gucici Posted August 24, 2023 Report Share Posted August 24, 2023 It is like you dun even care of want to look at yrself. Probably due to work stress? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radiusulnar Posted August 24, 2023 Report Share Posted August 24, 2023 during busy work periods, i don't have time to think about anything else other than focusing on how to complete the work on time. so during periods, there is barely enough time for self care. back when i had a bout of depression, i also ignored myself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gucici Posted August 24, 2023 Author Report Share Posted August 24, 2023 during busy work periods, i don't have time to think about anything else other than focusing on how to complete the work on time. so during periods, there is barely enough time for self care. back when i had a bout of depression, i also ignored myself. Your profession? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radiusulnar Posted August 24, 2023 Report Share Posted August 24, 2023 i am doing admin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gucici Posted August 24, 2023 Author Report Share Posted August 24, 2023 i am doing admin In the Admin department also had such tight date lines? Or could be the boss. 😢 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radiusulnar Posted August 24, 2023 Report Share Posted August 24, 2023 it's the boss plus the fact that the young toyboys she hires don't pull their weight at work (i am sure they can pull multiple times their weight in the gym) so the rest of us have to work harder/faster. Kimochi 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gucici Posted August 24, 2023 Author Report Share Posted August 24, 2023 it's the boss plus the fact that the young toyboys she hires don't pull their weight at work (i am sure they can pull multiple times their weight in the gym) so the rest of us have to work harder/faster. Anyway. You dun owe the company. Sometimes it is good to change company. Might get a raise too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
radiusulnar Posted August 24, 2023 Report Share Posted August 24, 2023 (edited) i've been retrenched twice and with my low skill set, it is too risky to change company (rather the devil you know then the devil you don't) and for my role you don't get a raise every time you switch (unlike finance or IT roles). just thinking about this is making me feel meh. hopefully this won't make me neglect myself again Edited August 24, 2023 by radiusulnar Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gucici Posted August 24, 2023 Author Report Share Posted August 24, 2023 Follow yr passion then. Maybe you could be better off if you do things that you like rather then in a rat race. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JyT Posted August 24, 2023 Report Share Posted August 24, 2023 Admin had alot of toxic boss right Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doncoin Posted August 24, 2023 Report Share Posted August 24, 2023 (edited) I think it is normal to go through periods of time when you have low or no sexual desire. It is a combination of factors typically, such as stress, workload, personal issues etc. I would say I am a pretty sexually active guy on average, but this month, work has been keeping me so busy that I have zero interest in sex. Even when i am at home, I catch up on emails, read and review documents, and sometimes, even on calls with my senior partner on things we might have missed during the day. I think during times like these, my mind is just too focused on work-related stuff. I still go to the gym in the morning as it helps me start my day, but there is just no interest in going into the steam room or flirting with other guys in the locker room. Thankfully, the busy period is coming to a close, but it has definitely impacted my sex life. Edited August 24, 2023 by doncoin HC-B, mate69 and MikeC 3 Quote Love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Salt&Pepper Posted August 25, 2023 Report Share Posted August 25, 2023 How "prolong" is prolong? If very long, you may want to consider seeing a doctor and get a comprehensive blood test done and look into esp. your testosterone level. If you have unusual low testosterone level for your age, you may need to address it asap. Testosterone don't just regulate our libido, it also affects other vital functions of our body and well-being. Take care 🙏 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gucici Posted August 25, 2023 Author Report Share Posted August 25, 2023 How "prolong" is prolong? If very long, you may want to consider seeing a doctor and get a comprehensive blood test done and look into esp. your testosterone level. If you have unusual low testosterone level for your age, you may need to address it asap. Testosterone don't just regulate our libido, it also affects other vital functions of our body and well-being. Take care 🙏 2 months. Now normal. 😂 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2023 Report Share Posted August 25, 2023 Yes, it is normal to go through periods of time when your sexual desire is low or zero, especially after 40yo. But if i m into the mood, I can do it almost everyday. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gucici Posted August 25, 2023 Author Report Share Posted August 25, 2023 During that time i even find porn uninterested Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AskMeNot Posted August 25, 2023 Report Share Posted August 25, 2023 Probably work stress or change of environment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2023 Report Share Posted August 25, 2023 i've been retrenched twice and with my low skill set, it is too risky to change company (rather the devil you know then the devil you don't) and for my role you don't get a raise every time you switch (unlike finance or IT roles). just thinking about this is making me feel meh. hopefully this won't make me neglect myself again maybe your boss knows that you have no other place to go and cannot resign, that's why she treats you no good by giving you lots of work to do. Esp if it is a woman boss. Not i biased against woman but most woman boss is usually demanding, calculative and stingy in giving promotion to her staff. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2023 Report Share Posted August 25, 2023 Admin had alot of toxic boss right Not only toxic boss but also toxic colleagues. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JyT Posted August 25, 2023 Report Share Posted August 25, 2023 Old bosses likes to micro manage Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keyboard Posted August 26, 2023 Report Share Posted August 26, 2023 Especially when you're in a toxic work environment, the more you should keep looking for a different company. Go interviews, put your resume online, apply for roles. It's really a no buy no chance to win situation. It might not happen now, but eventually it will happen and you'll be better off. The worst is you end up with the same shit, shit taste the same everywhere also. darker90 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gucici Posted August 26, 2023 Author Report Share Posted August 26, 2023 Keyboard is right. You only have maybe 20 yrs to work, so why not, look for a new place to work happily. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
keyboard Posted August 26, 2023 Report Share Posted August 26, 2023 Keyboard is right. You only have maybe 20 yrs to work, so why not, look for a new place to work happily. 20 years sounds too little in these times. If you can save $500/mth, it's only $120k, not enough to retire. I do hear that admin in some big companies are less toxic (toxic but less) and can slowly climb over the number of years to something decent like 4k. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chukie Guido Posted August 27, 2023 Report Share Posted August 27, 2023 I know what its like to work in a toxic envirnoment and be quite close to the top....I understand how tough it can be, but changing organizations might help you advance when you are in managment Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest Posted August 27, 2023 Report Share Posted August 27, 2023 Where got no toxic workplace environment ? Is how you learn to cope with it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steve5380 Posted August 27, 2023 Report Share Posted August 27, 2023 (edited) i've been retrenched twice and with my low skill set, it is too risky to change company (rather the devil you know then the devil you don't) and for my role you don't get a raise every time you switch (unlike finance or IT roles). just thinking about this is making me feel meh. hopefully this won't make me neglect myself again Your low skill set? Are you mentally handicapped? We are all born with a low skill set! Are you 80 years old? It is now estimated that our brain keeps growing, new neurons develop, and the capacity to learn lasts a lifetime. Even if you are 80 you can learn new skills. I can give testimonial of this. You like to challenge the logical part of your brain? You are attracted to some technology? Computers, IT, AI? If so, you can increase your skill set at your leisure by taking courses by mail, over the Internet, courses offered on YouTube, and... ... and free yourself of a need to spend your productive life shuffling papers in some administrative job, even if you can raise to "manager" and become the slave of the owner. Be the MANAGER of your life time, and with a little discipline and initiative and perseverance find a way to make money to support yourself while enjoying the process, and feeling proud of your skills. If your sexual desires diminish, GREAT! More time left for other pleasures and productive time. Yes, it is normal to go through periods of time when your sexual desire is low or zero, especially after 40yo. It is even more normal after 80 y.o. and it can be a welcomed relief! Yes, sex is a source of pleasure. But we all feel or have felt it as a NEED. The fewer needs we have, the more free we are. How "prolong" is prolong? If very long, you may want to consider seeing a doctor and get a comprehensive blood test done and look into esp. your testosterone level. If you have unusual low testosterone level for your age, you may need to address it asap. Testosterone don't just regulate our libido, it also affects other vital functions of our body and well-being. If your testosterone is somewhat low, the first step is to see if it can raise through dietary changes. If it is very low, some tests can reveal if it is caused by illness and then a doctor can help. But if it is not illness, all a doctor will do is to suggest some type of "testosterone replacement therapy". It is not wise to get testosterone supplementation just to have the "normal" range and strong libido. We can live with low testosterone without problems. If you do some good strength training you will not lose muscle mass, and other possible negatives can be avoided with good diet plus supplementation. It is known that very low testosterone increases longevity !! . Edited August 27, 2023 by Steve5380 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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