How To Enjoy Be a Good Skillful Bottom & Enjoyed being Anally Penetrated / Fucked? (Compiled)

[Plsdome]

Hmm... I am a top exploring to be a flex. Reason? I think that as I age, it might be better for me to be able to take it lying down (no pun intended)! Haha...

I was fxxked several times before... Mostly I did not enjoy it. It was painful and I don't get hard. I did realise that when I sit on the dick, I CAN get hard... When I do it doggie, I MIGHT get hard but the penetration is painful. When I do it lying on my back, I practically will either be pushing the guy away with my feet on his chest or straightening my legs (upwards) to give him limited access...

It does not seem fun!

I want to relax and learn to take it... But how do I relax?

Please DO NOT suggest drugs... Think Oralb said once before, if you need poppers to relax, dun have anal sex!

I want to relax the natural way... How do I enjoy being fxxked? Do I need to be fxxked many times to get used to it??

Thanks!

[Plsdome]

Share your experiences, guys... teach me... Thanks!

[sgblueberry]

Hmm... I am a top exploring to be a flex. Reason? I think that as I age, it might be better for me to be able to take it lying down (no pun intended)! Haha...

I was fxxked several times before... Mostly I did not enjoy it. It was painful and I don't get hard. I did realise that when I sit on the dick, I CAN get hard... When I do it doggie, I MIGHT get hard but the penetration is painful. When I do it lying on my back, I practically will either be pushing the guy away with my feet on his chest or straightening my legs (upwards) to give him limited access...

It does not seem fun!

I want to relax and learn to take it... But how do I relax?

Please DO NOT suggest drugs...  Think Oralb said once before, if you need poppers to relax, dun have anal sex!

I want to relax the natural way... How do I enjoy being fxxked? Do I need to be fxxked many times to get used to it??

Thanks!

to enjoy been fxxked, first, your top must know that he is fxxking a man, not a piece of meat.

I do have my fair share of good fxxk and worst fxxk, i quite like to do in doggie or sit on it as it is quite nice and not as painful and laying on back.

I do had a 2 wonderful experiences of a good fxxk laying on bed, one was in one seven, this top make me very relax and make sure i cum first, then he slowly enter me bit by bit and observe my expression making sure i am ok before the pumping start.

2nd experience was a very cute top....(yummy) was brushing his dick around my arse making me wan it and high later like the first one he enter me bit by bit and when he is fully inside me, he hold for a while and slow he then do the work

The worst was a top just pop into my arse and pumping, the pain is like the arse going to spilt into 2.

trying telling your top to be slow and gentle, make sure he lub the internal of your arse fully as well when he lub his dick, PS: make sure he dun wipe the remaining lub on your body.....

After which get into a comfortable position for both of you and ask him to slowly enter into your arse. When i say slowly mean enter a bit and stop.....then a bit and stop, let your arse get used to his dick, as he might have a big one.....

Once he is fully in, not poke into, get him to rest for a while, once you feel the whole feeling is nice then ask your top to slow do the work.....the key word is SLOW........then increase the speed as your guys proceed...and always to observe both party reaction...

To make the whole event more interesting..if doing with someone you really like, set the mood first and drink some wine or liquor....you will feel like in th heaven

[Guest Guest]

i love it when he grabs my feet and push me up while fxxking me. The position is like the feeling of helplessness, like being trapped and raped (dont ask me why i have rape fantasies... of ppl raping me)

doggie style as well, with my face shoved into a pillow while being fxxked.

[skylancer]

try to relax urself... dont think too much on the ass or pain.. as this will make u more painful from ur ass...

the best way to prevent the pain, i only think of asking the top to put more KY..

that all i can tell u...

hope this will help

[GachiMuchi]

Well, I think there is nothing you can do except doing your part as a good btm, like;

1. Clean house prior to being entered.

2. Regular leg exercise to keep your butt muscle tone and ur ass tight.

3. Learn how to give a good bj, it's a good prelude prior to sex.

4. Learn breathing exercise, it would help you relax.

When both of you are in the room; communication, be it verbal or through body language is very important too. The btm need to express that he is rather new at it to the top or that you prefer the top to take it easy because you are worried that his 8" sausage is going to do deep, unrepairable damage to ur inside. If the top knows it, most will surely take it easy; then again, you can still communicate to him that while he is on his way inside you. But if you keep quite, how would he know you don't enjoy it. So, do open your mouth to communicate.

Time is also another factor. Is the sauna closing, is the top rushing off, etc. When someone is rushing to go off, he may just want to get it over with quickly, and thus would not considered doing it slow and so on.

Who you end up with is all by chance, if you happened to find a good top, lucky you. If you landed yourself with a lousy top, well, too bad, but that is not the end of the world, just leave the room and find another. The choice is still yours to make.

[crazygolfer]

I would say, this topic is also related to ‘What makes a good Bottom?” which we also discussed earlier, see below ….

http://bw2.9.forumer.com/index.php?showtopic=651

[chubaholic]

Like they say, no pain no gain. After the pain, pleasure will follow.

[Guest Guest]

I do had a 2 wonderful experiences of a good fxxk laying on bed, one was in one seven, this top make me very relax and make sure i cum first, then he slowly enter me bit by bit and observe my expression making sure i am ok before the pumping start.

Why he make u cum first leh? After that hard to get hard on isnt it?

Btw, i prefer lying down, but i cant really get hard on, unless the top body press on my cock. Also, i get hard on easier if i lying flat face down. A bit like doggie but the leg is not bent but flat down, not so tire also. Not sure is it harder for the top to fxxk...Any comment?

[GachiMuchi]

Frankly, it is not difficult to enter when you are lying face down with legs straighten because the hole is positioned just between the legs. What the top need to do it just to spread out ur legs wide, like a V, while he mount u from behind. In the mean time, he can also use his mouth / tongue to do things to ur back, neck, ears, etc.

One thing to note; if he has got short dick and u have got a big bubble butt, entering in such position can be quite hard to maneuver. So, to help him, just lift your butt up a little or put a pillow under your groin area, then it will be easier for him to enter.

It is easier to hit the prostate when lying in that position, that is why u can get hard on, when ur partner enters u from behind.

If he still got problem then you just have to try other positions lor.

[skylancer]

Frankly, it is not difficult to enter when you are lying face down with legs straighten because the hole is positioned just between the legs. What the top need to do it just to spread out ur legs wide, like a V, while he mount u from behind. In the mean time, he can also use his mouth / tongue to do things to ur back, neck, ears, etc.

One thing to note; if he has got short dick and u have got a big bubble butt, entering in such position can be quite hard to maneuver. So, to help him, just lift your butt up a little or put a pillow under your groin area, then it will be easier for him to enter.

It is easier to hit the prostate when lying in that position, that is why u can get hard on, when ur partner enters u from behind.

If he still got problem then you just have to try other positions lor.

hahaha... that reminds me of my bf and me having sex... hahaha

[Guest Guest]

Frankly, it is not difficult to enter when you are lying face down with legs straighten because the hole is positioned just between the legs. What the top need to do it just to spread out ur legs wide, like a V, while he mount u from behind. In the mean time, he can also use his mouth / tongue to do things to ur back, neck, ears, etc.

One thing to note; if he has got short dick and u have got a big bubble butt, entering in such position can be quite hard to maneuver. So, to help him, just lift your butt up a little or put a pillow under your groin area, then it will be easier for him to enter.

It is easier to hit the prostate when lying in that position, that is why u can get hard on, when ur partner enters u from behind.

If he still got problem then you just have to try other positions lor.

Yah, i like the feeling the top kiss or lick my back, neck or ear while fxxking

[Plsdome]

Hmm... Thanks... I think I still prefer tp be shallow fxxked... But as I fxxk too, I think tops would prefer having the whole cock inside the ass!

Hmm... Seems like I would need a lot of practice...

And to think I purposely chose a smaller dick to fxxk me that day... Haha...

[GKS]

I think it would be a good idea to have a demonstartion by any top and bottom? I think two to three couples perform that would be benificial!Subsequently an orgy!hahaha :thumb:

[Plsdome]

Ahem... Haha... Dun get shot for that comment ah...

Anyway... Just want to find out as well...

1) How many of you are 'born' bottoms?

2) How many of you are flex? Or Tops turned flex?

3) For flex or tops turned flex, do you actually enjoy being a bottom? Why would you want to bottom? Do you bottom out of necessity? So as to enjoy more sex? Out of love and got used to it? How did you get used to it? By 'practicing'? Do you get hard?

4) Is getting hard necessary for a true bottom? Does enjoying bottoming means the ability to get hard while being fxxked?

From young, I always think about being fxxked. It seems erotic and I can JO to thoughts of handsome men fxxking me. When I was fxxked, however, I felt more pain than pleasure... No doubt seeing the sweaty hunk fxxk you is erotic, but I just can't get hard... Only when it is all done and later then I find it damn erotic and JO to the image...

So, am I a bottom?... I really want to enjoy being fxxked... But when will I be able to enjoy...

[oralb]

I did realise that when I sit on the dick, I CAN get hard... When I do it doggie, I MIGHT get hard but the penetration is painful. When I do it lying on my back, I practically will either be pushing the guy away with my feet on his chest or straightening my legs (upwards) to give him limited access...

since my name is mentioned, i have to add something

i am a top, quite hard to tell you how to enjoy being F, hence my replies are based on what i understand from others.

why you can get hard when you sit on the dick?

basically you are in control of the penertration, i bet you must be going very slow, lower inches by inches, stop when you felt pain and continue when you have adjusted to his size. this is one of the best position for 1st time btm, as this allows btm to adjust himself during the whole duration of anal.

incidently the position is also when your hole is the widest, aka shitting positing.

this leads to another advise, when your top is pushing inside, imagine your are shitting and widen your hole, it may helps in the entering...

of coz, dont end up like what TTS had experienced when his btm really shitted on his mattress

Personally, i think the most important aspect is you have to like the top and be comfortable with him to fully enjoy sex. get the state of "making love" not just "having sex"

lastly if you really need it, i can be your top model hahahahah....

and yes, no pop pers, if you need chem to relax, maybe you are not ready for anal

[Plsdome]

Oralb, yes... I noticed that my bottoms who had not been fxxked for some time prefer to sit on my cock first and ride me till they got used to the size before I flip them over... Thanks.

I try to have the shitting feeling when I am being fxxked... Really scared I will really shit... Haha... Worse is when I accidentally fart in the process... Hahaha... Very paiseh one...

Oh, want to be my model ah? Can... But I can only take small ones leh... And I prefer if you can flip over to satisfy me too...

Arrange a time with me lor... Hahaha...

[Histonin]

As the question title says above, how does one enjoy anal sex? I have sex with my boyfriend and he obviously enjoys being penetrated, but whenever I try it on myself, I can usually get no pleasure and mostly just feel plain discomfort after a while. I've never inserted a penis all the way into my ass because of the pain and have just attempted to loosen the area first with plenty of lube and fingering, but most of the time I just achieve a shitting sensation when pulling in and out and that definitely isn't a feeling I associate with pleasure.

I've been trying very hard already to find a way to enjoy being anally penetrated. I've gone onto many sites, experimented countless times on myself, and recently even started inserting a toothrush end into my ass (I place a condom over the hard end [obviously not the bristly one] and reaaalllyy lube it up). While the last method seemed to give me slightly better results with regard to pleasure, after a while it just again became uncomfortable.

Is there any advice anyone here on blowingwind can give me? My boyfriend REALLY enjoys being penetrated, and I want to know how it feels too. I want to feel him thrusting me with me moaning in ecstasy and not pain and discomfort.

On a related note, my boyfriend tells me that the shitting sensation that I feel when pulling my finger in and out of my ass is the same feeling he gets when I thrust him, but he seems to be able to override it somehow. Or is that part of the pleasure?

Please note that I won't really be able to give quick replies because I'm serving my NS and will only be out on weekends. I'll most probably be able to reply today until the late afternoon before I prepare to go back to camp.

Thanks guys!

Edited June 14, 2010 by Histonin

[babyblue]

You can try this. It works for many people...

When you're about to be penetrated, push your anus out as if you're shitting. Try to hold in that position as long as you can until the pain of having a penis in your arse subsides. Then you can relax and enjoy the ride...

[Guest We are not trevvy]

Is there any advice anyone here on trevvy can give me?

You in blowingwind forum leh. Here not trevvy ah. :swear:

[Histonin]

You in blowingwind forum leh. Here not trevvy ah. :swear:

Eh? Whoops.. I'm so sorry about that! I'll change it right away!

[GachiMuchi]

As a top, one has to have a little patience. When the bottom is feeling painful, the top should stop moving and let the bottom get use to the size of the dick and let the bottom ass ease itself onto the dick. In such case, one can actually feel the dick inching slowly as the anal walls opens up to receive the dick.

Alternatively, I would either gently swing his two legs (in missionary) left and right to help in the easing of his ass onto my dick.

The important point here is patience and a hard dick.

The bottom needs to relax and focus his attention away from the pain/discomfort.

In the mean time, top can play with the nipple of the bottom or the top can be kissing or doing stuff that would stimulate the bottom while his dick is inching slowly into the bottom.

[doncoin]

I've been trying very hard already to find a way to enjoy being anally penetrated. I've gone onto many sites, experimented countless times on myself, and recently even started inserting a toothrush end into my ass (I place a condom over the hard end [obviously not the bristly one] and reaaalllyy lube it up). While the last method seemed to give me slightly better results with regard to pleasure, after a while it just again became uncomfortable.

Is there any advice anyone here on blowingwind can give me? My boyfriend REALLY enjoys being penetrated, and I want to know how it feels too. I want to feel him thrusting me with me moaning in ecstasy and not pain and discomfort.

Thanks guys!

Try taking a muscle relaxant of some sort, but make sure it is not the numbing type if you are applying a topical cream.

[Guest gorgeous]

As a top, one has to have a little patience. When the bottom is feeling painful, the top should stop moving and let the bottom get use to the size of the dick and let the bottom ass ease itself onto the dick. In such case, one can actually feel the dick inching slowly as the anal walls opens up to receive the dick.

Alternatively, I would either gently swing his two legs (in missionary) left and right to help in the easing of his ass onto my dick.

The important point here is patience and a hard dick.

The bottom needs to relax and focus his attention away from the pain/discomfort.

In the mean time, top can play with the nipple of the bottom or the top can be kissing or doing stuff that would stimulate the bottom while his dick is inching slowly into the bottom.

a good top will react in this manner ;o)

[Histonin]

As a top, one has to have a little patience. When the bottom is feeling painful, the top should stop moving and let the bottom get use to the size of the dick and let the bottom ass ease itself onto the dick. In such case, one can actually feel the dick inching slowly as the anal walls opens up to receive the dick.

Alternatively, I would either gently swing his two legs (in missionary) left and right to help in the easing of his ass onto my dick.

The important point here is patience and a hard dick.

The bottom needs to relax and focus his attention away from the pain/discomfort.

In the mean time, top can play with the nipple of the bottom or the top can be kissing or doing stuff that would stimulate the bottom while his dick is inching slowly into the bottom.

Hmm... How do you focus attention away from the pain/discomfort? If it's there doesn't it mean that something is wrong?

[GachiMuchi]

Hmm... How do you focus attention away from the pain/discomfort? If it's there doesn't it mean that something is wrong?

This you would hv to ask those bottoms.

[Guest Guest]

This varies greatly from man to man like some men are ticklish and some are not. That is innate just like being gay is. If you are not a bottom, then no use thinking you can enjoy like your bf. Enjoy being a top because you'll have a bigger market riding other men

Being a bottom means you'll only enjoy sex when submitting yourself to be penetrated by other men. The penetration only start a series of complex physical, mental and most importantly--hormonal reactions that actual control our body's sexual reaction. It makes my nipples swell, my skin hot to touch and my anal itching ( some tops even sweared that I self lubricate as well like a woman.) These hormones are what make it all innate. I can actually feel them transforming my behaviour to a total slut when I meet a dominant top. And then the top will be stimulated by me to be a dominant male animal. Nobody need to stop to consult any friends or manuals. I prefer that we simply follow some animal instincts

All tops I know wouldn't give up their ways either even though they couldn't understand why was I enjoying myself so much being serviced by them. Seeing me enjoying myself is all part of their joys too.

[Eragon]

Try asking your bf to finger u up first before fxxking - maybe for abt 10-15 mins depends on individuals, nice and slow but SAFELY; not to cause any injury. Use lube. He can try to use one to three fingers for a start, after u are more accustomed to that, your xx will be relaxed and that should be easy for both of you after that :smokin:

And please, not a toothbrush, that's dangerous bro

[abang]

Just relax.. Dont think of the pain... Also get an experienced top (seems like the job for GM)... He knows how to "read" and "rape" your body, perhaps?

As for me, should I bottom..... it is more of a mind over matter... think of sex as a pleasure and not pain...

[zcbm101]

Hmm... How do you focus attention away from the pain/discomfort? If it's there doesn't it mean that something is wrong?

ooh, interesting qn. As a btm, when I encounter a really huge dick, I'll ask the top to stop for a moment after the first penetration to allow myself to get use to the pain (as what gachi muchi said).

The thing is the pain/discomfort will take some time to go away. In the meantime, I like the top to kiss me, play with my nipples etc to distract me from it.

[Histonin]

Alrighty then. I'll try all the advice given here. First I shall finger myself bah and see how that turns out. Hopefully things are better this time round..

[Guest joe]

I have always ADORED being a bottom tho the first few times really hurt. Now, there is minimal discomfort and I experience a state of ecstasy when my lover uses me! I have never, ever wanted to be a top; never even imagined that. Truth is, I'm totally disgusted by my male appendages, MEGA DISGUSTED!!! I adore giving oral to total distraction; hard to say which is more blissful: being mounted and entered by a man or receiving a LOVELY load of sweet semen in my mouth! My fantasy is to give orel while being buggered! Believe it or not, I've been privileged to experience that. Hope to fulfill that favorite fantasy soon1

[Guest Joe]

Joe again: Meant to write I've NEVER experienced two men at once! One to give oral pleasure while the other takes his pleasure from my tight ass! Help?

[Guest Joe]

Joe, yet again. Sorry! Have to say I'm neither submissive nor servile. I always participate in every way possible when making love with my man. Some have called me a "potty mouth" and more: also "hot little bitch" hot piece of ass" and etc. A LOT of MY pleasure comes from my lover's pleasure and reactions; tho, the sensation of being penetrated is the ultimate thrill for me; that and being pounded till we both experience our max thrill. Again, I have absolutely NO desire to "top" another man OR woman, for that matter! This is just how I've felt for my entire life and remain very contented; blissful, even.

[Guest Guest]

are there people who never really enjoy being penetrated? i have never really get any pleasure, no matter how deep it is and it's never painless. have been topping but i would like to experience the ecstasy that some bottoms have claimed.

[Guest Ass Brained ?]

Hey to the original author of this post, obviously you have an ASs up your brain !

Wana know how to get penetrated with great ease ? Easy, just go to any carpark and see those big concrete bollards ? Got slide your big fat ass onto it ! Thereafter, I guarantee you can simultaneously let 1000 cocks slide in and out without any pain at all !

[Guest Guest]

Hey to the original author of this post, obviously you have an ASs up your brain !

Wana know how to get penetrated with great ease ? Easy, just go to any carpark and see those big concrete bollards ? Got slide your big fat ass onto it ! Thereafter, I guarantee you can simultaneously let 1000 cocks slide in and out without any pain at all !

maybe the mod can delete this kind of dumb comment.

[MlyGuy1975]

I've longed to be versatile ... and that has yet to happen. I gave up and just stuck to being a top (but I do reciprocate by putting enthusiasm in my orals and rims, hoping it makes up somewhat). :whistle:

[Histonin]

Ooh it's certainly been a long time since I posted this hahaha. Well... I have some interesting updates actually. Since then I've practiced with my anus. I even bought a sex toy with my boyfriend and have been practicing at home with it. I must say that after a while I could start to feel this pleasure that every bottom seemed to be talking about while using it. However, after protracted use my ass just start to hurt.

Granted, I haven't reached that moaning screaming orgasming-inducing pleasure which my boyfriend claims I give to him every time I top him, and it still seems like a looong way away. But I seem to be getting somewhere. Maybe when I turn my boyfriend into a guy who occasionally hungers to be top I'll get back to you guys on my success story. =PPPP

[Guest Guest]

When i watched those fxxking pxxn, the guy who got fxxked, his face expression always seems to be like very painful?! Wonder those expression is painful or shiok?

[frangerang]

Is being a bottom really enjoyable? I tried it once and found it rather painful! Any ways to make this more enjoyable? I dont mind having anyone practise on me just to try again! LOL

[Guest Hot Boi]

Practice makes perfect! I started to enjoy it after more than 10 times being topped by my bf.

[Yahright11]

I same same still new to it

cum quick though

[namiko_aiko]

pain is pleasure. hahaha. you will love it the more you had been fucked. my one time kinda sucks and painful etc. but you will have that addictive thought of trying it again and again.

[darkflame]

Your top must know how to relax your anal muscles before he mounts you.

If his technique is good, you will have hardly much pain.

[gymrat]

You can your anus surgically loosened to enoy being btm more as it will reduce pain if you have been too tight

[joshTWjosh]

I guess some people are just not meant to be bottom. If you keep trying and it gives u too much pain instead of pleasure, then it's probably a sign for you to stop.

 

Otherwise, to answer your question, a lot of bottoms get "turned on" by seeing their top dominate and control them, and derive so much pleasure from seeing their top fucking them. Also, the most obvious answer is the top's technique and dick being able to hit the bottom's prostrate, which is what produces the sensory pleasure.

[charles9]

It takes both hands to clap.

The bottom shouldn't think so much about it being painful but just relax and have the 'i so wanna be fucked' mindset throughout. Just focus on the good stuff. Your top dominating u, so intent on stuffing your hole...

The top too has his role to play. As eager as he is to tap some man pussy, he should have good technique instead of going all jackhammer. Must know how to 'sayang sayang' his bottom.

[Guest SBS6888S]

I enjoyed getting dominated and everytime I did bottom I often imaging myself being a sex slave of another man being laid by him letting him do whatever he want to me.

[Dorkable]

There should be plenty of foreplay like smooching....licking the nipples.....especially rimming the boyhole and fingering gently. All these pave the way to the enjoyment of being pounded thereafter.