For gays who will be seniors one day - A Steve5380 Topic!

Steve5380 · August 31, 2025

Dear gays who will be seniors, or are already like myself: here is a video about how doctors treat seniors. Not every doctor does what is said here, there are many good doctors. But just in case, it is good to be prepared:

We may not know as much as the doctor, but we should know much more... about ourselves. We should look out for symptoms, and once identified, learn everything possible about their causes. Learn if they can be corrected by preventive medicine, which we may do ourselves, or else what treatments are offered by conventional medicine.

Stay healthy, stay strong. Remember that for seniors ( and everyone else ) health and functionality implies HAPPINESS.

Steve5380 · August 31, 2025

Not again! this old man posts videos abut classical ballet! Is it because he is completely away from the skills of these dancers? No. It is because he appreciates the skills of these athletes and frankly, he would give up all the bodybuilding bodies for the bodies of the principal dancers below. :lol:

First, one of the nicest views of the ballet Don Quixote, a classic of male fine dancing:

Here, principal dancer Leonid Sarafanov is indeed exceptional. He does not look male enough? Who cares? His frontal view does not leave any doubt, I am male enough and I never minded somewhat effeminate guys. I just think of caressing that tight butt and the long firm muscles, yumm... 😃

And here is another video that explains to ignorant like me how these dancers do these incredible turns:

Another Japanese athlete I like to admire! He is not tall, not big. Not a challenge for any medium bodybuilder. However with his agility, if Takumi practices a defensive martial art like Aikido, or an aggressive one like Taekwondo or even Karate ( if he wants to risk his body to these ), the bodybuilder would have little chance, no matter his musculature.

Steve5380 · August 31, 2025

Dear fellow gays,

This is a video worth having ( watching, recording ). It is: "The Ninth Symphony by Maurice Bejart". A great ballet danced to the music of Beethoven's 9th symphony, choreographed by Bejart. The video does not open here, but there is a message "Watch on YouTube". This may open the video on a separate window, like it does on my computer.

Good luck! This video can be mesmerizing, becoming irresistible after just one watching.

Steve5380 · September 3, 2025

Dear gays who are or will be seniors one day: here is a very interesting video to watch, especially to the end:

Spinoza again!

I am sure that none of you, who have fallen into what many religions identify as the serious mortal sinful state of homosexuality ( an orientation which most of us never asked for ), can believe that this makes us deserving of ETERNAL punishment in hell. How can some actions, habits we take during our SHORT lifetime deserve an ETERNAL punishment??? Isn't our life already a mixture of heaven and hell ??? ha ha...

Once we discover that the organized religions and their doctrines are pure fantasy, this should not prevent us from enjoying religiousness. Then, instead of pure hearsay, we use our spirituality to entertain ideas, philosophy, make speculations about a supernatural and afterlife. No FACTS can negate these speculations, since we know of no FACTS about any supernatural and afterlife. Everything with non-zero probability has a chance. :thumb:

Dear fellow gays, with hell ruled out, a big reason to fear old age and death is removed. If we can imagine some afterlife, then even more fear disappears. It is very probable that with the end of physical life, suffering will also disappear and in the afterlife our spirits will again enjoy freedom and purpose. But... nobody can promise anything, ha ha!

Steve5380 · September 4, 2025

I want to relate a personal episode that shows me how Seniority can be a source of happiness.

All my life I dealt with electrical engineering, not with philosophy. Although I knew Spinoza as an important philosopher, I never looked into his work until very recently in the last months. And I have discovered that the ideas of this great man fit perfectly in my life-long agnosticism. In the videos of him I have posted, plus the following one, I follow his rationale perfectly well and in total agreement.

I did not expect that among all the bullshit in YouTube I would find such valuable information. Especially in this following video:

I have always considered the Asian religions superior to the Western ones. In particular Buddhism, I studied it with my agnostic mind and I agree with it. I like the speculations of karma and reincarnation, but they don't make it into beliefs, because I don't know of any FACT that confirm them. Here in the video Spinoza says the same, explaining why. And as he says, this does not diminish the importance of Buddhism.

Had I passed away a few months ago, these realizations would have not come to me. Today, I happily feel confidence in my future. I have no idea what it will be, but I suspect that it will be better than my life today. You know, ATHEISM IS A BELIEF, not based on any FACT. Belief that there was nothing before this life, and there will be nothing after. Although I don't rule this out, I give it a low probability. This tells me that my "self-esteem" is healthy, ha ha!

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Edited September 4, 2025 by Steve5380

Why? · September 5, 2025

9 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

Not again! this old man posts videos abut classical ballet!

I want to relate a personal episode that shows me how Seniority can be a source of happiness.

This tells me that my "self-esteem" is healthy, ha ha!

I know. You told us over and over again that you are a piece of work to be admired.

Edited September 5, 2025 by Why?

Steve5380 · September 5, 2025

15 hours ago, Why? said:

I know. You told us over and over again that you are a piece of work to be admired.

Let me tell you THIS once: you should NOT admire others as pieces of work. You should recognize the value of what others may tell you, and work towards becoming YOUR OWN piece of work. It does not help you at all if I am a "piece of work" myself. This only helps me ( and those who listen to what I "preach", ha ha )

And let me tell you one more thing: IT IS NOT HONEST to chop and paste together several pieces of posts of a member and quote it as if it were a single post, like you did in your post above. This is not a crime here at BW, but... but where is your honesty?? What you gain by being dishonest?

Why? · September 6, 2025

17 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

IT IS NOT HONEST to chop and paste together several pieces of posts of a member and quote it as if it were a single post, like you did in your post above. T What you gain by being dishonest?

I am helping an elderly put together briefly the main point, out of his own words, he wished to convey. Since you are curious, I gain nothing in return for my good Samaritan deed.

Steve5380 · September 6, 2025

Not again??? Am I Mr. Ballet??? I am more "Mr. admirer of perfect male bodies". And I cannot find a more perfect body than the one of Mikhail Baryshnikov. Without reservations, I hold him as the best male classical ballet dancer of all times. You don't have to agree with me, I welcome individual opinions, which if honest, I respect. Today I found this video that kept me mesmerized:

Every movement of Baryshnikov looks PERFECT. His figure is male, without overdoing it. Today Mikhail is a successful senior exercising his good moral values. Yes, his face today looks aged, but healthy. I should make an effort to meet him personally somewhere and stretch his hand. He is my "ballet Hero" like Heifetz is my "violin Hero".

Talking about male bodies: If I had to compare Baryshnikov's body with Arnold Schwarzenegger's, I would pay triple for the body of Baryshnikov. This is not related to the amount of muscle mass, but muscle quality and what drives it.

Today, Mikhail is only 77 years old. ( 5 less than I ). Should I call this "young"? And he does a lot of good work for today's ballet dancers. Here is an article that goes into details:

https://www.barrons.com/articles/mikhail-baryshnikov-on-keeping-little-dream-alive-for-new-performers-62850b75

Steve5380 · September 6, 2025

3 hours ago, Why? said:

I am helping an elderly put together briefly the main point, out of his own words, he wished to convey. Since you are curious, I gain nothing in return for my good Samaritan deed.

Thank you for helping this poor elderly to put together his own words. More than curious, I KNOW what your motivation is.

A Samaritan deed has to come from a Samaritan. I already suspected that you are somewhat aged, but 2000 years old, this is amazing! And you kept up with technology, being still able to use a computer! Remember that Jesus mentioned you as an example, so... don't screw it up. :thumb:

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Edited September 6, 2025 by Steve5380

Why? · September 7, 2025

10 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

A Samaritan deed has to come from a Samaritan.

Naturally, I will assist Santa Claus with more Samaritan tasks, particularly as the holiday season draws near again. Helping a boring and unappreciative Octageranian in this forum, is so less satisfying. I would much rather seek out more exciting endeavors elsewhere. Take Care and Bye!!!!

Steve5380 · September 7, 2025

On 9/6/2025 at 9:51 PM, Why? said:

Helping a boring and unappreciative Octageranian in this forum, is so less satisfying. I would much rather seek out more exciting endeavors elsewhere.

What is an Octageranian? You mean "Octogenarian"? And regardless... why are you posting here ???? Are you a masochist ????

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Edited September 8, 2025 by Steve5380

Steve5380 · September 7, 2025

In recent times I'm experiencing an increasing respect for the leaders of the Catholic Church. Not that I believe one word of its doctrine, but it all started with Pope Francis. His extraordinary level of morality and decency had started to make a positive change in the Institution. And his successor, Pope Leo XIV, although he is not an avid defender of LGBTs, the radical changes he is making in Catholicism reflect also a high standard of morality and decency. He is even more radical than Francis, which was hard to expect.

Today I found a video on YouTube that surprised me:

This is one of several identical videos with different titles. Agnostic as I am, I don't trust 100% that YouTube videos are authentic or fabrications. In this one, Leo implicitly condemns Trump for all the valid reasons, and warns us Americans to stand against him. He does not say this directly, there is still a trace of "diplomacy". YET... I am not aware in recent times of any such strong message from the Head of the Catholic Church to a country about the evil of its leader.

I am sure that Adolph Hitler and his Nazis deserved a similar message, yet I don't remember ( I was not born yet ) of Pope Pius XII saying something as strong and direct to that horrible German government. Pius XII tried to stay in good terms with Hitler, something for which he was criticized later. And so, WWII was a hellish episode for Germany and the world. "GOD" SAVE US from something similar this time!!

Steve5380 · September 13, 2025

On today's beautiful Friday evening, my old spirit was shaken up with intense pleasure. It was not that I had gone to a sauna and had sex with three gorgeous gays. This was...in the past. Today it was the enjoyment in my eyes and the musical center of my brain, a completely different location. This is what I watched, heard:

I have always considered Alfred Brendel one of the top pianists of the 20th century in the interpretation of classical music. I also like the conductor Kurt Masur. Beethoven's 5th piano concerto is high up among the very classic classical-music compositions, and this performance is full of energy by pianist, conductor and orchestra. This is what kept me captivated, how Brendel brought out the piano score so magnificent. I kept thanking modern technology for having preserved this musical feast. Brendel passed away recently at a very advanced age. Perhaps, perhaps I was missing something watching the video instead of being in the audience, but I doubt that even sitting in orchestra I could have captured so much from the pianist, with clear view of his playing and facial expressions. Brendel... RIP! 😥

Steve5380 · September 16, 2025

Dear fellow gays, you may have noticed that I have posted many comments that could be controversial. Now as a senior, I am still not shying away from controversy. This is why I hope that this post will be nothing but positive, like it is in my mind.

We have a fellow member @thepresentfitness who is a highly educated expert in Fitness & Health. We know about him from his thread in the Main Forum "Mid Life Crisis". He has recently created a playlist, a collection of videos on YouTube "Fitness through feeling good" under the channel Mic's Unique Fitness, that are excellent. There are now 29 videos. Here is one of them:

and this is another one:

What I notice in these videos is that there are not many views nor comments on them. And here is the reason for this post:

This fellow member deserves a much wider audience, in reality he should be able to make a good living with his expertise, like many other "experts" do on YouTube even if their videos are mostly nonsense. I want to appeal to all of you to watch his videos from the channel "Mic's Unique Fitness", and make comments on them, give them a thumbs-up, and SUBSCRIBE to his channel. He has stopped visiting BW since May, and... HE DESERVES OUR SUPPORT. I heartedly thank you for this!

Sweetie Pie · September 17, 2025

We are not so sure anymore. You are an excellent example of someone who consistently follows Dr. YouTuber's advice. For your intense Akido training, you also got up before the light of dawn, fresh oxygen at your disposal. You mentioned sprinting as a way to strengthen your leg muscles. You boasted about your meticulous diet consisting solely of lenthils and bone broth, as well as your intermittent fasting. We then assumed that people like you would live to be 100 years and beyond, but in your previous post, you mentioned that you were experiencing unanticipated mobility issues and on the brink of getting youself a care-giver😮. Many people who will eventually be seniors are truly frightened by your posts. May be you need a lot of miracles, beyond just healthy diet and training, to stay intact. Yes!, you heard me, being spiritual is equally important for healthy livings. :pray:

Edited September 17, 2025 by Sweetie Pie

Steve5380 · September 17, 2025

2 hours ago, Sweetie Pie said:

We are not so sure anymore. You are an excellent example of someone who consistently follows Dr. YouTuber's advice. For your intense Akido training, you also got up before the light of dawn, fresh oxygen at your disposal. You mentioned sprinting as a way to strengthen your leg muscles. You boasted about your meticulous diet consisting solely of lenthils and bone broth, as well as your intermittent fasting. We then assumed that people like you would live to be 100 years and beyond, but in your previous post, you mentioned that you were experiencing unanticipated mobility issues and on the brink of getting youself a care-giver😮. Many people who will eventually be seniors are truly frightened by your posts. May be you need a lot of miracles, beyond just healthy diet and training, to stay intact. Yes!, you heard me, being spiritual is equally important for healthy livings.

Yes, I am nothing exceptional. I can succeed and I can fail. At this time I am in a battle to recover from piriformis syndrome and to avoid losing strength, weight. I may succeed or I may fail, time will tell. But I remember of all that I have been "preaching", and I am working to stay optimistic and not depressed. Life is experiences, and so I am living now.

Steve5380 · September 20, 2025

At this time I am handicapped by a "piriformis syndrome" that is causing pain in my hip and has robbed me of much strength in my legs. I consider this my "first brush" with old age, ha ha! I am paying much attention to ways to recover and one important part, aside from eliminating the pain, is to gain back my strength and avoid sarcopenia. For this, I try to find the best sources of protein and see how to get it into my muscles. One attempt is to eat the best cheeses, and I have found a video that I recognize as valid:

In spite of its negative start, this video describes the BEST cheeses and the WORST ones. I knew already about the best, and learned more about the "worst".

One reality is that the best cheeses, the aged solid cheeses from Europe, are also... the most expensive. Since I am giving up my vice of frugality, I have decided that I WONT MIND how much money I spend in foods, and buy the BEST ONES. In the past, the cost of my two or three times a year sex tourism to Asia was more than what I spent in food. Since sex tourism lost its appeal at my age, I have more money to spend in food. But this is not important. And I want to explain something:

The obligations of a GAY senior like me are usually much lower than those of a STRAIGHT senior. Why? Because as we gays age our friends pass away and we don't have much family left, while a straight man may have wife and children and grandchildren, etc. that can become a burden or at least a source of obligation. So as we age after a good life we gays may end up alone, with enough money to be financially independent. This can be a source of happiness, believe me.

So what we do with our money? It is wise to spend money in quality and good functionality, but not on luxury! as seniors we don't need ANY LUXURY, and this is a big savings. This allows our health and functionality to surge to the first place when it comes to spending money, spending it in good food, gyms, treatments, etc.

Today the infinite number of videos on YouTube that aim at giving good advice to seniors can be overwhelming. The above video about cheeses comes from a channel "SENIOR FOOD BLOG", a collection of videos that are not too bad, with not too much bullsh*t. Still trying to follow the advices of all these videos can be overwhelming. So it is best to take it with time. Especially those who are still a while away from being seniors. But to know about good nutrition IS IMPORTANT.

Steve5380 · September 21, 2025

I have the pleasure to share with you the life of a GAY MAN who is a famous cello player who dedicates all his life to his music. John Walz, who has come very far in his musical profession, was never very active sexually. But he found his partner, with whom he has been together many years and whom he married when same-sex marriage became legal in the US.

"Growing up gay"... John Walz was usually recognized as gay but apparently was never rejected or inconvenienced about it. By watching this video one gets the idea that he is a good example of what the life of a gay man should be, not much different than that of a straight man.

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Edited September 26, 2025 by Steve5380

Sweetie Pie · September 23, 2025

On 9/21/2025 at 4:59 AM, Steve5380 said:

to gain back my strength and avoid sarcopenia. For this, I try to find the best sources of protein and see how to get it into my muscles.

It is not protein that you need, but collagen. Here is a wonderful recipe for you to try, but you need to work hard in the kitchen to achieve best result.

Steve5380 · September 23, 2025

3 hours ago, Sweetie Pie said:

It is not protein that you need, but collagen. Here is a wonderful recipe for you to try, but you need to work hard in the kitchen to achieve best result.

@Sweetie Pie, thank you for your valuable post. Not too hard, but I work a lot in the kitchen because everything I eat I prepare myself, very rarely eating in a restaurant. And part of this work has to do with collagen.

My principal source of collagen is the skin and some connective tissue in chicken thigs. Also I eat some organ meat like beef liver, occasionally make chicken leg broth, and I supplement with beef collagen.

What I learned in this video are the three foods not to eat with collagen, which I already don't eat: white rice, alcohol and bacon.

There is so much to know about good nutrition!! But it is worth to learn it, it is essential for a successful life, and you seem to be doing it. :thumb:

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Edited September 23, 2025 by Steve5380

Sweetie Pie · September 24, 2025

12 hours ago, Steve5380 said:

My principal source of collagen is the skin and some connective tissue in chicken thigs. Also I eat some organ meat like beef liver, occasionally make chicken leg broth, and I supplement with beef collagen.

Chicken feet is good because of its bouncy texture, especially the chicken feet skin.

For optimal benefits to the health of your muscles and bones, you should also include marine collagen in your diet. I suggest you to try FISH MAW because it is high in collagen, inexpensive, simple to prepare, no fishy smell, and can be kept for months because it is sold dried (see pic). You can order them online or in plenty in the Asian market.. The preparation process requires no talent; simply soak it until it expands slightly, rinse it briefly, and then add it to a boiling saucepan. It is light and fluffy and so It will float and cook in a matter of seconds. If not overcooked, it has a bouncy texture and very delicious. If cooked far too long, it will become jelloey. thus It is very versatile. You don't need a lot, it will expand when in contact with water, just chop up a few small pieces for each meal.

So...to maximize your intake of both terrestrial and marine collagen, you can incorporate Fish Maw into your chicken feet soup. Spending money on pointless supplements is a waste of money. The best health come from the kitchen, not in a bottle.

Plenty of Youtube videos will show you how to prepare Fish Maw.

Edited September 24, 2025 by Sweetie Pie

Steve5380 · September 24, 2025

47 minutes ago, Sweetie Pie said:

Chicken feet is good because of its bouncy texture, especially the chicken feet skin.

For optimal benefits to the health of your muscles and bones, you should also include marine collagen in your diet. I suggest you to try FISH MAW because it is high in collagen, inexpensive, simple to prepare, no fishy smell, and can be kept for months because it is sold dried (see pic). You can order them online or in plenty in the Asian market.. The preparation process requires no talent; simply soak it until it expands slightly, rinse it briefly, and then add it to a boiling saucepan. It is light and fluffy and so It will float and cook in a matter of seconds. If not overcooked, it has a bouncy texture and very delicious. If cooked far too long, it will become jelloey. thus It is very versatile.

You find that chicken feet have a bouncy texture? Are you thinking of the chicken jumping around on their feet?

I didn't know of FISH MAW, it seems to be a good product. I looked for it on Amazon, and it is there quite expensive. I don't know about Asian markets. But... what if it makes me look more Asian? I wouldn't mind this, but I am satisfied the way I look already.

singalion · September 24, 2025

On 9/7/2025 at 10:51 AM, Why? said:

Helping a boring and unappreciative Octageranian in this forum, is so less satisfying. I would much rather seek out more exciting endeavors elsewhere.

On 9/8/2025 at 1:18 AM, Steve5380 said:

What is an Octageranian? You mean "Octogenarian"? And regardless... why are you posting here ????

Sorry Octageranian will be the name of the orchid which the PM of Singapore will honour to that Orange man from the US (If I remember correct he holds some presidential position or so) once he visits Singapore again, whereas 95% of Singaporeans and residents wish that he never enters the island again....

The full name of the orchid is Octogeranian Trumpensis which translates into "Grab them by the P[Beep]...y.

The orchid also has a strong reference to one of his good group party buddy, late Jeffrey E.

Some say the tiny shape reminds them on...

Here a peek of the orchid:

Gastrodia agnicellus aka Octogeranian Trumpensis has been called the ugliest orchid in the world by the Royal Botanic Gardens, Kew

Edited September 24, 2025 by singalion

Sweetie Pie · September 24, 2025

1 hour ago, Steve5380 said:

You find that chicken feet have a bouncy texture? Are you thinking of the chicken jumping around on their feet?

I didn't know of FISH MAW, it seems to be a good product. I looked for it on Amazon, and it is there quite expensive. I don't know about Asian markets. But... what if it makes me look more Asian? I

Come on! Your president is imposing 150% tariffs on top of the price, and Amazon is making a huge deal out of it. In Chinatown and throughout Asia, Fish Maw is not an expensive staple food, unless you want extremely premium quality and branded one, which still serve the same effect.

Simply pick up a bag, at any grocery stall, spend a few bucks, and start consuming collagen at will. Even if you think Amazon overcharge you, which I think you can afford, "health is more valuable than wealth" at your age.

singalion · September 24, 2025

42 minutes ago, Sweetie Pie said:

Come on! Your president is imposing 150% tariffs on top of the price, and Amazon is making a huge deal out of it. In Chinatown and throughout Asia, Fish Maw is not an expensive staple food, unless you want extremely premium quality and branded one, which still serve the same effect.

Simply pick up a bag, at any grocery stall, spend a few bucks, and start consuming collagen at will. Even if you think Amazon overcharge you, which I think you can afford, "health is more valuable than wealth" at your age.

Demand might not be as high as in Asia for Fish Maw... that's why the price is high in US. Who would order this from Amazon anyway if you can just head to an Asian supermarket...

But most cities in US would have some Asian Supermarket.

There is Welcome Supermarket in Diho Square in Houston...

(there are a lot others if you google)

Should be much cheaper in one of the shops (but buy plenty of stocks because prices will increase sooner or later considering the tariffs and when existing stocks are cleared...)

But keep a good watch out currently, because some face covered ICE officers with mafia style sunglasses could arrest anyone nearby intending to catch illegal immigrants. Advice: better bring an A3 sized copy of your US passport with you while going there! Such areas could be prone for illegal aliens...and you end up in Eswatini or South Sudan...

You might also meet a profusely smiling Home security Secretary Kristi Noem on one of her photo ops riding a camel and wearing the ICE protection gear...

Steve5380 · September 24, 2025

7 hours ago, singalion said:

But keep a good watch out currently, because some face covered ICE officers with mafia style sunglasses could arrest anyone nearby intending to catch illegal immigrants. Advice: better bring an A3 sized copy of your US passport with you while going there! Such areas could be prone for illegal aliens...and you end up in Eswatini or South Sudan...

You might also meet a profusely smiling Home security Secretary Kristi Noem on one of her photo ops riding a camel and wearing the ICE protection gear...

Thank you for the warning. This ICE mafia may be attracted to an old octogenarian ( not octageranian ) who does not speak good Texan but true English, a typical sign of foreign scum.

I might visit the Asian supermarket you mentioned. Soon, or when a shortage of chicken thigs happens here ( we might experience shortages of everything under MAGA ) and I need to find an alternative source of collagen.

Are you serious about Trump visiting Singapore? I thought that SG would not provide visas to convicted criminals...

Steve5380 · September 24, 2025

8 hours ago, Sweetie Pie said:

Simply pick up a bag, at any grocery stall, spend a few bucks, and start consuming collagen at will. Even if you think Amazon overcharge you, which I think you can afford, "health is more valuable than wealth" at your age.

Yes, I can afford Fish Maw even if it is expensive, and especially if my health requires it. Although I have good collagen already, my face is not sunken in, and my articulations are fine.

And I HAVE to try Fish Maw after I learned its existence from you following a lifetime of ignorance. I'll try the Asian market

Steve5380 · September 25, 2025

There is so much pleasure to be had! Something ideal for a Senior who has toned down his sex drive....

Today I listened to the following video, Chopin's Ballade No. 2, one of his emotive compositions, played by my now favorite pianist Dong Hyek Lim, I like to see his emotional baby face as he plays, but the music alone does the magic:

His impeccable technique is impressing, but also the way he conveys the notes with the right emotion. This is not too surprising, he started playing as an infant, progressing to he Conservatory of Moscow, a famous Hochschule fur Musik in Germany, and the Julliard School in New York. All are the best institutes, with the best world class teachers. It is so satisfying for a modest guy like me in his modest home listening from an older computer the BEST of the BEST in music! All of this without having the BEST of the BEST money, ha ha! One has to give credit to technology.

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Edited September 26, 2025 by Steve5380

Steve5380 · September 26, 2025

Oh... my favorite ice skater:

Why would an octogenarian man be so fascinated with superior male bodies ( principal ballet dancers , divers, gymnasts, skaters ) and superior artists ( great musicians, etc. )... he must be JUST THE OPPOSITE from these gifted individuals, no?

Well... not just the opposite... yet. These individuals give me some inspiration to pursue just a small fraction of their abilities, so that I can tolerate an acceptable life away from the physical and mental struggles of the majority of old people.

Oh... and here is one more:

Isn't this something ??

I find that here at the display of his score he looks a bit... gay? I would not be surprised if the best ice skater is gay. This fits with many skills where the best of the best... is GAY!

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Edited September 26, 2025 by Steve5380

Steve5380 · October 2, 2025

Dear fellow gays, I just found and watched a YouTube video that made my 10 years of Aikido flush in front of my eyes and made me wonder if I made the right choice of martial art:

Well... I was kidding. Seeing the controlled intelligent moves of Aikido versus the strong brutal force of Karate explained to me why from these 10 years of "martial art" all I am suffering is from a transitory piriformis syndrome, while I know people who after 10 years of karate are aging with chronic injuries and disabilities. But the GLORY is the same, ha ha.

Steve5380 · October 3, 2025

Here are some of the self-defense techniques we learn in Aikido. They are not difficult, they just need to be trained:

Not too difficult... but don't learn them by yourself. Go to an Aikido dojo. Safety comes first!

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Edited October 3, 2025 by Steve5380

Steve5380 · October 7, 2025

So, how can the life of a senior be tolerable if he does not go much more to clubs, bars, saunas, if he lives alone, if his family does not call him often, etc.??

I want to reassure that it can be very enjoyable, having plenty of time to take care of oneself pursuing healthy living ( good food, exercise ) and some artistic interests. One can read, go to museums, go to church, or play video games, or enjoy music. This last one is one of my favorites, and I can get mesmerized listening to good music. For example, I recently listened to the four Chopin Ballades played my my current favorite pianist, Dong Hyek Lim. I already posted a video of him playing the Ballade no. 2. Here he is playing the other three:

TOO MUCH MUSIC ? If you are not a youngster only interested in the gay scene, you may want to develop a likeness for classical music. Piano music is one of the easiest to listen to, and the Chopin Ballades are held by many as the top piano music. So if you listen to them, you are NOT wasting your time. Let the Musical Center in your brain acquire a good understanding for this music, especially when it is played so well as here, and it will become a source of PLEASURE. Who does not like pleasure?

Steve5380 · October 17, 2025

Dear fellow gays who will be seniors, hopefully you are fortunate to have acquired an interest for good music.

There is an important classical music event going on. It is the 19th Chopin Competition in Warsaw. The third round of it just finished, and soon will start the final one, the selection among the 11 finalists of the winner and runner-up-s.

Here is a video of the last performance in the third round by a pianist who was the 3rd runner-up in the same competition 10 years ago, Eric Lu:

I have been following Eric throughout the competition, and he is my bet for the winner. I can be wrong of course. But in this video I experience the best performance of the Sonata no. 3 I have ever heard, and I did hear many. It starts at 30:20 in the video. It is amazing how he makes the Largo movement at 43:20 SING throughout!

I find that Eric Lu looks fragile. A weak guy!? But this is not uncommon for the best pianists, artists. Of the 11 finalists now, the majority are Asians. And Asian pianists ( and other artists ) look so "delicate". I think that they have a high chance of being gay. Omg, how do I dare? Well, I just reflect on the comment by the famous pianist Horowitz who said: " there are 3 kinds of pianists: Jewish, gay and bad ". None of the finalists is bad, and they don't look Jewish. So, what does this leave? :lol:

It is time, as we get older, to recognize the high proportion of gays among the best artists, athletes, intellectual creators. I don't even think that these outstanding bests are very interested in amorous romances, their feelings are in their art, intellectuality. So gay or not gay, what does it matter? And those of us who are not outstanding bests, the gay genes may give us the predisposition to be one of these, although life has its turns and it is not necessary to become an "outstanding best". And this frees us to enjoy more gay sex! :thumb:

One of my weaknesses is the ability to fall in love with a car, like my Nissan Maxima 1995 which I constantly drive. Even more, I can fall in love with... a piano! This is what I feel about the magnificent Fizioli concert grand Eric is playing on. Among the best of the best! And pianos don't need gasoline to work, they don't need much maintenance and they... last forever! The Mason&Hamlin grand I play at home was built 110 years ago. Sooo... who says that when we get old we cannot be strongly in love ??? 😃 Let's TAKE ADVANTAGE of being OLD !!!

Steve5380 · October 25, 2025

Dear fellow gays who are or plan to become seniors, if you are somewhat bored, I have something to ease this. Here is one of Chopin's noble compositions, one of his Nocturnes, played by Eric Lu some years ago:

Steve5380 · October 30, 2025

Some videos in YouTube aiming at giving advice, make recommendations, are mostly bullshit. But others are worth watching and getting informed. The following video is one of the latter:

In my increasing experience as a senior I accept that these mistakes, if not fatal, can be real and worth preventing. This is my experience so far:

Mistake 1, lack of social connection: since my bf passed away 7 years ago I live alone. Family lives far away. But I was lucky to start the practice of Aikido in 2015, going twice a week to the dojo for practice, and recently more frequent. It is not only "martial art" but also social interaction with a group of interesting people, and we occasionally have parties. Last month three of us took the Black Belt test and passed it. This has added satisfaction and pride to the enjoyment I get from this practice. I'm glad I did this in spite of being somewhat handicapped, because it was a long time goal and now, continuing with Aikido I am more relaxed about it.

Getting older is an opportunity to improve one's values, letting go of importance, prestige, luxury to concentrate on the enjoyment of simple life. We become ordinary people connecting to the whole range of humanity. In frequent walks and trips to grocery stores and the gym I can talk to anyone, smile and get smiles. I pass by the beggar standing on the street around the corner and chat with him, sometimes giving him money. Hopefully as I get less busy with time, I might find some volunteer work that increases my social connection.

Mistake 2, neglecting physical and mental health: maybe because I am gay, I always give priority to physical health in my lifestyle, and since retirement, learning a lot about nutrition helps me physically and mentally. I realize that attributing occasional decline and problems to "getting old" is a dangerous simplification that can keep one from finding solutions to these problems. It can be true mostly in advanced age, today maybe in the 90s but not as an octogenarian. Indeed, my recent problem with hip pain and loss of leg strength is reversing, and I am slowly improving, confident that I will fully recover from this bout with "old age".

Mistake 3: insufficient preparation for emergencies: here I have some work to do. I'm so overconfident in my health! A decade ago I felt strong chest pain, and my bf drove me to the clinic Emergency. There I was kept overnight and got tested, with the resulted that I was fine, having had only "delayed onset muscle soreness" due to my chest workout. This happened again last year, with no one to drive me to the Emergency, but I remembered the earlier episode and just took some aspirin. But I may not always be so fortunate. Next time in a moderate emergency I will take an Uber instead of driving, and if it is serious, I should have some medical alert system, like a button to press around my neck, which I would be reluctant to do for fear of falling into the "medical profit machine", ha ha.

Mistake 4: developing dangerous coping mechanisms: I can avoid this by avoiding reasons to have to "cope", that is, preserving happiness and optimism. And being well aware of the dangers of alcohol, drugs, depression, etc. What may also help as a senior is to have a clear vision of the end of life, a feeling of having achieved success already, making the present time like just a "premium", not worth worrying too much about.

Mistake 5: home is overwhelming burden: yes, being single in a family home, having to clean, repair, cook, my home is a burden but not overwhelming at this time. I let go of "perfection", being content with "livable". I am not giving parties at home for high society at this time. And if I become weaker, I will get help.

Mistake 6: losing sense of purpose: I do have purpose on two levels: basic level: being alive with full mental capacity. Higher level: being able to conjure feelings of satisfaction and happiness, live with minimum pain, and avoid depression and other negative feelings.

Mistake 7: disregard threats of cardiac problems: avoiding Mistake 2, I give much importance to my cardiac health: low blood pressure, reasonable levels of lipids ( but avoiding statins), avoiding overexertion, good metabolism, keeping good bacteria around, and taking seriously any signs of heart problems by avoiding Mistake 3

Mistake 8: not build and maintain social relationships: I am avoiding Mistake 1. The older I get, the more social I feel. I like people, I lost most of the fears in human interactions ( was getting a Black Belt part of this? :lol: ), I have changed my self-opinion to that of being liked, I empathize not only with humans but animals too ( an effect of lactobacillus Reuteri? )

Mistake 9: too proud to accept help and afraid of being a burden: no, no, no, I give up on negative pride. I have plenty of reasons to feel positive pride, which stays away from feelings of superiority and importance. And I don't expect to be, to become an unreasonable burden. Burdensome old man can always be dumped in some retirement home, or slowly euthanize, ha ha. I have enough resources to hire help if necessary, and I have no qualms receiving help from the little family I have, my son and grandchildren. I also can accept it from others, to give them the opportunity to be helpful, generous. One danger we seniors should be aware is the one coming from family who changed their love into greed for one's estate, being seen as a worthless old man good for nothing, who lives only in the way of inheriting from him. I am lucky that my only heir is my son, a doctor who has a high income. Otherwise, I would take more serious precautions...

Steve5380 · November 1, 2025