's true that it's a bottoms world in our community. There seems to be a lack in tops. By now I suppose we would have learned to not judge the book by it's cover. I've been related instances where some effeminate guys fuck like a stallion in bed, that is if you are able to get to that stage. Haha...hmmm... I'm not sure if my psyche will ever change. But thanks for the piece of advice. But why is it a waste? erm are u very old? if no, then it should be u r still trying out so it takes everyone a few tries before u get the right way no doubt there are btms but so long u r not fussy, u easily get tons of tops of older age I agree , why is that a waste, life is about not knowing what is infront, we have to trial it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 11, 2016 Report Share Posted July 11, 2016 4 minutes ago, lovehandle said: erm are u very old? if no, then it should be u r still trying out so it takes everyone a few tries before u get the right way no doubt there are btms but so long u r not fussy, u easily get tons of tops of older age I agree , why is that a waste, life is about not knowing what is infront, we have to trial it Please stop asking unrelated question!!! U always very long winded!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hairy springroll Posted July 11, 2016 Report Share Posted July 11, 2016 Just be yourself no one can force you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wantonmee Posted July 11, 2016 Report Share Posted July 11, 2016 mixing w the wrong crowd then there are so many tops who are looking for btms and vice versa, just move on behind every btm is a top (pun intended) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted July 11, 2016 Report Share Posted July 11, 2016 7 hours ago, Guest DepressedBtm said: But why is it a waste? Since u mentioned many btms expressed interest for u to top them, u must be quite manly looking. Imagine tph is btm, isn't that a waste to the btm community? 4 hours ago, Guest guest said: Please stop asking unrelated question!!! U always very long winded!!! Long winded still never mind but stil so dense. 鍾意就好,理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeannyShortcake Posted July 11, 2016 Report Share Posted July 11, 2016 How about for them to take you up the ass? You shouldn't have to be the one compromising all the time. Besides there's enough for everyone to go around so cheer up yeah. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest FailureofaBiBoy Posted July 11, 2016 Report Share Posted July 11, 2016 i am ready to be flamed ... I am Bi and i am DEF into dudes. I LOVE dudes with a cute bum and i jack off to hot porn all the time with good fucking and rimming. but when it comes to an actual guy. i find the idea of sticking my cock in his ass a bit =/ ... wth is wrong with me ??? Save me! LOL - my weird my thinks its fine to poke a tight pussy but not an ass... just afraid of a "shitty" situation lol. how !!! - i mean yes the bottom can douche and clean all he wants. but still. and i dont want to bottom (not yet at least). Regards FailureofaBiBoy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest un_uniquely Posted July 11, 2016 Report Share Posted July 11, 2016 You are not unique lah, just like not all Asians like durian and not all AMDK hate durian. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Lazy2login Posted July 11, 2016 Report Share Posted July 11, 2016 12 minutes ago, Guest FailureofaBiBoy said: i am ready to be flamed ... I am Bi and i am DEF into dudes. I LOVE dudes with a cute bum and i jack off to hot porn all the time with good fucking and rimming. but when it comes to an actual guy. i find the idea of sticking my cock in his ass a bit =/ ... wth is wrong with me ??? Save me! LOL - my weird my thinks its fine to poke a tight pussy but not an ass... just afraid of a "shitty" situation lol. how !!! - i mean yes the bottom can douche and clean all he wants. but still. and i dont want to bottom (not yet at least). Regards FailureofaBiBoy. You're not a failure. Just be yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
123ZZZ Posted July 11, 2016 Report Share Posted July 11, 2016 Just be yourself if you find the right person to be with, it doesn't matter Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest like hairy bush Posted July 11, 2016 Report Share Posted July 11, 2016 As a top myself.... i always envy other guy have hairy bush...As my are like so pathetic (how to make it bushy ar ). Aside, why don you trim or shave it off... But i think the best is to let your partner know what's your role before any disappointment meh.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted July 11, 2016 Report Share Posted July 11, 2016 2 minutes ago, Guest like hairy bush said: As a top myself.... i always envy other guy have hairy bush...As my are like so pathetic (how to make it bushy ar ). Aside, why don you trim or shave it off... But i think the best is to let your partner know what's your role before any disappointment meh.... oh, I supposed it is genetic how do you deemed yourself as not bushy enough? but whether bushy or not, doesn't affect your role right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest first-timer Posted July 11, 2016 Report Share Posted July 11, 2016 My bf finds me too big for him... he's just so tight and I am feeling kind of frustrated not being able to hump him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 11, 2016 Report Share Posted July 11, 2016 On 7/10/2016 at 11:27 AM, lovehandle said: is that because it is too painful for u? or emotionally u r not being able to accept that - but why? 6 minutes ago, lovehandle said: oh, I supposed it is genetic how do you deemed yourself as not bushy enough? but whether bushy or not, doesn't affect your role right? cb @lovehandle why u always like to answer with questions??? To reply to more topics and later self likes??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest btms Posted July 11, 2016 Report Share Posted July 11, 2016 I may look top but I am also hungry btm like u. This type of mistake should not happen if u know how to select the top. Those btm who select me thinking I'm top, I will spot them after a few looking and interacting. Should not wait until go inside room then say salah. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blacque Posted July 12, 2016 Report Share Posted July 12, 2016 The best thing to do, is to be straightforward about it. Declare your preference at the start to avoid any awkward situation. mate69 1 Instagram: vodkabaker Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4evaboring Posted July 12, 2016 Report Share Posted July 12, 2016 1 hour ago, Blacque said: The best thing to do, is to be straightforward about it. Declare your preference at the start to avoid any awkward situation. That why when ppl tell them they seeking fun on other platform, I will always ask their role before further engaging lovehandle 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blacque Posted July 12, 2016 Report Share Posted July 12, 2016 9 minutes ago, 4evaboring said: That why when ppl tell them they seeking fun on other platform, I will always ask their role before further engaging Instagram: vodkabaker Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4evaboring Posted July 12, 2016 Report Share Posted July 12, 2016 6 hours ago, Blacque said: Well stating the role in the first place will stop the wild goose chase, furthermore people wont be disappointed and get all upset when they only found out that role crashed when on bed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest boredatwork Posted July 12, 2016 Report Share Posted July 12, 2016 is it cos you look very manly? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonelyglobe Posted July 12, 2016 Report Share Posted July 12, 2016 On 11/7/2016 at 6:44 PM, Blacque said: The best thing to do, is to be straightforward about it. Declare your preference at the start to avoid any awkward situation. Exactly, especially with flex, be specify on a certain day if u want to fuck or get fucked, don't waste time....I think the term flex is a bit unclear, by right flex should be 50-50 or 60-40, but I realise a lot are actually 90-10 On 10/7/2016 at 3:49 AM, fab said: It is not wrong. But it is a waste. waste of ??? I don't see it as a waste wheather if u r btm or top, just like someone like chicken rice, others like wanton mee.... lovehandle 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted July 12, 2016 Report Share Posted July 12, 2016 agree w lonelyglobe many flex are btms Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Jo master Posted July 12, 2016 Report Share Posted July 12, 2016 26 minutes ago, lovehandle said: agree w lonelyglobe many flex are btms I cannot agree more, most of flex prefer bot more than topping. like they said, the flex have too much love and we cant handle it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimochi Posted July 12, 2016 Report Share Posted July 12, 2016 9 hours ago, Blacque said: 11 hours ago, Blacque said: The best thing to do, is to be straightforward about it. Declare your preference at the start to avoid any awkward situation. Yes. Don't waste time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest :-( Posted July 12, 2016 Report Share Posted July 12, 2016 i wouldn't mind if we're of the same role because being a flex has many positions to play with the other guy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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