shaberu Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 我看见寂寞从我的窗前走过。对我挥挥手，像个亲切的朋友。不想理会它，我把它关在门后。叹息就这样在我心里慢慢的滑落。我的春天于永远迟到， 我的明天无法预料。难道一定就是这样！难道一定就是这样！生活中太多疑惑找不到答案。看不清白天，夜晚。我感觉寂寞轻轻的对着我笑。笑我就这样把它当作依靠。爱情对它只是一种陌生烦恼！我的心事从来没有人知道。默默打开门我看见我的寂寞。不说一句话就往我心里走！也许只有它是我唯一的朋友。看守我的心不让它太容易痛。我的春天于永远迟到， 我的明天无法预料。难道一定就是这样！难道一定就是这样！生活中太多疑惑找不到答案。看不清白天，夜晚。难道一定就是这样！难道一定就是这样！不着痕迹的脆弱更叫人心慌。看不清欢喜，悲伤。For those of you who can feel the words, "难道一定就是这样!", should be a this "!" or "难道一定就是这样?" Well, there should not be any punctuation at all.
harylok Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 Dear shaberu,If this is how you feel about life, then I think that you are being pessimistic.PM/Voice-chat with Me and lets talk about life, if this is your intention.Warmth Regards,Hary (A optimistic guy)
GachiMuchi Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 My reply to Shaberu....我看见寂寞从我的窗前走过。对我挥挥手，像个亲切的朋友。我请他进来坐坐然后把门关在身后。谈完心事，我告别寂寞走出门从新出发。迟来的春天终会来，明天还是一样到。人生就是这样！人生就是这样！生活中太多疑惑找不到答案。只要心明，哪怕白天夜晚清不清。寂寞笑我没勇气，笑我钻牛角，笑我不该把它当依靠。爱情跟寂寞一样是一种人生烦恼！只要敞开心房，心事就会有人知。大方接受寂寞才是重要。心胸宽敞能容任何事物。心胸狭窄只有自己跟自己做朋友。悲欢离合事难免，心痛过后总会愈。迟来的春天终会来，明天还是一样到。人生就是这样！人生就是这样！生活中太多疑惑找不到答案。只要心明，哪怕白天夜晚清不清。人生就是这样！人生就是这样！钻牛角尖的伤心人更叫人心慌。看不清明天，沉溺在忧伤。 http://gachimuchi2008.blogspot.com
Guest Lonely Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 I came to realised that loneliness takes different name. When you are in an unreciprocated relationship, it is known as loneliness. It is very debilitating state of mind. When you are not, loneliness becomes a great sense of personal freedom.I wish I can say that I am experiencing personal freedom, but alas I am deeply drawn towards someone, which nothing good will come out
harylok Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 Dear shaberuTry to listen and interpret this song《将进酒》 and probably you wil realise your 多愁善感 is 微不足道."潮来潮去 日落日出 黄河也变成了一条陌生的流水 江山如画 时光流转秦时的明月汉时关双手拥抱是一片国土的沉默 少年的我迷惑摊开地图 飞出了一条龙故国回首明月中 风花雪月 自古依然 祖先的青春刻在竹板上爱情如新 爱情复来圣贤也挡不住风流的情怀 多愁善感的你已经离我远去 酒入愁肠成相思泪 漠然回首 想起我俩的从前一个断了翅的诺言光阴似箭 日月如梭童年的文章如此做 青春不再 往日情怀 我未曾珍惜的我不再拥有 亲爱的朋友 你的心事重重何处是往日的笑容莫再提起那人世间的是非今宵有酒今宵醉"
shaberu Posted July 9, 2006 Author Posted July 9, 2006 Thank you all. I got 3 different views. Someone says i am pessimistic, someone encourages me, someone has different view. Whatever it is, see things in more angles and just live on in our own way. What i want to thank is the kindness and unselfishness all have in this forum. If the intimacy for men and love from women is so bordering then don't try, just eat and run but be carefull. That is just not me to eat and run. Forget all negative tots, it does no good to us. Love hurts but it hurts too much just let go.PS. I wanna to have a regular partner of my type and not slut around. I might have said something wrong to nicky but i still miss him and want him to be happy to find love because i i have not decided to. I was invited for quickies and no questions asked. Our love is just so swallow.
oralb Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 quotes from Ally McBeal, one of my all-time fav TV series (the earlier seasons)Georgia Thomas: Ally, what makes your problems so much bigger than everybody else's? Ally McBeal: They're mine. When I Think It, I Do It, I Win It!
harylok Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 Listen to【寂寞難耐】is more meaningful to me especially the last 2 sentences which is worth pondering." ..... 寂寞難耐寂寞難耐 ....愛情是最辛苦的等待愛情是最遙遠的未來時光不再啊.時光不再只有自己為自己喝采只有自己為自己悲哀"Warmth Regards,Hary
harylok Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 Sorry, side-track abit. I just realised that I got promoted as a Senior Member. 真不 好意思. I feel that I did not contribute much in this forum.Nevertheless, Thanks All.Warmth Regards,Hary
Guest Lonely Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 The sad thing is that what ever problems you are facing now, will seem very real to you, at least at the moment. This is especially true for relationship problems.It may seem futile and trivial to many outsiders, but it is very real to the person concerned. Sometimes it is not easy to break the cycle. And even when you do, there is also a high chance of falling back again. It will just take a sad song or a scene from a romance story to start the cycle again.
harylok Posted July 9, 2006 Posted July 9, 2006 This lyric is cool ...."你曾经对我说 你永远爱着我 爱情这东西我明白 但永远是什么 亲爱你别哭泣 我俩还在一起 今天的欢乐将是明天创痛的回忆 啦......今天的欢乐将是明天创痛的回忆 什么都可以抛弃 什么都不能忘记 现在你说的话只是你的勇气春天刮着风 秋天下着雨 春风秋雨多少海誓山盟随风远去 啦...... 春风秋雨多少海誓山盟随风远去 你不属于我 我也不拥有你亲爱世上没有人有占有的权利 或许我们分手 就这么不回头至少不用编织一些美丽的藉口啦...... 亲爱的莫再说你我明天要分离啦...... 亲爱的莫再说你我永远不分离"These few sentences are good to ponder too."爱情这东西我明白 但永远是什么""春风秋雨多少海誓山盟随风远去" "你不属于我 我也不拥有你亲爱世上没有人有占有的权利 或许我们分手 就这么不回头至少不用编织一些美丽的藉口"Warmth Regards,Hary
Guest Guest_shaberu Posted July 10, 2006 Posted July 10, 2006 Actually, my tots are unprocessed tots with intoxication i puked here and there. When i wake up, i feel so guilty of where i puked. Sorry i can't clear the mess but will make it less messy.
Guest Do u believe in fate Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 Life can't escape being blown about, by the the winds of change and chance.We have to recognised our rd/fate and where we are heading at different times of our lives.When you are alone, and disappointed... its hard to see where love is or to even believe it. The language of Love is shrouded from your eyes. Enjoy your freedom, in whichever way you feel comfortable... so that when you see love again, you will not long for your freedom.When that moment comes, be it someone (usually the case, Mr Right)... or something (somehow touches you and make u want to love again). It open your eyes again and the language love is again evident. You start to see love around you, and you start to believe in yourself... that you can uphold and bring love. Then don't look back... and don't doubt... and don't long for freedom.Always do the right thing at the right time... To wallow in sorrow... and you will never be prepared for anything.
GachiMuchi Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 Very true. I have encountered many people whom are "blinded" and dwell on the past and never let go or move on.Like the case of my friend who threatens to end his life and hurt himself just so that his bf can go back to him. But sadly it did not happen. Sad really. Life to them is already meaningless. http://gachimuchi2008.blogspot.com
kerbee10 Posted July 11, 2006 Posted July 11, 2006 Love = happy When you got love you feel happy...When love is gone you feel sad...but there is one love that is never gone..which is....you got to learn how to love yourself......you feel sad because your love for that person is no more or has left you in the dark...you felt all this because you love yourself, to enjoy that feelings and emotion passion in that experience.....You too gotto....love yourself in another way, as in, step out of this experience, and seek new love...which you will gain that feelings again....it might be stronger the next time you learn how to love another person...I believe we should love ourselves in many aspect,the good and the bad, before we learn to love someone else.....love is express in many forms....letting go, is the most noble love one can give to another person, as long as that person is happy, your love is being filled that moment....cheers...
Guest Kaypoo Posted July 12, 2006 Posted July 12, 2006 To add more song lyrics to this thread. This is one of my favorite song in the recent weeks. The sentence:"我的挣扎你不给答案 却又一厢情愿带我陷情关 "tells the entire story of how someone has really hurt me. "红拂女"的主题曲《红尘》李翊君演唱。 红尘 歌词： 爱怎么断 才能潇洒来去 不留一丝遗憾 情字乱总来纠缠 伴无声的呐喊 我的心有牵绊 尝过酸甜苦辣 数不尽的悲欢 谁欠谁该怎么算 英雄低头也无力还 红尘谁能看穿 东势悬崖西有寂寞 阻拦 回忆走投无路痛成了习惯 谁告诉我该怎么办 -- 我的挣扎你不给答案 却又一厢情愿带我陷情关 等待变成伤感清醒太难 也只好任泪水泛滥 俗世红尘谁能承担 擦身而过却换来一生孤单 承诺或是拒绝你只给一半 爱不爱你都为难
harylok Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 Dear All, "无言独上西楼 月如钩 寂寞梧桐 深院锁清秋 剪不断理还乱 是离愁 别有一番滋味在心头" Hmmm... .. 做人应潇洒 一点, or lese "剪不断理还乱" My advice, 感情的世界里,需要理性和感性By default, we are born lonely. When come to love, I believe "情到深处人孤独"For those we are looking for truth love, you have my blessings.Warmth Regards,Hary (...爱是欢笑泪珠飘落的过程)
heartlanders Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 要爱得象条如意袋 要有伸缩性的宽容要不停地润滑调剂但记得用完后不必留恋一段逝世的感情是个不能再循环的安全套
Guest Kaypoo Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 要爱得象条如意袋 要有伸缩性的宽容要不停地润滑调剂但记得用完后不必留恋一段逝世的感情是个不能再循环的安全套 Besides those stimulating stories, heartlander is so philosophical too. I salute to him.
Guest BG Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 heartlanders, 依你所言, 那不是爱, 真正的爱情是经得起考验, 就象醇年老酒, 越旧越浓烈.爱本是神圣的, 而不是色情, 要看当事人以何心态对待. 对爱留念不是执著, 喜新厌旧只不过大部分人的本性和借口, 爱不是儿戏, 并不是年纪大就表示他懂得什么是爱或对爱看得透彻. 如果没有愿为爱付出和牺牲的决心, 那就算他活了大半辈子, 那也只不过是从爱的旁边经过. 当此刻你无怨无悔愿意为所爱的人无条件的付出时, 爱已悄悄来到你面前.
heartlanders Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 你看在眼里，就是爱。 你若看不上，乃爱莫能助。没有必要把爱摆上神坛恭维。 也不用把爱愤恨地踩成灰烬。爱过，就好。 无爱，也并非就无欢。你有你爱的定义，他有他爱的见解。 爱本千形万色。 难以捉摸。小弟我觉得爱非笔墨能形容。 说多了也没意思儿。 所谓沉默本是金。 但有日金沉了，不就血本无归了。
heartlanders Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 好说好说。恕小弟我多添一句： 爱是无贵贱之分。 大爱小爱、旧爱新爱、初恋到黄昏恋 - 只要是爱得真诚都算是爱。 爱只有‘爱’和‘被爱’之分。 爱而被爱就是该爱。 爱而不被爱乃不该爱。 但该或不该爱，就等那懂爱的人去做抉择。
Guest BG Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 似乎懂你的爱情观,开心就好,萧洒来回,跟随感觉走,哪怕只不过是短暂的相处,你的大爱不得不让小弟受益不浅,佩服得五体投地,甘拜下风.
harylok Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 处理感情的方式, 因人而异. 结局的好坏在于个人的心态和人生经验.爱是需要酿量...... 但千万别说 "我永远爱着你",我觉得这是一句很不负责任的话.因为 "爱情这东西我明白, 但永远是什么"听,看了太多风花雪月的歌和他人经验, 几乎都是傭人自攪和不切实际的鼓励.Warmth Regards,Hary (..做一个潇洒的人,将心事化尽尘缘中) "徐志摩"的诗[歌]当我死去的时候 亲爱 你别为我唱悲伤的歌 我坟上不必安插蔷薇 也无需浓荫的柏树 让盖着我的轻轻的草 淋着雨也沾着露珠假如你愿意 请记着我 要是你甘心忘了我 在悠久的坟墓中迷惘 阳光不升起也不消翳 我也许 也许我还记得你 我也许把你忘记 啦…………… 我再见不到地面的青荫 觉不到雨露的甜蜜 我再听不到夜莺的歌喉 在黑夜里倾吐悲啼 在悠久的坟墓中迷惘 阳光不升起也不消翳 我也许 也许我还记得你 我也许把你忘记
Guest BG Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 " 爱是需要酿量...... 但千万别说 "我永远爱着你", 我觉得这是一句很不负责任的话.因为 "爱情这东西我明白, 但永远是什么"harylok, 我赞同, 可悲的是大部分人太懂得所谓爱的定义, 太喜欢甜言蜜语和不切实际的话.的确, 爱是自由的, 勉强不得, 但多少能有无私的爱?世上万物跟本没有所谓的永远, 人的寿命本有限, 但不代表可以放纵. 就让懂爱的人继续坚持不渝的原则, 而不屑爱束缚的人继续游戏人生, 没有对错, 开心就好.
harylok Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 BG,难得彼此共鸣 ..."曾經真的以為人生就這樣了, 平靜的心拒絕再有浪潮斬了千次的情絲卻斷不了, 百轉千折它將我圍繞"感言(1): 是否这是PLU追求LTR的心态和现象??"人生何其短 何必苦苦戀愛人不見了 向誰去喊冤問你 何時曾看見這世界為了人們改變有了夢寐以求的容顏是否就算是擁有春天"感言(2): : 值得沉思的... "有了夢寐以求的容顏, 是否就算是擁有春天"Warmth Regards,Hary (...只要有愛就有痛)
kerbee10 Posted July 14, 2006 Posted July 14, 2006 What now all flak mandarin....Woa heartlander you are not only a writer but you can also be so philosophy!!!!There is no defination of love.....each of us love in different perspective....songs and lyrics....that suit you..are define in your own way of love......the originator may have his own views of his own.....<span style='font-size:14pt;line-height:100%'>旁观者亲，当局者痴。往往当局者才会了解伤痛的滋味。就如其时你不懂我的心。我的心声如这首歌，不太习惯叫我自己张开口将你挽留不愿放开我的手让你走爱情像人家说的话好的花儿它不常开冷清的街陌生的人凋谢的花是你夜那么黑星星那么多你是哪一个模模糊糊闪烁不定是你的背影爱情像人家说的话美丽的梦最容易醒失眠的夜寂寞的人孤单的自己昨天是我的恋人今天是我的爱人明天是离开我的人想你想的比天还长是谁伤了谁的心昨天是我的恋人今天是我的爱人明天是离开我的人爱你爱的比地更久是谁伤了谁的情是你是我不太习惯叫我自己张开口将你挽留不愿放开我的手让你走爱情像人家说的话美丽的梦最容易醒失眠的夜寂寞的人孤单的自己
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