Need Help for Friend with regards to Socializing and Career

[Guest Mascara45]

Hi, I am asking for a rather-specialized favour and kind of help for a friend of mine who is currently studying and working concurrently. He was very anti-social and had very few friends in his younger schooling years, and is currently lacking opportunities for face-to-face interaction with others.

He did not join a club in school because studying and working already took up too much of his time, and wants to spend more time on his interests, and is also unmotivated to make friends in school due to the part-time nature of his course making it hard for him to do so. He feels that despite feeling lonely, he prefers to spend more time researching into the fields that he is interested in.

Currently, he is interested in moving to Japan to be an English teacher in the future and is also somewhat interested in doing talent management. He also wants to start self-study Japanese on his own soon, however, he finds it a very lonely experience to learn solely from textbooks and talking to people online, yet his financial background and parental objection makes it hard for him to pay for regular Japanese lessons.

He would also like to know if there are any places he can go to, or contacts that he can be referred to, to make friends with Japanese people, to learn more about their culture firsthand.

Any constructive advice on this matter is appreciated.

[Steve5380]

Some nations have cultural organizations in other countries that promote their language and culture.   For example,  France has the "Alliance Francaise",   Germany has the "Goethe Schule",  and Japan has the same.   All three exist here in Houston, and I could go there to learn the language and get immersed into their cultural activities.

 

There is a "Japanese Cultural Society" in Singapore.  Just look it up on the Internet.

[Guest OOMF]

You must be asking for yourself lol

[lonelyglobe]

On 6/29/2022 at 8:50 AM, Guest OOMF said:

You must be asking for yourself lol

Haha,  i think so but i dont understand how "financial background and parental objection makes it hard for him to pay for regular Japanese lessons."

[singalion]

On 6/29/2022 at 11:51 AM, lonelyglobe said:

Haha,  i think so but i dont understand how "financial background and parental objection makes it hard for him to pay for regular Japanese lessons."

 

Isn't it an attitude of many people here to think that they are entitled to receive everything for free?

 

If the person is so anti social, maybe he should work on this trait first and learn to socialise much more...

 

 

[robin]

Anti-social, shy, inferior… all these are just excuses. If he is desperate enough to want something, just get his ass off & start doing something about it. 
 

If your friend don’t see it as something he truly wants & don’t want to work for it, he don’t deserve help from anyone 

Edited June 29, 2022 by robin

[auscent]

Anti-social, wants to spend more time on his interests.

 

Perhaps the first thing to do is willingness to put in sincere effort to know people beyond for transactional reasons. Otherwise I doubt this project will go far.

[IkuTube]

On 6/29/2022 at 5:01 AM, Guest Mascara45 said:

Hi, I am asking for a rather-specialized favour and kind of help for a friend of mine who is currently studying and working concurrently. He was very anti-social and had very few friends in his younger schooling years, and is currently lacking opportunities for face-to-face interaction with others.

He did not join a club in school because studying and working already took up too much of his time, and wants to spend more time on his interests, and is also unmotivated to make friends in school due to the part-time nature of his course making it hard for him to do so. He feels that despite feeling lonely, he prefers to spend more time researching into the fields that he is interested in.

Currently, he is interested in moving to Japan to be an English teacher in the future and is also somewhat interested in doing talent management. He also wants to start self-study Japanese on his own soon, however, he finds it a very lonely experience to learn solely from textbooks and talking to people online, yet his financial background and parental objection makes it hard for him to pay for regular Japanese lessons.

He would also like to know if there are any places he can go to, or contacts that he can be referred to, to make friends with Japanese people, to learn more about their culture firsthand.

Any constructive advice on this matter is appreciated.

 

Socializing

 

To describe your friend to be 'very anti-social' needs more justification.  This behaviour can be deep rooted in his psyche, ranging from what he experienced growing up - both internally and externally.  Question is, what caused him to develop the behaviour?

 

Should he has been 'very anti-social' at an early age, likely he has cultivated anti-social behaviour that lacks care, consideration and/or empathy for the well being of others.  Obviously, his lack of 'opportunities for face to face interaction with others' has to do with his 'unmotivated to make friends'.  This attitude needs to be addressed.

 

He has to find his joy, his peace and his logic to make things right for himself.  Does he really know what he wants out of life, emotionally and spiritually?  Not easing up on himself will intensify his loneliness.

 

Career

 

To be successful in any career, there has to be passion in what one does.  Teaching, as a profession, requires communication at all levels including personal interaction with all kinds of population.  Is he prepared to do that, to be open and comfortable interacting?  Can he adapt to socialize and care for the well being of others?

 

Learning Japanese

 

There are Japanese language schools in Singapore.  Google is your best friend here.

 

Hopefully, he needs to overcome 'his financial background and parental objection' and finds ways to make his 'interest in moving to Japan' becomes a reality.  

 

 

My well wishes to your friend.