t.pagar Posted December 16, 2018 Report Share Posted December 16, 2018 0 just wanna share my experience. my first solo trip was to London. I wasn't into Caucasians but i wanted to explore the club/pub scene and sauna scene. so on my first night, i wanted to go to one of those pubs that had those back room. reached the place but chickened out. kept walking past the entrance but didn't dare go in. i guess the scenario was quite intimidating because of those big burly bears sitting outside. i was 29 then. first time i went to a pub alone was in HK, Boo Bar. i guess the place was less scary and it wasn't too crowded. it helps when the people there are friendly. since then i had been going pubs alone when on solo trips. most places are quite friendly, they will ask if you are alright and do small chats. the trick is not have much expectation and not to worry people will find you weird for going drink alone. just enjoy the drinks and atmosphere. ktv pubs are good places to start cos if you are bored can just listen to singing. try not to sit in a corner, good place is at yhe bar counter if available. also, basic courtesy helps. if someone looks in your direction, a smile back or raise your glass would be nice. more importantly don't get drunk because you are alone and might not have anyone to look out for you yuquidam, repressednerd, kingbitch and 1 other 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThePineapple Posted December 16, 2018 Report Share Posted December 16, 2018 (edited) On 12/9/2018 at 9:04 PM, Creevie said: That's a valid point. Thanks Fatty! You got me I don't personally drink much tho... haha and PS : I'm not the guest hahaha.. Edited December 16, 2018 by ThePineapple Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Blank Posted December 16, 2018 Report Share Posted December 16, 2018 4 hours ago, t.pagar said: more importantly don't get drunk because you are alone and might not have anyone to look out for you I thought the whole idea of going alone is to pretend to be drunk+hooked up/raped by some handsome gays. Keyword: handsome and your type I couldn't comprehend what other reasons could motivate them better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Creevie Posted December 16, 2018 Author Report Share Posted December 16, 2018 Well ytd it was the grand opening of HYPERMKT at Fullerton's Monti and a friend said that most ppl would be there but still I went to Taboo and saw the Instagays that I like. Bumped into my friend! Had a great time. Had a wonderful catch-up with him because we knew each other since way back and he was there with a Tinder date but not really his kind he concluded. Ended up with me and him clicking more. My main aim of wanting to go on to "the scene" again is because I don't have a mighty Instagram presence and I want to socialize outside of Grindr and Jack'D. Eye candy is a plus. Some guests said I was there for hook-ups? I could get that with Grindr and Jack'D *eye roll*... neuwave 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
repressednerd Posted December 16, 2018 Report Share Posted December 16, 2018 (edited) 9 hours ago, t.pagar said: 0 just wanna share my experience. my first solo trip was to London. I wasn't into Caucasians but i wanted to explore the club/pub scene and sauna scene. so on my first night, i wanted to go to one of those pubs that had those back room. reached the place but chickened out. kept walking past the entrance but didn't dare go in. i guess the scenario was quite intimidating because of those big burly bears sitting outside. i was 29 then. first time i went to a pub alone was in HK, Boo Bar. i guess the place was less scary and it wasn't too crowded. it helps when the people there are friendly. since then i had been going pubs alone when on solo trips. most places are quite friendly, they will ask if you are alright and do small chats. the trick is not have much expectation and not to worry people will find you weird for going drink alone. just enjoy the drinks and atmosphere. ktv pubs are good places to start cos if you are bored can just listen to singing. try not to sit in a corner, good place is at yhe bar counter if available. also, basic courtesy helps. if someone looks in your direction, a smile back or raise your glass would be nice. more importantly don't get drunk because you are alone and might not have anyone to look out for you Agreed very much about this. Reminds me of one of the times when I went to Stonewall Inn alone on one trip to New York. Somehow I ended up chatting to this white dude over our beer preferences and suddenly I was pulled into this wonderful conversation between many (white) people. (Much better than the Asian meetup in NYC I went to, which was kinda...clique-ish.) Some people in Singapore's local gay scene do lack some social skills, but take it with a pinch of salt if you feel slighted from trying to be courteous yet brushed off. Edited December 16, 2018 by repressednerd Creevie 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Drama Leads To Being Alone Posted December 17, 2018 Report Share Posted December 17, 2018 19 hours ago, kingbitch said: Many Singaporeans think doing *anything* alone is strange. Like having lunch, or watching movies. The reality is only guys of sufficient appeal will get guys approaching them like this. LOL. I'm definitely not telling him he is a guy of sufficient appeal. His ego will become, metaphorically, as big as his dick. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted December 17, 2018 Report Share Posted December 17, 2018 Im not sure about you guys but i tend to prefer to go to a quieter bar just to sit down have a beer while i cruise around the app. Feels kinda bored sometimes keep seeing the same repeated guys in your area. So every once in awhile i go to a random bar somewhere just to sit down and chat with a few people. To be honest, most of the time i managed to find someone for company and we ended up having a great time chatting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flowereat Posted December 17, 2018 Report Share Posted December 17, 2018 I went to a gay bar in Ho Chi Minh alone since I travelled alone! Somehow I feel that I would be more comfortable in visiting these establishments in other countries than Neil road, no idea why. It was pretty chill, got to know the bar owner and chat with gay boys around the world. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Creevie Posted December 17, 2018 Author Report Share Posted December 17, 2018 HK in Feb. I'll check out Lam Guai Fong! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flowereat Posted December 17, 2018 Report Share Posted December 17, 2018 1 minute ago, Creevie said: HK in Feb. I'll check out Lam Guai Fong! cool, share your experience when you are back! and probably the better gay bars too Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Creevie Posted December 17, 2018 Author Report Share Posted December 17, 2018 1 minute ago, flowereat said: cool, share your experience when you are back! and probably the better gay bars too Haha sure. For now, X'mas eve is on my mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kenji_boi Posted December 17, 2018 Report Share Posted December 17, 2018 Well, recently I love going to bars, grab a drink and do my assignments alone. I used to thought it's an awkward and a loser-ish thing to go to a bar alone. But I learnt that it's okay to have some alone time and do things that I enjoy. I guess we just need to learn to have some time to yourself and not care how other people look or judge at you. However, with that being said, its always great to have some company for drinks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
repressednerd Posted December 17, 2018 Report Share Posted December 17, 2018 On 12/16/2018 at 2:26 PM, kingbitch said: Many Singaporeans think doing *anything* alone is strange. Like having lunch, or watching movies. I think this brings about the clique-ish culture you see everywhere, even permeating bars and pubs. Going alone seems to give people the impression that you must be a weirdo and that is why you go to places alone. West93 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Creevie Posted December 17, 2018 Author Report Share Posted December 17, 2018 As we get older, it's a norm. I enjoy my solo movies or even going to the Science Centre and Omnimax theatre alone in the weekends lol. yuquidam and Mushigg 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kenji_boi Posted December 17, 2018 Report Share Posted December 17, 2018 The last movie I watched was - Crazy Rich Asian. And was watching it alone. T.T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThePineapple Posted December 18, 2018 Report Share Posted December 18, 2018 (edited) Movie i watched alone was... Avengers: Infinity War Not that bad watching alone first time, with my fav. chips and green tea smuggled in hahaha Very 1st dining in a fancy buffet in a hotel alone was... on my birthday a few years ago :| Edited December 18, 2018 by ThePineapple Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted December 18, 2018 Report Share Posted December 18, 2018 On 12/17/2018 at 5:51 AM, Larry said: Making sure I got a parking lot inside a bounded URA car park (not to be bothered by the parking coupon required for those road side parking), I cross-dressed & enjoyed going alone to a pub along the main road somewhere around Tanjong Pagar. I would go for a quieter corner next to the bar counter. Within my handbag, I carried two white cards, one written in Chinese & the other one in English, and used them appropriately. "Sorry, I don't speak English." "抱歉, 我不会说中文," LOL! You are like the French in Paris. They don't speak English either... with tourists. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Creevie Posted December 18, 2018 Author Report Share Posted December 18, 2018 I watched Aquaman solo on Sunday. Left me teary-eyed on two occasions and it's all to do with his parents. Ok will not deviate from the main topic anymore. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thorzguy Posted December 19, 2018 Report Share Posted December 19, 2018 I had done many things alone - yet to go to the movie and pubs alone. To me, it just feel weird to go alone, especially to the pubs, unless I am there for business (be it the real work or hoping for some notti action). Again, there are apps right... besides, I have cut down on my alcohol intake so much so that some of my friends asked if I am becoming a monk. Lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zackling Posted December 20, 2018 Report Share Posted December 20, 2018 Ate alone at food court / Cafe / bistro & drank at bars in orchard tower alone at the bar area before heading back to my rented room. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wilfgene Posted December 20, 2018 Report Share Posted December 20, 2018 4 hours ago, Zackling said: Ate alone at food court / Cafe / bistro & drank at bars in orchard tower alone at the bar area before heading back to my rented room. The companion/s order/s from other other stalls and your food/drink still hasn't arrived 20 minutes after. What are the manner and etiquette involved? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zackling Posted December 21, 2018 Report Share Posted December 21, 2018 (edited) @wilfgene, IF, if, I have gone out with someone / a group of folks, my food haven't arrived after 20 mins, if i am at a food court, its highly impossible, but if its a restaurant environment, i would get the service staff to check, if the answers gets back to me is unsatisfactory; I would asked for the manager & follow by the gm. As I am a chef myself, its no excuse that the food doesn't arrives after 20 mins. It should be on my table in front of me in 15 mins max. I would then proceed to write a scalding review and cancel my orders for the night and take a drink instead. Edited December 21, 2018 by Zackling wilfgene 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wilfgene Posted December 21, 2018 Report Share Posted December 21, 2018 7 hours ago, Zackling said: @wilfgene, IF, if, I have gone out with someone / a group of folks, my food haven't arrived after 20 mins, if i am at a food court, its highly impossible, but if its a restaurant environment, i would get the service staff to check, if the answers gets back to me is unsatisfactory; I would asked for the manager & follow by the gm. As I am a chef myself, its no excuse that the food doesn't arrives after 20 mins. It should be on my table in front of me in 15 mins max. I would then proceed to write a scalding review and cancel my orders for the night and take a drink instead. Thanks for the pointer. It has happened in "Coffee Shop"(Kopitiam) when somebody did not have a self-consciousness to order from the same stall. Not totally another matter, drank on me thrice on a roll. Talk about out of my league. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zackling Posted December 22, 2018 Report Share Posted December 22, 2018 @wilfgene, that's y sometimes it's good to dine & drink alone.. for me if i go to a coffeeshop & i received attitude from any particular store.. goodluck, I ain't coming back for more. I'll rather move on & find another spot to dine at. wilfgene 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 23, 2018 Report Share Posted December 23, 2018 All you pub goes, when you are sloshed, just make sure you don't go the back of the pub and release your urine in the backlanes and stink up the whole place and also please dont vomit your alcohol and dinner into the back lane too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lastdraw Posted December 23, 2018 Report Share Posted December 23, 2018 (edited) any pubs/bars that are cosy/friendly enough for a first-timer to navigate by himself (tonight)? Edited December 23, 2018 by lastdraw Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kingbitch Posted December 23, 2018 Report Share Posted December 23, 2018 2 hours ago, lastdraw said: any pubs/bars that are cosy/friendly enough for a first-timer to navigate by himself (tonight)? Sunday night is a good time for first timer but it's Christmas weekend so it may be more crowded than usual. My pick for cosiness would be Dorothy's. It is so dark that you can sit at the dark corner and be half invisible. And then emerge into the light only when you feel like it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lastdraw Posted December 23, 2018 Report Share Posted December 23, 2018 1 minute ago, kingbitch said: Sunday night is a good time for first timer but it's Christmas weekend so it may be more crowded than usual. My pick for cosiness would be Dorothy's. It is so dark that you can sit at the dark corner and be half invisible. And then emerge into the light only when you feel like it. thank you anyone wants to visit as well? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kingbitch Posted December 23, 2018 Report Share Posted December 23, 2018 1 hour ago, lastdraw said: thank you anyone wants to visit as well? Haha! I could bring u there... If im in Singapore. Im overseas these two long weekends though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
repressednerd Posted December 23, 2018 Report Share Posted December 23, 2018 I like sitting at the bar area at Dorothy's. I thought that the friendliness would go away when Backstage moved away, but it's still the same ol' friendliness at Dorothy's. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lastdraw Posted December 23, 2018 Report Share Posted December 23, 2018 38 minutes ago, kingbitch said: Haha! I could bring u there... If im in Singapore. Im overseas these two long weekends though. please jio next time haha. or anyone Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
repressednerd Posted December 24, 2018 Report Share Posted December 24, 2018 Found this old thread about doing things alone. Being alone doesn't equate to being lonely. You can be in a relationship, attend tons of parties, be super busy at work etc etc and yet you have no time for yourself, and from there loneliness still emanates within. Creevie, kingbitch and jotatsu 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
feilyxnixx Posted December 24, 2018 Report Share Posted December 24, 2018 (edited) went to outbar last friday night. first time solo. 8pm + , loved the peace and quiet (exclude the staff and music) 10pm+ , more people came in and made noises (in a good non-sexual way) , enjoyed the rowdyness 1am+ , closing time , had my fill of drinks on a happy note ...and i finally realised how the occasional 'alone' can be a good thing to do +_+ Edited December 24, 2018 by feilyxnixx kingbitch 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovehandle Posted December 25, 2018 Report Share Posted December 25, 2018 if talking about gay pubs : 0 - never even tried once normal clubs/pubs, usu w frens who luv going (only during younger days) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
riverrobles Posted January 9, 2019 Report Share Posted January 9, 2019 I'm not in the hospitality business but I do entertain people (via my company's expense) and that I consider work. However if its for my free time, I usually am a lone wolf. You can see me in Dorothy's (the ex-Backstage Bar), Tantric or Taboo, Cuba Libre in Clarke Quay and somewhat finds ways to chat anyone beside me at the bar. Dorothy's and Tantric just sit beside the bar and you can find a lot of people (even the bartenders) accommodating , as long as you start the conversation and sometimes you can even be offered a free drink. There's a lot of overseas visitors going to Chinatown and the pink triangle, I had my fair share of hooks-up from being a lone wolf in a bar or pub. I am not afraid because who am I, I am just a stranger and I'm not even thinking if I will be meeting this visitors again so I am not bothered and I also like the idea you don't know what to expect, young or old, black or white, open minded or conservative, curious or kinky, just be open and the universe will help you. Gozu 1 Quote I'm really turned-on if both heads (the head above and the head below) are both functioning well https://asianguysgonewild.newtumbl.com https://linktr.ee/riverrobles Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted January 9, 2019 Report Share Posted January 9, 2019 As I travel regularly for work, I have gotten used to going to bars and have a drink by myself. Usually, just to unwind for the day. I don't always feel the need to patronize a gay establishment, and mostly I drink at the bar of the hotel I am staying at. Sometimes i will chat with other guests but usually, with the bartender, as most people seem to have a more interesting conversation with their phones anyway. Quote Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bartph Posted January 9, 2019 Report Share Posted January 9, 2019 On 12/18/2018 at 9:21 PM, ThePineapple said: Movie i watched alone was... Avengers: Infinity War Not that bad watching alone first time, with my fav. chips and green tea smuggled in hahaha Very 1st dining in a fancy buffet in a hotel alone was... on my birthday a few years ago :| Watched this alone in BKK on a solo trip. I went to Silom and the gay bars . I was walking back and forth but was too shy to enter. Then on the way out theres this cute Thai boy offering massage and oh well I was too shy to entertain him too cause he is surrounded by his fellow masseurs. I kept looking at him at a distance. Looking for friends and companionship here in BW. Not really into sex but more of long term friends I can spend coffee, drinks or movie together. 34 years old. I am surrounded by straight friends. Limix11 and Gozu 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wilfgene Posted January 9, 2019 Report Share Posted January 9, 2019 1 hour ago, bartph said: Watched this alone in BKK on a solo trip. I went to Silom and the gay bars . I was walking back and forth but was too shy to enter. Then on the way out theres this cute Thai boy offering massage and oh well I was too shy to entertain him too cause he is surrounded by his fellow masseurs. I kept looking at him at a distance. Looking for friends and companionship here in BW. Not really into sex but more of long term friends I can spend coffee, drinks or movie together. 34 years old. I am surrounded by straight friends. Luck/Wise no-move. First, try to confirm if it is a long-standing establishment. Second, try to acquaint yourself with the bartender or manager. So, if you ever get attracted to any BODY there, you get a rough idea of him beforehand. For instance, is he a regular here? Professional, part-time or amateur? Who's his agent/pimp? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest In Singapore Posted January 9, 2019 Report Share Posted January 9, 2019 On 12/23/2018 at 11:16 PM, repressednerd said: I like sitting at the bar area at Dorothy's. I thought that the friendliness would go away when Backstage moved away, but it's still the same ol' friendliness at Dorothy's. I agree, Dorothy's is a good place to go if your alone Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest step out Posted January 10, 2019 Report Share Posted January 10, 2019 11 hours ago, bartph said: Watched this alone in BKK on a solo trip. I went to Silom and the gay bars . I was walking back and forth but was too shy to enter. Then on the way out theres this cute Thai boy offering massage and oh well I was too shy to entertain him too cause he is surrounded by his fellow masseurs. I kept looking at him at a distance. Looking for friends and companionship here in BW. Not really into sex but more of long term friends I can spend coffee, drinks or movie together. 34 years old. I am surrounded by straight friends. You sound to me as if you are in the closet already for too long. Even alone in Bangkok you can't walk into a gay bar? Hm. What to say. Give yourself a push and start your life and start to accept that you are gay and nobody will probably change it. it all starts with you yourself. Just accept how you are and your sexual preference and stop thinking other people are looking down at you. For finding friends you might need to put your ad into a different section at blowing wind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lastdraw Posted January 31, 2019 Report Share Posted January 31, 2019 hey there, anyone wants to hit a club/bar tonight/tmr night? wanna visit one to kickstart the long hols Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
No Clash Posted February 1, 2019 Report Share Posted February 1, 2019 For gays clubs, there are only two rules to become a superstar: 1. You have nice muscular body 2. You are very cute. Age does not matter at all. Creevie 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
repressednerd Posted February 1, 2019 Report Share Posted February 1, 2019 Haven't drank since the year started. Can't wait to enjoy the rooftop and skyline with my drinks at 1 Altitude this Tuesday! Creevie 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Guest vk18 Posted February 5, 2019 Report Share Posted February 5, 2019 Anyone heading down to Hyperise Imperial @ 1 Altitude Later ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zackling Posted February 5, 2019 Report Share Posted February 5, 2019 pub... no .. but orchard town ones counted..?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
repressednerd Posted February 6, 2019 Report Share Posted February 6, 2019 (edited) Had such a good amount of whiskey last night. Time to save up for the month and just drink whiskey at home. On 2/1/2019 at 7:52 PM, No Clash said: For gays clubs, there are only two rules to become a superstar: 1. You have nice muscular body 2. You are very cute. Age does not matter at all. What I do notice is that some guys look like they have nice muscular bodies with the clothes they wear. So the choice of clothes is more important. Edited February 6, 2019 by repressednerd Creevie 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lastdraw Posted May 19, 2019 Report Share Posted May 19, 2019 anyone up for a drink tonight? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest club Posted May 19, 2019 Report Share Posted May 19, 2019 I overheard a couple talking. the lady was saying how addicted she was to clubbing last time, maybe during young times or single. Actually what you guys were doing in the club or pub? drinking, chatting and throwing darts or music maybe or ambience or socialising? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest club Posted May 19, 2019 Report Share Posted May 19, 2019 Just now, Guest club said: I overheard a couple talking. the lady was saying how addicted she was to clubbing last time, maybe during young times or single. Actually what you guys were doing in the club or pub? drinking, chatting and throwing darts or music maybe or ambience or socialising? my colleague keeps on inviting me to go dinner after work together. but I always rejected. after work all i wanted is to go back home. office hours already enough gossiping and talking. what is there to extend until office hours. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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