Guest Sam4892 Posted December 30, 2021 Share Posted December 30, 2021 Yesterday I think my father saw me browsing gay site but I managed to close it right away. However, I am sensing that he is suspicious. This morning during breakfast, he asked me if I already have gf and I jist said I'm just focusing on my studies and no time for that. Do you think he knows? Should I tell him? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cutejack Posted December 30, 2021 Share Posted December 30, 2021 On 12/30/2021 at 8:20 AM, Guest Sam4892 said: Yesterday I think my father saw me browsing gay site but I managed to close it right away. However, I am sensing that he is suspicious. This morning during breakfast, he asked me if I already have gf and I jist said I'm just focusing on my studies and no time for that. Do you think he knows? Should I tell him? Tell n wink at him. Tell him that he is cute. Lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Hint Posted December 30, 2021 Share Posted December 30, 2021 On 12/30/2021 at 8:26 AM, cutejack said: Tell n wink at him. Tell him that he is cute. Lol Naughty you On 12/30/2021 at 8:20 AM, Guest Sam4892 said: Yesterday I think my father saw me browsing gay site but I managed to close it right away. However, I am sensing that he is suspicious. This morning during breakfast, he asked me if I already have gf and I jist said I'm just focusing on my studies and no time for that. Do you think he knows? Should I tell him? Bring a bf home, he will understand. Sometimes it’s good to tell in a subtle way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest KanaGan Posted December 30, 2021 Share Posted December 30, 2021 On 12/30/2021 at 8:20 AM, Guest Sam4892 said: Yesterday I think my father saw me browsing gay site but I managed to close it right away. However, I am sensing that he is suspicious. This morning during breakfast, he asked me if I already have gf and I jist said I'm just focusing on my studies and no time for that. Do you think he knows? Should I tell him? Start to cry and say you were raped at 18 when you were studying overseas. That's why you lied about your sexual inclination. See if dad believes you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cityhallguy Posted December 30, 2021 Share Posted December 30, 2021 So your dad never further question you about what he saw or your sexual orientation, then you just leave it aside and focus on other things like study. If he did sit down and talk to you about the subject and you like to remain in closet as you afraid of receiving bad outcomes if you tell the truth. Just said you are exploring sex and curious in different sexual activity shown on the porn sites. Then see how your dad react and reply. From there on, you should know your dad is ok with you being gay or not and the rest up to you to play your cards. Since u r here 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest 2nddat Posted December 30, 2021 Share Posted December 30, 2021 On 12/30/2021 at 8:44 AM, Guest KanaGan said: Start to cry and say you were raped at 18 when you were studying overseas. That's why you lied about your sexual inclination. See if dad believes you. Yup, can tell your father you had mixed feelings after the rape and weirdly that you started liking guys. To add, said that you have joined a support group here for treatment of your traumatic rape experience and your sexual inclination and that you have also accompanied a fellow gay who was sexually assaulted here to a police station to make a police report. However, the policeman berated the gay, criticising that he was drunk and dressed too sexy, hence he had asked for it. Shared also that you and the gay cried at the police station at the policeman's insensitive and cruel remarks and that you had asked the support group leaders whether you should come clean to your parents on the rape encounter and change in sexual inclination. The support group leaders initially advised that you should keep it a secret and take it to your grave. However, after numerous consultations with them, they relented and advised that you should come clean on the matter, hence you are sharing it with your father now. Your father should be empathetic and touched with tears and most likely accept your story and sexual inclination. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
practease Posted December 30, 2021 Share Posted December 30, 2021 Just tell him, "Stop being a dick about it already, otherwise I am compelled to suck it.", should do the trick? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fab Posted December 30, 2021 Share Posted December 30, 2021 Quote 鍾意就好，理佢男定女 never argue with the guests. let them bark all they want. 结缘不结怨 解怨不解缘 After I have said what I wanna say, I don't care what you say. 看穿不说穿 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest No Ask No Tell Posted December 30, 2021 Share Posted December 30, 2021 On 12/30/2021 at 8:20 AM, Guest Sam4892 said: Yesterday I think my father saw me browsing gay site but I managed to close it right away. However, I am sensing that he is suspicious. This morning during breakfast, he asked me if I already have gf and I jist said I'm just focusing on my studies and no time for that. Do you think he knows? Should I tell him? The trick of not having an answer but also curious is to ask him back -the purpose of his asking. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
superflawless Posted December 30, 2021 Share Posted December 30, 2021 Only you will know whether it is okay since you know your father's temperament best. But I never do things without a Plan B: What if you are thrown out? Do you have a place to stay in the interim? How about living expenses? I only came out once I was financially capable enough to fend for myself. But you do you. "A life lived in fear, is a life half-lived" And then 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Possibility Posted December 30, 2021 Share Posted December 30, 2021 On 12/30/2021 at 11:07 AM, superflawless said: Only you will know whether it is okay since you know your father's temperament best. But I never do things without a Plan B: What if you are thrown out? Do you have a place to stay in the interim? How about living expenses? Ya, the risk is there but not as common as the Western countries. On positive side, his dad could be a bisexual or closetted gay and that makes coming out a lot easier than you thought. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Mary Posted December 30, 2021 Share Posted December 30, 2021 On 12/30/2021 at 8:20 AM, Guest Sam4892 said: Yesterday I think my father saw me browsing gay site but I managed to close it right away. However, I am sensing that he is suspicious. This morning during breakfast, he asked me if I already have gf and I jist said I'm just focusing on my studies and no time for that. Do you think he knows? Should I tell him? I hope from this episode , u have learnt that serious questions (situations) is better to ask some wise trusted friends or consult professional Out of 10 replied below , how many takes u seriously ?? They provided those "try to be funny answer" ? Also, in BW , out of 10 chat topics , problems, situations , 9 are just make out of it , just to garner hits ! Good luck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Huh Posted December 30, 2021 Share Posted December 30, 2021 On 12/30/2021 at 8:44 AM, Guest KanaGan said: Start to cry and say you were raped at 18 when you were studying overseas. That's why you lied about your sexual inclination. See if dad believes you. Father: errrr, son, since when have you studied overseas? I oni know you could not even complete your ITE Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted December 30, 2021 Share Posted December 30, 2021 On 12/30/2021 at 8:20 AM, Guest Sam4892 said: Yesterday I think my father saw me browsing gay site but I managed to close it right away. However, I am sensing that he is suspicious. This morning during breakfast, he asked me if I already have gf and I jist said I'm just focusing on my studies and no time for that. Do you think he knows? Should I tell him? Is your dad religious? Will he disown you? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest 王粒红 Posted December 30, 2021 Share Posted December 30, 2021 On 12/30/2021 at 8:05 PM, Guest Guest said: Is your dad religious? Will he disown you? Bring his dad to sauna and he will be forever transformed. Dad and son share same cock Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dart Posted December 30, 2021 Share Posted December 30, 2021 On 12/30/2021 at 8:20 AM, Guest Sam4892 said: Yesterday I think my father saw me browsing gay site but I managed to close it right away. However, I am sensing that he is suspicious. This morning during breakfast, he asked me if I already have gf and I jist said I'm just focusing on my studies and no time for that. Do you think he knows? Should I tell him? The fact that your father asked you regarding gf right after the incident gives rise of his suspicion. He is suspicious, not you. As a father, he will ask you frankly if he wants to know concerning you. There's no "standing on ceremony" between a father and a son. Meanwhile behave naturally as a good son. When the right time comes, come clean with him truthfully and respectfully. shangrilo and fab 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Dad son Posted December 30, 2021 Share Posted December 30, 2021 I watched coming out colton Netflix recently and my dad walked in. He ask what I was watching and I told him it's about the bachelor who came out. He said is that the one on the news that came out during covid? I said yes. He said its now a TV series ah? I said yes. Then we watched together and we reached the scene where colton came out to his dad when fishing. My dad say something about coltons dad is so cool and understanding. I asked him? How would you have reacted? Then he ask me "why? You have something to tell me?" Then I said "I'm gay dad." He laughed and poke me. I am confused now. Anyway then we didn't proceed the conversation and carried on watching. So... Did I really came out? Or my dad thought it's a joke? I guess that's what they mean when you come out. Come out properly. Don't joke. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted December 30, 2021 Share Posted December 30, 2021 When kids come out, it is only natural that parents have certain responses. How they respond or react comes down to what they think, feel, and believe in. If you think about it, those who react negatively, typically do it out of fear and ignorance. Their response can be conditioned by religious beliefs, societal or family expectations, i.e. lose face, and for some parents, it is just an outright denial, i.e. we do not talk about it. Unfortunately, the local media has traditionally leaned towards portraying LGBTQA+ people in a negative or tragic light, and this adds to parents' mindset that it is the worst thing that can happen to their children. It is not an easy decision to come out to your parents, but you have to live your life at some point. You are not in control nor are you responsible for how your parents choose to react. As their child, you are responsible for being truthful and honest to them. Parents can look at this moment as an event that can bring them closer to their sons or daughters, or as an event that will push them further apart. mate69 and cityhallguy 1 1 Quote Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DiDing Posted December 30, 2021 Share Posted December 30, 2021 Hmm from what I have gathered from my friends and my own experience I think it varies from family to family. The way the family is brought up and religious factors too. Well if your father's temprament is rather easy going and your relationship with him is good and you yourself feel ready with back up plans in place then it might be good if you came out. On the other hand if it isn't and you don't feel the need to do it you don't have to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cutejack Posted December 31, 2021 Share Posted December 31, 2021 Nothing to come out to family I guess. Soon or later yr dad will know or maybe he knew it oredi. Just study hard n pass the exams. Over the time when u started to work n feed yr parents, whatever u do n whoever u r, they will be on for it. As long don't play raw around n bring back disease home ok liao. No straight sons come out to parents then why should gay sons? Think about it. cityhallguy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
auscent Posted January 1, 2022 Share Posted January 1, 2022 If they are more conservative type, I wont tell. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted January 2, 2022 Share Posted January 2, 2022 How old is your dad? His height and weight? What does he do? Whats his job? Does he wears his pants tight? He wears a uniform to work?does he exercise and muscled? Is he firece look? What kind of underwear he wear? Does his manhood look big? Got bulge whe he wears his pants? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted January 2, 2022 Share Posted January 2, 2022 On 1/2/2022 at 2:33 PM, Guest Guest said: How old is your dad? His height and weight? What does he do? Whats his job? Does he wears his pants tight? He wears a uniform to work?does he exercise and muscled? Is he firece look? What kind of underwear he wear? Does his manhood look big? Got bulge whe he wears his pants? U trying to seduce his mature dad ah … 😅 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coolbriz Posted January 2, 2022 Share Posted January 2, 2022 There was this daddy whom I was chatting with, he said his wish for his sons is very simple: as long as they are healthy, independent and not “ah gua” (this I interpreted as gay in general). Such a “simple” wish to a father might be a great challenge for a gay son. My point is, as a son, you are closest to your father and what kind of personality he has, be it conservative or liberal, what kind of expectation he has for you, be it high or low, will ultimately impact on how you are going to respond to his suspicion and queries. My dad was a conservative one, where the word, “gay” is a taboo and never spoken of. Although he would condemn whenever he encountered one, he would least expect that his son is one too. Well, for my case, staying low profile is my way to live in harmony with him. Quote Be cool, like a breeze... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Bobby Posted January 2, 2022 Share Posted January 2, 2022 On 1/2/2022 at 7:31 PM, Coolbriz said: There was this daddy whom I was chatting with, he said his wish for his sons is very simple: as long as they are healthy, independent and not “ah gua” (this I interpreted as gay in general). Such a “simple” wish to a father might be a great challenge for a gay son. My point is, as a son, you are closest to your father and what kind of personality he has, be it conservative or liberal, what kind of expectation he has for you, be it high or low, will ultimately impact on how you are going to respond to his suspicion and queries. My dad was a conservative one, where the word, “gay” is a taboo and never spoken of. Although he would condemn whenever he encountered one, he would least expect that his son is one too. Well, for my case, staying low profile is my way to live in harmony with him. When a gay son comes out from the closet, the father (or parents) will be forced to go into the closet (lying for you in front of relatives). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
123ZZZ Posted January 2, 2022 Share Posted January 2, 2022 On 12/30/2021 at 8:20 AM, Guest Sam4892 said: Yesterday I think my father saw me browsing gay site but I managed to close it right away. However, I am sensing that he is suspicious. This morning during breakfast, he asked me if I already have gf and I jist said I'm just focusing on my studies and no time for that. Do you think he knows? Should I tell him? think just carrying on to say that you want to focus on studies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
123ZZZ Posted January 2, 2022 Share Posted January 2, 2022 Parents might suspect but think they might be in denial and feel that their kids are always the best and ‘perfect’ whatever that might mean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
add-oil Posted January 2, 2022 Share Posted January 2, 2022 In our conservative asian culture better keep it a secret forever Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mate69 Posted January 2, 2022 Share Posted January 2, 2022 Sigh, such schisms in society yuquidam and fab 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Lawrence Posted June 12, 2022 Share Posted June 12, 2022 I'm planning to come out to my father next Sunday. What do you think? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Try and see Posted June 12, 2022 Share Posted June 12, 2022 On 6/12/2022 at 10:35 AM, Guest Lawrence said: I'm planning to come out to my father next Sunday. What do you think? That'll be one Father's Day that he will always remember 🤣 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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